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20 Hard Things You Need to Do to Be Happy

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From The Secret Daily Teachings

The fastest way to become the Master of your thoughts and emotions is ,through challenging situations. If your life is going along fairly smoothly, there are not the same opportunities that enable you to strengthen your power and become the Master of your thoughts and emotions.                    You see, even challenges are beautiful opportunities in disguise.

May the joy be with you,  Rhonda Byrne
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20 Hard Things You Need to Do to Be Happy

There are no shortcuts to any place worth going.

You have to do hard things to be happy in life.  The things no one else is doing.  The things that frighten you.  The things others can’t do for you.  The things that make you question how much longer you can hold on and push forward.

Why?

Because those are the things that define you.  Those are the things that make the difference between existing and living – between knowing the path and walking the path – between a life of mediocrity and a life filled with happiness and success.

Of course, the hard things are often the easiest things to avoid.  To procrastinate.  To make excuses.  To pretend like they somehow don’t apply to you and your life situation.

But reality always rears its head in the end.  And the truth about how ordinary people achieve immense happiness and incredible feats of success is that they step out of their comfort zones and do the hard things that their more educated, affluent and qualified counterparts don’t have the courage, drive or determination to do.

So for your own sake, start doing the hard things TODAY.  I guarantee, you will be blown away at just how remarkable you really are and just how amazing life can be.  Here are some ideas to get you started:

