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Afraid of failure?

 

“If I had to live my life again, I’d make the same mistakes, only sooner.”—Tallulah Bankhead 

 

Afraid of Failure? Read the following steps

Steps to Break Down Failure

Have you ever felt like a failure? I totally have. But I am not alone.

There is an epidemic of feelings of failure in any country and failure is so definitive. When you think you failed, there is not much wiggle room to be anything other than “a failure.” A horrible way to see yourself! This becomes a belief ingrained and tainting everything else we do and try. Here are four ways to break it down.

A. Lower Your Expectations

Failure is in relation to something. Usually some standard or expectation that was not met: I am not thin enough, pretty enough, smart enough. Having unreasonable expectations is more detrimental on our health than anything else. It brings in judgment, which compounds every other problem we already have.

When we have a feeling which is appropriate to the situation, and then we judge ourselves, then we worry! the problem becomes so much bigger and harder to recover from. Then, we berate ourselves for not recovering quickly with another layer of judgment. The original feeling is nothing compared to the complex mess and layers of our own judgement and fear.

Do not add them. Allow yourself to feel and do not worry, you can handle it. Be gentle and compassionate with yourself, lower those outrageous expectations! Instead of dwelling, do something. Seek a “Mentor with a Servant’s Heart”

 

B. Know there is a point to trying

Past feelings of failure attempt to take away our point to trying to feel better or accomplish something. We get convinced that we will fail anyway. We assume trying hard will make us more disappointed when we do actually fail, and so we put less effort in in hopes to protect our heart. With less effort, we may actually not achieve our goal and we can say “See? I always fail. Good thing I did not try.”

The point is “Rarely is anything accomplished without trying” And if we try and don’t succeed, our heart actually feels better, not worse. We build confidence knowing that we did our best. We feel empowered because we can respond to things in life. This is giving in to your fears

 

C. Notice your accomplishment

Simple. See the good in you instead of the bad. Focus on something else beside that one standard you missed. Have confidence in the efforts you did put forth. Notice other things you received from the process, a good example are  friends you’ve made along the journey and “ what you have  learned”  and how it made you grow. Remember all other accomplishments in your life. be positive

 

D. Remember it is not over

We sometimes assume we failed too soon. Then we feel devastated and stop trying. If you are still alive, you could not have failed, since it is not over. Yes, your standards and expectation might change, but if you are still kicking, you cannot by definition be a failure. Readjust your expectations and try again ALWAYS -  Never Give up!!!

I think I can, I think I can, I think I can……. I can, I can!

 

Foot note for the winner in you.

Your dreams and desires to win are down to you and no one else… If no one is listening find those that will, live the life you desire with those that have trodden the path before.  Then teach those who sit in your wake.

Be the person you wish to be & leave negative in the slow lane.

When you realise you are a winner and find the next gear be ready for what awaits you.  Perhaps you are ready and now & looking for the opportunity to work for yourself  so you can help those less fortunate, with their own mental attitude, be the teacher & TEACH. 

The road is paved with GOLD just open the right door in your mind and take the first step.  Gray

Study those who failed and failed again, then “WON” that came before you read the right books:  “The Secret & The Power” by Rhonda Byrne: Think & Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, to name but a few..

  I was never afraid of failure only the lack of trying  Gray

“The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing.”—Walt Disney

 

The world Owes You Everything and nothing but your goal’s are your own decision Believe in your self – Gray Lawrence

Winning in life is more than just money; it is about winning on the inside and knowing that you have played the game of life with all you had, and then some!   Gray Lawrence 

Develope yourself

Change your mental attitude, and the world around you will change accordingly.
Your world will become what you choose to make it. You can reach great heights of success, or you can settle for a miserable life that is devoid of hope. The choice is yours. When you choose a positive course, you set in motion an unstoppable force that will allow you to have a fulfilling career, the love of your family and friends, good physical and mental health, and all of the other true riches of life. To change your world, you must change it from the inside out. You must begin with yourself. When you choose the course that puts your life on a positive track, you will change your life for the better, and you will also positively influence the people with whom you come in contact.            Napoleon Hill

Develop your core self.
‘ ‘Human beings are the only creatures who do not mature automatically. A baby chick has no choice but to turn into a chicken. But the world is full of people stuck in childhood and adolescence, no matter how old they happen to be. For us, to mature is a decision: Adulthood is an achievement, one that requires—and results in—personal power.
This can takes decades, but it starts with a vision of the "core self." This is the part of you that connects to reality, placing you at the centre of experiences that you personally create. To have a core self is to be the author of your own story; it is the exact opposite of being a victim, who must live a life authored by others.

