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Introducing Getting Back to Happy: A Road map to a Happier, Simpler Life

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“You may avoid suffering and sorrow if you don’t risk, but you simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow, love, live. The greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing. The person, who risks nothing, does nothing and has nothing. Only a person who risks is free.” Bob Proctor

 

Marc & Angela Hack


Getting Back to Happy is the go-to course for anyone serious about taking action to reclaim their happiness and realize their potential. It will help you wake up every day and live with a full sense of purpose, even if you’ve tried everything else. If you’ve been wanting a way to work with Marc and me, this is it: It’s the result of a decade of study and one-on-one coaching with thousands of people just like you from all over the world. It’s a proven system that works time and time again to bust people out of long ruts and get them back on track to living a life they are excited about.

From proven ways to foster stronger relationships to actions engineered to help you let go of painful emotions, the learning modules in this course will inspire and equip you to become your best self.

But now you’re wondering what your life will look like after you complete the course, right? That’s the whole idea here—what YOU will come away with and how your life will change.

To start, here’s what some of our current Getting Back to Happy members told us:

  • “I haven’t felt this comfortable in my own skin since I was a kid, and I’m a better wife, mom, and friend because of it.”
  • “I love no longer being a slave to alcohol and food. Now with a clear mind I’m making real progress on a business idea I’ve had for years.”
  • “Not only can I clearly see where I want to go now, I know how to get there…and I’m getting there.”
  • “Your advice saved my marriage. I was an insecure, jealous fool and it almost tore us apart. Thank you.”
  • “I’ve made some real friends in the Getting Back to Happy community, and that’s incredible, because I think it’s crucial to have likeminded, supportive people in our lives.”
  • “For the first time in five years, I feel like ME.”

As you can tell, what each person gets out of Getting Back to Happy is unique and personal. The same will be true for you. But one thing is certain…

You will forever see your life in two parts: Before Getting Back to Happy, and After.


Other programs? Those old self-improvement books you’ve read? They didn’t work for you because they were filled with ideas that weren’t backed by time-tested action steps and a supportive community to push you forward when the going gets tough. So they were ultimately a step back. Back to hoping and dreaming and wishing for a fix. Back to the drawing board of “if only I could_____” and “maybe someday when_____.”

Does that sound about right? And maybe that has left you feeling doubtful, like this probably won’t work either. Like, “It might work for other people, but not me.”

We know how you feel. We were let down by other training programs and and self-improvement resources too. Time and time again, we put our hopes and money and energy into expensive courses, books, audio programs, and even live events that didn’t work out. Some provided decent insight, but all of those insights came with the assumption that we could somehow put them into action ourselves… rather than providing the tools, action steps, and support to actually do it.

This time is different, because Getting Back to Happy is different. It’s whole purpose is to rewire your brain so you feel the strength that’s already within you, and then, with a supportive community behind you, you’re able to take precise, life-changing action.

Getting Back to Happy will help you realize a world of possibilities. With the guidance and encouragement this course provides, you will:

  • Gain the clarity needed to understand life’s toughest situations along with the vision of how to get through them with confidence.
  • Escape the faulty logic and myths that hold you hostage from advancing on your goals with the energy and resolve that already lives inside you.
  • Simplify your everyday life, decluttering it of all the physical, emotional, and psychological baggage that holds you back and drags you down.
  • Become more well-rounded in your ability to diagnose your emotions and how to master them to make the most of any moment, anytime and anywhere.
  • Develop the instincts and skills to positively develop your most important relationships in a direction that fosters mutual respect, genuine affection, and lifelong trust.
  • Elevate your sense of purpose at home, at work, and in your community as your true self shines with greater self-worth, gratitude, and positivity.

 

“Anytime you blame others and complain about your situation, you are choosing to be a victim. By playing the victim role you are putting yourself in an ineffective and weak position. It is virtually impossible to allow incredible miracles to enter your life when you choose to remain in this negative mental state.” Sonia Ricotti Author and Speaker

 

The world Owes You Everything and nothing but your goal’s are your own decision Believe in your self – Gray Lawrence

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Winning in life is more than just money; it is about winning on the inside and knowing that you have played the game of life with all you had, and then some!