  1. You need to take small chances every day. – It’s the best way to face any problem, crush every fear and overcome life’s greatest challenges.  And you get just about as many chances in life as you’re willing to take.  So never let your fear decide your future.  Take small chances every day, one step at a time.  Some will work out and some won’t.  But good choices or bad, if you never take these chances, someone else will build your life for you.  And you don’t want that.
  2. You need to worry less about what other people think of you. – A beautiful life is about spending your time passionately, being happy with who you are inside, and not worrying about everyone’s petty judgments.  If you want to achieve greatness, stop asking for everyone’s approval.  You don’t need anyone’s approval to be happy or to follow your heart.
  3. You need to ignore what everyone else is doing and achieving. – Your life is about breaking your own limits and outgrowing yourself to live YOUR best life.  You are not in competition with anyone else; plan to outdo your past, not other people.
  4. You need to invest in yourself even when no one else is. – Truth be told, there are only a few people in this world who will stay 100% true to you, and YOU should be one of them.  Prioritize your own needs into your daily to-do’s.  Invest in your education, health and happiness every single day.  Create a life that feels good on the inside, not one that just looks good on the outside to everyone else.  (Read Choose Yourself!)
  5. You need to walk the talk. – Do not ask others or the universe to guide your footsteps if you’re not willing to move your feet.  If you really want it, prove it!  Happiness will come to you when it comes from you.  Success will be yours when you take responsibility for making your goals a top priority.
  6. You need to put your heart into your work. – Love is a verb.  Act on it.  Put your heart into goals that move you.  Work hard.  In the end, love is what makes you smile when you’re tired and still struggling.
  7. You need to deliver results, even when making excuses is easier. – NO shortcuts.  NO quick fixes.  NO blaming others.  NO “I’ll do it tomorrows.”  NO MORE EXCUSES!  Just get started.  Quit talking and begin doing!  Laziness may appear attractive, but work leads to happiness.
  8. You need to make mistakes and look like a fool sometimes. – Quite often, the successful people who act the happiest are the ones who have overcome the most.  Sometimes you have to lose something precious in order to gain something priceless.  Never regret your past mistakes and failures, because they have given you strength.  The one who falls and gets up is much stronger than the one who never fell.
  9. You need to let go of yesterday’s struggles. – The story of your life has many chapters.  One bad chapter doesn’t mean it’s the end.  So stop re-reading the bad one already and turn the page.  Accept what is, let go of what was and have faith in what could be.  Remember, life does not have to be anywhere near perfect to be wonderful in the end.
  10. You need to refrain from feeling sorry for yourself. – To those who are struggling, I understand how rough things are right now.  I just want to let you know that things will get better, I promise.  Keep pushing forward.  I know you feel like nobody really cares, but you’re wrong.  People care.  I care, otherwise I wouldn’t be writing this.  You’re not alone.  We may be miles apart, but we’re all going through similar challenges.  Realize that self-pity is not helpful.  Life is not about feeling sorry for yourself.  It’s about forgiveness, acceptance and looking forward to what makes you stronger and better off in the long run.
  11. You need to toughen up. – The strongest, happiest, most successful people are NOT those who always win, but those who don’t give up when they lose. They fail forward.  So keep calm when everything seems to be going wrong.  You may feel weak, but your spirit is strong.  When things are tough, you must be tougher.  Don’t pray for an easy life; pray for the strength to endure a hard one that leads to long-term success and happiness.
  12. You need to fight hard for what you believe in. – Great strength comes from overcoming what others believe is impossible.  And sometimes you have to lose the battle to win the war.  So if you believe strongly in something, fight for it.  In time things will fall into place… maybe not today, but eventually… maybe not exactly how you planned, just how it’s meant to be.  (Angel and I discuss this in more detail in the “Adversity” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)
  13. You need to be patient. – Don’t rush it.  Practice patience.  Keep a good attitude while working hard for what you believe in.  When the time is right, it’ll happen.
  14. You need to take control of your thoughts before they take control of you. –It’s often our own thinking that hurts us.  Realize this.  You can’t solve your problems with the same thinking you used to create them.  There’s no reason to imprison yourself.  Don’t think outside the box.  Think like there is no box.
  15. You need to be positive. – Happiness is in the heart and mind, not in random circumstances.  Beautiful things happen when you distance yourself from negative thinking.  Be positive and smile right now, not because everything is good, but because you can see the good side of everything.  Smiling doesn’t always mean you’re happy; sometimes it simply means you’re strong.  And smiling will help you feel better.
  16. You need to spend more time with the right people. – And if you know the people around you aren’t the right people, you need to change the people around you.  It’s not easy, but it’s worth it.  Don’t expect to see positive changes in your life if you surround yourself with negative people.  Don’t give part-time people a full-time position in your life.  Know your value and what you have to offer, and never settle for relationships that always bring you down.
  17. You need to stand up for yourself. – Some people will do anything for their own personal gain at the expense of others – cut in line, take money and property, bully and belittle, pass guilt, etc.  Do not accept this behaviour.  Do not let people walk all over you.  Most of these people know they’re doing the wrong thing and will back down and apologize surprisingly quickly when confronted.  In most social settings people tend to keep quiet until one person speaks up, so SPEAK UP.
  18. You need to forgive everyone who has wronged you. – Kindness is not to be mistaken for weakness, nor forgiveness for acceptance.  It’s about knowing that resentment is not on the path to happiness.  Remember, you don’t forgive people because you’re weak.  You forgive them because you’re strong enough to know that people make mistakes.  (Read Loving What Is.)
  19. You need to reach out and help people. – The closest thing to being cared for is to care for others.  We are all in this together and we should treat each other as such.  Your beliefs alone don’t make you a better person, your behaviour does.  Use your voice for kindness, your ears for compassion, and your hands for charity, always.  You don’t need a reason to help someone else.
  20. You need to be present enough to enjoy your journey. – Find your balance between planning and presence.  When life is good, enjoy it.  Don’t go looking for something better every second.  Happiness never comes to those who don’t appreciate what they have.  You must be willing to loosen your grip on the life you have planned so you can enjoy the life that is waiting for you in this moment.  It may not be everything you want for your future, but it’s everything you need right now.