Powerful thinking creates a powerful energy in your life, but it all starts with a powerful heart “Heart Set” which creates a “Powerful Mind Set”

Align yourself with the flow of evolution, or personal growth.
Once you establish your core self as a goal, your path will unfold and you will evolve. This evolution is wobbly at first; everyone has at least some elements of ignorance and immaturity. But’ ‘thanks to free will, you can help guide your own evolution. The simple fact is that we all desire more and better things for ourselves. If those more and better things are good for our growth, then we are guiding our own positive and powerful evolution. In India they make a distinction between dharma and adharma. Dharma includes whatever naturally upholds life: happiness, truth, duty, virtue, wonder, worship, reverence, appreciation, nonviolence, love, self-respect. On the other hand, adharma consists of choices that do not support life naturally: anger, violence, fear, control, dogmatism, scepticism, unvirtuous acts, prejudice, addiction, intolerance, and unconsciousness in general.
For our purposes, dharma is the ultimate power. It easily supports you, a single individual. What is asked of you is that you honestly look at your everyday life and the choices you are making. Ask yourself how to increase the dharmic
choices and decrease the adharmic ones.

You learn in life that the only person you can really correct and change is yourself.   You never achieve real success unless you like what you are doing.    Your own mind is a sacred enclosure into which nothing harmful can enter except by your permission.  Stan Billue

 

Trust in a power that transcends everyday reality.
Nothing described so far will come true without a higher reality. For the moment, let’s leave aside religion and any reference to God. Fortunately, to have even a speck of consciousness is to be connected to the finite consciousness that supports life, evolution, creativity, and intelligence. None of these things are accidental or a privilege handed out to the lucky few.
To use a metaphor, imagine that you are caught in a net. All nets have holes, so find one, and jump through it. I’ve known wives of abusive husbands who found a hole through, say, learning to paint. For them, it was an escape route, and as they made art, their thinking changed from "I am trapped and can do nothing" to "I must be worth more than I imagined, because look at this beautiful thing I created." Escape routes exist along the qualities hidden in consciousness. They include:
Creativity. Go beyond by discovery and exploration. This leads to insight. Your inner vision clears. You start to see glimmers of light through the fog of your situation. Something more beautiful starts to attract you, and you want to go toward it.
Intelligence. Let your mind lead the way. You start having newer, more exciting thoughts than the old habitual ones you’ve been following. Beliefs are challenged. New points of view attract you, so you move toward them. You’ll want to expand your mind in place of living behind defences and boundaries.
Love and compassion. Discover that you can forgive yourself and others. Fantasies of hurt and revenge are replaced with emotional softening. You see that there is untapped love around you, so you move toward it. The fact that you desire to love and be loved starts to motivate you, without excuses about being unworthy.
Quantum leaps. Notice—and learn—when you have an epiphany, a moment of dramatic awakening. These are the great "aha" experiences that peel away an entire layer of reality. We say that the heavens open, but really it’s a new level of consciousness, one that brings more light.
Devotion. Understand that life is full of awe and wonder. From this you see a reason to revere your own existence. You have been placed in a world where you can be devoted to something, and your worship gives you a sense of worth.
These escape routes all lead back to the person you really are, and that person know that what really counts extends far beyond the individual: the glory of creation, the beauty of nature, the heart qualities of love and compassion, the mental power to discover new things, and those unexpected epiphanies that bring the presence of God—these universal aspects are your true source of power. They are you, and you are all of them.

