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Invest in yourself

A positive mental attitude is an irresistible force that knows no such thing as an immovable body.
Time and again we hear stories about ordinary people who do seemingly impossible things when they find themselves in an emergency situation. They perform Herculean feats of strength and endurance, things they never dreamed they were capable of doing. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you could harness that strength and make it available anytime you need it? You can — if you believe you can. No doubt you can remember a time in your life when you were exceptionally focused on your objective, a time when you achieved more in less time than ever before. Perhaps it was an impending vacation that motivated you to get everything done before you departed, or perhaps it was a “must pass” exam that helped you focus your concentration. The intensity that you developed in those situations is always available to you when you have a Positive Mental Attitude. – Napoleon Hill

 

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If you are interested in personal development it is important you commit to investing in yourself. No matter what it is you want to improve, no matter what you want to achieve, it will almost certainly require an investment or will be much better and be achieved much quicker with the right investment.

If this great man can do it so can you._thumb[10]Start by listing the areas of improvement to which you wish to commit. This can be in a very wide area, and I am not limiting myself at all to one particular niche. Have a look at my previous article about the Top Ten New Year Resolutions. All ten are perfectly acceptable self improvement goals, and you can probably add quite a few more to this list.

Take a look around and see what resources are out there which could help you make serious inroads on those improvements you desire. Examine them carefully. There are a lot of scams out there, but there are also a lot of diamonds if you look carefully enough. Try to find at least one for each of the areas on your list. Don’t worry at this stage about how much money they may cost. All that should concern you right now is whether you believe they will help you achieve your goals better or faster, or both.

Once you have come up with the list of investments you want to make in yourself and are reasonably comfortable that, at least for now, this is a fairly complete list, the next step is to work out how you will pay for them.

One problem many people have, though, is that after they have paid all their monthly bills there is no money left to invest in themselves.

What may surprise you, though, is that no matter how much you earn you will almost certainly still find there is no money left after paying the bills. How can this be?

Parkinson’s Second Law

The answer lies in Parkinson’s Second Law. You have probably heard his First Law – “work expands to fill the available time”. But perhaps you missed the Second Law – “expenditure rises to meet the available income”. Parkinson’s Second Law is often applied to bureaucracies and they way they can needlessly spend our money. But it is equally applicable to personal expenditure.

The corollary of Parkinson’s Second Law is that if you look carefully at your spending you will always find cuts you can make without impacting noticeably on your overall lifestyle.

Your first step should therefore be to examine your budget very carefully. Pretend you are a business which is not making profit. Step back and look at that business as if you were the finance director (or maybe the bank manager!). I think you will be surprised by some of the cuts you could make and still continue to enjoy life just as much.

Pay Yourself First

Once you have done this, regard yourself as your own primary creditor. You owe yourself a lot of money, so start paying it back.

Pay yourself first. Before you pay anyone else. Do not feel guilty about doing this. Every day of your adult life up to now you have paid everyone except yourself. Now it is your turn!

How much should you pay yourself? Well, that depends, of course. It depends on many factors. Not least of which is how much you managed to save off your budget – make sure at least half of this goes to you. Some coaches suggest it should be a minimum of 10% of your gross earnings. But again I stress this depends on your own circumstances and budget. Just don’t allow it to be whittled down to almost nothing!

Put it in savings and investments that you resolve not to touch except when investing in yourself.

Create a Second Income

Whether you work for someone else or have your own business you should consider ways of creating a second income. You can then reserve most of this new income to invest in yourself (well, the profit on it – as there will always be expenses).

One way you can do this is to set up an online marketing business. There are some major advantages of choosing this route rather than, for example, finding an additional part time job somewhere.

The first advantage is that you will be completely in control. You can invest as much or as little time as you like. As your business grows you may decide to give up your "day job" and spend all your working hours moving your internet business forward – but that is entirely up to you. There will be no boss looking over your shoulder telling you to speed things up or do things differently. Of course, you should also recognise this can be a disadvantage – you will need to have some good self-discipline to ensure you spend enough time doing the right things.

