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Be Inspired by Vicki Chelf

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We lift ourselves by our thought. We climb upon our vision of ourselves. If you want to enlarge your life, you must first enlarge your thought of it and of yourself. Hold the ideal of yourself as you long to be, always everywhere." Orison Swett Marden 1850-1924, Inspirational Writer

Vicki is a cookbook author, cooking instructor and artist who loves to inspire people to prepare plant-based healthy food.

If I could share 500 words of wisdom to summarize what I’ve learned so far in life, these are the important things I’d want to pass along to others…

One definition of enlightenment is, "no problems." I like this. At first it seems simplistic, but the more you think about it, the more its wisdom is revealed.

Everyone desires to be healthy and happy, and as I get older I am beginning to believe that it is easier than we think. There’s an enormous amount of confusion, guilt and dysfunction surrounding how to take care of ourselves.

This, I believe, is reinforced by industries that profit from our ignorance. There are only two dietary and lifestyle choices – either we choose to live, and act accordingly, or we choose to die.

When one becomes aware, at a gut level, of the interconnection of all of life, many things are easy to understand. If something is good for you, it is good for the planet and all other beings.

Gardeners know that all living beings want to thrive. Put the right plant in the right place; give it the proper amounts of sunlight, food and water and it will lustfully live out its life. When a plant doesn’t flourish, it is either lacking in or getting too much of something, or being chewed on by something else.

Our bodies are similar in that it is our nature to thrive. If we are not healthy we may have emotions and beliefs that are chewing on us.

It’s interesting to note that insects tend to first attack plants that are unhealthy, and not getting their basic physical needs met. Unlike plants, we, at least those of us in the industrialized nations, have the privilege of choice and, in large, the key to being healthy is in making life-affirming choices.

If you find it difficult to make healthy choices, simply do what you do, consciously. With food, for example, when you eat, eat with awareness of what you are eating, and what went into bringing it to you, as well as how it makes your body feel. If you follow this practice, previously relished but not life-sustaining foods quickly lose their appeal.

The same holds true for all our behaviors, from work to relationships. Being in the present moment and aware of how we are feel is the perfect gage for knowing if something is life affirming.

Our thoughts are not always our allies and can drag us into problems, large and small. Today, I am old enough to look back on 60 years and can see how so many things that once seemed to be tremendous problems were created by me, in my own head.

Life, in its brevity, is sacred, as is the food we eat and the planet on which we live. Taking the time and effort to care for your own unique spark in this universe is one of the best things you can do for yourself and others.

And one last thing, have fun – I didn’t feel wise enough to write this until I went for a swim in my favorite place. A little fun goes a long way towards creating both health and happiness. And remember, that in the end all problems disappear anyway.

"Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering." Miguel Ruiz Author

We are still masters of our fate. We are still captains of our souls. – Winston Churchill

Gray Lawrence

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"Forget mistakes. Forget failure. Forget everything except what you’re going to do now and do it. Today is your lucky day. -Will Durant

A Positive Story From Karina in California

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"Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start." Nido Qubein

I Loved Myself For The First Time

An Inspirational Story, look deep inside yourself while reading this passage

There is one power within you that is stronger than any other power. This power is the Supreme Power! When you use this power it will dissolve all chaos, it will wipe out all negativity, and it will cut through every single situation, unfailingly. Any situation of negativity in your life is simply the absence of this one almighty power. You can rely on it to obliterate every negative thing, because nothing can stand up against it. You can use it on yourself or anyone else, and the more you use it, the more powerful it becomes. You have an unlimited source of this power, which is the most magnetic substance in the entire Universe…

This Supreme Power within you is Love. Send it outwards, send it inwards and then stand back and watch what happens to your life…

From Karina in California – ‘I Love Myself For The First Time’

I sit here in tears of joy!

I don’t remember how I attracted The Secret to me… I know I wanted to buy it for my sister and a friend for Christmas so they could "find themselves", and I ended up getting one for me and just started reading it. Not realizing that I was the one who needed to find myself.

