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From The Secret Daily Teachings

If you make time to list all the things you are grateful for, and you feel the feelings of gratitude, you will feel amazing every day. Your frequency will be high and you will move through your days in love with being alive, bringing joy wherever you go, positively affecting one person after another. When you live a life like this, everything you want will come before you even ask. May the joy be with you, Rhonda Byrne
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bringing joy to billions

It seems we have proven our strength and growth again for customers and business builders..
Over 24,000 businesses competed in the European Business Awards 12 received category awards and Utility Warehouse were named European Public Champion!
We’re delighted to announce that Utility Warehouse has been named ‘European Public Champion’ in the highly prestigious European Business Awards. This completely independent programme has been established as the major accolade in European business, and recognises excellence, best practice, ethical conduct, innovation and financial success. The exclusive awards ceremony was held in London attended by business leaders, politicians and ambassadors from across Europe, where the best 13 businesses in Europe (from over 24,000 entrants) received their awards.
Adrian Tripp, CEO of the European Business Awards, said: "These brilliant businesses are the best of the best. They are adapting, innovating, achieving financial success and creating strong growth opportunities. Together they are forging a stronger business community in Europe and creating a better future for us all." This is truly a massive endorsement for our business and a great credit to the fantastic work we all put in each and every day.
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I’m an entrepreneur who is passionate about harnessing the power of personal development and using it to add value to all who seek personal development which leads to an incredible lifestyle.
It has always been my nature to share value and connect people whose talents provide a mutual benefit and then watching the magic unfold. Gray

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. Eleanor Roosevelt

Gray Lawrence Successful Networker

"Life is the sum of all your choices" Albert Camus

Successful Networker Words of Wisdom

 

 

A positive course of Action with a Positive Attitude brings life. ~ Gray

Everything comes if a man will only wait. I have brought myself by long meditation to the conviction that a human being with a settled purpose must accomplish it, and that nothing can resist a will that will stake even existence for its fulfilment. Benjamin Disraeli

Trilogy of Wisdom

Three things to LOVE                 Courage ~ Gentleness ~Affectionateness

Three things to ADMIRE              Intellectual Power ~ Dignity ~ Gracefulness

Three things to HATE                 Arrogance ~ Cruelty ~ Ingratitude

Three things to DESPISE             Meanness ~ Affectation ~ Envy

Three things to REVERENCE         Religion ~ Justice ~ Self Denial

Three things to DELIGHT IN         Beauty ~ Frankness ~ Freedom

Three things to WISH FOR           Health ~ Friends ~ A Cheerful Spirit

Three things to PRAY FOR            Faith ~ Peace ~ Purity of Heart

Three things to ESTEEM              Wisdom~ Prudence ~ Firmness

Three things to LIKE                   Cordiality ~ Good Humour ~ Mirthfulness

Three things to AVOID                 Idleness ~ Loquacity ~ Flippant Testing

Three things to SUSPECT             Flattery ~ Obsequiousness ~ Sudden affection

Three things to CULTIVATE          Good Books ~ Good Friends ~ Good Humour

Three things to CONTEND FOR      The Faith ~ Country ~ Friends

Three things to GOVERN              The Tongue ~ Temper ~ Impulse

Three things to be PREPARED FOR  Change ~ Decay ~ Death

There are two kinds of people: Those who say, “I will believe it when I see it.”  And those who say, “To see it, I know I must believe it.”

May the joy be with you, Rhonda Byrne

Your Vision of the future, lies from within
Gray Lawrence
Successful Networker

The Greatest leaders of the world were men and women of quick decision -Napoleon Hill

Natural Selling Lesson five The Power of Listening

"My idea of good company is the company of clever, well-informed people who have a great deal of conversation; that is what I call good company."  Jane Austen

“The Power of Listening is available to us all, only those who listen will gain great benefits in life, love personal & financial wealth . The decision is yours”   Gray Lawrence

The Power of Listening

Listening – The Most Important Skill You Can Learn

Principle 3. Listening to What is Being Meant, Not Just What is Being Said.

