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Be honest above all else – This above all, to thine own self be true; and it must follow, as the night and day, thou canst not then be false to any man. William Shakespeare Hamlet

 

Mark & Angela Hack

WRITTEN by MARC CHERNOFF

12 Toxic Attitudes that Push Happiness Away From You

“It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy.  It is what you think about it.”
― Dale Carnegie

“A 14-year-old patient of mine will be undergoing her 10th surgery in the past two years to combat a rare form of cancer.  Even after all the surgeries, I’ve never seen her frown.  She’s still 100% certain she’ll survive.  And I’m certain her attitude is the primary reason she has survived to this point.  She laughs and plays with her friends and family every day.  And her positive attitude has made her dozens of new friends at the hospital.  A kid like her who can go through everything she’s been through and come out smiling makes me realize how sour my attitude often is for no good reason at all.”

That’s an excerpt from an email I received this morning from one of our readers.  And, coincidentally, just as I finished responding to it, a new email from a course student popped up in my inbox that opened with an extremely similar theme:

“Today I realized that my best friend, who lost her mom last year to cancer, has a happier, more optimistic and thankful attitude about life than I do…”

In our line of work, Angel and I hear from dozens of readers, coaching clients and students enrolled in our Getting Back to Happy course every day.  Through this experience, we often see the same exact toxic attitudes tearing otherwise healthy individuals apart.  And we’ve witnessed, first hand, the devastation this toxicity causes to their personal and professional growth, and to their relationships.

Let’s be honest, though, we’ve all acted in toxic, damaging ways at one time or another.  None of us are immune to occasional toxic mood swings.  But that doesn’t mean we have to succumb to them.  Whether your toxic attitude is a common occurrence or just a sporadic phenomena, it’s critical for your long-term happiness and success that you are able to recognize when you’re thinking and acting poorly, and consciously shift your mind-set.

Here are 12 of the most common toxic attitudes we see plaguing people, and some tips to get you back on track:

1.  “I don’t have enough to be happy.”

Instead of thanking the heavens for two strong legs and a body that’s capable of running and jumping and dancing, lots of people complain about their weight and appearance.

Instead of appreciating that they live in a country that protects their basic human rights and civil liberties, lots of people complain about laws, taxes and politicians.

Instead of being grateful for the roof they have over their heads, lots of people wish they had a larger house and a fancier car.

Don’t be one of these people.  You may not have it all, but you have a lot.

To witness miracles in your daily life, count your blessings and be thankful for what you DO have.  There are others who aren’t so lucky.

2.  “Happiness should be handed to me on a silver platter.”

Pursuing happiness is not at all the same as being happy, which is a fleeting feeling dependent on momentary circumstances.  If the sun is shining, by all means bask in it.  Happy times are great and often fun-filled, but happy times pass, because time passes.  This is something we often resist, which results in us alienating ourselves and everyone around us.

In other words, we expect to be happy 24/7, and we expect happiness to be delivered to us on a silver platter.  We anticipate an easy life where instant gratification is the norm.  And this leads to disappointment and toxic mood swings.

The truth is that the lifelong pursuit of happiness is elusive; it’s not based on quick thrills and instantaneous fulfillment.  It’s a ‘pursuit.’  And what you are pursuing is meaning – living a meaningful life.  It starts with your “why.”  (Why are you doing what you’re doing every day?)  When your ‘why’ is meaningful, you are pursuing happiness.

There will be times when things go so wrong that you barely feel alive.  And there will also be times when you realize that being barely alive, on your own terms, is better than living a lifeless existence for 80 years on someone else’s terms.  The pursuit isn’t all or nothing; it’s all AND nothing, with ups and downs and worthwhile lessons along the way.

3.  “Every step I take needs to make logical sense (to everyone).”

If we listened to our logic 24/7 we’d never have truly passionate, romantic relationships.  We’d never have life-long, long-distance friendships.  We’d never go in business because we’d be cynical.  We’d forever be stuck thinking: “I’m going to fail.”  Or “he’s going to hurt me.”  Or, “I’ve had a couple of bad love affairs, so therefore…”  Well that’s nonsense!  You’re going to miss life if you think this way.

If you wait around until everything makes perfect logical sense to you and everyone around you, and you feel 100% safe and ready, you will be waiting the rest of your life.

Sometimes you just have to take a chance!

Sometimes you just have to get up and go for it!

Sometimes you just have to jump off a cliff and build your wings on the way down!

