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Be inspired Living In The Now By Eileen McDargh

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“It is not your job to worry about other people, what they do or why. It’s their journey, and they will get from life what they put into it. It is, however, your job to take full ownership of your own life, your journey, what you do and why. You, too, will reap what you sow. Plant your garden with seeds of love, and enjoy the bountiful harvest.” – Camille Lucy

You create your future with the power of your intention. Intention is simply the conscious act of determining your future now. Health, harmony in relationships, happiness, money, creativity, and love will come to you in the future, based on your intentions now. Intend every day and create your future life. May the joy be with you, Rhonda Byrne  The Secret

 

topics: Angels, Being Present, Goals, Learning

Eileen McDarghIf I could share 500 words to inspire, this is the important wisdom I’d want to pass along to others…

I’ve been called the “Woman of Independent Means.” Funny, but it seems to capture all the vigour and verve of self-sufficiency, achievement and hard core measurable goals which marked my passage and intentions upon entering the decade of the 90s. I determined to change the world, to make quantum leaps in financial gain, to publish and to produce. After all, 40 was upon me and time a’fleeting.

Now, closer to 60 than to 40, I realize that the better triumphs have not come from reaching these goals but in the shadows and nuances of missing them. When things have not gone as planned and I am forced to stop in pain and confusion, I learn and grow more. And I discover how very dependent we are upon an external world to help us see meaning and discover the deeper purpose behind the seemingly meaningless. It is impossible to truly be a “woman or man of independent means.”

I have discovered that for every beast in the wilderness, there are angels in attendance. Just at that point when I am whipping myself for failures, someone comes along to remind me of some difference I never knew I made. I was looking to “win them all”. The far greater impact came from “winning one”. When I’m feeling most unlovable, some angel appears to whisper in my ear. Yes, I am dependent upon my angels.

I have discovered that unspeakable moments of beauty abound when least expected. In a juvenile “shelter” for girls from the ages of 12-17, where street-smarts and supposed hard hearts conspire to create a short lifespan of crime, I found honesty, fear and a deep desire to be loved and to love. In the bewildered, child-like brain of a failing grandfather, I found humour and humanity. And in the frightening onslaught of a lightening and hail storm atop a 12,000-foot peak, I found a sliver moon behind the clouds. I am dependent upon the experience.

I have discovered that the road away from self-absorption is other-absorption. When I am throwing a pity party, the quickest cure is to help someone else. It can be as simple as telling the store clerk that she has beautiful eyes. It can be as time-consuming as sitting with a lonely widow and letting her recall stories of her past.. Truth be told, often I’d rather whine and complain. I am dependent upon the needs of others to move me out of myself.

I have also discovered that I like myself better as a human being rather than a human doing. Talking to roses can sometimes be better than speaking to thousands. Giving myself permission to “be” rather than “do” remains a daily struggle. I am dependent upon the tug of time.

And lastly, dear reader, I do not wish to go quietly into the next decade. I’ll admit to needing bifocals and oestrogen but I have no intention of aging. I’ll trade exercise for cheesecake and Chardonnay. I’ll forgo naps for too-late parties and choose time with my sweet spouse over a bursting bank account. I’ll arrange to throw my old self away, to moult the dry skin of complacency so I can discover what is new to be learned and experienced.

These are intentions, not goals. Some days I live intentionally– other days, unintentionally. We’ve all been in that knee-jerk, where-did-the day go mode. I need daily reminders to pay attention to what I intend to create: a life by design and not default. By realizing my dependency on life as my teacher, my greatest wisdom comes from just plain showing up today and living NOW. From NOW comes a day that is WON.

Eileen McDargh-Elvins

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. Eleanor Roosevelt

Gray Lawrence

"Life is the sum of all your choices" Albert Camus

Afraid of failure?