My husband and I had decided that having me stay home to take care of the kids was better for them. Loved the first few months, but then I started devaluing myself, feeling depressed, unappreciated. By then I had started watching my niece, so I had two toddlers to take care of and an 8 year old. My niece and son started being so bad, my son was hitting, my niece would cry all day, and I was going insane! Depressed, hating my life, myself, and many times had thoughts of ending my life.

One night I was reading The Secret, the part about loving ourselves. I closed my eyes and saw myself hugging myself and loving me! Might sound weird, but that is how I visualized it. I cried, because I had never felt that much love for myself! I had always battled with weight issues. But I now love myself so much, and accept myself, and I shall ask and I shall receive!

The Secret has changed my life! I didn’t realize how much negative energy I have had around me all my life! And I cry to realize that my kid’s behavior wasn’t them – it was me!! I was bringing all this negative energy around me and them!

Now they are the sweetest little angels, they listen, don’t hit, they only cry when they fall, etc. The relationship with my husband is better than ever, because when he compliments me I know it’s true. Before I wouldn’t believe, but now I know it is true!

I know this is just the beginning of my true life! I am thankful for all involved in making The Secret. It all makes sense now! How True

Another easy way to use the law of attraction for your benefit is this:
Every night before you fall asleep, replay in your mind the good moments of the day, and give heartfelt thanks for each one of them. Think about the next day also, and intend that it is going to be amazing, that it is going to be filled with love and joy, and that all good is coming to you. Intend that it is going to be the best day of your life. Then when you wake in the morning, BEFORE you get out of bed, declare your intentions again for the day and give deep thanks as though you have received them all. May the joy be with you, Rhonda Byrne

The Power is from within
Gray Lawrence

Independent Distributor

Be Inspire by Alayjiah Bargnare

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Grattiude is the most important single ingredient to life

Know Your Worth With Optimistic Gratitude

Alayjiah BargnareIf I could share 500 words to inspire, this is the important wisdom I’d want to pass along to others…

 

Start each morning off by being grateful for waking up. Say “thank you” for all the stuff you currently have and expect to receive in the future. Focus on all the things you love and how they make you feel. Watch what you think and say because they become your reality.

  • I am a survivor of a few of life’s most horrible crimes and I was very bitter and angry for a long time. I had constant negative thoughts and fears that plagued my success. I did not realize God had spared my life through all those situations so I could be a positive light and testimony for someone else going through a tough time.

    I learned to change the way I felt about life and myself by just focusing on the things I love and appreciate, instead of dwelling on what I did not love or did not have. I found, as a single parent, it’s tough sometimes to balance all you have to do like bills, kids, work, school, etc. Sometimes life feels unbearable and unfair but you are not alone and you can’t give up. God is with you always and if you just ask for the help and strength He will give it to you if you believe.

    Make a list of all your goals, revisit the list daily and pray over the list. I promise you will notice some of the items on your list are being provided, slowly but surely.

    I found my true worth by learning to love and respect myself because if you don’t love you, no one else can love you. I also learned to stop chasing down love or a relationship. If you are single, take the time to prepare yourself for that special someone. That means making sure you don’t have excess baggage. This means making sure that you’re emotionally and physically prepared and not holding on to your past.

    Keep in mind, if you have been single for a while and you’re ready for that special someone but are having trouble finding him or her, God also has to prepare your mate for you. You don’t want to meet them not prepared for a relationship because then you’ll end up hurt all over again. So patience is the key.

    Look at life in a positive way because you are beautiful, intelligent, full of love and compassion, and you don’t have to settle for anything but the best! You are destined for greatness and greatness is not easy to come by. You are worthy and highly favoured in God’s sight so let everyone see the awesome person inside.

    I believe through positive thinking and hard work nothing is impossible. I make a point daily to help someone else in any way possible. It can be something really simple like helping an elderly man or woman in the grocery store with their groceries. I know I would not be here today if people were not willing to help me when I was homeless and hopeless. So I find joy in helping others. I follow the Golden Rule because I know God is constantly watching our behaviour’s.

    Do something positive, daring and spectacular that you always wanted to do but were too scared to do. You only live once! Please stay encouraged and prayerful and you too will see that you are worth a million dollars!