Ask yourself. Do you really listen to people? Do you really listen to and actually attempt to understand what they are saying and meaning without letting your own interpretations get in the way?

This is how most people listen. 45% of the time is spent doing what?

Working out what they’re going to say next!

Another 45% of the time is spent waiting for a gap in the conversation so that they can say it!!! Leaving only 10% of the time for actual listening!

So are we listening when we spend only 10 % of the time doing it?  No we’re not!

So what percentage of time must we listen?  100%!

To actually listen to, hear and understand what another person is saying, we must spend 100% of the time listening.

Now, you might ask, how do you listen 100% of the time without thinking?

Well, here are a few clues.

The Power of Your mind Head with detailsFirst, you can think 10 times faster than most people can talk.

If you know how the features of your solutions solve problems, you’ll hear what specific features are relevant and how to talk about them later as specific advantages and benefits.

It takes the guessing out of what to present and how to present it.

Imagine having all your features in lots of automatic drawers in your mind… just like your CD drawer in your computer… and having the correct ones automatically pop out based on what you hear a person wants.

Secondly, you don’t have to think about what you’re going to ask next, because;

1. You will know what questions to ask and when to ask them by learning from a powerful framework that is available to you in the Natural Selling Approach

2. What you’re going to ask is also found in the answers you get to your previous questions! It’s all there! It’s just that you have to listen to the answers to get the information

3. Stop re-interpreting what people say to you based on your own biases or life’s experiences, or your own judgments, prejudices and thoughts! All this does is get in your way of understanding. People don’t think what you think they think!

You’re thinking that they do can get in your way!

For example, have you ever had someone respond to a remark you made and it was totally out of context with what you meant, and you wondered where he or she was coming from? Well, it’s likely that the other person was interpreting what they thought you were talking about. Do you do the same thing to others?

If you don’t listen and are impatiently waiting to say what you want to say you’ll miss vital clues to help your potential partner or customer come to a logical conclusion to change.

Result? You’ll miss the mark and will meet resistance most of the time!

"Extend to each person, no matter how trivial the contact, all the care and kindness and understanding and love that you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again."  Og Mandino

Let’s look at this more closely. What do you normally listen for when people reply to your questions? Do you listen to what you want to hear with the intent to reply based on what you want to say? Or do you listen with the intent to understand where the other person is coming from and reply to them based on their own deep inner truth?

People Have Two Truths

For example, if you ask a person whether they like their job, or whether they like the skin care products they are presently taking, would you hope they would say no? In the Natural Selling Approach, it doesn’t matter what they answer, because people carry "Two truths". The Natural Selling Approach allows people to reveal both sides of their truths, and reveal which is the stronger.

The power of your positive action is a force greater than you can fathomHere is an illustration. If you ask someone if they like where they live they could reply Yes or No. If they said, "Yes", and you asked later, "If you could live anywhere else, where would that be?" and they gave another location, you will have discovered there is another truth to explore. One of those two "Truths" will ultimately reveal itself as stronger than the other.

If they replied "No" to the first question and were subsequently asked the same question about living somewhere else, again the real truth gets revealed.

Listening is such a powerful skill. If you learn how to listen to people you’ll find that they will immediately be attracted to you and most will want to listen to you. A large part of my book is spent demonstrating how you can do this.

You may find it useful to take a short test of your listening skills that I have devised. Click below. You might be surprised at the results!

Now you’ve covered some of the basics behind the importance of listening, let’s turn your attention to what you’re listening for. We’ll recap the

Principle:

Listening to What is Being Meant, not Just What is Being Said.

The two key words here are, said and meant.

Said is the logical or factual side of the problem solving equation. It comprises about 10% of the problem. Meant is the personal, feelings or subjective side… and it comprises the other 90%.

In The Natural Selling Approach what is important is to focus more on what is being meant. Why? Well, do people make changes based mostly on logic or feelings? Feelings! So that is the level you have most of your dialogues.

To illustrate this, think of someone saying they don’t have enough money.