The second advantage is linked to the first. You do not have to work on specific days or at specific times. You can choose when to do this work. If you wake up in the middle of the night and cannot get back to sleep you can sit at the computer and do something to move your online business forward.

The third advantage is that once you have set up your business properly it will begin to generate profits for you even if you do not put a lot of effort in to grow it. You will need to continue doing some work in order to maintain it, so I do not believe it is correct to call it "passive income", but it should certainly generate you high profits for not a great deal of work as long as you have built it correctly.

Be aware, though, that as with any other business an online marketing business will require you to invest time and effort. Do not be misled by claims you will often see that suggest this is a miracle "instant millionaire" formula. It is not! You can certainly become very wealthy if you choose to do so, but this will not happen over night.

You will also probably find there will be a few false starts before you get your own formula right. Ideally you should take advice from an internet marketing coach who has been there and done that and who can stop you needing to re-invent the wheel yourself. This will not be cheap, but it will save you making costly mistakes and ultimately ensure you reach your goal faster if you choose the right coach.

Invest in Yourself

From The Secret Daily Teachings                                                             The fastest way to become the Master of your thoughts and emotions is through challenging situations. If your life is going along fairly smoothly, there are not the same opportunities that enable you to strengthen your power and become the Master of your thoughts and emotions.  You see, even challenges are beautiful opportunities in disguise.                                  May the joy be with you,  Rhonda Byrne The Secret… bringing joy to billions

Once you have started this habit of paying yourself first, and have perhaps additionally created your second income, start to invest with this money. Not in company shares. Not in bricks and mortar. You are going to invest in something far more valuable than that. You are going to invest in yourself.

Gray Lawrence

Success doesn’t come to you – you go to it. — Marva Collins

The time is always right to do what is right." Martin Luther King, Jr.

 

Be Inspired By Jacqui Blue

 

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"Anytime you blame others and complain about your situation, you are choosing to be a victim. By playing the victim role you are putting yourself in an ineffective and weak position. It is virtually impossible to allow incredible miracles to enter your life when you choose to remain in this negative mental state." Sonia Ricotti Author and Speaker

 

7 Steps to Be Inspired

Jacqui BlueIf I could share 500 words to inspire, this is the important wisdom I’d want to pass along to others…

1) Don’t be afraid to fail. In each of our failures there is a something to gain or learn from. Sometimes the simple lesson is in learning what not to do. What we often perceive as a “failure” is actually just a lesson that life is teaching us. Try a different approach.

2) Don’t be afraid to speak up and use your voice. Too often we hold back from saying what we really want to say or mean to say. Sometimes the biggest regrets we have are the things we never said to someone while they were still around to hear it.

3) It’s okay to feel your feelings. We’ve come to a stage in existence where we’re told that any display of genuine emotion makes us “weak” or “crazy”. The brute mentality of “feelings are lame” seems to have taken over. We must change this. Our feelings are what make us human. We are not robots and we shouldn’t be expected to act as such. If something makes you feel something inside – it’s okay to feel it. It’s okay to express it. Don’t let other people, the media or social media bully you into believing that your feelings are bad, dumb, crazy or wrong. Your feelings are valid and you are entitled to them. However, you are not entitled to act out in harmful ways towards yourself or others due to your feelings. If one is allowed to actually express and feel their feelings, the need for acting out will diminish.

4) Create art, play games, be silly and don’t take yourself too seriously. Learn how to laugh at yourself and realize that it’s okay to be wrong sometimes. You’re just human like everyone else and no one expects you to be perfect. No one really has it all together or figured out. Just when you think you do, life will prove you wrong. Everyone is just another someone making their way through this world.

5) Integrity means to do what’s right even when no one else is around to praise you or commend you for it. Own your words and and actions and take responsibility for what you do and say. Your words and actions will come to define your character.

6) When you love yourself and learn to be happy with who you are and what you have, everything else will fall into place because the Universe is one huge reflective mirror giving back to us what we’re showing of ourselves. It is neither good, nor bad. It just is and it responds in kind as a reflection. This is one of my personal secrets to happiness. I learned how to love and accept myself, flaws and all.