Goal Setting Values

This passage is from a renown leader in Network Marketing:  Mr Mike Sherratt

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"Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it." Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

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What is the real value of setting goals?

I believe 100% in the power of setting goals to bring about the results you want to achieve in your life. My beliefs have been reinforced by seeing goals materialise in my clients’ lives, my family’s life as well as in my own life. The beauty of setting goals is that you are never too old or too young to start the process and benefit from the outcome.

Whilst I do use coaching within my own family with caution, I have a couple of stories from my own family which are constant reminders to me of the power of goal setting. My left handed 11 year old, son who had struggled with hand writing speed throughout his schooling, set a goal to "More than double my hand writing speed". With the goal very firmly in mind, he automatically became motivated to take a "d-i-y" hand writing programme. He worked on the programme himself with little in the way of reminders from me. His handwriting speed accelerated, and the goal was achieved.

For 67 years, or as long as she could use a crayon, my son’s grandmother, my mother enjoyed art as a hobby. She had reached a point where she wasn’t getting very much from her art. I took her through a goal setting session around her art and she established what she wanted to do: Become an Become an Artist of Excellence. She herself realised she was not spending enough time on her art, and became highly motivated and highly focused. At the age of 68, she applied and was accepted to do a BA Hons Degree Course, and has since won prizes for her art. In both cases, it was literally the setting of their own goals which led to these outcomes.

Man climbing up hill of goals 1, 2.Goals can be used in the moment to dramatically change the outcome. Today I was playing a one set tennis match. I wasn’t playing well, and found myself down 5-2 and 40 love down. Unexpectedly I became inspired by the idea of winning from such a place. "Winning from 5-2, and 40 love down" became the goal of the moment, which really excited me. I shared my goal with my opponent. My game changed beyond recognition.. I became very focused, and determined whilst at the same time very relaxed. I started to enjoy the match. Instead of loosing many games to love, I was winning games to love. I finally went on to win 7-6.

Jon Covey tells his readers to "start with the end in mind" – and when we set a goal we are doing just that.

What is the purpose of setting goals?

So many people go through their lives like rudder-less ships – without clear direction, and are literally subject to storms and winds in the sea of life. Lack of direction can often lead to feelings of stress and anxiety, poor concentration levels, lack of confidence, and living life from a place of being reactive rather than proactive. Not only that, but people without goals often have little determination, patience or tenacity.

When you set and achieve a goal, you have an opportunity to pat yourself on the back. Even if you don’t achieve exactly what you set out to do, there are likely to be numerous achievements and learning’s along the way that you can acknowledge yourself for. All this helps build self esteem.

For those who are serious about sport, who are running a business or have a senior role within a company, setting goals is an essential ingredient to success. In spite of this not everyone does it. It may take a conversation with a coach, or business advisor to get them thinking along these lines.

Setting goals is not just for sport or work, everyone can benefit from a well-worded goal. Whether you seek a new partner, a better relationship with your existing one, a new job, a new house, more energy, more abundance, improved health, a stress-free life, or something else, the right goal for you, can make all the difference.

How do you set goals? 
Setting goals is a very easy process to do at its simplest level. I spend quite some time designing personalized goals with my clients. I find that it is most effective for people to focus on the top areas of their lives – perhaps their business (if that is appropriate) as well as one or two other areas. Choosing the top areas is an important part of the process. I find clients are most motivated if they are working on the areas of their lives which are going to make the greatest difference to them. It is important to bear in mind too, that what may be important today, but not be so key in a few months time. If you find yourself neglecting an area that you have designated top, one reason may be that it is not now so important. If you find this happening, a great tip is to check in with yourself by asking your self how important it is to have this thing. Answer with a score out of 10 – where 10 is very important and 0 is not important.

There is a balance to be achieved between working on all areas that need attention – and just working on one area. Focusing on multiple areas can be distracting leading to little being achieved. Focusing on one area alone, also has its downsides. Not only can it impact negatively on your work/life balance, but an over-focus can lead to what I call "attachment to the outcome".