Is that a fact or a feeling? It’s a fact! They might say it with feeling, but it’s still a fact.

So if you were to ask someone, "What one thing would make a difference in your life?", which is a logical question, and they said, "More money", which is a logical answer… and you then responded with your solution by saying, "I can show you how to do that"… you would be talking at a logical and factual level. And what response do you think you would get from most people?

Negative or positive? Mostly they will reject your idea.

The reason is that talking logically with people won’t help you very much to help them because you’re only addressing 10% of their problem if they have one!

If you want to be of help, find out what is underneath this problem called "lack of money". In other words, find out what is causing it, what it means to them personally and how they feel about it. Find out the meaning of what they say, not just what they are saying. You will find their answers are totally unique to them, and if you respond to their uniqueness as opposed to coming out with a canned presentation or script, you will automatically attract them to you.

"Facts belong to the world. Feelings belong to the individual".

If you ask without manipulation, most people will tell you.

It’s also where the relationship and the sale is. To be more precise, it’s where both of you can discover if there is a need and the depth of desire to do something about it.

So understanding how to listen and what to listen for and how to respond is vital in the Natural Selling Approach.

And when you understand what someone wants and why they want it…. you will be able to customize your solution and present it in such a precise way that it will mean something to the other person based on how they see things. Why will you be able to do this? Because they will have told you everything you need to know to make your winning presentation.

What are todays thoughts? think about what has been covered today before the next lesson.

Feeding Back What You Think You Heard!

Exercises:

Continue yesterdays exercise. Each time you have a conversation with someone today, turn it into a Dialogue. Focus simply on LISTENING to them!

As far as possible, don’t say anything yourself except to ask questions and keep the Dialogue moving along.

When in Dialogue, observe yourself and be aware of how often you have the urge to interrupt or finish the other person’s sentences for them! Ask yourself whether you’re really serving yourself (or the other person) by doing this!

Your success is your decision: these lessons are a guide, the rest is up to you….

 

If you can’t manage your own mental attitude, what makes you think you can manage others?

Why is it that often those who believe they would be the best managers of others – if they were only given the opportunity – haven’t learned to manage themselves properly? Before you can ever have any hope of managing others effectively, you must first learn to set an example for others to follow. It is simply impossible for you to inspire others to high levels of achievement if you cannot inspire yourself to do the same. Don’t make the mistake that many others make by saying, “When they make me a manager, I’ll show them I can manage.” The first move is yours. You must first prove yourself worthy.    Napoleon Hill

 

Gray Lawrence                      Successful Networker                                                                    Opportunities are never lost. . . . They are found by someone else!” – Mike Mc Donald

Be Inspired by Amethyst Wyldfyre

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"The greatest revolution in our generation is that of human beings, who by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives." Marilyn Ferguson

 

Savoring The Journey And The Destiny

If I could share 500 words to inspire, this is the important wisdom I’d want to pass along to others…

Amethyst WyldfyreOver the course of my lifetime there have been many dark moments – moments of trauma, drama, tragedy and un-clarity. In the depths of the dark night of the soul experiences that sometimes have lasted for several years I have found myself again and again on my knees in some way reaching out for support, guidance and a way home to peace and harmony.

  • I’ve been advised to stay focused on the journey -it’s about the journey and not the destination. I’ve been encouraged to focus on what’s good in the moment – truth is that there are moments where it’s a mighty task to focus on the good!

    I’ve also been guided to invoke the vision or dream of where I’m going – only focus attention and intention on what I’m creating and continue to work towards that goal with the understanding that whatever is happening in the moment is going to be juicy fodder for the manifestation of that ultimate destiny.

    I want to encourage you instead to focus on the AND – both the Journey AND the Destiny.

    The Journey for me is the place where we are receiving in the present moment all the information, guidance, gifts, blessings, experiences, lessons, and moments that make up the book of our life.

    The Destiny of course is the end game – the life WELL lived – the dreams manifested, the visions achieved. A life well lived is one where you have surrendered to being made love to by life itself – those tender moments of pleasure, those sharp piercing moments of pain, culminating in a climactic orgasmic experience that brings us to a state of pure bliss and unification with the Divine.