7) Express yourself. Be yourself. Live your life on your own terms. We are all reflections of each other and we are all sparks of the Universe experiencing itself subjectively. We are one. But there is only one version of you. You matter. So, don’t be afraid to take chances, say what you mean, feel your feelings, and live your life on your terms so long as you cause no harm to yourself or others.

"The greatest power we have is the power of choice. It’s an actual fact that if you’ve been moping in unhappiness, you can choose to be joyous instead and, by effort, lift yourself into joy. If you tend to be fearful, you can overcome that misery by choosing to have courage. Even in darkest grief you have a choice – The whole trend and quality of anyone’s life is determined in the long run by the choices that are made." Norman Vincent Peale

Gray Lawrence Your vision is in Your Mind

Seeking Tips on Personal Development

 

Develope your own compass and trust it

 

To seek out any or the best tips on how to organize personal development starts from within.  The field where one can search  is massive, and there are so many things you can do!

Try to begin with the end in mind.  I say “try” as the reality is none of us really knows where we will end up, and usually when you look back after many years of personal development you realize the journey has been quite different from what you initially envisaged.  But it is important at the outset at least to have a rough idea of what your goal may be.  Without knowing that you will not really know the direction you should be going, and without knowing the direction you will probably choose the wrong tools.  It would be a bit like starting on a journey, trying to follow a map, but not actually knowing where you want to go!  So spend some time thinking about what you want to become.  No limits.  Write down all your ideas as they come to you.  Then when you have enough written down try to feel which ones seem right for you.  This should help identify the right direction of travel for you.

When you are thinking about what you want to become, don’t be frightened of aiming for the stars.  We are all made of star dust anyway, so aim for those stars!

Change your mental attitude, and the world around you will change accordingly.
Your world will become what you choose to make it. You can reach great heights of success, or you can settle for a miserable life that is devoid of hope. The choice is yours. When you choose a positive course, you set in motion an unstoppable force that will allow you to have a fulfilling career, the love of your family and friends, good physical and mental health, and all of the other true riches of life. To change your world, you must change it from the inside out. You must begin with yourself. When you choose the course that puts your life on a positive track, you will change your life for the better, and you will also positively influence the people with whom you come in contact. Napoleon Hill

That’s for the big picture.  Long term, don’t accept any limitations.  There are no limitations.  Or, rather, the only limitations are the ones you create for yourself.

Now you know where you are headed, start to think about the steps you can take to move in that direction.  These can be very small steps.  In fact, they should be.  They are things you know you can achieve.  You probably have no idea how you are eventually going to reach your long term goal, but that doesn’t matter, as you will eventually reach it if you keep taking the right steps in that direction.

Keep an open mind.  You never know when the next opportunity is going to knock or which direction it will come from.  Often it is entirely unexpected.  Also opportunities will often appear and you will fail to spot them.  Do not be discouraged by this.  The more you open your mind, the more you get focused on what it is you want to achieve, the easier it will be to start spotting those opportunities.  You will certainly miss some, but that is not the end of the world as (contrary to what you may have read) similar opportunities will arise again.

Join groups of similarly minded people.  Ideally they will be people nearby, but this is not essential.  If there are no such groups near you then look for “virtual” groups on the internet.  Gain both encouragement and new ideas from the groups.  Ask others what tools they have used to achieve their results.  You will be surprised at how much information you can get and how helpful those new friends can be.

Do it now! Decide where you are going and how to get there. Then make a start from where you now stand. Napoleon Hill

The corollary is to avoid, where possible, people who try to discourage you and tell you that you will never achieve what you are trying to achieve.  There are many such people around, and they are really toxic.  You do not have to put up with this – just avoid them.

A lot of what you need will be available for free.  Take advantage of this.  You will be amazed at just how much good free information is out there.  If you really are going to improve your knowledge. 

