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How to inspire change BY KARIN DAMES

5 Ways to Inspire Change - People Development Network

Karin Dames

Transformation coach at Pure Growth

Karin DamesWith nearly 20 years experience in the software development industry, Karin moved into a coaching role. She specializes in helping teams get unstuck and creating high-performance teams while actively participating in projects. She is passionate about creating highly productive, happy workplaces and learning organizations where each person thrives.

 

 

5 WAYS TO INSPIRE CHANGE

Have you ever been so frustrated with your work environment that you want to run away, never to come back again?  Have you ever felt desperately hopeless, not knowing how to motivate your people or make your manager listen to you?  Or have you ever felt so powerless to change what seems like the size of the Titanic, overwhelmed and outnumbered, in your attempt to improve your working conditions and results?

The sad truth is, from personal experience in any case, that if you answered yes to any of these questions, you’re far from alone.  Rather, I would risk saying that you are in a very average organization. Chances are that the majority of the people and workplaces you interact with will feel very similar.

It’s like a constant tug of war between employer and employee. The employee feels frustrated that the workplace doesn’t change, and the employer feels frustrated that the employees don’t change.

Everyone waits for someone, or something else to change, resulting in no change at all.

We rather choose the road more travelled, the typical keeping-up-with-the-Jones’ syndrome, out of fear of embarking on something new and unknown. We follow the buzzwords and do things the way it’s always been done, rather than exploring unknown territory.  We are so afraid that we might end up in a dead end and have to turn around, even though on the other hand, we might discover a valuable treasure. Our inborn negativity bias makes us choose known over unknown whenever there is the slightest risk of failure.

Yet, the most beautiful view always emerges after the hardest climb.  And did Columbus not explore unknown territory, the world as we know it would be a very different place.  In order to succeed, you need to embrace and inspire change.  Don’t wait for someone else to change. Rather, be the change you want to see in your workplace.

Here are five ways to inspire change in your workplace:

1. It must be a choice

You can’t tell someone to be inspired, so don’t try to tell someone to change.  No change forced on someone will result in sustained change.

To use the brilliant metaphor by Rick Hanson, forced change is like Teflon – nothing sticks – while voluntary change is like Velcro.

For change to stick, it has to be voluntary.

If you believe you d1on’t have the time to get buy-in, think again.  The reason why people fall back into old habits the moment that there is a crisis is because it gives them permission to break the rules, allowing them to do things the way they feel comfortable with and prefer, not the rules imposed on them by management.

Taking the time to allow people to choose the change might postpone the change for a while, yet it will probably result in a successful and sustainable change in the end.  Forcing change on someone because there is no time, will most certainly result in the transformation failing. Not only have you wasted a lot of time, you don’t have any results to show for it.   So do you really not have the time?

2. Demonstrate quick wins

One of the most valuable things I learned as a consultant was to identify and implement quick wins immediately.  As consultants usually come with a much higher price tag than full-time employees, they are expected to show value for money immediately.

When someone is not aware of the need to change, try to find one small, actionable thing that will immediately show an improvement.  Demonstrating quick wins are like giving a sample of a product.  Either they will see the value and want more, or decide that it is not for them.  Yet, even though they decide not to embark on a journey of change immediately, your quick win has planted a seed which will surely germinate and grow into a plant sooner or later.

Listen to the complaints, and address the biggest pain point without asking for any resources or incentives.

To demonstrate what I mean, I recently had the opportunity to spend time at a design and print company. The owner complained about the constant, and often unnecessary, interruptions, keeping her from doing what she’s good at, namely the creative side of things.  On top of that, her workload seemed extremely high yet she didn’t know what to do about it. The helpers she employed, on the other hand, seemed to do nothing for large parts of the day.

After further investigation, I realized her management style was the main cause of both problems – an easy problem to solve. I immediately implemented a simple Scrum board which stopped the interruptions by having two daily stand-ups to discuss any issues, alleviating her biggest pain point. The following week, on a quiet day, I facilitated a training session to allow the under-utilized employees to do the printing.  It left her much happier, able to focus on the creative side while filling up the other employee’s day and learning a much desired new skill which they.