     

    Believe in yourself and your abilities. That is the only way to attract wonderful things into your life. Don’t waste your time thinking that you cannot do something. Dr. Steve & Frank

    The Power is from within, the choice is yours

    Gray Lawrence

    "Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start." Nido Qubein

  • Successful Networker Body Language

    A subject I feel many do not understand

    Change your mental attitude, and the world around you will change accordingly.
    Your world will become what you choose to make it. You can reach great heights of success, or you can settle for a miserable life that is devoid of hope. The choice is yours. When you choose a positive course, you set in motion an unstoppable force that will allow you to have a fulfilling career, the love of your family and friends, good physical and mental health, and all of the other true riches of life. To change your world, you must change it from the inside out. You must begin with yourself. When you choose the course that puts your life on a positive track, you will change your life for the better, and you will also positively influence the people with whom you come in contact. Napoleon Hill

    ‘Your Body Speaks So Loudly, I Cannot Hear What You Say.’

    Learn how to Unlock the Secret Code  Behind the Mystery of Body Language…

    • Are They Lying?
    • Do They Hate You?
    • Is She Falling in Love?
    • Is He Ready to Cut a Deal?

    You will know and understand Before They Ever Say a Word …

    How to Unlock the Mysteries within your World

    Every day in your world, there are mysteries all around you. They are hidden in the body language of people you come in contact with.

    But, like most folks, you are probably running through life so fast, you don’t stop and observe what’s really going on.   This is not unusual .

    Very few people even think twice about the “Nonverbal Body Signals” that appear everywhere … much less even notice them.

    But what if you could learn to unlock some of these mysterious behaviours?

    How Much of Life Are You Missing Out On?

    Estimates range as high as 80%. That means that 8 out of every 10 "conversations" are never spoken… or 80 out of 100 … or 800 out of 1,000.

    But before we get into all that you’re missing … and what you can do about it …

    The benefits in my military life of which there were many, along the way, I learned how to enrich my life even more by applying these powerful nonverbal keys to everyday encounters. It helped me to understand the differences between us all and as a manger, it was the biggest self help discipline I could have  on understanding others whether it was staff or anyone within the military establishments I worked in. Without knowing it I became someone where staff and member’s of my family, or community appreciated how I knew so much without asking!

    These are the keys to unlock the mysteries in your world. With those keys, you can take your life to a whole new level

    Instantly Discover What’s Really Going On All Around You

    Once you learn the secrets of nonverbal communications, you’ll be able to see and interpret the world in mind-boggling fashion.

    For example, consider the power of understanding nonverbal in the following situations …

    • During a job interview, your interviewer continues squinting at you.

    What’s she trying to tell you?

    • Even though the poker player showed no change in his facial expression, I knew very quickly I’d better fold and not bet any more.

    Perhaps you would have played on?

    • I noticed when a celebrity couple on a piece of news, they were recently photographed in public and were smiling. The man was delicately touching his wife’s waist with his finger tips.

    Still in love? … Food for thought! But doubt it!

    • After a long conference meeting, I was speaking with one of the officers about a military exercise related to the conference we just sat in on. He was speaking freely and very politely, with a pleasant facial expression. Yet something about his nonverbal behaviour told me he had to leave right away.

    How did I know?  Well without thinking and lots of practice I became a body language student, it becomes easier as you learn and study each and every person you meet and in time the benefits will be staggering.

    • When visiting a member of my staff in the hospital, I quickly noticed that whenever I came into view, he would quickly raise his eyebrows. Initially you feel uncomfortable thinking this is a bad time or some similar thoughts!

    Even though he couldn’t speak a word, I knew exactly what he was "telling" me.

    • Early on in the high-stakes negotiations, I noticed that the attorney for the other company barely said a word. However, while the contract was being read, I could quickly tell whenever he had an issue.

    What tipped me off and saved both companies valuable time in sealing the deal?

    • I heard the woman calling her child. It was time to return home after a fun day at the park. The child did not utter a word in protest. Yet, I knew she had no intentions of leaving.

    What did the mother miss that could have helped make the transition easier and more enjoyable for both of them?

    • After a hectic week, the husband asked his wife if she wanted to go out for dinner. "Yes, honey," she said and smiled. But there was something about her smile that said "No."

