“If I had to live my life again, I’d make the same mistakes, only sooner.”—Tallulah Bankhead
Afraid of Failure? Read the following steps
Steps to Break Down Failure
Have you ever felt like a failure? I totally have. But I am not alone.
There is an epidemic of feelings of failure in any country and failure is so definitive. When you think you failed, there is not much wiggle room to be anything other than “a failure.” A horrible way to see yourself! This becomes a belief ingrained and tainting everything else we do and try. Here are four ways to break it down.
A. Lower Your Expectations
Failure is in relation to something. Usually some standard or expectation that was not met: I am not thin enough, pretty enough, smart enough. Having unreasonable expectations is more detrimental on our health than anything else. It brings in judgment, which compounds every other problem we already have.
When we have a feeling which is appropriate to the situation, and then we judge ourselves, then we worry! the problem becomes so much bigger and harder to recover from. Then, we berate ourselves for not recovering quickly with another layer of judgment. The original feeling is nothing compared to the complex mess and layers of our own judgement and fear.
Do not add them. Allow yourself to feel and do not worry, you can handle it. Be gentle and compassionate with yourself, lower those outrageous expectations! Instead of dwelling, do something. Seek a “Mentor with a Servant’s Heart”
B. Know there is a point to trying
Past feelings of failure attempt to take away our point to trying to feel better or accomplish something. We get convinced that we will fail anyway. We assume trying hard will make us more disappointed when we do actually fail, and so we put less effort in in hopes to protect our heart. With less effort, we may actually not achieve our goal and we can say “See? I always fail. Good thing I did not try.”
The point is “Rarely is anything accomplished without trying” And if we try and don’t succeed, our heart actually feels better, not worse. We build confidence knowing that we did our best. We feel empowered because we can respond to things in life. This is giving in to your fears
C. Notice your accomplishment
Simple. See the good in you instead of the bad. Focus on something else beside that one standard you missed. Have confidence in the efforts you did put forth. Notice other things you received from the process, a good example are friends you’ve made along the journey and “ what you have learned” and how it made you grow. Remember all other accomplishments in your life. be positive
D. Remember it is not over
We sometimes assume we failed too soon. Then we feel devastated and stop trying. If you are still alive, you could not have failed, since it is not over. Yes, your standards and expectation might change, but if you are still kicking, you cannot by definition be a failure. Readjust your expectations and try again ALWAYS - Never Give up!!!
I think I can, I think I can, I think I can……. I can, I can!
Foot note for the winner in you.
Your dreams and desires to win are down to you and no one else… If no one is listening find those that will, live the life you desire with those that have trodden the path before. Then teach those who sit in your wake.
Be the person you wish to be & leave negative in the slow lane.
When you realise you are a winner and find the next gear be ready for what awaits you. Perhaps you are ready and now & looking for the opportunity to work for yourself so you can help those less fortunate, with their own mental attitude, be the teacher & TEACH. See the book available on “Are You Walking Past a Fortune “
The road is paved with GOLD just open the right door in your mind and take the first step. Gray
Study those who failed and failed again, then “WON” that came before you read the right books: “The Secret & The Power” by Rhonda Byrne: Think & Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, to name but a few..
“The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing.”—Walt Disney
The Power is from within, the choice is yours
"Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start." Nido Qubein