Neither required any additional resources or investments while giving immediate relief for the most painful problem. It also proved valuable enough to her to commit on embarking on coaching program with me.

3. Adapt your style

Having spent a year in Thailand teaching English, I’ve had to find ways to get my lessons across without speaking Thai.  I quickly realized that tried and tested methods that worked in the western culture had no value in the Thai culture. I had to change my teaching style.

What I, for example, considered to be a world famous people, places or things in order to explain concepts, they have never heard of.  To make it worse, their language doesn’t seem to have any similarities to English.  There are no tenses in Thai, no punctuation, no distinction between sentences and paragraphs, and the sounds are totally different, with concepts such as word stress unknown to them.

Determined to succeed, however, I experimented with ways to leverage on learning methods they are familiar with, like remembering and repeating facts and finding fields of interest that would spark their interest by giving them projects where they could choose the object of the discussion.

When the student doesn’t understand, it’s the teacher’s fault.

Suddenly I found that my students not only keen to come to class, but their progress was extraordinary.  I taught the same skills, but I changed my style.

Similarly, with organizational change, you can’t expect the employees to buy into the change program by speaking your language.  You need to adapt your style to speak in a language that the recipient understands.

4. Push through the discomfort

When people stubbornly refuse to see the need for change, it often hurts the people and organization around them.  Either because of fear or ego, they hold onto dysfunctional situations, causing more harm each day they refuse to change. To make a stubborn leader aware of a need to change, direct confrontation might be required, pushing through the discomfort that follows with compassion.

Sometimes you have to open the wound in order to remove the splinter.

To get the other person to see your point, you have to honestly say what you think and feel, even though it might hurt the other person.  When they get angry or want to walk away, keep going.  Push through.  Don’t stop!

Denial is usually followed by anger.  Anger always covers a deep hurt, with people feeling humiliated, embarrassed, vulnerable, exposed.  Treat them with the necessary kindness and compassion, and finally, attempt to find a resolution.

5. Walk away

Sometimes people will not allow you to push through the discomfort, and the best thing you can do in this case is to walk away.

Either both they and you will be relieved from the discomfort that a change agent demands or they will realize the need for change and finally see your value.

You don’t know what you have until you’ve lost it.

Most people don’t realize what they have until it’s gone.  By walking away you give the company the opportunity to see your true worth.  If they really value you, they will ask for you to come back and in so commit to change. If they don’t, you will be much happier in a more nurturing work environment where you feel more valued.

Don’t hold onto a dysfunctional environment. They might not be ready for the change you propose, or they might not think it is needed.  Either, or, change has to be voluntary.

Conclusion

Being an inspiring leader who inspires change in the workplace is not a special gift you are born with, it is a skill like any that you can learn.

Change starts with an awareness that there is a need to change.  It requires courage to explore the unknown and be vulnerable.  Inspiring sustainable change requires voluntary buy-in into the change program and a strong leader who will be able to push through the fears.

Gray Lawrence

We are still masters of our fate. We are still captains of our souls. – Winston Churchill

"Forget mistakes. Forget failure. Forget everything except what you’re going to do now and do it. Today is your lucky day. -Will Durant

19 Signs You are Doing Better than You Think

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The day we die is a misery for those we leave behind
The day we die is a test that we have done right for those we leave behind
The day we die brings sorrow and anger
The day we die brings “why”
The day we die is a test to those we leave and strength must prevail
The day we die is not fair but the pain has gone, the day we died
The day we die is the day we come alive in god’s hands
From a testing father

 

WRITTEN by MARC CHERNOFF

19 Signs You’re Doing Better than You Think

Even in uncertain times, it’s always important to keep things in perspective.

