Categories

Posts Tagged ‘Passions’

REGRET IS NOT YOUR FRIEND

Optimism

We can learn from our leaders of the past. Thomas Edison’s great optimism gives us a quintessential example of welcoming disaster. On a December night in 1914, fire broke out in the film room of Thomas Edison’s laboratory. As his assets were going up in smoke, it would seem that this sixty-seven-year-old man’s spirit would certainly be crushed. Instead he saw the fire and shouted to his son, “Where’s Mom? Go get her! Tell her to get her friends! They’ll never see a fire like this again!” Later, he said,

“You can always make capital out of disaster.
We’ve just cleared out a bunch of old rubbish.
We’ll build bigger and better on the ruins.”

Thomas Edison could not control the circumstances. Rather than being heartbroken to see his life’s work go up in flames, he chose to welcome the opportunity to start over. Edison, known for his overwhelming optimism, is an inspiration for us today.

Do you live with regrets?  Are you able to put regret behind you easily?

Regret Is Not Your Friend

There are two sides to regret.

The first side involves regret for actions or events we wish had not happened and we would like to take back. We have all said or done things we regret. We may get upset and say things that damage our relationships or we may do things that cause harm. For example, Tiger Woods may regret his unfaithful conduct in his marriage.

I have done many things over my life that I regret, from investing in a scam to getting involved in a risky business venture to help out a friend. However, my regrets are now infrequent. Why? I took the time to identify the main causes of my actions and rooted them out. I had to learn to take responsibility for my contribution to my own troubles and to make values-based decisions, conducting myself in way that leaves little room for regret.

What about you? Think about the times when you felt regret. Is there a common theme? Do behaviours or habits contribute to your regret? What new thoughts or action steps could reduce your feelings of regret for the things you have said or done?

For the most part, the first type of regret can be tempered by time.

The second side of regret involves regret for actions not taken. This is the sin of omission. We must take this side of regret even more seriously because we cannot alter time to retrieve things that were missed: the job we did not take, the investment we ignored, or the opportunity we let pass by. The list can be long.

When I achieved the milestone birthday of 50 years, I felt a greater sense of urgency about all the things I wanted to do, despite my plan to live to 100+. I knew that it was my time to take action.

With keen awareness that mortality is universal and non-negotiable, I want to encourage every individual reading this article to take a stand:

“Starting today, I will live my life without regret, especially as it pertains to activities I want to experience and outcomes I wish to realize in my life.”

Here are a few areas you might wish to consider avoiding missing out on (and then later regretting):

§ Attending your child’s recital or concert

§ Beginning a regular fitness program

§ Travelling to that place you have been dreaming about for years

§ Taking that course to upgrade your skills—perhaps even getting the degree you have been contemplating

§ Trying a new food

§ Taking time for yourself

§ Quitting a job you hate

§ Calling a friend to share coffee or lunch

§ Attending the presentation or concert of someone (or group) you enjoy

§ Writing the article, poem, or book you’ve had percolating for ages

§ Joining the community group you’ve been thinking about

Unless material goods are directly linked to what you want to do or become, please don’t focus on them here. Yes, you can keep a list of the “things” you want to own, but putting a new painting on your wall may not be as meaningful as taking a vacation and having quality time with your family.

When have you said, “If only I had…?” Think about it for a moment. What do you wish you had done or become? What are you going to do about it? At this point, remorse won’t get you where you want to go; forward action will. Forget your excuses and make a decision to live your life without regret.

A research study conducted on individuals over 70 years of age asked participants these questions:

“If you could live your life over again, what would you do differently? What do you regret?”

The responses showed the following results:

§ They would take more time for themselves.

§ How many times have we met people who dedicated their whole life to others, at the expense of their own needs and goals?

§ They would take more risks.

§ This is the “if only” part of regret. “If only I had bought the property, taken that job, said ‘no’ to…” and on the story goes.

§ They would dedicate themselves to a cause or purpose that would last beyond their lifetime.

§ What’s your legacy? What will you be remembered for? Will you even be remembered at all?

A life lived without regret is living on purpose and making a difference, whatever the context. How do you rank yourself on a scale of 1 to 10? [1 = Poor (plenty of regret); 10 = Excellent (little or no regret)]

Let’s all strive to be as close to 10 as we can in all areas of our lives! Start now. No regrets, please!

ACTION STEPS:

1. List events in the past that have caused you to experience the most regret.
Is there a common theme or set of situations where regret is recurring for you? What do you think the root cause(s) might be? What can you do to reduce your regret?

2. Think about all the things you regret not
What are your reasons for not taking action—lack of courage, not feeling worthy, compromising your values for others, etc.?