    What did the husband fail to observe that could have given their evening and relationship a big-time boost?

    So, no matter what the relationship, learning to quickly decode nonverbal signals will pay you huge dividends.

    Think about it. Your life is one constant relationship with other people.

    Knowing what they’re "telling" you without their saying a word, well, that’s pretty exciting.

    It’s always been exhilarating for me.

    And there’s no reason at all why you can’t get in on all the fun and adrenaline rush.

    Do You Believe in Magic?

    Just so you don’t think that decoding nonverbal behaviour is some sort of black magic, let me explain why it’s possible.

    See, there’s a portion of your brain called the "limbic system."

    Your limbic brain is where nonverbal communications are generated. It reacts to the world totally spontaneously and in real time … without any thought required on your part.

    This means that the limbic brain is responsible for your instantaneous and honest nonverbal behaviour … you can’t avoid or fake this.

    These honest actions portray themselves through your body parts … feet, legs, arms, face, eyes, etc.

    So, you can see, the limbic brain provides all you need to decipher what a person is really "telling" you … without their even knowing it!

    Your Life Can Be 80% Fuller and More Productive
    When You Understand the Unspoken Conversations

    Imagine …

    • The edge you’ll have in important "career" meetings … knowing what everyone is "telling" you with his or her body language.
    • How knowing what your spouse or life partner is nonverbally "telling" you in certain situations will help boost your relationship … even add some excitement and romance.
    • How observing and instantly decoding your kids’ nonverbal signals could make your life and theirs a dream … and a bunch more fun.
    • The next time you’re negotiating a deal for that dream car you’ve always wanted … you’ll know right away if the sales manager is being honest about whether or not there’s still room for a lower price … he won’t have a clue.
    • All the added excitement and fun you’ll now have … that others may totally miss out on.

    And I’m sure you can imagine endless encounters with people where you can benefit even more.

    And that’s where I come in … to help you quickly master all this.

    Follow These Golden Rules to Success

    Well, to help folks like you master nonverbal communications, I created the easy-to-follow "10 Cardinal Rules of Nonverbal Communication."

    As you quickly learn how to incorporate these rules into your everyday life, it will become second nature for you to interpret nonverbal behaviour … it will become automatic.

    It will be like learning how to ride a bike or drive your car.

    Remember how excited you were when you mastered those … how they opened up an entire new world for you?

    Well, that’s nothing.

    Once you master the 10 Cardinal Rules, you’ll see how totally rewarding 80% of the communications you’ve been missing can really be … and using the rules can be downright fun!

    Develop a passion for learning. If you do, you’ll never cease to grow.

    — Anthony J. D’Angelo

    10 Cardinal Rules for You to Master the Secrets of Nonverbal Behaviour

    • Rule 1: Be a competent observer of your environment.

    This is the most basic requirement for anyone wishing to fully master the benefits of nonverbal behaviour.

    The problem is that most people spend their lives looking … but not truly seeing.

    I can instantly show you how to observe without being intrusive.

    • Rule 2: You have to observe all nonverbal communications in context.

    This involves learning how to filter some out and understanding those nonverbal signals that are expected.

    For example, if you came upon a traffic accident scene and observed people in shock walking around dazed … don’t you think this type of nonverbal behaviour is expected? Of course it is.

    So, learning how to observe expected behaviour in the context of the situation is key.

    Once I demonstrate to you how to decode expected nonverbal behaviour, you’ll quickly decipher that which is not.

    • Rule 3: Determine if the behaviours you’re seeing are limbic or cultural.

    Your limbic system is the part of your brain that reacts reflexively and automatically to the world around you.

    It is the honest part of your brain that generates the instantaneous nonverbal signals that we’re most interested in. As far as cultural behaviours, they are obviously based on a person’s environment and upbringing.

    For example, in some cultures, shaking your head from side to side actually means "yes."

    So, being able to determine and decipher these two types of behaviours is important in getting closer to understanding what a person is really "telling" you … and I’ll help you do just that.

    • Rule 4: Determine whether the behaviour is unique to the individual or not.

    There’s plenty of universal behaviour out there.

