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5 ways to change your body Tahlee Rouillon

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The only challenges there are in your life are in your  mind.
When you realise that. .no matter the date time or year you have TWO choices to make.. The right one or the wrong one.  Gray Lawrence

5 Ways to Change Your Mind About Your Body

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“Enjoy your body, use it every way you can…don’t be afraid of it, or what other people think of it, it’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own..” – Baz Luhrmann

For many years I believed the only way to get my ideal body was to whip it into shape with lashings of shame and hate. For some bizarre reason that I couldn’t fathom at the time, this strategy was unsuccessful.

It resulted in fluctuating weight loss / gain, injury, pain, and a whole lotta misery.

If I lost weight, I always needed to lose more. If I felt overwhelmed, I ate my emotions and put the weight back on. No matter what I did, I never felt good enough.

Fortunately, I was blessed to receive the assistance of a gifted therapist to overcome my disordered relationship to food, exercise and my body. And whilst I still sometimes struggle, I have found when I consistently practice these 5 tips, my body and life are so much happier!

1. Acceptance

“Once we accept our limits, we go beyond them.” – Albert Einstein

Acceptance does not mean that you never want to change. It doesn’t mean that you’ll give up all desire to be fit and healthy and turn into a gluttonous slob.

It means that you wholeheartedly recognise where you are in your health journey with kindness and compassion, rather than piling on guilt and shame about where you “should be”.

Acceptance gives you permission to acknowledge where you are and also where you’d like to go. It’s far more motivating and sustainable than the self loathing that accompanies the “shoulds”.

Thinking about how much you should weigh, how faster you should be able to run, how stronger / fit / toned you should be is dejecting and usually leads to resentment.

Whenever I resented or felt ashamed about the way I looked, I was more likely to skip workouts or conversely, workout too much and end up injuring myself. Accepting where I was at on my health and fitness journey allowed me to approach workouts with much more kindness and joy.

2. Stop Comparing!

Stop comparing yourself to others, yourself to how you were yesterday or even how you were 5 years ago. Comparison truly is the thief of joy as it either leads to smug superiority or feelings of shameful inferiority. And as you already know, shame is not a sustainable motivator.

Recognise that you have unique abilities in this present moment. Honour the journey that has brought you to this place and renew your commitment to living your life of awesomeness.

A great first step is to go on a media diet.

Get rid of the magazines that uphold such ludicrous ideals of beauty. Even though you’re an intelligent person and you KNOW those models are digitally altered (making their beauty even more unrealistic) your primal brain doesn’t.

Your primitive brain, deep below your neocortex, is hardwired to accept reality as, well, real. It has no way of knowing that the images it sees in magazines are illogical and deceptive. It’s why movies and books are so powerfully entertaining and immersive.

The less material you have to fuel self-comparison, the better off your mental health will be.

I’ve even given up reading health and fitness magazines because I find that I end up focusing too much on the women’s bodies and how I stack up, instead of focusing on the fitness information.

3. Turn Down the Inner Bully

We all have a harsh inner monologue that criticises and blames us for when things go wrong, or that arcs up when things are about to get risky.

You know – the voice that is overly concerned with things being perfect, safe and secure. The voice that says things about you that you would NEVER say to anyone else.

Mine is particularly nasty if I’ve put on weight, if I’m trying something new, or if I’ve stuffed something up.

But just because you have one, doesn’t mean you have to listen to the horrible things they say.

Recognise the harsh, repetitive, adrenaline fuelled messages for what they are. Anxiety. They are not true statements about you, your personality or your potential.

4. Turn Up Your Inner Bestie

Transforming your critical monologue is as simple as treating yourself as you would your best friend.

Not always easy if your Inner Bully has been running rampant for a while – but simple.

The next time you begin to feel the dead-weight dread of your Inner Bully – imagine the situation that is causing the anxiety is happening to your Best Friend. What do you say to them when they are sick, scared or suffering? What do you do for them to soothe them? How do you treat your loved ones when they need your compassion?