3. Make a list of things you can start doing immediately to reduce your regrets.
Don’t make excuses for what you can’t do. Focus on what you can and will

4. Make a commitment to follow your list of actions.

5. Move on with confidence.

6. Confirm your passions and connect with your purpose to reduce your regrets.

7. Read my newest book, The Quest For Purpose. It will take you on a personal journey of discovery to help you confirm and affirm your passions in life.

8. Benchmark your gifts, talents, and passions by using CRG’s assessments.
Your results will assist you to establish your beliefs with confidence, and increase your passion in all areas of your life.

Remember, our mortality is guaranteed. To those of you who are still procrastinating, I suggest you get started with your no-regrets philosophy this very moment. When you have no regrets, then you are truly living On Purpose!

Gray Lawrence

“The point is not to live without any regrets it is to not hate ourselves for having them..” Gray Lawrence

Be Inspired by DARRYL Easterling

PMA ADDED..

“Almost all of our problems and limitations stem from unhelpful mental programming. Before you can create the life of your dreams, you must first take back control of your mind.”- Jay Cataldo

 

Darryl Easterling

Darryl is a successful serial entrepreneur, speaker, mentor, investor and philanthropist.

If I could share 500 words of wisdom to summarize what I’ve learned so far in life, these are the important things I’d want to pass along to others…

Only the strong survive, the weak will fold. Life isn’t always easy. Being strong and courageous is doing what others are afraid to do. Don’t be afraid to pave your own way.

Take chances and take them frequently. Taking chances and risks will spark an undeniable curiosity that has to be quenched.

You can’t fear failure. Embrace it. Accept the fact that failure is possible and everyone, at some point in their life, fails at something. The key is to learn from your mistakes and grow. Always move forward.

P.U.S.H.! Pray until something happens.

Surround yourself with successful people. Even if your definition of success differs, you’ll find yourself associating with other goal-oriented people.

The Law of Attraction is REAL. What you put out into the Universe, you will get back. The Law of Attraction is about focusing on the things/outcome you want and not the things/outcome you don’t want. You are in control. You attract what you put out. Say you jump out of bed and stomp your toe. Some will say that’s a start to a bad day. It’s not.

Never put out in the Universe you’re having a bad day. We don’t have bad days… we have moments within our days that can change instantly by the vibrations/positive thoughts you send out to the world.

Always be a giver and give wholeheartedly. Even when you think you don’t have, still give. You’ll always reap what you sow, whether it’s money, time, knowledge, love, etc. That is the first lesson in receiving.

Balance is essential. Take time out for you. If you don’t take the time to get your mind together, your focus will suffer. The day-to-day of life can become overwhelming and can cause you to become easily frustrated. Exercise and eat a well-balanced diet.

Have an amazing support structure. Your wife, husband, mom, dad, best friend, whoever is there when you need to be rejuvenated. When times get hard, your support structure will definitely give you that extra boost of confidence you need.

Be dedicated. You have to be prepared to give 110%. Be dedicated to reaching and exceeding your goals. Sometimes you’ll have to go beyond the call of duty.

Have an attitude of gratitude. Be grateful for what you have, the experiences you’ve gone through and all things placed in your life. They’ve all made you who you are. Everyone has a story, so don’t take anything for granted and appreciate the small things.

Never give up! Even when you feel like you can’t take another step or fight another battle, don’t give up and stick to it.

Be consistent at consistency and always be a student. Be open to the world by learning from others who are smarter than you. Self-educate and learn something new daily.

Invest in yourself and know your worth. How do you expect others to invest in you when you don’t want to invest in yourself?

Have passion. Find out what in your life gives you an indescribable feeling of joy and do it often. Own it.

Don’t overthink things and go with the flow. When you overthink you can create problems and issues that weren’t there initially.

The Universe knows the quickest route to your success. Trust it. Have faith. Ask. Believe. Receive. Darryl Easterling

 

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. Eleanor Roosevelt

Gray Lawrence

Utility Warehouse Distributor

"Life is the sum of all your choices" Albert Camus

Successful Network Winner Choose which hat to wear in public

 

A lot of people are afraid to tell the truth, to say no. That’s where toughness comes into play. Toughness is not being a bully. It’s having backbone.

Robert  Kiyosaki

In the service business, you can pretty much wear one of three hats:

Outstanding leaders go out of their way to boost the self-esteem of their personnel. If people believe in themselves, it’s amazing what they can accomplish. — Sam Walton

  • HAT 1: The do what you’re told hat.
  • HAT 2: The figure out what to do and also do it hat.
  • HAT 3: The figure out what to do and then have someone else do it hat.

I have to admit this topic covers a massive area and my light bulb moment now in front of you on “PEOPLE & COLOURS”  you can hardly miss this  but do use it in your thinking side of the brain:

Colours main page my copy

There’s always room for improvement – it’s the biggest room in the house. — Louise Heath Leber

I’m not sure it matters which hat you wear. You can achieve a certain level of success wearing each of these hats. And really, only you can choose how to run your life. Different strokes for different folks.