    Remember to breathe in the beauty.

    Remember to invoke your vision in those moments when it seems all is lost – that dream destination provides the motivation to keep moving forward through the darkest of days.

    Remember to harvest the golden nuggets of wisdom and truth from those challenging experiences on the journey.

    Remember to see each day at least one thing you can be grateful for – even if it’s just that you are breathing.

    Remember to create time and space for yourself – to disengage, notice and allow whatever is to be as it is and to examine what it is that YOU really want and how you want to spend your life force.

    Remember to look for the angels who will come along your path at the most unusual of moments to support, love and assist you when you least expect it and acknowledge and recognize their loving ministrations with gratitude.

    Remember to share your gifts with others and be an angel for those who are not quite as far along on the journey as you are.

    Remember to love life and let life make love to you – it’s an orgasmic experience if only you will truly surrender to it!

    Journey Joyfully – AND Enjoy the Destination.

  • "Thoughts are things; they have tremendous power. Thoughts of doubt and fear are pathways to failure. When you conquer negative attitudes of doubt and fear you conquer failure. Thoughts crystallize into habit and habit solidifies into circumstances." Brian Adams

     

    The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. Eleanor Roosevelt

    Gray Lawrence Successful Networker

    "Life is the sum of all your choices" Albert Camus

    Successful Networker Self Talk and Criticism

    First we make our attitudes. Then our attitudes make us.~ Denis Waitley

    Criticism can be very subtle in the way it creeps into our thoughts. Here are some examples of criticism to help you become aware of its subtlety, so you can eliminate it from your thoughts:

    The weather is awful today.
    The traffic is terrible.
    The service is really bad.
    Oh no, look at the line.
    He/she is always late.
    How long do we have to wait for our order?
    That motorist is a lunatic.
    It’s so hot in here.
    I’ve been on hold for so long!

    These are subtle things, but the law of attraction is listening to them all. You have the ability to appreciate something in every single circumstance. There is always something to be grateful for.

    May the joy be with you. The Secret  Rhonda Byrne

    There’s no more important criticism than self criticism.

    There’s no amount of external validation that can undo the constant drone of internal criticism.

    And negative self talk is hungry for external corroboration. One little voice in the ether that agrees with your internal critic is enough to put you in a tailspin.

    Don't let people upset you today it's not worth itThe remedy for negative self talk, then, is not the search for unanimous praise from the outside world. It’s a hopeless journey, and one that destroys the work, because you will water it down in fear of that outside critic that amplifies your internal one.

    The remedy is accurate and positive self talk. Endless amounts of it.

    Not delusional affirmations or silly metaphysical pronouncements about the universe. No, merely the reassertion of obvious truths, a mantra that drives away the nonsense the lizard brain is selling as truth. 

    You cannot reason with negative self talk or somehow persuade it that the world disagrees. All you can do is surround it with positive self talk, drown it out and overwhelm it with concrete building blocks of great work, the combination of expectation, obligation and possibility.

    When in doubt, tell yourself the truth.

    If you replace one negative thought with a positive one, you are going to feel great things begin to take shape. If you replace ALL of your negative thoughts… imagine the possibilities!"       Dr. Steve G. Jones

    A practical definition of reputation

    Reputation is what people expect us to do next. It’s their expectation of the quality and character of the next thing we produce or say or do.

    We control our actions (even when it feels like we don’t) and our actions over time (especially when we think no one is looking) earn our reputation.

    Do not worry at all about negative thoughts, and do not try to control them. All you have to do is begin to think good thoughts each day. Plant as many good thoughts as you can in each day. As you begin to think good thoughts you will attract more and more good thoughts, and eventually the good thoughts will wipe out the negative thoughts altogether.

    May the joy be with you, Rhonda Byrne

    The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. Eleanor Roosevelt

    Gray Lawrence Successful Networker

    "Life is the sum of all your choices" Albert Camus

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