    But observing and learning nonverbal behaviour unique to an individual is an important element. Why? Well, understanding the person’s unique behaviour helps you better understand the communication.

    For example, when I get stressed, I raise the pitch of my voice. If you knew this, you would be able to know when I’m stressed and be able to act accordingly.

    I’ll show you how to decipher this and use it to your benefit.

    • Rule 5: Look for clusters of behaviour.

    You may have already guessed that people don’t always send just single nonverbal signals.

    The more signals you understand, the better your chances of deciphering the full picture.

    For example, in a business situation, if I see a competitor display a pattern of nonverbal stress signals followed closely by pacifying behaviour signals, I can be more confident he is bargaining from a position of weakness.

    Clusters of behaviour provide you with more assurance that what you deciphered is accurate.

    I’ll give you plenty of examples of what to look for here and show you how powerful interpreting cluster behaviour really is.

    • Rule 6: Establish an individual’s baseline behaviour.

    Without doing this, you’ll have a difficult time deciphering his or her behaviour.

    By observing and examining what’s normal behaviour, you’ll begin to recognize and identify the abnormal … which you’re most interested in.

    You need to differentiate between what the person’s normal face looks like, compared with one that’s stressed.

    I’m ready to tell you more on how easy this is to discover.

    • Rule 7: Look for changes in the individual’s behaviour that can signal changes in thoughts, emotions, interest, or intent.

    This goes hand-in-hand with rule 6.

    Once you have established a person’s baseline behaviour, you’re ready to look for spontaneous changes that tip off what the individual is really "telling" you. These automatic behaviour changes happen because of a person’s limbic brain … changes that happen immediately in real-time.

    For example, let’s say on Friday you let your spouse know that on Saturday you’ve planned a night out with your friends,  Your spouse might smile and say, "Great! Go have a good time," but inside he or she is actually irritated. And you know because his or her limbic brain created nonverbal behaviour spontaneously and involuntarily, letting you know his or her real thoughts.

    • Rule 8: Learn to identify misleading or false signals.

    As you know, I spent a good deal of my life interviewing/interrogating people.

    Some of them were very good at trying to cover up and mask their immediate nonverbal reactions.

    I’ll give you some simple steps on how to read this and focus in on their initial spontaneous reactions … the most "telling" nonverbal signals.

    (Oh, By the way, the program I created for you has the same material I used to teach at the FBI Academy and train counterintelligence agents … intriguing spy-catcher stuff. It’s been tested and proven a thousand times over in real life.)

    • Rule 9: The observations you make should be nonintrusive.

    This simply has to do with not making your intentions obvious when observing people’s behaviour.

    For example, I remember the first time I went to work in New York City. My first day there, I was on the subway. A man next to me was displaying some really interesting nonverbal, and I was intently "observing" his every move.

    But I was doing it all wrong … and he could feel it. It wasn’t long before he turned to me and abruptly said, "Did you lose something on me mister?"

    I quickly discovered that there is a right and wrong way to observe the nonverbal. I’ll show you how to do it right.

    • Rule 10: Any time you observe a behaviour, determine if it’s from comfort or discomfort.

    You will learn that most behaviour triggered by your limbic brain falls into these two categories.

    This is fundamental to how to learn nonverbal communications.

    Learning to identify comfort and discomfort behaviour accurately in others will help you better decipher what their bodies and minds are really "telling" you.

    Power to See the ‘Unseen’

    Remember, once you master the skill of decoding nonverbal, it can be used in all avenues of your life … it seems as if every day I find new, rewarding ways to use it. Let me give you a real-life example …

    She Said ‘YES,’ but What Were Her Nonverbal Sayings?

    A friend of mine knew a lady whom worked as a human resource executive for a major corporation, told me she began noticing  after our discussion on the “Nonverbal” 

    She put her knowledge to good use just a few days after returning to her job. "I was responsible for selecting company employees for overseas assignments," she explained.

    "When I asked one potential candidate if she wanted to work abroad, her whole body shouted back to me ‘YES!’

    "However, when I next mentioned that the destination was Mumbai, India, her positive nonverbal shut down completely. Clearly something was wrong. Noting the change in her body language, I asked why she didn’t want to go there.