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts." ~ Winston Churchill

You may have experienced a situation where you wanted something so much that it became crucial that you had that "thing" in your life. It could be the promotion, the new job, the new house, or the new partner. When you find yourself attached to a particular result, you may find that it often gets in the way of your ideal result coming about. One way of "letting go" of your attachment is to spread your focus by having one or two other key goals.

Once you have your top two or three areas, the next step is to set a goal that is going to really inspire you in each of these areas. Defining an inspiring goal is a challenging exercise to do alone. A coach who is experienced in working with clients to define really inspiring goals can really help with this process. One of my clients, a Managing Director of a Design Agency, wanted to work on his business. He wanted to realize its potential, become more financially successful, move forward, and be busy. This led to a goal which was really inspiring for him "My business buzzes to the tune of £50K profit per month". This was particularly challenging goal because the business had made a loss for over 9 months. Five months into the coaching and the business is on an upward trend – last month profits were just under £50K – and we still have a month to go with the coaching.

A goal that is hugely inspiring for a client has an energy of its own. I equate it to what happens when a surfer rides a powerful wave. Once on the big wave, all a surfer needs to do is focus and balance and he will be carried to the shore – without the need to do much more. (Of course, if he wants to reach the road from the shore, he will need to take some action).

For a goal to come true:

You must write it down, make it specific and give it a dead line; you must look at it every day; you must understand and pay the price; you must have a plan to start with… Gray Lawrence

One of my clients is a singer. Her long term goal is "My first record deal published". Whilst it is hugely inspiring for her, she wanted a goal for the short term. In her case it is to "Perform at least 5 concerts with my own material". At the time she set this goal, she hadn’t performed any concerts with her own material. Between the time she set this goal and our next meeting, two weeks later, she left the country to be with her sister, who had just had a baby. She wasn’t putting any time into getting her concerts. Yet in the meantime, the goal was working for her. "Out of the blue" she received two invitations to perform concerts with her own material.

Sometimes I work with clients who have a gap in a certain area of their lives, but are resistant to setting a goal in that area. Often they are in the place where they don’t want to take action on something, in case they don’t get what they want. This can be in situations where they have tried many things without success. I have encouraged them to set a goal, with the explicit instruction that they take no action.

One of my clients had tendonitis for many years which was impacting on her ability to play and coach tennis. She was resistant to setting a goal around healing her tendonitis – she had tried many things and didn’t want to do more. I encourage her to set a goal and requested that she take no action. Some months into our coaching relationship, she chose to use some new processes, including visualisation. Her tendonitis healed and she went on to launch a tennis initiative for under privileged children: Taking them off the streets and coaching them in tennis.

What makes a powerful goal?

Like making a cake, there are several ingredients. With a cake, I would say flour is most essential, and with goal setting, it is inspiration that, for me, is most essential. I take great trouble with my clients to ensure that together we define a goal that scores top marks for inspiration. A goal to loose weight became "Look fabulous in my black PVC catsuit" for a female client and "Lean, mean, well oiled machine" for a male client.

Given that we are working in a coaching alliance, it is when I am as inspired by a goal as my client is, that the magic really starts to fly.

For the second most important ingredient, I rate succinctness. A really powerful goal can also double up as a mantra. It is easy to repeat as often as possible and it is easy to remember. Finding a new job can become "Love what I do" and recovering from a difficult patch can become "Sparky, witty Jonny is back"!.

I also rate challenging as an important ingredient- alongside inspiration. Getting the level of challenge right is key to the success of the goal. Some clients are truly inspired by challenge – particular if challenge is amongst their core values. Whereas for others, too much challenge can be counterproductive. A goal that is too challenging can defer a client from taking action. If a client is determined to stay in the "this will never happen place" then some adjustments are needed: either to their perspective or to the goal. I come from the place where everything thing is possible – and encourage my clients to move into that place. Technology has shown us that things that weren’t possible in the past are now today, and most people have had experiences where they weren’t initially able to do something, have thought that they never would and have since learnt.