Our highest power is love, and it is one thing each of us has an unlimited amount of. How much love do you give to others in one day? Each day we have an opportunity to set out with this great, unlimited power in our possession, and pour it over every person and circumstance. Love is appreciating, complimenting, feeling gratitude, and speaking good words to others We have so much love to give, and the more that we give, the more we receive. May the joy be with you, The Secret Rhonda Byrne

 

The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire; the size of your dream; and how you handle disappointment along the way. Robert Kiyosaki

Gray Lawrence  Utility Warehouse Distributor 

“Seek opportunities and experiences that invigorate you, those that are challenging, and that demand you show up as your very best self.” – David Howitt

The Spirit of Christmas

To everyone around the World

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“Once you realize that you are operating in a larger universe in which everything is buzzing with its own unique energy, you will understand why it is so important to control your thoughts and emotions Frank Mangano

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Today’s Brilliance™

The Spirit of Christmas

Christmas comes but once a year….

clip_image001If I could share 500 words of wisdom to summarize what I’ve learned so far in life, these are the important things I’d want to pass along to others…

On this beautiful Christmas morning, I wish you peace and love.

May you be blessed with a heart that understands abundance and always have plenty to share with others.

May you be kind to others and experience kindness in return.

May you know that you are not only good enough, but already perfect, just the way you are. May you share compassion, knowing that everyone else is also doing the best they can.

May you trust in the infinite wisdom that is there for all of us, and realize that you are a part of something so much greater than yourself.

When challenges appear, may you remember that you are a human being who can only see a part of the puzzle, and keep the faith that everything will work out in the end. If it hasn’t worked out yet, it’s not the end yet.

May you know deep inside that you are never alone, nor can you ever be alone, for you are an integral thread in this amazing tapestry of life.

May you remember that you are an infinite being with unlimited potential. Find your gift and share it with the world. Focus on what you can do and let go of what you can’t. Celebrate the best part of who you are.

May your heart be warmed by the love of friends and family. May you remember to tell others how much they mean to you. Go hug someone near you and then do it again with someone else. Treasure the love and pass it on.

May you create memories of this season not on how much you spend, but rather on how much you give of yourself to one another.

May you look at the world with childlike innocence and expect the best of others and from yourself.

May you be happy with a heart that overflows with joy and laughter.

Above all, may you remember that love is all that matters. Regardless of your religion, our race, creed, gender, sexual orientation, colour or political affiliation, nothing else is as important as the love we share with one another. We are all connected, we are all one. So, be nice. Be kind. Love one another, for that is the simple message of Christmas.

Share the Spirit of Christmas today, capture the energy of this incredible season, tuck it into your heart and take it with you into the upcoming year. May your life overflow with blessing.

On this beautiful Christmas Day, “I wish you love, and everything you’ve ever dreamed of, and I wish you peace, and everything you’ve ever needed, right here in your hands I pray, this Christmas Day”.

Gray Lawrence

Utility Warehouse Distributor

To achieve great things requires no great effort, just a modest effort repeated again and again.

Start right now by improving one little corner and you’re on your way to change the world.

Be Inspired by Mary O’Malley

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“Every moment of your life is infinitely creative and the Universe is endlessly bountiful, Just pit forth a clear enough request, and everything your heart desires must come to you” – Shakti Gawain

 

How to Embrace the Holy Mess Of Your Life

Mary O'MalleyI have had a plaque on my fireplace for a long time by artist Kelly Rae Roberts which says, “Kindness Changes Everything”. A friend of mine recently sent me another one of Kelly Rae’s inspirational quotes, “Embrace the imperfections, the chaos, the HOLY MESS of your BEAUTIFUL life”.  I love both of these sayings because they are all about the heart. While most people try to get rid of the uncomfortable stuff in their lives, true healing is about allowing our imperfections and chaos to float into our hearts. How do we do this? By embracing it all with kindness.

Holy Mess Kelly Rae RobertsCarl Jung, the famous Swiss psychiatrist and psychotherapist, was one of the first people who said a human being is a community. Within this community, we have parts that we like, and then we have the parts we don’t like. The parts we don’t like I call spells, such as fear, despair, anger, sadness, and grief. And in our community, the unlikable parts are at war with one another or we are at war with them. We try to hold onto the parts we think are okay, and push away the parts we don’t like. And this is true suffering. Let’s say you don’t like a body part, such as your thumb.  Maybe you don’t like the size or shape of your thumb. Would cutting it off make you happier? Of course not, and you certainly would be able to do a lot less. This is what we do in life. We cut this out and that out, trying to get to a better state, but it is an endless game.