Whenever I imagine how I would treat my bestie, there is often a large gap between how I would treat them and how I treat myself. Giving myself permission to be kind to myself has been a big step towards loving myself and my body more.

5. Mindfulness

Staying aware and focused in the present moment is at once grounding and liberating.

In an age of hyper connected 24-7 lifestyles, the ancient wisdom of mindfulness is more vital than ever. Slowing down and appreciating the present moment gives you the opportunity to be grateful for all you have.

I’ve found mindfulness to be excellent at reducing my anxiety, which helps prevent emotional eating. It helps my pay more attention to hunger and satiety clues, helping to prevent overeating. And it gives me focus, which vastly improves the quality of my workout.

Practicing mindfulness can be as simple as taking 10 minutes per day just to sit quietly and breathe. The intention is not to stop thinking, Lover to avoid thinking negative thoughts. The goal is to quietly witness the thoughts without attaching judgment or criticism. Whenever you get distracted, just gently guide your attention back to the physical sensation of breathing.

Mindfulness is definitely a practice. The more I do it, the more familiar it becomes and the benefits flow into all areas of my life.

Do you struggle with body image? How do you motivate yourself to stay fit and healthy? What other tips would you suggest for positive body love

The Power is from within, the choice is yours
Gray Lawrence
"Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start." Nido Qubein

6 Things Happy People Never Do

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You just might be the miracle someone is looking for today.
Remember that every single moment has a miracle of possibility.
If I am present to the moment, something I know, something I can share, something I can give or some way I can presence love can actually bring a miracle in a moment that I am sharing with someone.
I encourage you to walk through this day remembering that you just might be the miracle someone is looking for today. Here’s To Miracles, Mary Morrissey

 

WRITTEN by MARC CHERNOFF

6 Things Happy People Never Do

Happiness is not something you postpone for the future;
it is something you design into the present.

Happy people do a lot of things.  They spend time expressing gratitude, cultivating optimism, practicing kindness, nurturing loving relationships, committing to meaningful goals, savouring life’s little pleasures, and so on and so forth.

But they NEVER…

1.  Mind other people’s business.

Forget about what others are doing.  Stop looking at where they are and what they have.  Nobody is doing better than you because nobody can do better than you.  YOU are walking your own path.  Sometimes the reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes circumstances with everyone else’s public highlight reel.  We listen to the noise of the world, instead of ourselves.  So stop the comparisons!  Ignore the distractions.  Listen to your own inner voice.  Mind your own business.

Keep your best wishes and your biggest goals close to your heart and dedicate time to them every day.  Don’t be scared to walk alone, and don’t be scared to enjoy it.  Don’t let anyone’s ignorance, drama, or negativity stop you from being the best you can be.  Keep doing what you know in your heart is right, for YOU.  Because when you are focused on meaningful work and at peace within yourself, almost nothing can shake you.  (Angel and I discuss this in more detail in the “Passion and Growth” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)

2.  Seek validation of self-worth from others.

When you are content to simply be yourself, without comparing and competing to impress others, everyone worthwhile will respect you.  And even more importantly, you will respect yourself.

How are you letting others define you?  What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?

Truth be told, no one has the right to judge you.  People may have heard your stories, and they may think they know you, but they can’t feel what you are going through; they aren’t living YOUR life.  So forget what they think and say about you.  Focus on how you feel about yourself, and keep walking the path that feels best under your feet.

Those who accept you are your friends.  Those who don’t are your teachers.  If someone calls you something and it’s true, it’s not your problem because it’s true.  If someone calls you something and it’s not true, it’s not your problem because it’s not true.  Either way, whatever they call you is not your problem.  What other people call you is their problem…

What you call yourself, and who you decide to become, is your problem.

3.  Rely on other people and external events for happiness.

Unhappiness lies in that gap between what we have now and what we think we need.  But the truth is, we don’t need to acquire anything more to be content with what we already have.  We don’t need anyone else’s permission to be happy.  Your life is magnificent not because someone says it is, or because you have acquired something new, but because you choose to see it as such.  Don’t let your happiness be held hostage.  It is always yours to choose, to live and experience.