Life Power Tip What small step, toward that large goal, can you take today? Ninety per cent of any task is starting it. Ten minutes on a task begun soon turns into two hours on that same task. “The man who removes a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.” -Chinese proverb

A challenging goal doesn’t necessarily make it difficult to achieve. An example from my own life. I am naturally someone with an extremely busy mind. In the past, left to its own devices, my mind would mull over both concerns and projects for hours on end – during the day and often at night too. It was draining. I wanted to be able to turn my mind off – whilst still retaining my innate ability to be creative. This led to a goal which was hugely inspiring for me "Be the Zen Master of my on/off switch". The goal started to take on an energy of its own. Coincidentally, I signed up for a spiritual training – which encouraged meditation daily. Meditation was something I had practiced for a number of years in the past. I had stopped simply because I wasn’t at that time getting results with it.

This time things were different. Almost from the moment I started to meditate again, I found that my mind became quiet. I was the "Zen master of my on/off switch". A hugely challenging goal was achieved with the minimum of effort.

Classical goal setting will encourage you to go for something realistic within a specific time frame. If making a goal realistic means that some of the inspiration is lost – then go for the inspiration is what I say. I recently started with a client at the stage of transition from full time employment to running his own business. The goal that truly inspires him is "Respected in my outstanding £5 million business". From a standing start, this goal could be considered to be unrealistic within the 6 months of our initial contract. So he has a signpost goal around his business plan being written and approved by the bank. This gives him a short term focus, whilst the longer term goal is the one that truly excites, inspires and motivates him.

In most cases, it makes sense to frame goals in the positive. That said, there are times when a goal which appears to be expressed in the negative, is more motivating to a client than the other way round. I have had a number of clients who came to me with health challenges. One had pain from a hernia and had used drugs to control the symptoms for 7 years. Prior to our setting a goal, she found that no drugs meant intolerable pain levels. She could have set a positive goal such as "100% healthy" but instead chose "Pain and Drug Free" for her goal. These were the words that did it for her. Within one session, she had given up her drugs this time without pain – and has maintained her drug and pain free state ever since.

Goals allow you to change the direction in your favourClassical goal setting will encourage you to go for goals that are measurable. I would 100% agree with that. Not only is a measure motivational, but both yourself and your coach will know how close or how far you are from achieving the goal, at any point in time. With business and sports goals, it is fairly easy to incorporate a measure. A desire to grow and sustain a business became "My sustainable £30K per month Business Building Business" for one of my clients.

Which brings me to what happens if you don’t achieve the goal that you originally set. This may be because you changed your mind. What you set out to achieve initially, no longer holds the same interest for you. For the more spiritually minded, it can be useful to include a caveat – to your goal setting, particularly when you find yourself hugely attached to the outcome. This can take the form of a simple sentence which can be added to a goal e.g. "Achieve my goal….or whatever the grand design has in store for me".

Often, it is only a matter of time until the goal you set becomes yours. There is likely to be many learning and achievements on your path from the moment you set your goals. I recommend that you keep a note of your learning’s and achievements- since, in my experience, human beings are particularly good at forgetting, as well as dismissing their achievements. However valuable goals setting is, and whatever the outcome, I find it empowering to remember that "Life is a journey, not a destination". (Who was it that said that?!)

Go and SET YOUR GOALS NOW

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Follow Your Dream

Follow your dream Where ever it leads Don’t be distracted by

Less worthy deeds Shelter it nourish it, Help it to grow,

Let your heart hold it Down deep where dreams go

Follow your dream, Pursue it with haste; Life is too precious,

Too fleeting to waste Be faithful, be loyal, Then all your life through,

The dreams that you follow Will keep coming true.

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The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. Eleanor Roosevelt

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"Life is the sum of all your choices" Albert Camus

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Life is the sum of all our choices- Albert Camus

Coaching is becoming more popular than ever, simply because it works. Just take a look at the achievements that the Winter Olympic athletes attained and you’ll clearly see what I mean. And this is no different with Life Coaching. Think about the times when you had to solve a problem all by yourself versus a time when you got the help and guidance of a friend or co-worker… which scenario was easier? In fact, your friend and/or co-worker acted as a coach even without knowing it.

Team structureHowever, even when you have a Life Coach guiding you through the process, there is something you can do to make your experience 100% infallible. You must commit yourself to adopt certain traits that will aid in propelling you towards your destination more efficiently. By this I mean that since your Life Coach cannot be whispering in your ear 24/7, or patting you on the shoulder every moment throughout the day, you must learn to self-coach yourself.