What you will also find, though, is that as you start to develop in a particular direction you will probably have to start paying for further help.  View this not as a cost but as an investment.  The most important investment you will ever make – an investment in you, your future, and your happiness.  A recommendation is to  start keeping aside 10% of whatever you earn to use as an investment in yourself.  Remember it is only a recommendation, but if you wish to grow;  Start right now! Before you even know what you will need to invest in – put this money aside, hopefully earning a bit of interest, so it is ready to use when you need it.

“Success is not a destination: It is a journey. The happiest people I know are those who are busy working toward specific objectives. The most bored and miserable people I know are those who are drifting along with no worthwhile objectives in mind.” Zig Ziglar

Don’t get confused by the huge variety of material out there.  Often you will find very similar systems offered by different people and organizations, all promising to help you reach your goals.  As long as the system is good, just go with whichever feels right to you.  There are many paths to the same destination.  As for whether or not it is good, do some research first.  Or let someone prominent in the field search through everything and come up with selective recommendations.

Enjoy your journey.  Remember that you will never reach the end, as your goal will start to change as you begin the journey and well before you reach it you will find you have come up with more goals even further ahead.  So take pleasure from the journey itself – otherwise, what is the point?

The road to success

Finally, do not become discouraged.  I cannot promise you there will be no  setbacks.  That is simply a part of the rich tapestry of life.  Accept the setback, see what you can learn from it (that is very important!) and then move on.  If you adopt this attitude then even the setbacks can be regarded as an essential part of the great journey you are taking, as they teach you essential lessons.

Wherever your personal development journey is taking you, enjoy!

If you allow yourself to worry or hurry in what you are doing, this will not be clearly photographed upon the sensitized plate of the subjective mind, and you therefore will not be really conscious of your actions. – The book of the Power of Concentration

Gray Lawrence

Your vision is in Your Mind

 

Why we should be grateful “ALL OF US”

“Gratitude is a quality similar to electricity: it must be produced and discharged and used up in order to exist at all.” – William Faulkner

Why be grateful?

  It is very easy for us to restrict positive feelings and actions to certain seasons : Ramadan, Christmas etc. and then ignore them for the rest of the year.                                                The range of positive feelings and actions, including gratitude, at Christmas.  And some of my Muslim readers may do something similar during Ramadan.

Gratitude is not simply for Thanksgiving, Christmas, or Ramadan.  It should be something we all practice every day.

Why I ask this question “why be grateful?”, how did that make you feel?  I would expect many readers immediately to think of things for which they are very grateful, even if it is “only” for the gift of life.  But others may have felt something negative.  We all experience low periods in our lives at some point, and if I happened to catch you in a low point in your life you may have reacted by thinking of all the bad things that have happened to you recently.  You may be tempted to say something like “it’s all very well for you to tell me I should be grateful, but you don’t know what I am going through right now!”.  If that is you, let me say that you are quite right.  I do not know what you are going through, but I am really sorry you have to face it and I will hold you in the Light.  But also I can assure you that if you sit still, take a deep breath, and calm your mind you will find lots of things for which you should be grateful.  

“Happiness cannot be travelled to, owned, earned, or worn. It is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude.”           Denis Waitley

Assuming you have now identified the many things for which you should be grateful, let me ask you another question.  Why do you need to be grateful at all?  Why not just accept those things as your right and not bother to be grateful at all?

If you are at all religious you may simply say that God, or whatever else you may call the Supreme Being, requires this of you.

OK, that may be true, but I think it is also a bit of a cop out.  Is there any logical reason for being grateful, above and beyond what your religion may say?

There are many good reasons to express gratitude.

Firstly, if you express your gratitude out loud, to whoever deserves it, this can have tremendously positive results.  Positive feedback encourages the person who has done something good to do even more good.  Many people can then benefit from this, including perhaps yourself as well.  All for the small “cost” of saying thank you in a way that shows you genuinely mean it.  The world in which we live can be almost hell on earth or heaven on earth, often simply from the way people around us behave.  Your “thank you” to one of those people can be infectious, changing not only the way that person behaves but also the behaviour of the people around them too.  So the end result of your simple expression of gratitude could turn someone’s hell into heaven.