4.  “I’m not good enough.”

When you catch yourself in a cycle of self-hate, you must remind yourself that you weren’t born feeling this way.  That at some point in the past some person or experience sent you the message that something is wrong with you, and you internalized this lie and accepted it as your truth.  But that lie isn’t yours to carry, and those judgments aren’t about you.  And in the same way that you learned to think negatively of yourself, you can learn to think new, positive and self-loving thoughts.

You can learn to challenge those false beliefs, strip away their power, and reclaim your self-respect.  It won’t be easy, and it won’t transpire overnight.  But it is possible.  And it begins when you decide that there has to be a better way to live, and that you deserve to discover it.  (Angel and I discuss this in detail in the “Self-Love” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)

5.  “Everyone must like me!”

People who constantly strive for validation by others are exhausting to be around.  Those men and women who get caught up in the need to prove their worth over and over and over, and constantly want to win over everyone around them, are unintentionally toxic and draining.  Know this.  Over-attaching to how things have to look to others can wear you out and bring everyone else around you down.

There is a bigger picture to your life, and it’s not about what you achieve in the eyes of the masses.  It’s about the journey, the process, the path – what you’re learning, how you’re helping others learn too, and the growing process you allow yourself to participate in.

6.  “I’ve seen and heard it all before.”

No matter how much you know, there’s a whole lot you don’t know.  Period.

In almost every situation, a little more willingness to acknowledge that there may be something you do not know could change everything.  Go somewhere new, and countless opportunities suddenly appear.  Do something differently, and all sorts of great new possibilities spring up.

Keep an open mind.  Always.

It’s what we learn, after we “know it all,” that really counts in the end.

7.  “I need to be in control (of everything and everyone).”

Imagine that you’re driving in your car and you get stuck in rush hour traffic.  The traffic situation is out of your control and simply requires your patience.  However, this doesn’t stop you from switching lanes, trying to cut in front of other cars, or even leaving the road you’re on to try alternate routes – all desperate efforts to gain control.  Sadly, these efforts just lead to further stress and unhappiness when they are unsuccessful and control is again obstructed.  And when you finally get home, you take your stress out on the people you love the most.

Embrace the fact that some parts of your life are simply meant to be lived, not controlled.  No matter what happens, no matter the outcome, you’re going to be just fine.  Let the things you can’t control, GO!

Spend your thoughts and efforts on controlling what you do have power over, rather than wasting your peace of mind on the uncontrollable.  (Read The Untethered Soul.)

8.  “I’ve been hurt too badly to ever heal and move forward with my life.”

Hoarding pain and loss only makes the pain and loss last longer.  And this just tears the rest of your life and relationships apart.

One of the hardest lessons in life is letting go – whether it’s guilt, anger, love or loss.  Change is never easy – you fight to hold on and you fight to let go.  But oftentimes letting go is the healthiest path forward.  It clears out toxic thoughts from the past.  You’ve got to emotionally free yourself from the things that once meant a lot to you, so you can move beyond the past and the pain it brings you.

Again, it takes hard work to let go and refocus your thoughts, but it’s worth every bit of effort you can muster.  It’s time to be bold.  It’s time to stop reading the previous chapter of your life and start writing the one you’re currently living.  Learn from your old mistakes and march confidently on.  Sure you’ll make new mistakes along the way, but that’s the whole point – you want to learn from new mistakes, not rot alongside old ones.

Living means taking chances that are worth taking and making mistakes that are worth making.  Right now is simply a new chance to get it right, but you have to let go and take this chance.

9.  “This (and everything) is personal!”

People are toxic to themselves and others when they believe that everything happening around them is a direct assault on them or is in some way all about them.

Of course, it’s easy to feel unloved and unwanted when people aren’t able to communicate and connect with you in the way you expect.  And it’s so hard not to internalize that disconnection as a reflection on your worth.  But the truth is, the way other people behave and function is not about you.

Most people are so caught up in their own problems, responsibilities and struggles that the thought of asking you how you’re doing doesn’t even cross their mind.  They aren’t being mean or uncaring – they’re just busy and a bit self-centred at times.  And that’s OK.  Don’t attack them for it.  It’s not evidence of some fundamental flaw on your part.  It doesn’t make you unlovable or unworthy.  It just means that some people aren’t very good at looking beyond their own egocentric bubble.  But the fact that you are – that despite the darkness you feel, you have the ability to share your love and light with others – is an incredible strength.  (Read The Mastery of Love.)