As soon as you stop making everyone and everything else responsible for your happiness, the happier you’ll be.  If you’re unhappy now, it’s not someone else’s fault.  Take full responsibility for your own unhappiness, and you will instantly gain the ability to be happier.  Stop seeking in vain to arrange conditions that will make you happy.  Simply choose to appreciate the greatness that is yours in this moment, and the right conditions will start to line up around the contentment you seek.

The greater part of your happiness or unhappiness depends upon your outlook, and not upon our situation.  Even if things aren’t perfect right now, think of all the beauty still left around you.  A good reason to smile is always one thought away; choose to tap into it any time you like.  (Read The Gifts of Imperfection.)

4.  Hold on to resentment.

Let today be the day you stop being haunted by the ghosts from your past.  What happened in the past is just one chapter in your story; don’t close the book, just turn the page.

We’ve all been hurt by our own decisions and by others, and while the pain of these experiences is normal, sometimes it lingers for too long.  Feelings of resentment urge us to relive the same pain over and over, and we have a hard time letting go.

Forgiveness is the remedy.  It allows you to focus on the future without combating the past.  To understand the infinite potential of everything going forward is to forgive everything already behind you.  Without forgiveness, wounds can never be healed and personal growth can never be achieved.  It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened.  It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life.

5.  Spend prolonged periods of time in negative environments.

You can’t make positive choices for the rest of your life without an environment that makes those choices easy, natural, and enjoyable.  So protect your spirit and potential from contamination by limiting your time with negative people and the environments they inhabit.

When other people invite you to act like victims, when they whine and moan about the unfairness of life, for example, and ask you to agree, to offer condolences, and to participate in their grievances, WALK AWAY.  When you join in that game of negativity you always lose.

Even when you’re alone, create a positive mental space for yourself.  Make it a point to give up all the thoughts that make you feel bad, or even just a few of them that have been troubling you, and see how doing that changes your life.  You don’t need negative thoughts.  They are all lies.  They solve nothing.  All they have ever given you is a false self that suffers for no reason.  (Read Buddha’s Brain.)

6.  Resist the truth.

It is a certain deathtrap when we spend our lives learning how to lie, because eventually these lies grow so strong in our minds that we become bad at seeing, telling and living our own truth.  Lives come apart so easily when they have been held together with lies.  If you resist the truth, you will live a lie every day as the truth haunts your thoughts every night.  You simply can’t get away from your truth by moving dishonestly from one place to the next.

So don’t bend; don’t water it down; don’t try to hide the truth with deception; don’t edit your own soul according to the fashion of what’s popular.  It is better to offer no explanation or excuse than a false one.  It takes courage and strength to admit the truth, but it is the only way to truly live.  Accept what is, embrace it fully, and live for the possibilities that lie ahead.

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When we start looking at everything that might go wrong, we fear then to attempt.  Our opportunity today is to pay attention to any thoughts that could be vibrations of doubt and turn them into faith.  Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt.  But not today.  Our doubts will not have their way with us today.  Our faith shall prevail.  To Your Prevailing Faith,  Mary Morrissey

The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire; the size of your dream; and how you handle disappointment along the way. Robert Kiyosaki

Gray Lawrence

“Seek opportunities and experiences that invigorate you, those that are challenging, and that demand you show up as your very best self.” – David Howitt

Are You Selling The WRONG Opportunity.

If you want to attract a better job or anything better than what you currently have, it is important to understand how the law of attraction works.  You know that to bring in something better you must imagine what that better thing looks like in your mind, and then live in that picture as though it is here now. But you should also know that if you complain about your current job, for example, and continue to focus on all the negative things, you will never bring the better job to you. You must look for the things to be grateful for in your current job. Each thing you find to be grateful for is helping to bring that better job to you. That is really working the law!                    May the joy be with you, Rhonda Byrne The Secret… bringing joy to billions

Here’s a little question to think about.

Are you selling the WRONG business opportunity?