Secondly, whether or not you say “thank you” out loud, if you feel really grateful for something this will be noted by your subconscious.  Now that subconscious is a very powerful entity.  If it recognizes that you are grateful for something it will try to give you more of it.

From The Secret Daily Teachings To understand the power and the magic of gratitude, you have to experience it for yourself. So why not begin by deciding to find 100 things a day to be grateful for? If you practice gratitude every day it won’t take long before gratitude is your natural state of being, and when that happens you will have unlocked one of the greatest secrets to life.     May the joy be with you, Rhonda Byrne

Just think a little about this second reason.  Think about some of the things for which you are grateful.  How would you like to have even more?  Isn’t that a good feeling, knowing that all the good things you have in your life can keep growing and attract other, similar good things to you?

I encourage you to list all the things for which you should be grateful.  Try that now.  This should be a really long list.  If it is not, then there is something very wrong.  Now look at each item on the list and imagine having more of it or attracting to you something else that is very similar.  Then remind yourself that if you keep expressing gratitude for this thing, that is exactly what will happen.  Your life will get better and better.  Isn’t that a great reason to be grateful?

Try this today, right now!  Start expressing your gratitude and see what a difference it makes in your life!

 

Begin your day by feeling grateful. Be grateful for the bed you just slept in, the roof over your head, the carpet or floor under your feet, the running water, the soap, your shower, your toothbrush, your clothes, your shoes, the refrigerator that keeps your food cold, the car that you drive, your job, your friends. Be grateful for the stores that make it so easy to buy the things you need, the restaurants, the utilities, services, and electrical appliances that make your life effortless. Be grateful for the magazines and the books that you read. Be grateful for the chair that you sit on, and the pavement that you walk on. Be grateful for the weather, the sun, the sky, the birds, the trees, the grass, the rain, and the flowers. Thank you, thank you, thank you! May the joy be with you, Rhonda Byrne

Gray Lawrence

Life is The Sum of All Our Choices – Albert Camus

 

Words Of wisdom..

A positive course of Action with a Positive Attitude brings life. ~ Gray

Everything comes if a man will only wait. I have brought myself by long meditation to the conviction that a human being with a settled purpose must accomplish it, and that nothing can resist a will that will stake even existence for its fulfilment. Benjamin Disraeli

Trilogy of Wisdom

Three things to LOVE                        Courage ~ Gentleness ~Affectionateness

Three things to ADMIRE Intellectual Power                  ~ Dignity ~ Gracefulness

Three things to HATE Arrogance                                 ~ Cruelty ~ Ingratitude

Three things to DESPISE Meanness                                ~ Affectation ~ Envy

Three things to REVERENCE Religion                             ~ Justice ~ Self Denial

Three things to DELIGHT IN Beauty                            ~ Frankness ~ Freedom

Three things to WISH FOR Health                        ~ Friends ~ A Cheerful Spirit

Three things to PRAY FOR Faith                             ~ Peace ~ Purity of Heart

Three things to ESTEEM Wisdom                                ~ Prudence ~ Firmness

Three things to LIKE Cordiality                          ~ Good Humour ~ Mirthfulness

Three things to AVOID Idleness                        ~ Loquacity ~ Flippant Testing

Three things to SUSPECT Flattery           ~ Obsequiousness ~ Sudden affection

Three things to CULTIVATE Good Books             ~ Good Friends ~ Good Humour

Three things to CONTEND FOR   The Faith                        ~ Country ~ Friends

Three things to GOVERN The Tongue                               ~ Temper ~ Impulse

Three things to be PREPARED FOR  Change          ~ Decay~ Death

There are two kinds of people:
Those who say, “I will believe it when I see it.”
And those who say, “To see it, I know I must believe it.”                                  May the joy be with you, Rhonda Byrne

Your Vision of the future, lies from within
Gray Lawrence

The Greatest leaders of the world were men and women of quick decision -Napoleon Hill

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