“If I had to live my life again, I’d make the same mistakes, only sooner.”—Tallulah Bankhead 

  Afraid of Failure? Read the following steps

Steps to Break Down Failure

Have you ever felt like a failure? I totally have. But I am not alone.

There is an epidemic of feelings of failure in any country and failure is so definitive. When you think you failed, there is not much wiggle room to be anything other than “a failure.” A horrible way to see yourself! This becomes a belief ingrained and tainting everything else we do and try. Here are four ways to break it down.

A. Lower Your Expectations

Failure is in relation to something. Usually some standard or expectation that was not met: I am not thin enough, pretty enough, smart enough. Having unreasonable expectations is more detrimental on our health than anything else. It brings in judgment, which compounds every other problem we already have.

When we have a feeling which is appropriate to the situation, and then we judge ourselves, then we worry! the problem becomes so much bigger and harder to recover from. Then, we berate ourselves for not recovering quickly with another layer of judgment. The original feeling is nothing compared to the complex mess and layers of our own judgement and fear.

Do not add them. Allow yourself to feel and do not worry, you can handle it. Be gentle and compassionate with yourself, lower those outrageous expectations! Instead of dwelling, do something. Seek a “Mentor with a Servant’s Heart”

  B. Know there is a point to trying

Past feelings of failure attempt to take away our point to trying to feel better or accomplish something. We get convinced that we will fail anyway. We assume trying hard will make us more disappointed when we do actually fail, and so we put less effort in in hopes to protect our heart. With less effort, we may actually not achieve our goal and we can say “See? I always fail. Good thing I did not try.”

The point is “Rarely is anything accomplished without trying” And if we try and don’t succeed, our heart actually feels better, not worse. We build confidence knowing that we did our best. We feel empowered because we can respond to things in life. This is giving in to your fears

  C. Notice your accomplishment

Simple. See the good in you instead of the bad. Focus on something else beside that one standard you missed. Have confidence in the efforts you did put forth. Notice other things you received from the process, a good example are  friends you’ve made along the journey and “ what you have  learned”  and how it made you grow. Remember all other accomplishments in your life. be positive

  D. Remember it is not over

We sometimes assume we failed too soon. Then we feel devastated and stop trying. If you are still alive, you could not have failed, since it is not over. Yes, your standards and expectation might change, but if you are still kicking, you cannot by definition be a failure. Readjust your expectations and try again ALWAYS -  Never Give up!!!

I think I can, I think I can, I think I can……. I can, I can!

 

Foot note for the winner in you.

Your dreams and desires to win are down to you and no one else… If no one is listening find those that will, live the life you desire with those that have trodden the path before.  Then teach those who sit in your wake.

Be the person you wish to be & leave negative in the slow lane.

When you realise you are a winner and find the next gear be ready for what awaits you.  Perhaps you are ready and now & looking for the opportunity to work for yourself  so you can help those less fortunate, with their own mental attitude, be the teacher & TEACH.  See the book available on “Are You Walking Past a Fortune

The road is paved with GOLD just open the right door in your mind and take the first step.  Gray

Study those who failed and failed again, then “WON” that came before you read the right books:  “The Secret & The Power” by Rhonda Byrne: Think & Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, to name but a few..

 

“The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing.”—Walt Disney

 

The Power is from within, the choice is yours
Gray Lawrence
Independent Distributor(UW)

"Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start." Nido Qubein

 

Forgiveness or No Forgiveness, The Choice is Yours

This wonderful message comes from Seth Godin.  A writer I love to hear from through his blogs. I have only added some PMA for an extra touch.

“Attitude is everything, young or old!”  Gray Lawrence

When access to information was limited we needed to load students with facts. Now, when we have no scarcity of facts, or the access to them, we need to load them up with understanding. Seth Godin

Has anyone ever said or done anything unforgivable to you? Something so awful you know you can never forgive them?

Probably this strikes a bell with most of my readers. It would certainly be rare to find someone who has never been mistreated, never misunderstood, never abused in one way or another. In some cases the abuse may have been particularly nasty. Something you would much rather forget, but find you cannot.