 

“You create your life through the inner power of your being, whose source is within you and yet beyond the selves that you know. Use those creative abilities with understanding abandon. Honour yourselves and move through the godliness of your being.” Jane Roberts

 

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. Eleanor Roosevelt

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The greatest freedom is to be responsible. – Lazaris

Attitude Reconstruction by Jude Bijou

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A positive mental attitude is an irresistible force that knows no such thing as an immovable body.
Time and again we hear stories about ordinary people who do seemingly impossible things when they find themselves in an emergency situation. They perform Herculean feats of strength and endurance, things they never dreamed they were capable of doing. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you could harness that strength and make it available anytime you need it? You can — if you believe you can. No doubt you can remember a time in your life when you were exceptionally focused on your objective, a time when you achieved more in less time than ever before. Perhaps it was an impending vacation that motivated you to get everything done before you departed, or perhaps it was a “must pass” exam that helped you focus your concentration. The intensity that you developed in those situations is always available to you when you have a Positive Mental Attitude. – Napoleon Hill

 

News from Jude Bijou and Attitude Reconstruction™

Greetings Friends

This month’s theme is the three Ultimate Attitudes. When internalized these attitudes will allow our lives to match our potential. They are so simple, yet so easy to forget. In this same vein, I came across Pope Francis’ 10 tips for achieving personal happiness. I thought you’d enjoy his perspective about how to make every day a paradise

"Ah, there it is."

The Three Ultimate Attitudes          

Attitude Reconstruction began as a Blueprint; a complete guide to our six emotions and the predictable things we think, feel, say and do as a result. I divided all of the behaviours associated with each emotion into four core attitudes along with their opposites. It wasn’t until years later, however, one over-arching concept emerged: three destructive Ultimate Attitudes associated with sadness, anger, and fear, and conversely, three constructive Ultimate Attitudes, associated with joy, love, and peace.

These constructive Ultimate Attitudes are universal concepts at the root of every major religion and philosophy. I believe that to be "enlightened" means that we are wedded to living by these three principles.

Ultimate Attitude #1 — Honour yourself. Honouring or loving ourselves means that we unequivocally know that we are whole and complete. We are worthy and perfect regardless of what we do or have; we are self-reliant, full within ourselves independent of others opinions and judgments. We appreciate and respect ourselves, and we speak up and take action aligned with what we know is best in our hearts.

Ultimate Attitude #2 — Accept other people and situations. Accepting what is means we keep our focus on our own domain, our heart, and act from our intuition, rather than being reactive or governed by what others do, say,or have. We accept what is presented with equanimity and then respond from a place of love; we appreciate and look for the good in our world; and we give without a selfish motive.

Ultimate Attitude #2 — Accept other people and situations. Accepting what is means we keep our focus on our own domain, our heart, and act from our intuition, rather than being reactive or governed by what others do, say,or have. We accept what is presented with equanimity and then respond from a place of love; we appreciate and look for the good in our world; and we give without a selfish motive.

You just have to accept some people as they are and avoid them.

Ultimate Attitude #3 — Be present and specific. While the value of staying present is very popular in today’s culture, the need to remain specific is not, but "should" be. We use specifics in architecture, all fields of science, music, engineering, medicine, and cooking, but were not taught to stay specific in our thinking and communicating. We can handle any problem if we stay focused on just that without bringing in the kitchen sink. We can be understood and find workable solutions if we stay concrete.

And how do we learn to live by these three Ultimate Attitudes? With vigilance and practice. That means interrupting the tendency to resort to the opposite three Ultimate Attitudes (1 get down on ourselves; 2 don’t accept what is; and 3 overgeneralize and hang out in the future or past) and make another choice. If we stay rooted in what we intuitively know is best, our words, thoughts, and actions will embody that which brings joy, love, and peace.

The way to do this is simple: handle our emotions physically and constructively, keep entertaining constructive thoughts, check within for guidance, communicate following Attitude Reconstructions 4 rules of good communication ("I"s, specifics, kindness, and listening), and act in alignment with our hearts. Each time we do we feel good. When we make a misstep, make the correction and proceed.

This cute video embodies the spirit of the 3 Ultimate Attitudes in 45 seconds

The Pope’s 10 Tips for Achieving Personal Happiness

Pope Francis has released his top 10 tips for achieving happiness. What a cool dude. He’s channelling Attitude Reconstruction.

Here’s the list:

1. "Live and let live."

2. "Be giving of yourself to others. If you withdraw into yourself, you run the risk of becoming egocentric. And stagnant water becomes putrid."

3. "Proceed calmly [in life]."

