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Be Inspired by by Regina Cates

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Set your sights high, the higher the better. Expect the most wonderful things to happen, not in the future but right now. Realize that nothing is too good. Allow absolutely nothing to hamper you or hold you up in any way." Eileen Caddy 1917-2006, Author

How to Make Sure Your Glass is Always Full

Regina CatesIf I could share 500 words to inspire, this is the important wisdom I’d want to pass along to others…

Money does not make you rich, character does. There are lots of wealthy people who are absolutely impoverished in character. You cannot buy a reputation for being a person of good character. It is earned by being a respectful, kind and responsible. You are truly wealthy when you accept the greatest legacy you will ever leave is choosing how well you live.

Be genuinely grateful for what you have in life and tearing up the list of what you do not have will be gratifying. Attitude is everything. Have an attitude of lack, and life will be a never-ending search for the next “thing” to fill the holes within your heart. An attitude of gratitude magically plugs those holes.

Treating other people as you want to be treated does not mean waiting for them to go first. Leaders lead by “being the change they want to see.” Frustration, anger and disappointment come from waiting for others to go first.

You cannot change anyone other than yourself. When you change yourself for the better, the world changes for the better because your positive actions influence those who see your behaviour. That is why changed people change people, without trying. They lead change by example.

Every soul is whole no matter how wounded the human being. No matter how low you have gone in life, there is wisdom and strength within you that will get you successfully to the other side. The key is to accept you are not your problems. YOU are bigger than any challenge you face.

Regardless of what happened to you in the past or how you were mistreated by others, what matters most is how you are treating yourself today. Hurting yourself will never get back at those who hurt you in the first place. The truth is that loving yourself is an excellent way to prove their mistreatment wrong.

Being gentle with yourself, other people and all life is one of the strongest things you do. Gentleness is not weakness. It takes great strength to have the self-control necessary to be kind.

You are going to lose a friend and you will find a new friend. You will lose a love and you will find a new love. You will lose a job and you will find a new job. You will lose a bad habit and you will find a good habit. There is gain through loss. Everything changes so don’t get stuck in the hard parts of life. Instead view the challenges as opportunities to grow and you will blossom.

It’s okay to get angry and frustrated at times. It’s not okay to make these a lifestyle. You are responsible for your own happiness. If life is not going well then it is time for you to do something about it.

Your glass will only remain half full until you realize you are the one holding the pitcher. Don’t sit around waiting for someone to rescue you. You must be your own superhero.

Gray Lawrence

"A smile is a gift for all around us, not to be kept by us; but to be given freely everyday to all you know see and pass by, No matter who or what they are feeling or look like. It is your duty your unwritten law! Your ambition for being put on this earth to make another person SMILE EVERY DAY – Gray Lawrence


    Through her Los Angeles–based company, Romancing Your Soul, Regina V. Cates, author, writer, podcaster, and positivity junkie, guides people to lead with their hearts. Regina’s longing to help others live fulfilled lives is the motivating force behind why she is known as one of the most effective self-help authors and transformational teachers of our time. Now with her bestselling book, Lead with Your Heart: Creating a Life of Love, Compassion and Purpose and massive social media following, she is touching the hearts of a world-wide audience.

    For more information, please visit RomancingYourSoul.com.

    To Love oneself

    love is that micro moment of warmth and connection that you share with another living being

    Love is the highest power we possess to be in complete harmony with the law of attraction. The more love we feel the greater our power. The more selfless love we feel, the more unfathomable our power. The law of attraction has been called the law of love, because the law itself is a gift of love to humanity. It is the law by which we can create incredible lives for ourselves. The more love we feel the greater our power to create a magnificent life of love, joy, and harmony. May the joy be with you, Rhonda Byrne

    Do you love yourself?  If not, why not?  If yes, how do you express that love?

    You have probably heard the expression "charity begins at home".  Unfortunately it is frequently used just as an excuse to ignore help that people further from home really need.  But in essence it is true.  In the King James Bible, the word "charity" is an interpretation of the Greek word "agape", and it really means unselfish love.  A love that just keeps giving without needing anything in return.  Compassion.  It certainly does not mean paying some money to a worthy concern and then considering you have done your duty and do not need to be compassionate.

    Uplift yourself from the lower self, even as an elephant draws himself up from a muddy swamp.- The Dhammapada

    So let’s rephrase.  "Love begins at home".  In fact, love begins with loving yourself.  If you do not love yourself you will find it very difficult to love others.  Conversely, if you truly love yourself you will find you begin to create room to love others, beginning with those around you and expanding to the point where you love the entire universe.

