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“We all have the capability to make a difference, to accept what we are given, to love with our heart and live life to the fullest, or not: it’s up to us.” – Tracy Goodwin

If you want to find the key to happiness, success and abundance, you need to start by evaluating your own opinion of yourself. It’s not always easy to appreciate the hard work you put in every day, the difference you make in the lives of others, and the distance you’re willing to go to make your dreams come true. If it were easy, then everyone would do it, but before you even begin to think about things such as success and failure, you need to come to know yourself, and then you need to learn to love yourself.

Wise Words  “Carefully watch your thoughts, for they become your words. Manage and watch your words, for they will become your actions. Consider and judge your actions, for they have become your habits. Acknowledge and watch your habits, for they shall become your values. Understand and embrace your values, for they become your destiny.” -Mahatma Gandhi

Why is it Challenging to Love Ourselves?

It’s not easy, because as the saying goes, “we are all our own worst critics.” That saying, though it may be cliché, is absolutely correct. We find it difficult to love ourselves because we witness every mistake we make, every personality flaw we carry, every selfish tendency we possess, and we also are the one who knows exactly what we are capable of.

Learning to love yourself is not something that happens overnight, it is learned through experience and effort. Too often society teaches us that we need to look outside ourselves to find out who we really are, but I think the exact opposite is true. If you really want to understand more about your purpose in life, you need to turn inward, not outward. Turning outward will cause you to submit to the pressures of the world and be a person that you aren’t meant to be, but reflecting inward will connect you with your true self, and if you follow your instincts you will never be led astray.

"The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts." Marcus Aurelius

How to Love Yourself

The more you reflect inward, the more you will learn about yourself, and through that learning you will come to appreciate what you have to offer the world. You will realize that you are stronger, more intelligent, and more talented than you have ever imagined. You will feel moved to share your gifts with the world, and over time that will transform you into an unselfish person who knows what it means to find success.

If the idea of loving yourself wholeheartedly is foreign to you, try taking the following steps and see what kind of difference it makes:

From The Secret Daily Teachings

Never let a day pass without looking for the good, feeling the good within you, praising, appreciating, blessing, and being grateful. Make it your life commitment, and you will stand in utter awe of what happens in your life. May the joy be with you, Rhonda Byrne

#1: Forgive Yourself for Past and Future Mistakes

Each one of us will make mistakes every day, so you might as well forgive yourself now and get it over with it. Once you learn to forgive yourself of mistakes and move forward, you will be better in control of your emotional state, which will allow you to continue pushing toward your goals of success when mistakes and failures do come up. And here’s a secret: they will always come up!

It is so important that you are grateful for everything in your life. Many people focus on the one thing they want and then forget to be grateful for all the things they have. Without gratitude you cannot achieve anything through the law of attraction, because if you are not emanating gratitude from your being, then by default you are emanating ungratefulness. Be proactive and use the frequency of your being to receive what you want. May the joy be with you,
Rhonda Byrne

#2: Put Your Own Needs First Every Once in a While

Each one of us has our own personal needs, but usually we get too caught up taking care of the needs of others to make time to take care of ourselves. If you want to build more confidence and have positive feelings toward yourself, you need to ask yourself “Is this what I really want?” before you make any important decisions. Don’t make decisions based on the opinions of others, make decisions that are right for you. Over time you will love yourself more for being willing to trust.

"Extend to each person, no matter how trivial the contact, all the care and kindness and understanding and love that you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again." Og Mandino

#3: Make Time to do Things you Love!

The most successful people in the world rarely have a difficult time with their work, because they are involved in things they are deeply passionate about. You can take this same attitude with your life. If you aren’t doing things you love on a routine basis, what is the purpose of living? Of course, make sure you have time to attend to all of your responsibilities, but always leave extra time for the things you love most.

You are led through your life time by the inner learning creature, the playful spiritual being that is you’re real self. Don’t turn away from possible futures before you are certain you don’t have anything to learn from them. You’re always free to change your mind and chose a different future, or a different past. The book Illusions.

Gray Lawrence

“Pure love has no conditions or boundaries. Love does not restrain itself or hold back. Love gives all the time and doesn’t ask for anything in return. Love is a continuous flow without any limits. And all of this is inside you.                                                           May the joy be with you, Rhonda Byrne

Be Inspired by by Regina Cates

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Set your sights high, the higher the better. Expect the most wonderful things to happen, not in the future but right now. Realize that nothing is too good. Allow absolutely nothing to hamper you or hold you up in any way." Eileen Caddy 1917-2006, Author

How to Make Sure Your Glass is Always Full

Regina CatesIf I could share 500 words to inspire, this is the important wisdom I’d want to pass along to others…

Money does not make you rich, character does. There are lots of wealthy people who are absolutely impoverished in character. You cannot buy a reputation for being a person of good character. It is earned by being a respectful, kind and responsible. You are truly wealthy when you accept the greatest legacy you will ever leave is choosing how well you live.

