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Be Inspired by Melissa Heisler

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A positive mental attitude is an irresistible force that knows no such thing as an immovable body.
Time and again we hear stories about ordinary people who do seemingly impossible things when they find themselves in an emergency situation. They perform Herculean feats of strength and endurance, things they never dreamed they were capable of doing. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you could harness that strength and make it available anytime you need it? You can — if you believe you can. No doubt you can remember a time in your life when you were exceptionally focused on your objective, a time when you achieved more in less time than ever before. Perhaps it was an impending vacation that motivated you to get everything done before you departed, or perhaps it was a “must pass” exam that helped you focus your concentration. The intensity that you developed in those situations is always available to you when you have a Positive Mental Attitude. – Napoleon Hill

4 Ways to Manage Workplace Stress

Topics: Letting Go, Relaxation, Stress, Technology,

 

Melissa Heisler

 

Workers seem more and more stressed every day.

  • Technology has created expectation of an immediate response 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year.
  • Short-term thinking and planning based on the focus of quarterly stock reports has increased the sense of importance for every project. We feel everything is an urgent priority needing instant attention.
  • The “doing more with less” mentality has increased the amount of our responsibilities and what is expected of us. This has created a culture of inefficient multi-tasking.

Below are four ways you can reduce the amount of stress you feel at work.

Manage Your Electronics: Do not be a prisoner of your electronics. Control how you use them versus reacting to them in the moment. When the communication pops up, you stop what you are doing, you read the email, and you say oh it’s not urgent, and you go back to your project and then another email pops up and you do the same thing. This is an amazing waste of time and focus. Turn off notifications for your email, texts and social media. Instead carve out time slots during the day to check communications. To help others manage their expectations of your reaction time, you can add an automated response to your email such as “I will get to your email in 24 hours.”

Managing Communications: When you do open your email, open it only once and act upon it in that moment. Choose to either Do, Delegate, Delay, or Delete.

  • Do: Respond and complete the request in that moment.
  • Delegate: Is this the highest and best use of your time?  Is there someone stress at workelse you can delegate this to?  Is there an automated system you can put in place to handle a specific type of email?
  • Delay: If the email does not need to be handled right now, but it does need to be done by you, add a reminder to come back to it. Don’t just leave it in your inbox as you may then open it again in the future only to delay it again. Colour code the email as a “future” and set up a follow-up reminder.
  • Delete: Does this need to be done at all? Is there really anything you need to address with it? If you find you are constantly deleting emails from certain sources, you may want to unsubscribe from the list or remove yourself from the project.

Change Your Relationship with Time: When I was working my 9 to 5 job, I would wake up in the morning and immediately go through my to-do list and what I had planned for the day. The result was feeling behind the eight-ball before I even left bed. One of the ways to release time’s hold on you is before you get out of bed say, “I have more than enough time today to accomplish everything that I need to do.” Just making that statement changes your outlook on the day. This reframe empowers you to deal with the day differently.

Simplify and Focus: Often our stress comes from creating unrealistic expectations. There are only a certain hours in the day. Manage what you expect to accomplish by having a list of absolute must-do’s for the day; not more than 3 per day. Make sure you have enough time to accomplish these tasks. I determine what I am going to focus on for the day by having a realistic list of projects I want to accomplish for the week. Remember to focus only on your daily to-do’s. If you focus on the week’s goals it can be overwhelming. Focus solely on the obtainable items for that particular day.

What is the answer to every difficult circumstance in life?

 

Take the positive path. 

Choosing the positive path can be easy at some times in our life and more difficult at other times. When everything is going along well, when we are on a roll, choosing the positive path just flows through us as an easy, natural choice. When something negative comes along it can be far more challenging for us to choose the positive path. But choose it we must! No matter how challenging the negativity may be, there is simply no other way to bring our lives back into positivity.  

If negative situations appear, you must use your will and refuse to lower yourself to negative thoughts, words, actions, and emotions. Use your will and decide that not only will you focus on the positive, but you will ramp up the positive in every thought, word, and action of your day. 