    "She was astounded. ‘Is it that noticeable? I didn’t say anything. Did someone else say something to you?’ she asked in a startled voice.

    "I told her I could ‘sense’ she wasn’t pleased with the intended work location. ‘You’re right,’ she admitted, ‘I thought I was being considered for Hong Kong, where I have a few friends.’

    "It was obvious she did not want to go to India, and her nonverbal left no doubt about her feelings on the matter."

    Never let an opportunity pass you by, because when you do all other opportunity that went with that life path is gone forever, and who knows where that might have led! –unknown

    Think of what this friend had done by saving the company by quickly identifying the candidate’s true feelings. All sorts of time and money could have been wasted if Julie hadn’t been aware of this slight nonverbal "comment."

    Been in a situation like this before? Wished you could read what the person was really "telling" you?

    These are the secrets to quickly decode these kinds of situations and unlock the mysteries in your own life.

    Unlocking the power of the  Nonverbal Will Change Your Life

    Unlock the Secret Mysteries of the World Around YOU

    What Would Mastery of The Power of Body Language Mean to You, Your Family, and Your Lifestyle?

    From my own experiences and many others, that have mastered the skills of observing and deciphering nonverbal body language, we find our lives have changed forever.

    There’s absolutely no price I can put on the value of this skill … I’m sure those who have mastered it would agree.

    And now it’s YOUR turn.

    Enter a New World for Less Than You Think

    He Thought Their Relationship Was on the Rocks …
    but Was It Really?

    I was with a friend recently and he was very keen on learning about body language and pointed to a couple near by.

    He asked, "Based on what you see, do you think they’re getting along with each other?"

    As we observed the two whom we were observing appeared to be comfortable enough. But as the conversation progressed, their positions where they sat changed.

    My friend, seeing a few apparently obvious nonverbal, immediately thought things were going too well between them.

    I suggested that he not look at just one or two obvious behaviours and told him about what I call "the most honest part of the body." We moved our attention to the nonverbal that that area was sending, and I assured him that here was a couple still very much in love.

    "That behaviour is important," I noted. "It shows they still feel connected."

    When the couple got up to leave, the man put his arm around the woman’s waist and they walked out without saying another word. But they didn’t have to … their nonverbal signals "said" it all.

    What Is the Most Honest Part of the Body?

    This cool story raises another key point I bring out in the program.

    People observing others tend to look at just the person’s eyes or face. But you’ll find out that some people work very hard at masking their facial expressions.

    I offer you this… the feet are the most honest parts of your body. It’s the very first part I focus on in training people how to observe and decode behaviour.

    Learning about the feet will teach you things  you never thought about before … and how your limbic brain spontaneously calls the shots. This will help you enhance your life and be a better observer of your surroundings.

    The keys to Unlock Your World

    You now have the keys to unlock this wonderful new world. Do it today. Right now you are missing out on 80% of all this going on around you. Once you understand and learn the power you will immediately be among those unique individuals who truly see and understand 100% of the world they live in.

    I can not offer you the right answer of what aspect of life will improve the most for you but once you have these keys in your hands. Will it be your relationships? Your income? Your peace of mind? Your status? Your job or company? I don’t know … but you will know once you discover the power of the nonverbal.

    Here’s to the Hidden Treasures in Your New World, from Joe Navarro!

    How often does something come around in your life that makes such a profound difference no matter what you’re doing? Not very often, I’m sure.

    The world around you is on the move … more now than ever. And you know, what’s happening out there is NOT all good.

    So, you need as much of an edge as you can get on your job … in your relationships … and in your everyday encounters with people.  But most of all, you deserve to have more fun and enjoy your life to the fullest.

    Eighty per cent of life is a lot to miss out on, of course you will agree.

    The next time you’re looking across the table at someone, I don’t want you to be left wondering, "Is she reading my nonverbal signals? What am I ‘saying’?"

    No one would like to be in this situation. You and many others deserve to know what’s going on and have a blast doing it.  Now learn how to send life in an upward spiral of knowledge and experiences.

    The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing. — John Powell

    The Power is from within, the choice is yours
    Gray Lawrence
    Successful Networker

    "Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start." Nido Qubein

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