10.  “I’m just too busy right now for family and friends.”

Neglect based on lack of attention often damages relationships far more than malicious abuse.

Although it’s perhaps conceivable that you may lie on your deathbed someday regretting that you didn’t work harder and check every little thing off your to-do list, it’s doubtful that your work will be your biggest concern.  What’s more likely, however, is that you will wish you could have one more romantic night with your spouse, another long, heartfelt talk with your sister, and one last good hard laugh with your best friend.

Life is simply too short to be too busy for the people you love.

11.  “What they don’t know won’t hurt them.”

It’s NOT OK to stretch the truth.  Ever!  It really isn’t!  Doing so only leads to stress in the long run.

In fact, it’s disheartening to think how many people are shocked by honesty, and how few by deceit.  Don’t be one of them.  Uphold the truth, always.  Those who are easily shocked should be shocked more often, and you should be the one shocking them with honest words and deeds every day.

The bottom line here is that an honest, loving heart is the beginning of everything that is right with this world.  It’s what brings us together and keeps us together through thick and thin.

12.  “I’m better than them (and everyone else for that matter).”

And finally, through it all, you have to keep your pride in check…

To admit you made a mistake.  To say you are sorry.  To know that you can’t possibly know it all.  To have big dreams. To admit you owe your success to others too.  To poke fun at yourself from time to time.  To ask for help when you need it.

To make mistakes and fail.  And to try again, willingly.

There are no permanent jobs or absolutes on this planet.  We are all just interning and exploring here.  Learn from everyone, remain humble, and don’t forget to have a good time along the way.

That’s what happy, successful people do.

Your turn…

If you can see any of these toxic attitudes in yourself, remember, you are not alone.  We all have negativity buried deep within us that has the potential to sneak up on us sometimes.  The key, of course, is awareness – recognizing these toxic attitudes when they arise and stopping them in their tracks.

So, what toxic attitudes do you sometimes struggle with?  How have these attitudes affected your personal and professional contentment?  Leave a comment below and share your thoughts and insights with us.

 

Your life is a learning process – you can only become wiser from learning. Sometimes you might have to attract making a painful mistake to learn something important, but after the mistake you have far greater wisdom. Wisdom cannot be bought with money – it can only be acquired through living life. With wisdom comes: strength, courage, knowing, and an ever-increasing peace. May the joy be with you, Rhonda Byrne

Success doesn’t come to you – you go to it. — Marva Collins

Gray Lawrence

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He who loses wealth loses much; he who loses a friend loses more; but he that loses his courage loses all. – Miguel de Cervantes

A Personal Poem

A quote is like a lamp it flings its light over the whole sentence

 

The Personal Poem

To laugh is to risk appearing a fool

To weep is to risk appearing sentimental

To reach out to another is to risk involvement

To expose your feelings is to risk rejection

To place your dreams before a crowd is to risk ridicule

To love is to risk not being loved in return

To go forward is to face the overwhelming odds is to risk failure

Risks must be taken because the greatest risk of all is to risk nothing

The person who risks nothing does nothing has nothing and is nothing

He may avoid suffering and Sorrow but he cannot learn and cannot feel, cannot change, cannot grow and cannot laugh

Chained by his virtues he is a slave

A person who risks is truly FREE

Your Vision of the future, lies from within
Gray Lawrence

The Greatest leaders of the world were men and women of quick decision -Napoleon Hill

Natural Selling Lesson five The Power of Listening

"My idea of good company is the company of clever, well-informed people who have a great deal of conversation; that is what I call good company."  Jane Austen

“The Power of Listening is available to us all, only those who listen will gain great benefits in life, love personal & financial wealth . The decision is yours”   Gray Lawrence

The Power of Listening

Listening – The Most Important Skill You Can Learn

Principle 3. Listening to What is Being Meant, Not Just What is Being Said.

Ask yourself. Do you really listen to people? Do you really listen to and actually attempt to understand what they are saying and meaning without letting your own interpretations get in the way?

This is how most people listen. 45% of the time is spent doing what?

Working out what they’re going to say next!

Another 45% of the time is spent waiting for a gap in the conversation so that they can say it!!! Leaving only 10% of the time for actual listening!

So are we listening when we spend only 10 % of the time doing it?  No we’re not!

So what percentage of time must we listen?  100%!

To actually listen to, hear and understand what another person is saying, we must spend 100% of the time listening.