Be genuinely grateful for what you have in life and tearing up the list of what you do not have will be gratifying. Attitude is everything. Have an attitude of lack, and life will be a never-ending search for the next “thing” to fill the holes within your heart. An attitude of gratitude magically plugs those holes.

Treating other people as you want to be treated does not mean waiting for them to go first. Leaders lead by “being the change they want to see.” Frustration, anger and disappointment come from waiting for others to go first.

You cannot change anyone other than yourself. When you change yourself for the better, the world changes for the better because your positive actions influence those who see your behaviour. That is why changed people change people, without trying. They lead change by example.

Every soul is whole no matter how wounded the human being. No matter how low you have gone in life, there is wisdom and strength within you that will get you successfully to the other side. The key is to accept you are not your problems. YOU are bigger than any challenge you face.

Regardless of what happened to you in the past or how you were mistreated by others, what matters most is how you are treating yourself today. Hurting yourself will never get back at those who hurt you in the first place. The truth is that loving yourself is an excellent way to prove their mistreatment wrong.

Being gentle with yourself, other people and all life is one of the strongest things you do. Gentleness is not weakness. It takes great strength to have the self-control necessary to be kind.

You are going to lose a friend and you will find a new friend. You will lose a love and you will find a new love. You will lose a job and you will find a new job. You will lose a bad habit and you will find a good habit. There is gain through loss. Everything changes so don’t get stuck in the hard parts of life. Instead view the challenges as opportunities to grow and you will blossom.

It’s okay to get angry and frustrated at times. It’s not okay to make these a lifestyle. You are responsible for your own happiness. If life is not going well then it is time for you to do something about it.

Your glass will only remain half full until you realize you are the one holding the pitcher. Don’t sit around waiting for someone to rescue you. You must be your own superhero.

Gray Lawrence

"A smile is a gift for all around us, not to be kept by us; but to be given freely everyday to all you know see and pass by, No matter who or what they are feeling or look like. It is your duty your unwritten law! Your ambition for being put on this earth to make another person SMILE EVERY DAY – Gray Lawrence


    Through her Los Angeles–based company, Romancing Your Soul, Regina V. Cates, author, writer, podcaster, and positivity junkie, guides people to lead with their hearts. Regina’s longing to help others live fulfilled lives is the motivating force behind why she is known as one of the most effective self-help authors and transformational teachers of our time. Now with her bestselling book, Lead with Your Heart: Creating a Life of Love, Compassion and Purpose and massive social media following, she is touching the hearts of a world-wide audience.

    For more information, please visit RomancingYourSoul.com.

    Attitude The Power of One

    You do not have to see all the steps just take the first one

    An area of importance to us all, should we decide to be better

    Getting the best from yourself and others all starts with one: one thought … one word … one action.
    “One” is the first note in orchestrating the personal attitude that shapes and directs your life – and impacts the members of your team. Contrary to the lyrics from a classic rock song, one is not the loneliest number. It’s the most important one!
    Your thoughts, words, and actions are like individual notes that work in concert to create the power of one person – YOU – to make a difference. You can harness your “power of one” if you simply:

    • Catch one negative thought and turn it into a positive one;
    • Think of one thing for which you are grateful at the beginning of each day;
    • Say one “Fantastic!” when a friend or team member asks how you are doing;
    • Assume the best in one upcoming situation;
    • Keep on moving one more time when you experience adversity;
    • Help one friend or colleague in a time of need – and take pride in it.

    Many people used to feel that one vote in an election couldn’t really make a difference. Well, recent political elections that have been decided by razor thin margins have proven them wrong. A single
    act can make a difference … it can create a ripple effect felt many miles and people away. So, ask yourself: What’s one thing I can do today that will make a positive difference in my attitude? Then DO IT!
    Repeat that process every day and your life will improve – and so will the lives of the people you lead. Attitudes are truly powerful … and they’re contagious!