Self-coaching is related to positive self-talk, but it’s much more than that. Follow these steps to self-coach yourself to realize your goals faster and easier… 

A Positive Mental Attitude is paramount if you are willing to succeed

A. Determine your purpose – You must not only know what you want to accomplish but WHY. This surely seems obvious, but for some reason the WHY keeps on getting forgotten or dismissed altogether. Knowing what you want and why you want it is the primary starting point for achieving the results you want, for it you don’t know where you are going or what your motivation is, you will never get ‘there’.

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B. Analyse plan on glassWrite your action plan – Don’t rely on your memory alone. Self-coaching involves writing the steps to reach your goal. Jotting down every step is powerful because it serves you as a map. Once you have it, proceed to give yourself commands that will prompt you to act. Keep track of your written goals. Modify them if they are not working for you. Nothing has been written in stone, so use them as guideposts and correct the aim if needed. One step at a time you will get to your destination.

C. Be the tye of person you wan't to meetAuto-suggestion – Self-Coaching incorporates positive self-talk. First, you must know and feel that you are capable of accomplishing your goal. Then, tell yourself you can do it and give yourself the reasons as to why this is so. Creating positive affirmations is helpful too. Craft and memorize a handful of positive affirmations that you can repeat as needed to feed your mind with positive thoughts every time you need a lift.

D. Self-advice – We have all ‘heard’ that critical voice in our head when we make mistakes… why not use this voice for self-advice? If you are between two or more decisions, ‘ask’ your inner voice for advice. Treat yourself ‘as if’ you were talking and listening to a friend that has the best in mind for you. Take a nature walk or meditate. Then ask, be silent, listen… An excellent time to do the ‘asking’ is right before you fall asleep. Let your subconscious mind search for the right answer and whisper it into your ear as you wake up.

Faith is a combination of thoughts and actions.
When you apply your faith in yourself, your faith in your fellow man, and your faith in God, the result is a positive course of action that when persistently followed will almost always lead to success. When you believe in your ideas and in your abilities, and you trust in the Infinite Intelligence of the universe, you know that your thoughts and deeds will ultimately lead to a successful conclusion. You cannot fail. – Napoleon Hill

E. Self-encouragement – When the going gets tough, take some time off to remember the times in your life when things seemed close to impossible and somehow you were able to overcome the obstacles. Remember what you did and how good you felt. Self-coaching encompasses recognition. Allow yourself to live the experience all over again. Use that positive feeling as a springboard to encourage yourself, as you have proven in the past that you can accomplish difficult tasks. Remember your "why" and think of new reasons that can support your determination and resolve.

F.Positive  affirmation writting block Adopt a positive attitude – This may sound like a ‘cliché’ but I can’t tell you how important this is to change your state at any given moment. You can feel positive any time you choose to by focusing on the good you already have in your life. Regardless of your circumstances, you do have many things to feel grateful for and thus, to encourage a positive attitude. The fact that you are reading this should be one reason to make you feel positive for you are seeking new ways to improve your life.

G. Get self-inspired – Self-Coaching involves finding motivating stories that serve you as inspiration. Read about people that have accomplished major goals related to what you want to achieve. They become your role models. Use their stories to inspire you to reach new heights.

H. Be relentless – One famous phrase says that "Success is a journey not a destination"… be persistent and don’t forget to enjoy the process. After all, you are moving towards your goal, and that is what matters.

I. Be patient – Anything worthwhile takes time to come into fruition. Just keep on keeping and believe in the unseen… patience is the mother of all virtues.

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Life Coaching is a wonderful option to support and guide you towards achievement of your goals, but when you add Self-Coaching to the mix, you will experience faster and better results while you learn a helpful skill that will last a lifetime.

"Change is not a bolt of lightning that arrives with a zap. It is a bridge built brick by brick, every day, with sweat and humility and slips. It is hard work, and slow work, but it can be thrilling to watch it take shape." —  Sarah Hepola

Gray Lawrence

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Life is The Sum of All Our Choices – Albert Camus

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