Now, you might ask, how do you listen 100% of the time without thinking?

Well, here are a few clues.

The Power of Your mind Head with detailsFirst, you can think 10 times faster than most people can talk.

If you know how the features of your solutions solve problems, you’ll hear what specific features are relevant and how to talk about them later as specific advantages and benefits.

It takes the guessing out of what to present and how to present it.

Imagine having all your features in lots of automatic drawers in your mind… just like your CD drawer in your computer… and having the correct ones automatically pop out based on what you hear a person wants.

Secondly, you don’t have to think about what you’re going to ask next, because;

1. You will know what questions to ask and when to ask them by learning from a powerful framework that is available to you in the Natural Selling Approach

2. What you’re going to ask is also found in the answers you get to your previous questions! It’s all there! It’s just that you have to listen to the answers to get the information

3. Stop re-interpreting what people say to you based on your own biases or life’s experiences, or your own judgments, prejudices and thoughts! All this does is get in your way of understanding. People don’t think what you think they think!

You’re thinking that they do can get in your way!

For example, have you ever had someone respond to a remark you made and it was totally out of context with what you meant, and you wondered where he or she was coming from? Well, it’s likely that the other person was interpreting what they thought you were talking about. Do you do the same thing to others?

If you don’t listen and are impatiently waiting to say what you want to say you’ll miss vital clues to help your potential partner or customer come to a logical conclusion to change.

Result? You’ll miss the mark and will meet resistance most of the time!

"Extend to each person, no matter how trivial the contact, all the care and kindness and understanding and love that you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again."  Og Mandino

Let’s look at this more closely. What do you normally listen for when people reply to your questions? Do you listen to what you want to hear with the intent to reply based on what you want to say? Or do you listen with the intent to understand where the other person is coming from and reply to them based on their own deep inner truth?

People Have Two Truths

For example, if you ask a person whether they like their job, or whether they like the skin care products they are presently taking, would you hope they would say no? In the Natural Selling Approach, it doesn’t matter what they answer, because people carry "Two truths". The Natural Selling Approach allows people to reveal both sides of their truths, and reveal which is the stronger.

The power of your positive action is a force greater than you can fathomHere is an illustration. If you ask someone if they like where they live they could reply Yes or No. If they said, "Yes", and you asked later, "If you could live anywhere else, where would that be?" and they gave another location, you will have discovered there is another truth to explore. One of those two "Truths" will ultimately reveal itself as stronger than the other.

If they replied "No" to the first question and were subsequently asked the same question about living somewhere else, again the real truth gets revealed.

Listening is such a powerful skill. If you learn how to listen to people you’ll find that they will immediately be attracted to you and most will want to listen to you. A large part of my book is spent demonstrating how you can do this.

You may find it useful to take a short test of your listening skills that I have devised. Click below. You might be surprised at the results!

Now you’ve covered some of the basics behind the importance of listening, let’s turn your attention to what you’re listening for. We’ll recap the

Principle:

Listening to What is Being Meant, not Just What is Being Said.

The two key words here are, said and meant.

Said is the logical or factual side of the problem solving equation. It comprises about 10% of the problem. Meant is the personal, feelings or subjective side… and it comprises the other 90%.

In The Natural Selling Approach what is important is to focus more on what is being meant. Why? Well, do people make changes based mostly on logic or feelings? Feelings! So that is the level you have most of your dialogues.

To illustrate this, think of someone saying they don’t have enough money.

Is that a fact or a feeling? It’s a fact! They might say it with feeling, but it’s still a fact.

So if you were to ask someone, "What one thing would make a difference in your life?", which is a logical question, and they said, "More money", which is a logical answer… and you then responded with your solution by saying, "I can show you how to do that"… you would be talking at a logical and factual level. And what response do you think you would get from most people?

Negative or positive? Mostly they will reject your idea.

The reason is that talking logically with people won’t help you very much to help them because you’re only addressing 10% of their problem if they have one!

If you want to be of help, find out what is underneath this problem called "lack of money". In other words, find out what is causing it, what it means to them personally and how they feel about it. Find out the meaning of what they say, not just what they are saying. You will find their answers are totally unique to them, and if you respond to their uniqueness as opposed to coming out with a canned presentation or script, you will automatically attract them to you.

"Facts belong to the world. Feelings belong to the individual".

If you ask without manipulation, most people will tell you.

It’s also where the relationship and the sale is. To be more precise, it’s where both of you can discover if there is a need and the depth of desire to do something about it.

