“If you want to conquer fear, don’t sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”—Dale Carnegie
Practice these 10 steps everyday and you will live free from fear.
1. See the good in your life, stay focused on this. Write down what you appreciate about your day every night before bed. This will build your skills in seeing what you are grateful for and you will more readily see it during the following days. Keep this up until you feel a robust sense of your life and feel there is more to be grateful for than to be scared of.
2. Trust that you have the skills to can get through hard or difficult times. Fearing bad things happening and feeling that you will not survive them is a mark of anxiety. We have all gotten through hard times in the past. We now have greater skills to do it easier the next time. Take stock in your skills. Remember hard time are also opportunities to connect and hold onto what is truly important to us.
3. Don’t be afraid of the anxiety. Anxiety needs you to be afraid of it to have any power over you. As anxiety feels uncomfortable, we often do fear it. If we were to say. “Oh it is only anxiety, it will pass.” We would take the wind out of its sails and it wouldn’t come or be much less than if we were afraid.
4. Do something that makes you feel better. Recognize that you are taking action to help yourself instead of being a passive recipient to the anxiety. This will give you a sense of being in control than out of control.
For example: Look at the woven pattern in a piece of cloth. Focus closely on the breath going in and out of your nose. Listen to some music. Anxiety is worry about the future, and we could feel it so much we miss the present. Don’t miss you life being anxious. Stay in the here and now.
6. Remind yourself that anxiety is temporary. Panic attacks last for a short time. Most people know how long they last. Remember that you will get through it within the time frame you set in your mind. This might help you be less scared and then allow you to pass through it faster.
8. Connect with someone or something.
Anxiety breeds in isolation. Connecting with a family member, a friend, or a pet, can help you feel less alone and often brings us out of the panic. Have a sense that you are not alone in life and you will be less scared of it.
9. Remember anxiety cannot hurt, it just feels like it is. Anxiety might feel like a heart attack or that you will stop breathing, but it is just an experience of these things. Fear that you are dying increases the anxiety. Remember this is only ‘anxiety’ and it cannot hurt you.
Judging yourself. Anxiety often has us blaming ourselves for everything. This makes you feel lousy and increases anxiety. Let the judgments go, have compassion for yourself. See the good in yourself.
What other ways do you know or have experienced to live free from fear?
Most illness begins with a negative mind.
It’s been proven again and again. Hypochondriacs, people who are convinced that they are sick even though nothing is wrong with them, experience the exact symptoms of the actual illness. For them, the illness is just as real as if their bodies were ravaged by disease. It is also possible to make yourself ill through constant worry and fear of failure, because the mind constantly strives to turn into reality the things we think about most. Protect your mental health with the same care you give your physical body. Just as your body requires healthy, nourishing foods, and a balanced diet, so does your mind. Make sure you feed it plenty of positive thoughts. Napoleon Hill
To Your Vision of the future, lies within
"Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start." Nido Qubein