    I am not talking here about narcissism.  I am talking about true love as contained in the word "agape".  A love that is committed to the well-being of its object.  If you are interested at all in personal development, this is the starting point.  You have to be committed to your own true well-being.  This really encompasses everything.  You will not abuse your body or your mind or your spirit, because you love them and wish them to be developed in the best possible way.  The mormons in particular talk about recognizing your body as a temple, as do most other Christians.  Treat it with respect.  Look after it.  Love it.  Do this and it will serve you well.  The same goes for your mind and your spirit.  Develop it.  Cherish it.

    Ask, and it shall be given to you; seek, and ye shall find; Knock, and it shall be open unto you, For everyone that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be open.- Mathew 7:7-8

    When you love someone you probably give them treats.  If you are married, can you remember what you did when you first went out with your spouse?  Did you give unexpected gifts?  Not just on birthdays and anniversaries and at Christmas, but at unexpected times?  Remember the pleasure that gave you as well as the pleasure it gave your spouse?  Do the same to yourself.  Give yourself treats.  Not all the time of course.  I am not encouraging you to be self-indulgent.  But get into the habit of treating yourself every so often.

    You also need to spend time alone with the one you love rather than only ever being with them in a crowd.  Do the same for yourself.  Have "me" time.  I suggest you do this every day for at least a few minutes, and for much longer at least once a week.  Even an occasional full day of "me" time.  What do I mean by "me" time?  I cannot really answer that, as it will depend entirely on you.  It means different things to different people.  If you don’t know the answer then that means you are certainly not spending enough time on yourself and must learn to love yourself more.

    You have powers you never dreamed of. You can do things you never thought you could do. There are no limitations in what you can do except the limitations of your own mind." – Darwin P. Kingsley

    As you learn to love yourself more, and practise doing what you have learned, you will begin to see how you should love others more.  And so your self love will begin to blossom as love for others.

    I suggest you incorporate both self love and love for others in a daily meditation practice.  Begin by feeling every bit of your body and start to feel love for it.  Feel a sphere extending from your centre and encompassing your whole body.  Then, as you become comfortable with this, expand this sphere so it includes your whole house and everything and everyone within it.  Keep centred and expand that sphere again.  Now it includes all your friends and relatives.  Expand it again to include all those you work with and those you have fleeting contact with.  Keep expanding, so it now includes people you have never met, people all over the world.  Feel deep compassion for them.  Then expand again so it includes not just all the people in the world but also the world itself and everything within it.  Now recognize that you are star dust (yes, you really are!) – so expand your love to include the whole universe of stars and of everything that has come from those stars.

    Every event that you chose for your life, no matter how destructive, chaotic or miserable it may seem, has been allowed to manifest because your Wholeness has an innate knowledge of those things you need to get you to the place where you will chose to sink deep within, into the stillness of who you are. – Bartholamew

    Love is a two way street, even if sometimes it does not seem to be.  Yes, there will be times when your unconditional love is not returned to you by the object of your love, but it will still be returned to you from somewhere.  As you start loving yourself and then expanding outwards until that love encompasses the entire universe, so the universe will return that love to you.  This will happen gradually and not necessarily in very obvious ways, but happen it will.

    So, beginning today, practice self love, expand it, and love the entire universe.  I think you will be surprised by what will start to happen in your life when you do this!

    Through the harmony and ultimately the balance of the feminine energy, of that goddess energy, you will unlock the Vortex of Power that lies within. – Lazaris

    Gray Lawrence

    You are a vast, brilliant, extending, creative energy field that exploded out of the Heart of the One and delighting in its journey home. -Bartholamew

    A Positive Mental Attitude breaths life and Happiness, enjoy

    There is nothing wrong about being happy, Healthy and extremely positive it is good for you your health and other people, when they see how happy positive and friendly you are, especially strangers; talk o them even as hi or hallo works wonders fro them and you .

    Enjoy the words of famous and non famous people and picture’s that tell a story !

    Lets begin..

     1)   To see the world in a grain of sand and heaven in a wild flower, holding infinity in the palm of your hand and eternity in an hour..William Blake

    Life is too short to be serious if you cant laugh at yourself call me and I will do it for you2)  "The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up." Mark Twain

    Be nice to people the world can be a difficult place and we all neeed a little help sometimes

    3)  Success is first understanding, then fulfilling the Lord’s purpose for your life.” – Jim Good

    there is a wondeful thing gold cannot buy that is a boleesing that is rare and true

    4)   The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind." -William James

    All we have is all we need

    5) There is some kind of a sweet innocence in being human – in not having to be just happy or just sad – in the nature of being able to be both broken and whole, at the same time.” ―C. JoyBell C.