Does this person deserve your forgiveness? Probably not. Should you forgive them? Absolutely!

Why do I say this? If they don’t deserve your forgiveness, why should you forgive them? Am I trying to turn you into a saint or something?

No. I am not saying this to make you a “goody goody”. And I am certainly not suggesting you should allow anyone to take advantage of you. So why I am saying it?

The reason is that I believe you deserve to be free. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be able to do whatever you wish in life and not be weighed down carrying a load dumped on you by someone else.

If there is anyone you have not forgiven for what they have done or said to you this means you are allowing that person to control your life. You are giving them the ultimate victory over you. Is that what you want? If not, you simply have to find a way to forgive them.

Some of you may now be saying “it’s all very well for you to say that, but you don’t know how I have suffered! You cannot understand just how bad this was!”

I agree I cannot know what it is like to suffer in the way you may have suffered. To use a common Christian saying, we each have our own cross to bear. The one you are bearing may be far heavier than mine. But even though I cannot understand just how bad it was for you, what I do understand is that you are now carrying an unnecessary burden. Just like “Christian” in John Bunyan’s “Pilgrim’s Progress”. Christian was carrying a burden so heavy he could hardly move. So are you if there is someone you have not forgiven. Your happiness is marred because every so often you think of this unforgivable thing that was done to you and it spoils what would otherwise be a lovely moment in a lovely day. Why not simply throw that burden away? It is not stuck to you with superglue. You have chosen to carry it. Now you should choose to throw it away.

There may be others who will say “but there is nobody I haven’t forgiven! Nobody has done anything particularly bad to me!” If so, you are very fortunate! But I would suggest there are probably some slights, some grievances, some humiliations that your conscious mind has forgotten but are still bubbling away somewhere under the surface. You do not feel desperately unhappy, but because there are some unforgiving words and actions loitering in your unconscious mind what could be a really happy moment is, instead, just mildly pleasant. These unforgiving things are stopping you reaching your full potential. They are controlling you.

Would you like to free yourself of this burden? Great!

The first thing you must do is find all the actions and words you have not yet forgiven. Some may be easy to find. Others will be hiding under the surface. Sit quietly and let them come to you.

Now, for each unforgiving act or word find the person. Picture that person in your mind. Say to them “I forgive you”. At first you will probably feel silly. But don’t worry about that. Nobody is watching you. Nobody is laughing at you. This is something you are doing for yourself so you can be happier.

As you do this you will find a part of your mind will tell you that this person does not deserve your forgiveness. You can immediately dispel that thought by saying “they may not deserve it, but I am forgiving them for me, not for them!” This other part of your mind may say it was totally wrong of them to do this to you. Respond by saying “I am not the one who will judge them for it, and I am not asking them or anyone else to do this again to me, I am just letting go so this act no longer controls me. I forgive!”

If you are a Christian you should remember the phrase in the Lord’s Prayer “Forgive me my wrongdoings as I forgive those who have done wrong to me”? Whether or not you are a Christian this is a phrase I would like you to remember and use. When you forgive others you will find that forgiveness of yourself comes quite naturally too. But give it a helping hand anyway. Add your own wrongdoings now. See them clearly and then forgive yourself. As long as you have forgiven others you should find you are now able to forgive yourself. When you do you really should find you feel light and buoyant. You have let go of your burden.

Try to perform this act of forgiveness every day. I suggest you do it last thing at night before you go to sleep, as you should find your sleep will then be that much more refreshing. Try it, let go, don’t allow anyone to control you any more and see just how much difference this makes in your life!

I may add the following: should you the reader be the person to improve and or agree to what Seth wrote, may I be the first to congratulate you on being a good person..