“Due diligence” on any company is the key, search and seek help advice or more information on Network marketing Opportunities, thus ensuring you have the right information on what you are looking for then seek a person in that business.

What’s the first thought that just popped into your mind?

For most people I bet it’s either the company or their products, or services.

And how “GOOD” they are. How they help people do what is required to succeed.

Of course how incredible their “system” is… the override structure, the “unique” builder bonuses and back up. Right?

After all isn’t that why you decided to join the business you’re in, or looking at  because of how unique this company is and how different this particular opportunity is?  That is what most people sell and to be honest the majority do succeed…

The reason why Most people struggle to Sponsor a Large Number Of People is  not because of the product (which is an on-going type of business expecting people to keep buying) or service based businesses but because of the attitude and willingness to help and provide those looking for something better than the “JOB”  Offering a life one can only dream about, until now!

what is it that get people really excited.? I can GUARANTEE that people  join your business for a much different reasons, There Own!  And why Not!

Oh sure it’s important to feel good about what you do in your business and I’m certain you believe 100% in the opportunity… But those are the supporting reasons behind your decision.

The REAL reason behind why you do what you do… and it’s the same reason why others will join you… which is actually the “same reason EVERYONE buys anything… “

… it’s to make themselves feel BETTER about themselves and why not!

Every buying decision (and recruiting someone is a sales process… they need to BUY INTO what you do)… is an emotional one. If you are not concerned about what others desire want or need, you are not doing your job to be the best at “Network Marketing.”

We can come up with dozens of reasons WHY people buy… but if we boil it all down to one thing, it’s to… … FEEL BETTER ABOUT OURSELVES. Why not!

The house we live in, the car we drive, the clothes we wear, the TV in your house, the furniture, the colour of paint you chose for your walls… EVERYTHING has an emotional reason attached to it.

So knowing this let’s back up and think when talking to someone about your business… is it the “life changing” product or a “unique” compensation plan or the vision of a founder is what REALLY going to get someone to move? Not necessarily but how good the company is and the: training and back up provided does offer a guarantee of support which should be on going.

What will get people to move are their own personal desires and reasons.

Here are 7 motivators we ALL have, in no particular order:

1. Money
2. Security
3. Recognition
4. Achievement
5. Love of Family
6. Acceptance of Others
7. Self-Acceptance

They are running automatically in the background and WHEN we make buying decisions it’s for one or more of these reasons.

Now they all can be tied back to making us feel good about ourselves.

When you’re loved by your family… accepted by others… have money… recognized or appreciated…. all of it makes us feel good, right?

So when others are considering joining your business and you speak to them about things which do not satisfy these… things that are IMPORTANT TO THEM… you have NO CHANCE of getting them to join. That is the reason why you should be providing all information on the company and services so they can see what you have to offer, But only if you seek what it is that they desire from your business by asking them.. It is that simple.  

If all you talk to them about is money… you may temporarily appeal to their GREED, but it won’t last unless you can grab them emotionally with their REAL reason(s).  When they can see themselves getting what THEY want as a result of associating with you… that’s when you got them.

Which is why it’s important to ask questions, and pay close attention to what they tell you.  People will usually tell you what they need for you to recruit them.

A good question to ask people, and it’s a general one, but it does wonders in terms of digging DEEP to discover their REAL MOTIVATOR, and it’s….

Not What is Important To You but to the person or people that you are offering the business too. 

When they indicate they want to make more money, pretty much everyone says that… you have to find out WHY it is important to them to make more money, if you wish them to succeed as well as you have.

Think about it, if they really wanted to make more money, if that was their only motivator… then why have they not got the money desire yet?

I think often people don’t really know what they want… so they say they want bigger house, car, more money… but it’s really what all these things will do for them… how they will make them feel.

I can tell you a lot of the leaders in Network Marketing are driven by praise and recognition, for the company and those in the business thus helping them move on to better things, the money does help no matter who you are. 

People will do incredible things to get recognized and feel appreciated, I do not know of any person whom does not desire these things . something we all crave for in life, from family to the job, it is a human desire and we area all worthy of these desires.