So understanding how to listen and what to listen for and how to respond is vital in the Natural Selling Approach.

And when you understand what someone wants and why they want it…. you will be able to customize your solution and present it in such a precise way that it will mean something to the other person based on how they see things. Why will you be able to do this? Because they will have told you everything you need to know to make your winning presentation.

What are todays thoughts? think about what has been covered today before the next lesson.

Feeding Back What You Think You Heard!

Exercises:

Continue yesterdays exercise. Each time you have a conversation with someone today, turn it into a Dialogue. Focus simply on LISTENING to them!

As far as possible, don’t say anything yourself except to ask questions and keep the Dialogue moving along.

When in Dialogue, observe yourself and be aware of how often you have the urge to interrupt or finish the other person’s sentences for them! Ask yourself whether you’re really serving yourself (or the other person) by doing this!

Your success is your decision: these lessons are a guide, the rest is up to you….

 

If you can’t manage your own mental attitude, what makes you think you can manage others?

Why is it that often those who believe they would be the best managers of others – if they were only given the opportunity – haven’t learned to manage themselves properly? Before you can ever have any hope of managing others effectively, you must first learn to set an example for others to follow. It is simply impossible for you to inspire others to high levels of achievement if you cannot inspire yourself to do the same. Don’t make the mistake that many others make by saying, “When they make me a manager, I’ll show them I can manage.” The first move is yours. You must first prove yourself worthy.    Napoleon Hill

 

Gray Lawrence                      Successful Networker                                                                    Opportunities are never lost. . . . They are found by someone else!” – Mike Mc Donald

Successful Networker Colours = People which one are you?

I have been asked several times to seek out and go deeper in the zone of colours, well here is the link, via my email and a link from LinkedIn, for which I am signed in to.  I am sure you will all benefit. Please enjoy.

Your relationships reflect your fears and limits. How can anyone ever give you what you won’t allow?” – Stephen C. Paul

“Once you realize that you are operating in a larger universe in which everything is buzzing with its own unique energy, you will understand why it is so important to control your thoughts and emotions Frank Mangano

What is iMA? There isn’t a day that goes by that I’m not asked this question. iMA is a universal language that brings people closer. Manager’s Choice

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iMA is simple, yet goes deep, and has a global reach!
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What is iMA ? There isn’t a day that goes by when I am not asked this question. There is also hardly a day that goes by when I do not meet an enthusiastic…

“We all possess more power and greater possibilities than we realize, and visualizing is one of the greatest of these powers.” Genevieve Berhrend

 

The Power is from within, the choice is yours
Gray Lawrence
Successful Networker

“Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start.” Nido Qubein

Successful Networker- MLM Truths = Personality Training Learning ability and Skills

Before opportunity crowns you with great success, it usually tests your mettle through adversity.
Adversity provides the resistance necessary to develop the strength to overcome great obstacles. This strength consists of self-confidence, perseverance, and, very importantly, self-knowledge. If you do encounter a setback, it is a clue to a personal weakness. You may have been hasty in judging a competitor, or you may have been too timid in your vision of what needed to be done. Let adversity be your guide to understanding where you miss-stepped and which qualities you need to cultivate. No one rejoices in disappointment, but if you are success-conscious, you can turn the situation into a chance for improving your character, an opportunity you otherwise would have missed. Napoleon Hill

The truth about MLM’s Part One

Decide today to make the right decision! I promise it will save you: time and frustration
The following information is offered to you even if you are in networking already. It is by no means taken lightly but will help you now and in the future. I have tried to reduce the information and have decided to take you through the system in a series of blogs under the following headings:
1st Skill; The colours Personality Training 2nd Skill: The 5 Pillars Training 3rd Skill: How To Identify Scams and Networking in a Nutshell
This is how we see it as leaders through
“Personal Training”  This guide is an insight to Network Marketing skills “ Every network marketer needs this for Success.

First Skill: The Colours Personality Training

Colour to Success skill provides you with a method you can use to determine the personality of the person you’re speaking with so you can make the best possible connection with that person. This is useful in both your personal life and your networking business.

Michael’s Colour Detector Chart
(Can You find all 9 hot spots and what they do?)

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"You are fine just the way You are", Michael Dlouhy.
keep an eye out for part two and I hope you enjoy the information and make
THE RIGHT DECISION TODAY
Change your mental attitude, and the world around you will change accordingly.