What matters is that you know which hat you are wearing. Because they all fit differently. And they lead to very different places
If you aren’t clear about which hat is which, things get a little messy.

For Knowledge is the best eraser in the world for disharmony, distrust, despair, and the endless deficiencies of man. — Orlando Battista

example, if you’re going to wear Hat 1, then you are going to have a hard time charging the types of fees that someone wearing Hat 3 might charge.
If you’re wearing Hat 2 but charging like you’re wearing Hat 1, you’re going to be miserable.

And if you’re trying to wear Hat 3 but aren’t able to attract clients willing to pay for Hat 3 service, then you’re going to struggle.

Get clear on which hat you’re wearing right now and then which hat you’d like to be wearing long term.

 

It’s the final steps of a journey that create an arrival. — Sam Parker

Develop a passion for learning. If you do, you’ll never cease to grow. — Anthony J. D’Angelo

Gray Lawrence Ambitious  

             &                                        Successful Networker

         Life is The Sum of All Our Choices – Albert Camus

Successful Networker Inspire-Mentor

Inspired Quote of the Day™

Unlock your potential, unleash your greatness, and tap into Heaven’s resources which are within you–yes, YOU! ~ Marie Fay


The following message as for many others can be taken as; family, personal, the jobs we do or Network Marketing within your thoughts at the time you read these wonderful “Inspirations”

Today’s Brilliance™

Marie  Fay

Marie Fay

Known as The Cyber Coach and Jollyologist, Marie is a Mompreneur, life mentor, speaker and writer who loves inspiring others to their happiest lives!

If I could share 500 words of wisdom to summarize what I’ve learned so far in life, these are the important things I’d want to pass along to others…

The most important gift that you can give yourself, and the world, is to live an authentic life. This takes a lot of courage and commitment as society tends to pull you in all different directions, pushing you to be everything and anything but who you wish to be yourself.

If you want to live an inspired life, it’s vital that you are true to you, what your dreams and visions are and what kind of life you would love to lead, not somebody else’s idea of what that is. It’s time for you to honour yourself and your passions and start living YOUR life on your terms!

Surround yourself with people who uplift and encourage you to live the life of your dreams! They say that you become like those you spend time with, so it’s important to connect with people who inspire you and bring out the absolute best in you every time you interact! I have found this to be one of the most beautiful experiences on my journey, the friends that I have met that have helped me to reconnect with my true inner self and shine are such precious souls and I am very grateful for having them in my life!

You are totally unique and special in every way, there’s not one other person that has ever walked the earth that has been like you and there never will be! You have gifts and talents that only you can share in such an inspiring way, and there are others waiting for you to step into your inner power and share those gifts and talents with them. Spend some time identifying what you are good at and what makes your heart sing, and then share your gifts with the world!

Develop a healthy love for yourself: you are gorgeous in every way! The most important relationship that you will ever have is with yourself. Every relationship you have in life is a direct reflection of how you feel about yourself. The more you fall in love with you, the more you fall in love with the world!

Sometimes you’re so busy going about your daily life, you forget to take time out for yourself to reflect on who you are and where your life is going, always living in the head space and not communing with your heart space. There’s a beautiful essence within each and every one of you waiting to be heard, calling you to your highest life, but a lot of the time you’re ‘too busy’ to listen! When you take time to be still, to be present and just allow your inner being to speak to you, your life will flow like never before.

Keep things light and laugh a lot. Life can be filled with many peaks and valleys, however, how you respond to what happens in your environment is up to you. The lens that you look through determines the life that you live, so adopting a happy demeanour definitely lends itself to living an inspired life!

Make your life matter… Making a commitment to be a beneficial presence on the planet in whatever way that speaks to you, this is what elevates you from the realm of the ordinary to the extraordinary! Asking yourself, "What can I bring to the world?" instead of "What can I get from the world?" can be one of the most important questions you will ever ask yourself. Leave the world a better place!

Know your own mind, and you will be as wise as the sages.
When you take charge of your mind, you take charge of your life. When you understand your thoughts, feelings, emotions, and desires, you can direct them to any end you choose. Wisdom comes from taking the time to study yourself, to know why you are the person you are. Taking charge of your mind is a thoughtful, reflective, solitary process. Only you can come to understand the complex inner workings of your own mind, and you must be willing to spend the time and effort that gaining such insight requires. Napoleon Hill

The Power is from within, the choice is yours
Gray Lawrence
Successful Networker

"Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start." Nido Qubein

Revolving Map
Contact Information
Gray Lawrence

grayjl63@gmail.com

Skype: graynat71

Mob:+44 7726591314
Follow me on Pinterest

Follow Me on Pinterest

Link Referral
free web site traffic and promotion
Network Blogs