    Be nice to people on your way up. You might need them on the way down. — Jimmy Durante

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    “I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.” Stephen Covey

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    The Greatest leaders of the world were men and women of quick decision -Napoleon Hill

    19 Signs You are Doing Better than You Think

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    The day we die is a misery for those we leave behind
    The day we die is a test that we have done right for those we leave behind
    The day we die brings sorrow and anger
    The day we die brings “why”
    The day we die is a test to those we leave and strength must prevail
    The day we die is not fair but the pain has gone, the day we died
    The day we die is the day we come alive in god’s hands
    From a testing father

     

    WRITTEN by MARC CHERNOFF

    19 Signs You’re Doing Better than You Think

    Even in uncertain times, it’s always important to keep things in perspective.

    True wealth is the ability to fully experience life.
    – Henry David Thoreau

    1. You are alive.
    2. You are able to see the sunrise and the sunset.
    3. You are able to hear birds sing and waves crash.
    4. You can walk outside and feel the breeze through your hair and the sun’s warmth on your skin.
    5. You have tasted the sweetness of chocolate cake.
    6. You didn’t go to sleep hungry last night.
    7. You awoke this morning with a roof over your head.
    8. You had a choice of what clothes to wear.
    9. You haven’t feared for your life today.
    10. You have overcome some considerable obstacles, and you have learned and survived.
    11. You often worry about what you’re going to do with your life – your career, your family, the next step, etc. – which means you have ambition, passion, drive, and the freedom to make your own decisions.
    12. You live in a country that protects your basic human rights and civil liberties.
    13. You are reasonably strong and healthy – if you got sick today, you could recover.
    14. You have a friend or relative who misses you and looks forward to your next visit.
    15. You have someone with whom to reminisce about ‘the good old days.’
    16. You have access to clean drinking water.
    17. You have access to medical care.
    18. You have access to the Internet.
    19. You can read.

    The truth is, you’re doing better than a lot of people in this world.  So remember to be grateful for all the things you do have.  (Read The Happiness Project.)

     

    The greatest good you can do for another is not just share your riches, but reveal to them their own. Disraeli                                                              Gray Lawrence Independent Distributor  Utility  Warehouse                                                                                        The world Owes You Everything and nothing Gray Lawrence

    5 Unique Ways to Forgive and Let Go

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    A positive mental attitude is an irresistible force that knows no such thing as an immovable body.
    Time and again we hear stories about ordinary people who do seemingly impossible things when they find themselves in an emergency situation. They perform herculean feats of strength and endurance, things they never dreamed they were capable of doing. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you could harness that strength and make it available anytime you need it? You can — if you believe you can. No doubt you can remember a time in your life when you were exceptionally focused on your objective, a time when you achieved more in less time than ever before. Perhaps it was an impending vacation that motivated you to get everything done before you departed, or perhaps it was a “must pass” exam that helped you focus your concentration. The intensity that you developed in those situations is always available to you when you have a Positive Mental Attitude.       Napoleon Hill

    WRITTEN by MARC CHERNOFF

    5 Unique Ways to Forgive and Let Go

    “The past has no power over the present moment.”
    ―Eckhart Tolle

    There is great value in every act of forgiveness.  You can forgive yourself, you can forgive others, and you can forgive even when you don’t know exactly who to forgive, because forgiveness is not about who is to blame or who is at fault.  It is about letting go, completely and permanently within yourself.

    Forgiveness is recognizing the reality that what has happened has already happened, and that there’s no point in allowing it to dominate the rest of your life.  Forgiveness refreshingly cleans the slate and enables you to step forward.  Here are five unique ways to make this step possible:

    1.  Stop trying for a while.

    If you’re trying hard and haplessly making zero progress, stop trying.  Stop trying and start being.

    When you see yourself as trying – to do something else or get somewhere else – you don’t interpret what you have and where you are as being good enough.  This perception of constantly trying makes living seem like an endless struggle.

    There is great value within you right here, right now.  Allow it to come out, willingly and without a struggle.  Instead of trying to get to some other point in your life, give your full attention to doing your very best with the life you are living now.  Instead of believing that you are not there yet, be grateful that you are right where you are meant to be at this moment.

    Yes, by all means set goals and take steps in the right direction, but don’t disregard the steps as you take them – these steps are your life’s story.  Let go of all the needless trying and let yourself take these steps peacefully and mindfully.  Let go of the judgments, forgive the past, and let this moment be as incredible as it is.  (This is something Angel and I discuss in the Adversity and Happiness chapters of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)

    2.  Be the watcher of your thoughts and emotions.

    In his best selling book, The Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle tells us to be the watcher of our thoughts.  What he suggests is that instead of trying to change our thoughts – via gratitude or deliberate forgiveness, for example – we need to simply notice our thoughts without getting caught up in them.