    And God promised men that good and obedient wives would be found in all corners of the world...

    6)   The Power of Kindness "Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around." Leo Buscaglia

    Acting from a place of Love is a choice we get to make each day

    7)  He who loses wealth loses much; he who loses a friend loses more; but he who loses courage loses all. – Miguel de Cervantes

    Youv'e only got three choices in life

    8)  "Tis a gift to be simple, tis a gift to be free, "Tis a gift to come down where you ought to be, and when we find ourselves in the place just right ,"Twill be in the valley of love and delight – Shaker Hym

    Your life is a result of the choices you make

    9)  “You are love. Your true essence is love. Be aware that you are love in all you do, say, think, feel, smell, taste or know, and you will be happy and healthy all the days of your life.” – Margaret Ann Lembo

    Your mother is always with you she is the wisper among the leaves

    10)  "When you grow up, you tend to get told that the world is the way it is and your life is just to live your life inside the world, try not to bash into the walls too much, try to have a nice family life, have fun, save a little money… but that’s a very limited life. Life can be much broader once you discover one simple fact–and that is everything around you that you call life was made up by people that were no smarter than you." -Steve Jobs

    Be nice to people the world can be a difficult place and we all neeed a little help sometimes

    I hope you enjoy, finding something that is from with you, remember make what ever you feel or think worth while to you your family friends and strangers. All the love in the world is not enough unless it comes from the heart.

    Gray Lawrence

    Like you, I am a human being filled with joys, fears, frustrations, and hopes. And, like you, I want to be understood, accepted, and appreciated. — Eric Harvey and Steve Ventura

    We are not put on this earth for ourselves, but are placed here for each other. If you are always there for others, then in time of need, someone will be there for you. -  Jeff Warner

    If you would like more of this do let me know, all the best  Gray

    Attitude and The Power of One

    ”People build too many walls and not enough bridges.” – Isaac Newton

    An area of importance to us all, should we decide to be better

    Getting the best from yourself and others all starts with one: one thought … one word … one action.


    Activities010[1]“One” is the first note in orchestrating the personal attitude that shapes and directs your life – and impacts the members of your team. Contrary to the lyrics from a classic rock song, one is not the loneliest number. It’s the most important one!
    Your thoughts, words, and actions are like individual notes that work in concert to create the power of one person – YOU – to make a difference. You can harness your “power of one” if you simply:

    • Catch one negative thought and turn it into a positive one;
    • Think of one thing for which you are grateful at the beginning of each day;
    • Say one “Fantastic!” when a friend or team member asks how you are doing;
    • Assume the best in one upcoming situation;
    • Keep on moving one more time when you experience adversity;
    • Help one friend or colleague in a time of need – and take pride in it.

    Optimism thumbs upMany people used to feel that one vote in an election couldn’t really make a difference. Well, recent political elections that have been decided by razor thin margins have proven them wrong. A single
    act can make a difference … it can create a ripple effect felt many miles and people away. So, ask yourself: What’s one thing I can do today that will make a positive difference in my attitude? Then DO IT!
    Repeat that process every day and your life will improve – and so will the lives of the people you lead. Attitudes are truly powerful … and they’re contagious!

    Be nice to people on your way up. You might need them on the way down. — Jimmy Durante

     

    Gray Lawrence

    Learn to let go. That is the key to happiness.”

    ”The most memorable moments in life are the ones you never planned.”

    ”You should never have to think twice about who your real friends are.”

    5 ways to change your body Tahlee Rouillon

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    The only challenges there are in your life are in your  mind.
    When you realise that. .no matter the date time or year you have TWO choices to make.. The right one or the wrong one.  Gray Lawrence

    5 Ways to Change Your Mind About Your Body

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    “Enjoy your body, use it every way you can…don’t be afraid of it, or what other people think of it, it’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own..” – Baz Luhrmann

    For many years I believed the only way to get my ideal body was to whip it into shape with lashings of shame and hate. For some bizarre reason that I couldn’t fathom at the time, this strategy was unsuccessful.

    It resulted in fluctuating weight loss / gain, injury, pain, and a whole lotta misery.

    If I lost weight, I always needed to lose more. If I felt overwhelmed, I ate my emotions and put the weight back on. No matter what I did, I never felt good enough.