True wealth is the ability to fully experience life.
– Henry David Thoreau

  1. You are alive.
  2. You are able to see the sunrise and the sunset.
  3. You are able to hear birds sing and waves crash.
  4. You can walk outside and feel the breeze through your hair and the sun’s warmth on your skin.
  5. You have tasted the sweetness of chocolate cake.
  6. You didn’t go to sleep hungry last night.
  7. You awoke this morning with a roof over your head.
  8. You had a choice of what clothes to wear.
  9. You haven’t feared for your life today.
  10. You have overcome some considerable obstacles, and you have learned and survived.
  11. You often worry about what you’re going to do with your life – your career, your family, the next step, etc. – which means you have ambition, passion, drive, and the freedom to make your own decisions.
  12. You live in a country that protects your basic human rights and civil liberties.
  13. You are reasonably strong and healthy – if you got sick today, you could recover.
  14. You have a friend or relative who misses you and looks forward to your next visit.
  15. You have someone with whom to reminisce about ‘the good old days.’
  16. You have access to clean drinking water.
  17. You have access to medical care.
  18. You have access to the Internet.
  19. You can read.

The truth is, you’re doing better than a lot of people in this world.  So remember to be grateful for all the things you do have.  (Read The Happiness Project.)

 

The greatest good you can do for another is not just share your riches, but reveal to them their own. Disraeli                                                              Gray Lawrence Independent Distributor  Utility  Warehouse                                                                                        The world Owes You Everything and nothing Gray Lawrence

An MLM Business Is A Great Opportunity For All with a Desire to Succeed

Be aware of the big difference between inspired action and activity. Activity comes from the brain-mind and is rooted in disbelief and lack of faith – you are taking action to “make” your desire happen. Inspired action is allowing the law to work through you and to move you. Activity feels hard. Inspired action feels wonderful. May the joy be with you,  Rhonda Byrne

 

Your life is the result of the choices you make if you do not like it..You have most likely heard the term multi-level marketing or read about it with interest. Most of the Information on the Internet is not always clear about what it is. Generally speaking, it is a distribution method for a product that takes the form of direct selling Companies that use this form of marketing are bypassing the traditional retail stores and allowing independent! sales people to move their products directly to the customer What makes this type of direct selling different from other forms of direct marketing is the way commissions are paid to the affiliate sales people.

“If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” Jim Rohn

After signing up with a company, a person then becomes an independent distributor. When a sale is made, a commission will be earned, but commissions can also be earned by recruiting new distributors. When these new contributors earn commissions for sales, part of this money will be given to you. Of course, the people you have recruited can then also recruit, and you will earn a small amount from the sales these people as well. Over time, you can build up a large group of distributors that are below you in the distribution sales chain. People have been able to make large incomes from this type of distribution model.

“Those who do not create the future they want must endure the future they get.”   Stan Billue

What makes this type of business so attractive is that it can be started part time from your home. In fact, part time is the best way to start any business. Keep your day Job while you focus on building up your MLM business part time. With hard work and dedication, your part time business will become a full time venture, and you will find yourself quitting your Job and working full time for yourself.

Don’t chase your Dreams, run them down. Always allow your Dreams to exceed your Memories.Stan Billue

In the past, MLM opportunities were limited to a few well known MLM companies that offered limited possibilities in an offline environment. Today with the Internet, everything has changed. There are an enormous number of products that can be sold offline, online or a combination of both. Because of the Internet,

Remember you will not always win. Some days, the most resourceful individual will taste defeat. But there is, in this case, always tomorrow – after you have done your best to achieve success today.” Maxwell Maltz 1899-1975

MLM business opportunities abound.

It is much easier for a business with a high quality product to sell it with the MLM direct selling model. Shelf space in a retail store is difficult to get and smaller companies with great products have an impossible task of getting seen by the consumer. This is why MLM opportunities are so attractive. The starts up costs for becoming a distributor are small, and the products available to sell are not only of high quality but are often unique and not seen in retail stores. Add to this, many people have been able to earn six figure incomes when affiliated with the right product.

Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start.” Nido Qubein

Finding the right product is a part of the formula for success. You need to take time researching the various products and decide on one that you feel comfortable with it should be something in an area that you have a passion for as well as one that has yet to saturate the market. Some of the best MLM opportunities are ones with products that are in the early phase of their product life cycle. Yet remember not all MLM companies are product based.

If I had to select one quality, one personal characteristic that I regard as being most highly correlated with success, whatever the field, I would pick the trait of persistence.”          Richard DeVos

Due diligence is required before you make your choice.  Asking other networkers advice is recommended, but look at the advice even if ever so slightly pushed to join, or Google network marketing.  Remember one thing product based MLM’s are in need of constant sales..  

You mustt take action risk failure in order to achieve successYour personal skills have to be very good, with  a determination to succeed. There is one more extremely important part of “Network Marketing” and that is the training available from whom ever you chose to join.  Should there non or an extremely limited amount of training, you are on your own. I personally have tried several MLM’s since leaving the forces, learning along the way making huge mistakes with losses, But always learning and the having the ability to be Very Very Positive and not stopping..

Set your sights high, the higher the better. Expect the most wonderful things to happen, not in the future but right now. Realize that nothing is too good. Allow absolutely nothing to hamper you or hold you up in any way.” Eileen Caddy 1917-2006, Author

As always it is up to you & no one else, remember you are going to be self employed and YOU will be very successful!  Remember these opportunities are world wide and many have been around for many years, most not all are wonderful but you have to work at it!  make sure you chose one with training and support.  I love mine but it is UK & Northern Ireland based, past experiences have seen me selling globally, but you are not dealing with people on a one to one basis, that can be harder or if you have the skills and determination with personal skills you can succeed, I know many who have. Personally I prefer to deal with people not the web.  My personal choice.

Dreams express what your soul is telling youHow can you make a big dream come true?  You need to have one secret element, and when you have that secret element, nothing will get in your way. That element is an intense desire! You must desire something with all of your heart to manifest it. Often the difference between those who manifest something and those who do not, is the element of desire. When you have a burning desire for something you ignite a fire within you that attracts with an incredible force. The law of attraction is magnetically drawn to that intense fire element in you, and it responds by gathering all universal forces to make your dream come true.                                                                                                                                              Very often we ask for things because we think our life will be better with those things, but inside of us we do not have an immense desire for those things. When you don’t feel that immense desire within you, you are receiving guidance telling you that this is not something you really want. That is why it is so important to get clear on what it is that you really want with all of your heart, because what you really want with all of your heart is the very desire that you can manifest quickly.                                                                                              When your heart is on fire with desire you will attract the right things to do, you will find visualizing so easy, and you will find it is effortless to think positive thoughts of your desire. You will attract all the qualities you need, such as strength, courage, belief, persistence, faith, and a powerful will. An intense desire lights up your being, producing a magnetic force that enables the law of attraction to cut through every physical obstacle for you and make your dream come true.                                                                                                               Dreams seem impossibleGo for your dreams! Don’t cheat yourself in your life with petty desires because you don’t think you can live your dream. THE DREAM inside you is the one thing that you have the greatest power to create, because you have an immense desire for it. Find the dream inside you – and make it come true Rhonda Byrne The Secret

Remember what ever you read anywhere or even here, your thoughts & actions help create your future, the choice is still yours.

The world Owes You Everything and nothing but your goal’s are your own decision Believe in your self – Gray Lawrence

Gray Lawrence

Utility Warehouse Distributor

Winning in life is more than just money; it is about winning on the inside and knowing that you have played the game of life with all you had, and then some!

 

 

Be Inspired by Alex Charfen

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You’re always One Choice away from changing your life by Mac Anderson

Success is achieved by developing our strengths, not by eliminating our weaknesses". – Marilyn vos Savant "Change is inevitable, growth is intentional." – Glenda Cloud

 

What You See is What Will Be

what-you-seeThere was a time back, long ago, when knowing each other’s deficits was important. In fact it was critical to our survival.