Try to be like the turtle – at ease in your own shell. – Bill Copeland

Anything in life that we don’t accept will simply make trouble for us until we make peace with it. Shakti Gawain

Your Vision of the future, lies from within

Gray Lawrence

The greatest freedom is to be responsible. –Lazaris

“SKODA” Why Not Be Astounded and Surprised!!

Dreamers make Winners

A little different from my normal information but I am sure you will enjoy this, of course I hope it interests you enough to call my friendly sales department and Paul…If you are not in the area do visit your own sites where ever you live and let me know it boosts moral as much as your moral from seeking advice and making a purchase, Never be put off with the name, I was not!!!

“Set a goal to achieve something that is so big, so exhilarating that it excites you and scares you at the same time. It must be a goal that is so appealing, so much in line with your spiritual core, that you can’t get it out of your mind. If you do not get chills when you set a goal, your not setting big enough goals.” Bob Proctor

Dreamers make Winners

A SKODA  WHY NOT?

I have driven the smallest and fastest from the historical to modern date vehicles; sports cars, including a Rally Car to the luxury, A formula 1 and the modest of vehicles.

The army gave me the opportunity to drive and fly the toughest, most are basic but they saved my life more than once!! From: a 6 wheeled vehicle including the amphibious, a tank, 8 ton trucks and Gazelle Helicopter to being a co pilot in a Harrier Jump Jet!! Now they all serve a purpose to do a specific task and job, but basic in luxury. From all the vehicles I have driven or flown I have been thrilled and excited beyond belief, but when you wish to purchase a vehicle “You” have to decide and finance whatever you can afford and or fancy from the sexiest to the ridiculous; from comfort to just style and no space even for a computer bag!!.

If you Would like a little of everything, no flying of course; This includes very high standards in luxury and gadgets to tantalise anyone, with more than enough options and other gadgets to add, should you desire them.. Then look no further than “SKODA” YES I said “”SKODA”” I have been a customer for a very long time. Last year I had a desire to see more for my money and a better view I wanted space and of course luxury with gadgets. Well Why not! So I upgraded to a “SKODA YETI GREEN LINE” from my local dealership whom I will provide details for below. I will say this they are the best dealers I have come across in a very long time: the even respect you as a person as well as a customer or potential customer, Everyone gets the same treatment!!! From the minute you walk through the door; from the receptionists to the dealers and sales people, even the Management and mechanics say hallo (yes they are all human) the only thing that does not greet you with a smile is the desk! Now when you make a purchase make sure you go for the coffee machine even that has a lot of gadgets…

My Yeti yes it is a car not the “Abominable Snowman”, but I am sure he would have been pleased.. I now have: luxury & comfort , a great view all round, a boot that would satisfy anyone, Gadgets galore and a fantastic stereo/radio system that does everything but make the tea!! The interior is superb finishes are beautiful from the inside to the exterior I cannot get enough of it, and of course it is always cleaned to keep it smiling at the world showing off its prestige and beauty.. daft as it seems I even talk to it (now that even beats my old Saab 900) I have not left the best to the last as it is “all” the best but before you get in, turn on your senses and close your eyes (before you drive off of course) Now you see in your vision the colour you desire from the great colours schemes available, You smell the fabric or even leather, the cleanliness, and honest to god the feel of comfort luxury and safety with the feeling of the best security one can get (unless you buy a tank) are second to none as you think about YOUR new SKODA! NOW you can get in behind the wheel, open your eyes now see all you now own my god the all round vision is, FANTASTIC..Put they key in the ignition gloat at the beauty and unbelievable finish of the interior, as you put your hands around the perfect steering wheel feeling the lightness and power you are about to test. Now the safety and cleverness of Skoda start to kick in – you cannot just turn the key on and go, there is a nice surprise which even benefits the health and safety issues of all animals the planet and us humans, EFFICIENCY & ECONOMY. Well what do you expect from SKODA

I could go on forever but if I did it would stop you visiting and making a purchase of your dreams…Call them visit them asking for my personal sales person without a doubt he was great, this does not take away from the all of the other staff their professionalism excitement and helpfulness as soon as you walk through the door or call!