True healing is about turning toward and making space for whatever is showing up in our lives. It is about befriending, keeping company with, allowing, honouring, respecting, acknowledging, and developing a relationship with all of these parts we don’t like or what Kelly Rae calls “the holy mess.” It is about noticing what is here right now when the mind goes into its struggle mode and tightens our bodies.

When this happens to me, I touch it with my heart by first asking, “Okay, what is it that you don’t want to explore in this moment?” and then I say to the scared one inside of me, “Oh this is what life is offering. This is what is passing through right now. No need to push it away, you belong here.”

I have a new mantra that helps me bring kindness into my heart, “Striving…Arriving.” I say “Striving” on the in-breath and then on a long, slow, out-breath, I say “Arriving.” Striving is the mind that is busy liking, disliking, and turning life into a problem. It has spent its whole life trying to manage this and that, and it is always fixing, changing, or rearranging everything it doesn’t like. I don’t judge this busy mind or try to make it bad or wrong for striving because this is what it learned to do when it was very young. We have given our minds a task that it was never meant to do, and that is, being in charge of life. But, the mind is not in charge. Life is in charge of Life and what it is offering is trustable (but not always likable). Most people don’t truly experience Life because they are too busy trying to control it.

The second part of the mantra, “Arriving,” is about being open to life. Arriving is what we long for. How do we arrive? By getting to know the fear-based mind and by showing it kindness and compassion. My practice of “Arriving” is about acknowledging the waves of sadness, grief, pain and anger that are passing through. I do this by talking to my scared one, or rubbing my heart, or just acknowledging that my scared one is here by saying, “I see you.” By giving her the attention and love she so desperately needs, I have fallen more in love with this crazy, neurotic, easily-overwhelmed, separate mess of a self than I ever have been.  When I touch her with my heart, she just lets go and relaxes back into life.

What would happen if, when your mind gets activated and your body is tight, you really knew that it is safe to let go into the process?  The next time you feel this way, make some time to become quiet and start to get to know your sacred mess, your beautiful mess, your holy mess. Do it all with kindness. Then, let go and let life. Notice how you feel afterward.

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Mary O’Malley

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Mary O’Malley is an author and counselor in Kirkland, Washington. In the early 1970’s, a powerful awakening set Mary on the path to changing her whole relationship with the challenges of life, freeing herself from a lifelong struggle with darkness. Since that time, Mary has taught extensively throughout the United States, Canada and Denmark. She is an inspirational speaker who leads retreats that transform people’s lives, provides individual counseling, and offers ongoing groups where people can come together to experience the miracle of Awakening. Her strengths lie in her ability to be fully present in the moment, integrating information, technique and insight with simplicity and compassion. Mary is committed to helping people heal their inner wars, so they can become a part of the healing of our planet. She does so by drawing on her own life experience to facilitate healing and awakening in a compassionate and powerful way. Mary’s books, which are endorsed by Eckhart Tolle and Neale Donald Walsch, include: What’s In the Way IS the Way: Moving Beyond Your Struggle into the Joy of Being Fully Alive; The Gift of Our Compulsions: A Revolutionary Approach to Self-Acceptance and Healing; Belonging to Life: The Journey of Awakening; and The Magical Forest of Aliveness: A Tale of Awakening.

For more information, please visit maryomalley.com.

 

It is important to remember that it is your thoughts and feelings together that create with the law of attraction, and you cannot separate them. Also remember that it’s your feelings that are summing up your overall frequency and telling you what you are creating in this moment. So how are you feeling right now? Could you feel better? Well then, do what it takes right now to feel better. Rhonda Byrne The Secret  & the Power

 

Your Vision of the future, lies from within

Gray Lawrence
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The Greatest leaders of the world were men and women of quick decision -Napoleon Hill

Dealing with Discouragement

“Recognize that you have the ability to change your perception, thus your health. The mind-body connection exists in all of us.”                      – Cheryln Cluse-Howard

 

Dealing with discouragement is never easy.

Though we all hope for success at every turn of life, sometimes life decides to deal us a poor hand, and in those moments we are forced to maintain our

composure and find any possible way to remain optimistic about the future.