But today we live in a time when our environment can literally make up for any of our shortcomings. We have evolved past the need to link deficiencies with survival.

Unfortunately, our instincts have not.

Despite overwhelming evidence—the blind man with incredible hearing, the deaf woman highly attuned to body language, the dyslexic student with powerful memorization—society is too accustomed to seeing the world in terms of deficits and exceptions. And so are we. In trying to improve, we naturally default to identifying and focusing on our weaknesses, our supposed deficiencies, in hopes that we can become better by figuring them out. Millions of books, courses, self-help seminars, gadgets and apps have been created to “level-up” our weaknesses. Even case studies have been written to evangelize the benefits of these tactics. But beware, because there’s an inherent danger in focusing on your deficiencies. And don’t take my word for it.

The Danger of Focusing on Deficiencies

Oprah Winfrey, a towering entrepreneur for the ages, once said: “What you focus on expands, and when you focus on the goodness in your life, you create more of it.”

So what are we doing by focusing on our deficits? We’re creating more of them. We’re enhancing them. We’re actively expanding the power of our deficits to limit our capabilities.

It has been said that each of us can do at least one thing better than ten thousand other people. That should be encouraging news, right? But here’s the problem: most of us have no idea what that one thing is. And, a big part of the reason we don’t know is because the systems are set up to help us overcome weakness, not become great with our strengths.

Embrace the World Through Your Strengths

Think about it. As a child, when you came home from school with your report card, what was the response if you had five A’s and one D? You were told to go work harder and do better in the subject where you struggled. Somehow that gets into our DNA and many of us go through life fixing the D instead of celebrating the A’s. But successful people have figured out that no amount of work will make them great at everything, and so they focus on the one thing they can do that will produce greatness.

To embrace and realize your full potential, you need to choose to see the world and yourself differently. Rather than limits, see opportunities in the exceptions. Rather than seeing deficiencies that must be fixed, see the attributes that must be enhanced. This is what makes people exceptional. This is what unlocks the limitless possibilities set out before you.

 

There are two primary choices in life ; to accept the conditions as they exist or accept the responsibility for changing them- Denis Waitley

Success is sweet: the sweeter if long delayed and attained through manifold struggles and defeats. A. Branson Alcott

I never see failure as failure, but as the path I will not take in the further journey towards my greatness.

Gray Lawrence

Independent Distributor (UW)

We are still masters of our fate. We are still captains of our souls. Winston Churchill

 

A Great Opportunity is available to ALL when one can help a fellow person

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Connecting with people is an incredible skill as you connect first in their world because that is where they live their lives and where their interests and values lie  Doug Firebough

A quick decision usually denotes an alert mind.
Successful people are decisive. They don’t agonize over decisions and thereby miss out on a great opportunity. They gather the relevant information, discuss alternatives with advisers whose opinions they respect, and then make a decision and get on with it. Indecision creates the worst kind of paralysis and, left unattended, can permanently damage you and your organization. If you have trouble making decisions, remember that there are few decisions that are irreversible. If you later discover that you were wrong, correct your course and move on. – Napoleon Hill

 

 

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Motivation is said to be an inside job, actually it is an inside career for very successful people Doug Firebough

All enduring success is founded upon harmonious human relationships.
Most of us are incapable of “going it alone.” Whether it is in our careers, our personal relationships, or in life, we all need others if we are to achieve the level of success we desire. Besides, what’s the point of having it all if we have no one we care about to share it? You may choose to work with others, you may ignore them, or you may choose to work against them, but the greatest successes in life come to those who work harmoniously with others. When your personal goals coincide with those of another, not only does the power of your combined labours benefit you, but such cooperation also creates a synergistic effect that allows you to achieve far more than the simple sum of your individual efforts. Know that friendship freely given and gratefully received is one of life’s greatest gifts. – Napoleon Hill

Gray Lawrence

Independent Distributor (UW)

Opportunities are never lost. …They are found by someone else!”

– Mike Mc Donald

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