Remember Every Vehicle made is as perfect as mine!! You will not be disappointed, now the decision & choice is Yours!!

“Life is a sum of all our choices” Albert Camus.

Contact: Paul Miller Sales Executive Tele: 01522508650 Fax:01522686189 Email: paulmiller@dennishorton.co.uk Web: www.dennishorton.co.uk

HORTON SKODA Kingsley Road Lincolnfields Lincolnshire LN6 3SRS

“Remember you will not always win. Some days, the most resourceful individual will taste defeat. But there is, in this case, always tomorrow – after you have done your best to achieve success today. Maxwell Maltz 1899-1975

“You may never know what results come from your action. But if you do nothing, there will be no result.” Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi

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The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. Eleanor Roosevelt

Gray Lawrence

“Life is the sum of all your choices” Albert Camus

Dare to be different Stephen C Thomas

I have not changed the story but added PMA I hope you enjoy.

Attitude
Success comes to those who become success-conscious. Failure comes to those who indifferently allow themselves to become failure-conscious. – Napoleon Hill

Do you want a life change, but you also want to be like everybody else? I am here to tell you that I don’t think it will work very well. If you want true life change, you have to dare to be different.

People will think I’m weird!

They might. One of the things that stops most people from changing their lives is that they are afraid someone will make fun of them, criticize them. It is a possibility, but probably not as big as you think. Many people will admire you for having the courage to be different.

When I was in high school, I remember a new kid coming to school in our senior year, a time when it was most important to fit in. John was a strange kid. He didn’t really fit into any of the cliques and he was friendly to everyone. He made no attempt to change who he was in order to fit in.

Just about everyone admired and liked John. Several people started acting like him. He became one of the most popular kids in school.

Some people might think you are weird, but many will admire you and wish they had the nerve to be different.

You might. Your friends might think that you have gone over to the dark side or something. They might think that you have started taking drugs or that you have become mentally unstable. Most likely, they will be intimidated by your change and your courage to be different. They may make noises like they think you are strange, but in reality, they will be jealous.

The question I have for you is this. Do you want to disappear into who your friends think you should be, or do you want to be the person you long to be, dream of being? If these are really your friends they will understand.

I won’t know how to act!

Who cares? You are doing this so that you can change your life, change who you are. You are not doing it so that you can remain the same. It will take some getting used to, but you will find your way.

Learning to be the new you, the one who dares to be different, may take some time, but you will find that if you accept it, it will soon become fun. You will find new ways of being, new ways of behaving that are more fun than the old ways.

Why not start now?
I will lose all my friends

Why wait? Why not start being different now, right now. Be the person you always wanted to be. Change your life to what you know you should be; what you are created to be. Dare to be different! Dare to change your life. Dare to live the life you want!

About the author:

Stephen C Thomas is a minister, spiritual guide, speaker, motivator, yoga and meditation instructor, Reiki practitioner, and writer. His purpose in life is to help people create the life they were meant to have. Life change is possible!

Life Change for You is a web site designed to help you change your life. If life change is something you want, if learning about positive thinking and creating your life interest you, you can visit Stephen at http://lifechangeforu.com/

 

Before trying to master others, be sure you are the master of yourself.
When you develop a Positive Mental Attitude, you immediately set yourself apart from the crowd. You become a leader because positive thinking leads to positive action, while negative thinking leads to apathy and inaction. When you take the initiative in any situation, others will follow simply because they like to associate with people who know where they are going. In order to lead, however, you must first be willing to discipline yourself. The first rule of leadership is never to ask others to do what you are unwilling to do yourself. You can lead only by example. Being a leader requires you to work harder and longer than the others and proving you are the master of your own destiny. – Napoleon Hill

The Power is from within, the choice is yours
Gray Lawrence
UW Independent Distributor

"Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start." Nido Qubein

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