    Fortunately, I was blessed to receive the assistance of a gifted therapist to overcome my disordered relationship to food, exercise and my body. And whilst I still sometimes struggle, I have found when I consistently practice these 5 tips, my body and life are so much happier!

    1. Acceptance

    “Once we accept our limits, we go beyond them.” – Albert Einstein

    Acceptance does not mean that you never want to change. It doesn’t mean that you’ll give up all desire to be fit and healthy and turn into a gluttonous slob.

    It means that you wholeheartedly recognise where you are in your health journey with kindness and compassion, rather than piling on guilt and shame about where you “should be”.

    Acceptance gives you permission to acknowledge where you are and also where you’d like to go. It’s far more motivating and sustainable than the self loathing that accompanies the “shoulds”.

    Thinking about how much you should weigh, how faster you should be able to run, how stronger / fit / toned you should be is dejecting and usually leads to resentment.

    Whenever I resented or felt ashamed about the way I looked, I was more likely to skip workouts or conversely, workout too much and end up injuring myself. Accepting where I was at on my health and fitness journey allowed me to approach workouts with much more kindness and joy.

    2. Stop Comparing!

    Stop comparing yourself to others, yourself to how you were yesterday or even how you were 5 years ago. Comparison truly is the thief of joy as it either leads to smug superiority or feelings of shameful inferiority. And as you already know, shame is not a sustainable motivator.

    Recognise that you have unique abilities in this present moment. Honour the journey that has brought you to this place and renew your commitment to living your life of awesomeness.

    A great first step is to go on a media diet.

    Get rid of the magazines that uphold such ludicrous ideals of beauty. Even though you’re an intelligent person and you KNOW those models are digitally altered (making their beauty even more unrealistic) your primal brain doesn’t.

    Your primitive brain, deep below your neocortex, is hardwired to accept reality as, well, real. It has no way of knowing that the images it sees in magazines are illogical and deceptive. It’s why movies and books are so powerfully entertaining and immersive.

    The less material you have to fuel self-comparison, the better off your mental health will be.

    I’ve even given up reading health and fitness magazines because I find that I end up focusing too much on the women’s bodies and how I stack up, instead of focusing on the fitness information.

    3. Turn Down the Inner Bully

    We all have a harsh inner monologue that criticises and blames us for when things go wrong, or that arcs up when things are about to get risky.

    You know – the voice that is overly concerned with things being perfect, safe and secure. The voice that says things about you that you would NEVER say to anyone else.

    Mine is particularly nasty if I’ve put on weight, if I’m trying something new, or if I’ve stuffed something up.

    But just because you have one, doesn’t mean you have to listen to the horrible things they say.

    Recognise the harsh, repetitive, adrenaline fuelled messages for what they are. Anxiety. They are not true statements about you, your personality or your potential.

    4. Turn Up Your Inner Bestie

    Transforming your critical monologue is as simple as treating yourself as you would your best friend.

    Not always easy if your Inner Bully has been running rampant for a while – but simple.

    The next time you begin to feel the dead-weight dread of your Inner Bully – imagine the situation that is causing the anxiety is happening to your Best Friend. What do you say to them when they are sick, scared or suffering? What do you do for them to soothe them? How do you treat your loved ones when they need your compassion?

    Whenever I imagine how I would treat my bestie, there is often a large gap between how I would treat them and how I treat myself. Giving myself permission to be kind to myself has been a big step towards loving myself and my body more.

    5. Mindfulness

    Staying aware and focused in the present moment is at once grounding and liberating.

    In an age of hyper connected 24-7 lifestyles, the ancient wisdom of mindfulness is more vital than ever. Slowing down and appreciating the present moment gives you the opportunity to be grateful for all you have.

    I’ve found mindfulness to be excellent at reducing my anxiety, which helps prevent emotional eating. It helps my pay more attention to hunger and satiety clues, helping to prevent overeating. And it gives me focus, which vastly improves the quality of my workout.

    Practicing mindfulness can be as simple as taking 10 minutes per day just to sit quietly and breathe. The intention is not to stop thinking, Lover to avoid thinking negative thoughts. The goal is to quietly witness the thoughts without attaching judgment or criticism. Whenever you get distracted, just gently guide your attention back to the physical sensation of breathing.

    Mindfulness is definitely a practice. The more I do it, the more familiar it becomes and the benefits flow into all areas of my life.

    Do you struggle with body image? How do you motivate yourself to stay fit and healthy? What other tips would you suggest for positive body love

    The Power is from within, the choice is yours
    Gray Lawrence
    "Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start." Nido Qubein

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