It takes determination, strength, faith, and the power of your will to focus on the positive when intense negativity descends, but remember, that the Universe and the law of attraction are with you. As you focus on the positive, focus more on the positive, think of the positive, speak of the positive, and take positive and good actions, the law of attraction will give your life wings. Suddenly you will look around you and you will find that the negativity has gone, and that your life has been filled with goodness and joy.          Rhonda Byrne The Secret

The Power is from within, the choice is yours

Gray Lawrence


"Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start." Nido Qubein

 

 

Be Inspired by Chester Goad “Live Your Purpose”

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You come finally to believe anything you tell yourself often enough — even if it is not true.
If you repeat something over and over to yourself, your subconscious mind will eventually begin to accept it as fact. When something has been accepted as truth by your subconscious mind, it will work overtime to transform the idea into physical reality. You can take advantage of this by programming your mind to think positive thoughts. Use self-motivators or affirmations to persuade your subconscious that you are capable of doing anything you wish. Repeat the self-motivator several times a day until it becomes an automatic reaction to recall a positive phrase whenever you begin to doubt yourself. Replace “I can’t” with “I will!” Napoleon Hill

Topics: Dream, Power, Purpose

Chester GoadIf I could share 500 words to inspire, this is the important wisdom I’d want to pass along to others…

The God of the Universe breathed power into you. You are alive. So live. Because you have received power from the greatest Power you have the ability to overcome, to move forward, to effect change, to make a difference. Do not squander your power. Certainly, joy comes when we extend compassion and service. But sometimes. Sometimes you have to come first. We worry it’s inappropriate, selfish, or even narcissistic to ever consider putting ourselves first. For whatever reason, sometimes we relegate ourselves to the end of the line. Maybe we feel we’re not worthy. Maybe we feel undeserving. Maybe we feel ashamed. But make no mistake, you are worthy, you are deserving, because you matter.

Accept the possibility that in order to live your purpose you may need to put yourself first for a while and that’s okay. It is difficult to show compassion and strength when we refuse to value ourselves or extend compassion within our own lives. God would not have breathed the power of life into you, if you did not have great purpose. When you’re reluctant to leverage your purpose and your power to make a difference in the lives of others, you’re missing out on opportunity after opportunity, after beautiful opportunity. You matter, you are capable, and you have purpose—but are you willing?

Do not let fear or safety lull you into an icy existence devoid of ever experiencing what it feels like to live your dream or to help others accomplish their own. If you’re an architect, build your masterpiece and then help others build. If you’re an artist the canvas awaits the fruit of your imagination. Mould something, sculpt something, paint something, and then extend the brush to those around you. If you’re a speaker, take the platform, share your ideas with the world and then listen as the world speaks back.

Listen, listen, and listen some more. It is never selfish to share your gifts. After all, a gift is not a gift unless you’re giving it away. God gave you permission to dream and to live your purpose when He spoke your name, and breathed the gift of life into you. You matter.

Do not be anxious or live in fear of pursuit of your dream, and do not sentence yourself to a lifetime of regret for never having helped another human achieve something they once thought was an impossible task. Anything is possible, and you have the power to prove it, but are you willing?

When Everything Changes, Change Everything

 

“Set your sights high, the higher the better. Expect the most wonderful things to happen, not in the future but right now. Realize that nothing is too good. Allow absolutely nothing to hamper you or hold you up in any way.” Eileen Caddy 1917-2006, Author

 

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. Eleanor Roosevelt

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 “Life is the sum of all your choices” Albert Camus

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Afraid of Failure..

“If I had to live my life again, I’d make the same mistakes, only sooner.”—Tallulah Bankhead
Afraid of Failure? Read the following steps
Steps to Break Down Failure

Have you ever felt like a failure? I totally have. But I am not alone.

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There is an epidemic of feelings of failure in any country and failure is so definitive. When you think you failed, there is not much wiggle room to be anything other than “a failure.” A horrible way to see yourself! This becomes a belief ingrained and tainting everything else we do and try. Here are four ways to break it down.

A. Lower Your Expectations

Failure is in relation to something. Usually some standard or expectation that was not met: I am not thin enough, pretty enough, smart enough. Having unreasonable expectations is more detrimental on our health than anything else. It brings in judgment, which compounds every other problem we already have.

When we have a feeling which is appropriate to the situation, and then we judge ourselves, then we worry! the problem becomes so much bigger and harder to recover from. Then, we berate ourselves for not recovering quickly with another layer of judgment. The original feeling is nothing compared to the complex mess and layers of our own judgement and fear.