    You are ultimately the sole creator of your own feelings.  When negative thoughts arise based on past experiences or future worries, as they sometimes will, realize that these are simply issues your mind (not you) is working through.  Pause, be present and pay close attention.  Think about these thoughts and emotions consciously, almost as if you were a bystander looking in.  Separate yourself from your mind’s thinking.

    Perhaps after you study your thoughts and emotions you will think to yourself, “Wow, am I really still working through that?”  And guess what?  Over time, your negative feelings and emotions will lessen and genuine awareness, love and acceptance will grow in their place.  You will begin to realize that your mind is just an instrument, and you are in control of your mind, not the other way around.

    By not judging your thoughts or blaming them on anyone else, and merely watching them, there will be a big shift within you – your sense of self worth.

    It’s not like you won’t get upset anymore or never feel anxious, but knowing that your thoughts and emotions are just fleeting feelings that are independent of YOU will help ease your tension and increase your positive presence, allowing you to forgive and let go.

    3.  Love.

    Feeling sorry for yourself and sabotaging the present moment with resentful thoughts of the past won’t make anything better.  Hurting someone else will never ease your own inner angst.

    If you’re disappointed with yourself or frustrated with someone else, the answer is not to take it out on the world around you.  Retribution, whether it’s focused on yourself or others, brings zero value into your life.

    The way beyond the pain from the past is not with vengeance, mockery, bullying or retaliation, but with present love.

    Forgive the past, forgive yourself, forgive others, and love the present moment for what it’s worth.  There are plenty of beautiful things to love right now; you just have to want to see them.  Loving is never easy, especially when times are tough, yet it is easily the most powerful and positively enduring action possible.

    If you’re feeling pain, don’t take action that creates even more pain.  Don’t try to cover darkness with darkness.  Find the light.  Act out of love.  Do something that will enable you to move forward toward a more fulfilling reality.  There is always something good you can do.  There is always love to give.  Fill your heart with it and act in everyone’s best interest, especially your own.

    4.  Seek positive revenge by living well.

    Are you contemplating revenge?  You know that’s negative thinking getting the best of you.  However, there is a way to seek revenge positively.

    How?  Forget about them.  Remember you.  Working on a better you is more fulfilling than hanging on to contempt of others.  Let it all go and hold on to your growth and kindness instead.  If you train yourself to consistently be more loving in thoughts and actions, your positive energy will attract more positive results into your current reality.

    Be unlike the person or situation that hurt you.  Let go and grow past your pain.  Carry on living well in a way that creates peace in your heart.  The energy you would spend trying to get real revenge can be better spent creating an amazing future for yourself.

    The bottom line is that the best revenge is happiness, because nothing drives your adversaries more insane than seeing a fresh smile on your face.  (Read Buddha’s Brain.)

    5.  Let go of the need to forgive every mistake.

    Mistakes are the growing pains of wisdom.  Most of the time they just need to be accepted, not forgiven.

    There is an obvious shift in your heart and mind that happens when you go from feeling hurt and upset to peaceful and loving, but it’s not necessarily forgiveness that’s taking place, it’s just the realization that there was nothing to forgive in the first place.

    To help you wrap your head around this concept, try to look at your situation from 40,000 feet.  Imagine a more seasoned, wiser and more compassionate version of yourself sitting at the mountaintop of life, looking down and watching as the younger minded, current version of you hacks your way through life.

    You see yourself holding on to false beliefs and making epic errors of judgment as you manoeuvre through life’s many obstacles.  You watch the children of the world growing up in challenging times that test their sense of self-confidence, yet they push forward bravely.  You see the coming generation radiating with passion and love as they fail forward, learning through their mistakes.

    And you have to wonder:  Would this wiser version of yourself conclude that everyone in their own unique way was doing their very best.  And if everyone is trying to do their best, what needs to be forgiven?  Not being perfect?

    Perfection doesn’t exist.  Forgiveness is oftentimes the simple realization that there is nothing that actually needs to be forgiven.

    Your turn…

    Who would you like to forgive?  What stressful burdens do you need to let go of and rise above? 

    We will forget and forgive any judgment error that you make, but integrity mistakes are forever. — David Cottrell

    Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined. Henry David Thoreau

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    "Forget mistakes. Forget failure. Forget everything except what you’re going to do now and do it. Today is your lucky day. -Will Durant

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