4. "A healthy sense of leisure. Consumerism has brought us anxiety, causing us to lose a healthy culture of leisure."

5. "Sunday is for family."

6. "We need to be creative with young people. If they have no opportunities, they will get into drugs."

7. "Environmental degradation is one of the biggest challenges we have. I think a question that we’re not asking ourselves is: ‘Isn’t humanity committing suicide with this indiscriminate and tyrannical use of nature’?"

8. "Needing to talk badly about others indicates low self-esteem. Letting go of negative things quickly is healthy."

9. "We can inspire others through witness so that one grows together in communicating. But the worst thing of all is religious proselytism, which paralyses: ‘I am talking with you in order to persuade you.’ No. Each person dialogues, starting with his and her own identity. The Church grows by attraction, not proselytizing."

10. "We are living in a time of many wars, [and] the call for peace must be

shouted. Peace isn’t quiet, it’s always proactive."

The Pope would give a huge thumbs up to poignant Girl’s Inc video, "With you in her corner,"because here’s a local organization teaching girls how to honour themselves

It’s Never to Late to Change Your Attitude

An Attitude Reconstruction faithful relayed the following exchange she had with her not very accepting husband recently. While they were driving in the car running errands he became increasingly focused on and critical of a bike rider in the adjacent bike lane. He wondered aloud why the cyclist was doing this, that, and the other thing and not riding correctly.
Miraculously, he stopped himself mid-sentence and turned to his very patient wife and asked, "What is it I’m supposed to be saying to myself at moments like this?" She gently reminded him "People and things are the way they are, not the way I want them to be." He replied "Oh, yeah. I’ll try to remember that." And she smiled and offered a silent prayer.

"Oh, can’t complain. But I do."

Hey Jude,

I’m continually comparing myself and my accomplishments to others. How can I change this habit?

Comparisons are a no-win situation. You fuel your own unhappiness and sadness every time you think someone else has something you don’t. The antidote? Shift your focus from out there to in here — yourself. Select a couple of truths that will support you in your quest to learn how to honour you. Here are some possibilities: "What I’m seeking is within me." or "My job is to do the best I can." or "I’m doing the best I can.

Write them on a 3×5 card and when you notice you’ve slipped into a comparison, repeat, and repeat, and repeat until you truly get it.

What chance gathers she easily scatters? A great person attracts great people and knows how to hold them together. Wolfgang Von Goethe

The greatest good you can do for another is not just share your riches, but reveal to them their own. Disraeli

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Opportunities are never lost. They are found by someone else!” – Mike Mc Donald

 

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Wise Words  “Carefully watch your thoughts, for they become your words. Manage and watch your words, for they will become your actions. Consider and judge your actions, for they have become your habits. Acknowledge and watch your habits, for they shall become your values. Understand and embrace your values, for they become your destiny.” -Mahatma Gandhi

 

If I could share 500 words to inspire, this is the important wisdom I’d want to pass along to others…

hands round heart

All of life comes to me with ease, joy and glory.

What I have learned is that we are all infinite beings with infinite power, abilities and access to infinite amounts of love.

Look at nature and see how abundant it is, with plants, trees, birds, flies, animals abound. The same amount of abundance is available to each and every one of us.

We are all infinite beings, we are equal, not better than, not worse than, but we all still have a unique essence (flavour). As an individual, you matter. You add something to the mix called life that only you can add. Honour that. Honour you. Know with every fibre of your being that you are valued and loved beyond words.

The best thing you can do for anyone, including yourself, is to adore you, your body, and your life. Adoring yourself will allow you to receive the greatness of who you really be. By being that greatness of who you truly are, you will positively effect your environment just by breathing.

What is your job here? Your job is to be the best that you can be.

How do you do that? You do that by adoring your self, your body and your life. You allow yourself to expand into your greatness regardless of how uncomfortable it can be for others.

Be easy on yourself! Nurture yourself. That is what the Universe wants from you.

Your emotions will not deceive you and they will always reflect the truthWhen you see someone achieving something great, take it as a sign that it has opened a door of greatness for you and others. Often when others win the lottery or get a sought-after, high-paying job, we can take it badly. Somehow, so many of us have developed a ‘pie mentality’: if someone gets the coveted job, we think that a big portion of the pie is gone and we are left with just a smidgen.