 

The truth about MLM’s Part Two

Imagine the alternatives and less distinguishable: Peaceful Phlegmatic, Sanguine, Melancholy and Choleric; You chose.
Coaching by the Colour!

One dimension of our personality training that will help You keep your Team pulling together.

Yellow: open and indirect (Phlegmatic)
If the person does NOT consistently demonstrate more concern for others than for themselves, they are not Yellow.

Now the person who comes up is casually dressed. They have Birkenstock sandals on, and blue jeans. Very casual. This is a comfortable person. They walk at a slower pace. They have an easy smile.
And they say “Mentor me!”
“OK. Here’s what I know about you. You are an amazing person. All your friends think you are the greatest listener they’ve ever known. You are dependable. You’re very patient. And you’re nurturing. You love people, and you’re a team player. You have some outstanding strengths.
There are some problems you need to work on. You’re oversensitive. You take things personally. You always conform. You’ll buy other people’s excuses. And You don’t ever set goals. You’re not goal-oriented.
So for me to help you, coach you, mentor you, I’d get You to understand how to not take things personally

A mind ill with negative attitudes is more dangerous than a sick body, for its sickness is always contagious.

Have you decided that this is you? or are you the next category!

The truth about MLM’s Part Three
The main aim in life is the ability to understand each other
Blue: open and direct (Sanguine)
If the person is NOT a social animal, craving almost constant contact with people, they are not Blue.

This person walks up, and you see flamboyant facial expressions, hand movements, body movements, arms moving, maybe a Hawaiian shirt. Something bright & flashy – jewellery, gold, a diamond ring, gold necklace. Anything flashy, a lot of movement, excited, excited, excited.
And they say “Mentor me!”
“OK. The reason you are so successful in life and in business is that you are an excellent promoter. You’re energetic, enthusiastic, motivating, convincing. You always see the big picture. You’re the life of the party, and You’re one of the most creative people on the planet.
You can create it, but you can’t build it. Your problem is, you are unorganized. You’re scattered. You’ve never balanced a check book in your life.
The first thing I’d do in mentoring you would be to help You start using systems to keep yourself organized. Then you won’t be so scattered. And you can focus on your follow-up. That can change Your life overnight.
A positive mental attitude is an irresistible force that knows no such thing as an immovable body.
Have you decided that this is you? or are you the next category!

Leadership is only one thing, creation. Leaders are creationists that create things that were not there before, and create the reasons that everyone else to accomplish

The truth about MLM’s Part Four

To move forward one must have the ability to learn!

Green: self-contained and indirect (Melancholy)

If the person is NOT analytical, always wanting more and more information about whatever it is they’re interested in, they are not Green.
A gentleman walked up and stopped. He read the big banner. His arms were crossed. He had a shirt with a breast pocket, pen in the pocket. He wore khaki green pants, a crease down the middle where they’d been ironed, and penny loafers.
He looked at me and ordered, “Mentor me!”
“If I was to be coaching you, I’d start working on Your weaknesses. Your weaknesses are that you overanalyse everything. You’ve lost a ton of money because of your inability to make a decision. You’ll sit there and think about it, think about it, analyse it, wonder why you shouldn’t do it, why the glass is half empty.
“You have a problem with depression – you easily get depressed. You have a problem with loneliness. And you’re very pessimistic.
“But it’s amazing how many strengths You have. You’re one of the most organized people. You are an amazing planner. You’re a dependable problem solver. You are task persistent. You are amazing on follow through. And everything you do is accurate.

“But the problem you’ve struggled with your whole life is being pessimistic about everything. You have no belief that You will ever be a huge success in life. You’re always looking at why it’s not going to work. You think, ‘It’ll work for everybody else, but it’s not going to work for me.’
“You use a lot of words like try, maybe, could, possibly, we’ll see.
“And what I would do to coach you is to help you realize that You have to learn to be decisive. You have to learn to go with it, be tuned in to your gut feeling and go with it.
“The words you speak are critical, because you speak Your reality into existence. When you say negative things, you are actually putting those things into Your life. That’s exactly what you do. And that’s why You’re so unhappy.”

Character is accurately reflected in one’s mental attitude.

Success is a path that you can easily lose your way, because we forget that we need a “lantern of reality and a compass of flexibility” which both are a must

This is decision time..

But this is not the end, this will be followed by the FIVE Pillars Training

The future looks bright for those who chose to shine and become a star

The Power is from within, the choice is yours
Gray Lawrence

"Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start." Nido Qubein

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