We all like being special people, with our children, family and friend’s, someone  that they all would be proud of… providing lots of security… these things drive us and when you can appeal to them in your recruiting… it will dwarf anything else and will become the dominant reason people will flock to YOU and join YOU.

So if you find you are not sponsoring as many people as you’d like, yet you feel like you are doing everything else right… it just might be that you are selling the WRONG thing.

And a little change in your approach to focus on THEM… THEIR GOALS, DREAMS and MOTIVATIONS…

… just might do the trick.

Act on your own initiative, but be prepared to assume full responsibility for your acts.
One of the primary differences between those who achieve greatness in their lives and those who manage only to “get by” is that successful people learned early in life that they were responsible for their own actions. No other person can make you successful or keep you from achieving your goals. Taking the initiative means assuming a leadership role, a position that singles you out for praise — and for criticism. The good leader is the one who shares the credit for success with others and assumes full responsibility for failures or temporary setbacks. When you accept responsibility for your actions, you gain the respect of others and are well on the way to creating your own future. – Napoleon Hill

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Readers Digest How Happy are YOU

 

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The fastest way to receive is to give, because giving starts the reciprocal action of receiving. We all receive according to how much we give. Give the best of you everywhere you go. Give a smile. Give thanks. Give kindness. Give love. Your giving should be a giving without expectation of return – a giving for the sheer joy of it. May the joy be with you, Rhonda Byrne The Secret… bringing joy to billions

The following is little bit of information that comes from my magazine and is also on dsd.me, a quiz on how happy are you!

Keep smiling and the world smiles Back:

GIVING Do something for others.

RELATING Connect with people

EXERCISING Take care of your body

APPRECIATING Notice the world around you

TRYING OUT Keep trying new things

DIRECTION Have goals to look forward to

RESILIENCE  Find ways to bounce back from problems

EMOTION Take a positive approach

ACCEPTENCE Be comfortable with who you are

MEANING Be part of something bigger than yourself

 

I do hope this is worth passing on!

 

Greatness lies within everyone, it is birthed in the heart, grown in our dreams, but usually stays on life support after our friends and family assassinate it with their excuses Dough Firebaugh

 

Gray Lawrence 

The world Owes You Everything and nothing

Opportunity Knocks but no One is in!

Opportunity often knocks — only to find no one in.

There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle. Einstein

Every ceiling, when reached, becomes a floor, upon which one walks as a matter of course and prescriptive right. Aldous Huxley

Do not follow where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail. Harold R. McAlindon

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined. Henry David Thoreau

Every human is an artist. The dream of your life is to make beautiful art. Don Miguel Ruiz

I feel advice is always accepted by all who offer with the intended purpose of acceptance..
The world is filled with unfortunate souls who didn’t hear opportunity’s knock at the door because they were down at the convenience store buying lottery tickets. They have never learned that, as Branch Rickey, general manager of the Brooklyn Dodgers from 1942-50, once observed, “Luck is the residue of design.” You will be surprised how much your luck will improve when you make sure you are prepared to take advantage of opportunities. How many times have you had a great idea that you failed to act upon, only to discover later that someone used the same idea to start a business, get a promotion, or find a better job? Resolve now to get into action when you have a good idea. Don’t wait for something to happen — make it happen!    Napoleon Hill


I can offer you advice and brain storm with the famous! from their words that have been and will be around long after I have gone, as long as we try hard to understand them

Hindsight can be so clear.
It is easy to look back in our lives and think, "Wow, I should have seen that; I should have known that."
Hindsight has much clarity. Perhaps we could bring that clarity also to our foresight and our insight.
We have the ability for these different types of ‘sight.’ We do have hindsight. It helps us guide our direction now.
We can’t have foresight but we can feel the pull of spirit pulling us and choose the direction we will take.
We can also have insight so we pay attention to what is working in the deep, deep parts of ourselves.
Heading into this weekend, enjoy your hindsight, your foresight and have some insight.
To Your Sights, Mary Morrissey

"Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts." ~ Winston Churchill

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