The reality is that when anyone gets a coveted job, wins the lottery or does well in business, it creates more pies, so that others have the opportunity to do the same.

Go make pies. You deserve it, your friends and loved ones deserve it!

You are a powerful infinite being. Be you and change the world!

I love you. Thank you!

Life Power Tip  Listen, listen, listen and then…listen some more. Hearing is not the same thing as listening. Listening means using all of the senses that you have available to you and shutting off your own chatter. Mostly when we listen to others we “chatter” opinions or judgments about what’s being said or we’re devising what it is that we’re going to say next. Could you truly listen and “be with” the other person when they speak?

Gray Lawrence
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Unlock your potential, unleash your greatness, and tap into Heaven’s resources which are within you–yes, YOU! ~ Marie Fay


The following message as for many others can be taken as; family, personal, the jobs we do or Network Marketing within your thoughts at the time you read these wonderful “Inspirations”

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Marie Fay

Known as The Cyber Coach and Jollyologist, Marie is a Mompreneur, life mentor, speaker and writer who loves inspiring others to their happiest lives!

If I could share 500 words of wisdom to summarize what I’ve learned so far in life, these are the important things I’d want to pass along to others…

The most important gift that you can give yourself, and the world, is to live an authentic life. This takes a lot of courage and commitment as society tends to pull you in all different directions, pushing you to be everything and anything but who you wish to be yourself.

If you want to live an inspired life, it’s vital that you are true to you, what your dreams and visions are and what kind of life you would love to lead, not somebody else’s idea of what that is. It’s time for you to honour yourself and your passions and start living YOUR life on your terms!

Surround yourself with people who uplift and encourage you to live the life of your dreams! They say that you become like those you spend time with, so it’s important to connect with people who inspire you and bring out the absolute best in you every time you interact! I have found this to be one of the most beautiful experiences on my journey, the friends that I have met that have helped me to reconnect with my true inner self and shine are such precious souls and I am very grateful for having them in my life!

You are totally unique and special in every way, there’s not one other person that has ever walked the earth that has been like you and there never will be! You have gifts and talents that only you can share in such an inspiring way, and there are others waiting for you to step into your inner power and share those gifts and talents with them. Spend some time identifying what you are good at and what makes your heart sing, and then share your gifts with the world!

Develop a healthy love for yourself: you are gorgeous in every way! The most important relationship that you will ever have is with yourself. Every relationship you have in life is a direct reflection of how you feel about yourself. The more you fall in love with you, the more you fall in love with the world!

Sometimes you’re so busy going about your daily life, you forget to take time out for yourself to reflect on who you are and where your life is going, always living in the head space and not communing with your heart space. There’s a beautiful essence within each and every one of you waiting to be heard, calling you to your highest life, but a lot of the time you’re ‘too busy’ to listen! When you take time to be still, to be present and just allow your inner being to speak to you, your life will flow like never before.

Keep things light and laugh a lot. Life can be filled with many peaks and valleys, however, how you respond to what happens in your environment is up to you. The lens that you look through determines the life that you live, so adopting a happy demeanour definitely lends itself to living an inspired life!

Make your life matter… Making a commitment to be a beneficial presence on the planet in whatever way that speaks to you, this is what elevates you from the realm of the ordinary to the extraordinary! Asking yourself, "What can I bring to the world?" instead of "What can I get from the world?" can be one of the most important questions you will ever ask yourself. Leave the world a better place!

Know your own mind, and you will be as wise as the sages.
When you take charge of your mind, you take charge of your life. When you understand your thoughts, feelings, emotions, and desires, you can direct them to any end you choose. Wisdom comes from taking the time to study yourself, to know why you are the person you are. Taking charge of your mind is a thoughtful, reflective, solitary process. Only you can come to understand the complex inner workings of your own mind, and you must be willing to spend the time and effort that gaining such insight requires. Napoleon Hill

The Power is from within, the choice is yours
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