Do not add them. Allow yourself to feel and do not worry, you can handle it. Be gentle and compassionate with yourself, lower those outrageous expectations! Instead of dwelling, do something. Seek a “Mentor”

B. Know there is a point to trying

You-are-the-creator-of-your-own-destPast feelings of failure attempt to take away our point to trying to feel better or accomplish something. We get convinced that we will fail anyway. We assume trying hard will make us more disappointed when we do actually fail, and so we put less effort in in hopes to protect our heart. With less effort, we may actually not achieve our goal and we can say “See? I always fail. Good thing I did not try.”

The point is “Rarely is anything accomplished without trying” And if we try and don’t succeed, our heart actually feels better, not worse. We build confidence knowing that we did our best. We feel empowered because we can respond to things in life. This is giving in to your fears

C. Notice your accomplishment

Simple. See the good in you instead of the bad. Focus on something else beside that one standard you missed. Have confidence in the efforts you did put forth. Notice other things you received from the process, a good example are friends you’ve made along the journey and “ what you have learned” and how it made you grow. Remember all other accomplishments in your life. be positive

D. Remember it is not over

Remember-perspective--inspire-quote_

We sometimes assume we failed too soon. Then we feel devastated and stop trying. If you are still alive, you could not have failed, since it is not over. Yes, your standards and expectation might change, but if you are still kicking, you cannot by definition be a failure. Readjust your expectations and try again ALWAYS – Never Give up!!!

I think I can, I think I can, I think I can……. I can, I can!

Foot note for the winner in you.

Your dreams and desires to win are down to you and no one else… If no one is listening find those that will, live the life you desire with those that have trodden the path before. Then teach those who sit in your wake.

Be the person you wish to be & leave negative in the slow lane.

When you realise you are a winner and find the next gear be ready for what awaits you. Perhaps you are ready and now & looking for the opportunity to work for yourself so you can help those less fortunate, with their own mental attitude, be the teacher & TEACH. See the book available on “Are You Walking Past a Fortune “  Do request this book FREE!  Email: Subject walking past a fortune….

The road is paved with GOLD just open the right door in your mind and take the first step. Gray

Study those who failed and failed again, then “WON” that came before you read the right books: “The Secret & The Power” by Rhonda Byrne: Think & Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, to name but a few..

“The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing.”—Walt Disney

I was never afraid of failure, for I would sooner fail than not be among the best. John Keats Gray Lawrence Choose to be optimistic, it feels better.” – Dalai Lama

Gray Lawrence

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I never see failure as failure, but as the path I will not take in the further journey towards my greatness. Gray Lawrence

We are still masters of our fate. We are still captains of our souls. Winston Churchill

Afraid of Failure..

“If I had to live my life again, I’d make the same mistakes, only sooner.”—Tallulah Bankhead

 

Afraid of Failure? Read the following steps
Steps to Break Down Failure

Have you ever felt like a failure? I totally have. But I am not alone.

The-majority-of-men-meet-with-failur[2]

There is an epidemic of feelings of failure in any country and failure is so definitive. When you think you failed, there is not much wiggle room to be anything other than “a failure.” A horrible way to see yourself! This becomes a belief ingrained and tainting everything else we do and try. Here are four ways to break it down.

A. Lower Your Expectations

Failure is in relation to something. Usually some standard or expectation that was not met: I am not thin enough, pretty enough, smart enough. Having unreasonable expectations is more detrimental on our health than anything else. It brings in judgment, which compounds every other problem we already have.

When we have a feeling which is appropriate to the situation, and then we judge ourselves, then we worry! the problem becomes so much bigger and harder to recover from. Then, we berate ourselves for not recovering quickly with another layer of judgment. The original feeling is nothing compared to the complex mess and layers of our own judgement and fear.

Do not add them. Allow yourself to feel and do not worry, you can handle it. Be gentle and compassionate with yourself, lower those outrageous expectations! Instead of dwelling, do something. Seek a “Mentor”

B. Know there is a point to trying

You-are-the-creator-of-your-own-destPast feelings of failure attempt to take away our point to trying to feel better or accomplish something. We get convinced that we will fail anyway. We assume trying hard will make us more disappointed when we do actually fail, and so we put less effort in in hopes to protect our heart. With less effort, we may actually not achieve our goal and we can say “See? I always fail. Good thing I did not try.”