Develope your own compass and trust it                                                                      If you’re familiar with the subject of positive psychology you’ve likely been introduced to the topic of daily positive affirmations, and you might also be aware that those daily positive affirmations can be used to quiet pain and discomfort, heal the mind and comfort the soul in times of difficulty.

Though we can’t determine when or how difficulties will come our way, we can open our minds to the simple messages of truth and love otherwise known as  positive affirmations.
If you’ve never become acquainted with positive affirmations in the past, here is your chance.
Today we’re counting down the seven daily positive affirmations that can remedy any discouraging situation.

1: I Don’t Need to Pity Myself, Because I’m a Gift to the World

Perhaps the most important thing we can give each other is our attentionIt’s easy to feel self-pity when you’re lacking social support or the presence of others, but in the end you have to tell yourself that you’re too important to feel sorry for yourself.

If you feel alone and sad, remember that you are a gift to all those around you, and without you, this world would not be the same. Tell yourself those words over and over again until you can honestly admit that you truly are a gift.

2: I Know How to Make the Right Choices for Me

Life has its pains and evils its bitter disapppointmentsMaking life decisions (especially important decisions), never seems quite as easy as it should be.

Negative thinking comes naturally if you’re afraid of making an incorrect decision because of past mistakes, or because you’re so concerned about the future that you can’t imagine messing it up with one small alteration to your current path. Either way, you need to learn to trust yourself with your own life. Understand that you are the captain of your life, and as long as you can trust you, everything will ALWAYS work out. No exceptions.

3: I Inhale Calmness and Exhale Anxiety

You may not control all the events that happen to you but you can decide not to be reduced by themThings happen everyday that cause us fear or anxiety, but there is a way to handle those situations.

Each time you feel like you’re incapable of making it through a difficult moment in your life, try telling yourself that each time you breathe in you’re inhaling feelings of calmness, and each time you exhale you’re breathing out the fear and anxiety. It may take some getting used to, but in time you’ll be able to master your own fear.

4: I Choose to Replace Anger With Forgiveness and Compassion

By refusing to allow stress into your life you can keep your imune system strongAnger can cause us unnecessary stress and actually damage the health of our bodies and minds over time. Some individuals are more prone to anger than others, but everyone can make the choice to replace anger with forgiveness and compassion, including you and I.

Next time you feel your body fill with anger, tell yourself that you choose to not be angry at the mistakes of others, your own poor choices, or the natural events of life. Instead choose to forgive others for their mistakes, forgive yourself for your own mistakes, and fill your heart and soul with love and compassion.

5: I Choose Hope and Optimism Over Pessimism

Stay strong through the storms lof lifeWhen negative thoughts enter your mind, it’s easy to become a slave to those thoughts and give up hope of a better day. But even though it’s difficult, it’s still possible with a little extra effort.

The next time you sense a negative thought entering your mind, remind yourself that you’ve committed to choose hope and optimism. Tell yourself that even though today may not be as rewarding as you’d hoped it to be, you’ll garner lessons from it and be better prepared to enjoy the positive blessings of tomorrow.

6: I Choose to See Friends and Loved Ones as a Gift

love because it is the only true adventureYour loved ones are in your life for a reason. Sometimes we just need a shoulder to cry on, or we need someone to tell us that we’re on the right track. You shouldn’t base all your self-confidence on what others believe you to be, but if you can admit that your loved ones are a gift, you won’t feel so alone when problems come your way.

7: I’ve Dealt With Hardship, and Because of That I’m a Stronger Person

No one is exempt from life trials, but the people who deal with them best are the ones who garner strength from previous struggles.

Decisions prove to be hardest to make especial;y when it is a choiceIf you admit defeat whenever a difficult situation arises, you’ll be one step closer to letting negative thoughts and feelings invade your life. If on the other hand you choose to recognize your hardships and use that as a foundation for future hope and success, you’ll be better off for it.

Whenever a difficult trial comes, use this list of positive affirmations to remind yourself that you are strong Affirm Your Abundance.

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Success comes to those who become success-conscious. Failure comes to those who indifferently allow themselves to become failure-conscious.                   – Napoleon Hill

 

Gray Lawrence

The world Owes You Everything and nothing – Gray

 

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