The point is “Rarely is anything accomplished without trying” And if we try and don’t succeed, our heart actually feels better, not worse. We build confidence knowing that we did our best. We feel empowered because we can respond to things in life. This is giving in to your fears

C. Notice your accomplishment

Simple. See the good in you instead of the bad. Focus on something else beside that one standard you missed. Have confidence in the efforts you did put forth. Notice other things you received from the process, a good example are friends you’ve made along the journey and “ what you have learned” and how it made you grow. Remember all other accomplishments in your life. be positive

D. Remember it is not over

Remember-perspective--inspire-quote_

We sometimes assume we failed too soon. Then we feel devastated and stop trying. If you are still alive, you could not have failed, since it is not over. Yes, your standards and expectation might change, but if you are still kicking, you cannot by definition be a failure. Readjust your expectations and try again ALWAYS – Never Give up!!!

I think I can, I think I can, I think I can……. I can, I can!

Foot note for the winner in you.

Your dreams and desires to win are down to you and no one else… If no one is listening find those that will, live the life you desire with those that have trodden the path before. Then teach those who sit in your wake.

Be the person you wish to be & leave negative in the slow lane.

When you realise you are a winner and find the next gear be ready for what awaits you. Perhaps you are ready and now & looking for the opportunity to work for yourself so you can help those less fortunate, with their own mental attitude, be the teacher & TEACH. See the book available on “Are You Walking Past a Fortune “  Do request this book FREE!  Email: Subject walking past a fortune….

The road is paved with GOLD just open the right door in your mind and take the first step. Gray

Study those who failed and failed again, then “WON” that came before you read the right books: “The Secret & The Power” by Rhonda Byrne: Think & Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, to name but a few..

“The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing.”—Walt Disney

I was never afraid of failure, for I would sooner fail than not be among the best. John Keats Gray Lawrence Choose to be optimistic, it feels better." – Dalai Lama

Gray Lawrence

Utility Warehouse Distributor

I never see failure as failure, but as the path I will not take in the further journey towards my greatness. Gray Lawrence

We are still masters of our fate. We are still captains of our souls. Winston Churchill

How to stay Motivated

 

"Set a goal to achieve something that is so big, so exhilarating that it excites you and scares you at the same time. It must be a goal that is so appealing, so much in line with your spiritual core, that you can’t get it out of your mind. If you do not get chills when you set a goal, your not setting big enough goals." Bob Proctor

These Top 10 ways to stay motivated are a must, but can you stick to them?

  1) Plan ahead                                                                                        It stands to reason that you are much more likely to reach your goals if you plan properly.   Preparation is a key to success, so clear your cupboard of tempting treats, re-writing your shopping list, or memorise your activity schedule.  Once you have an agenda, you are much more likely to stick to it.

"Set higher standards for your own performance than anyone around you, and it won’t matter whether you have a tough boss or an easy one. It won’t matter whether the competition is pushing you hard, because you’ll be competing with yourself." Rick Pitino Basketball Coach, Author and Speaker

2) 

Track your  progress                                                         Keep an eye on how well you are doing. If you have completed a week of abstinence, for example, your pride in that accomplishment can help keep you going for another week.  everything from checking money saved.by not buying “goodies” or a regular weigh-in if you are trying to lose weight  can give you the motivation to continue.

Don’t live down to expectations. Go out there and do something remarkable." Wendy Wasserstein

3)                       

Find Inspiration                                                                              The internet is full of inspiring  articles written by people either on the same journey as you are, or who have achieved a similar goal, you just need to find them.  seek out online groups that share your goals and keep reading success stories, as they will keep you on track, if they can do it; You Can!

"People who say that life is not worthwhile are really saying that they themselves have no personal goals which are worthwhile… Get yourself a goal worth working for. Better still, get yourself a project… Always have something ahead of you to ‘look forward to’ – work for and hope for." Maxwell Maltz 1899-1975, Physician and Writer

4)Reward   Yourself                                                                              If you are trying to stop smoking, save the money you would have spent on cigarettes and buy yourself a treat at the end of the month.  you will find the money soon adds up.  If you are dieting allow yourself a cheat meal, that way you can give yourself something to look forward to every week and stop yourself feeling deprived.  If you are taking up a new activity or exercise, get the proper kit, if you look the part you will feel the part.

“Rewards are what you deserve for all the things you have done, will do and are grateful for, no matter what, the same can be said for the more you do for others is an even greater reward.”      Gray Lawrence

 

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"Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start." Nido Qubein

Your Vision of the future, lies from within

 

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