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There are times when one can help others for free. this is one.

 

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http://www.clubwebsite.co.uk/birchwoodcoltsjfc/Home

A local chap runs the children’s foot ball teams and here in Lincoln they get some support rom the Lincoln  foot Ball Club but not a lot.  I am opening up to all that are interested in the growth of our young ones, it is my idea to put this information out as I am not a millionaire and help when and where I can, thank you for reading this..

This is the email I have forwarded to you from cliff Penning

If you can offer any help advice or anything at all especially sponsorship we would all be grateful Especially the kids..

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Subject: Birchwood Colts JFC
Hi Gray

It was nice chatting with you today.  A brief Club history is attached, which is also on our club website http://www.clubwebsite.co.uk/birchwoodcoltsjfc/Home.  We are always looking for sponsorship for playing kits, hoodies, waterproofs and equipment for our teams. The team plays in the Mid Lincs Youth League and in the summer the team also enters various five a side competitions, which will take them            (and their sponsors logo) all over Lincolnshire and into parts of Nottinghamshire. The sponsored sportswear will usually last for between 2 to 3 years. Sponsors will also be promoted on our club website with links to the sponsors own web page.

We are exploring other options for sponsorship including match balls with sponsors logos on for all our teams home games and sponsors banners on the goal nets.

If you know of any companies who might be interested or you need any further information, please feel free to contact me.

Kind Regards    Cliff Penning   C.C. Penning   Club Secretary  Birchwood Colts JFC

01522 879322  07712045932

 

Be aware of the big difference between inspired action and activity. Activity comes from the brain-mind and is rooted in disbelief and lack of faith – you are taking action to "make" your desire happen. Inspired action is allowing the law to work through you and to move you. Activity feels hard. Inspired action feels wonderful. May the joy be with you, Rhonda Byrne

 

The power is from within, we have choices to make for us to grow by our actions Personal  Growth is by setting goals  and the power to change someone’s life .   Todays challenges are tomorrow’s strengths  Gray

 

Gray Lawrence 

The world Owes You Everything and nothing

A Personal Poem

A quote is like a lamp it flings its light over the whole sentence

 

The Personal Poem

To laugh is to risk appearing a fool

To weep is to risk appearing sentimental

To reach out to another is to risk involvement

To expose your feelings is to risk rejection

To place your dreams before a crowd is to risk ridicule

To love is to risk not being loved in return

To go forward is to face the overwhelming odds is to risk failure

Risks must be taken because the greatest risk of all is to risk nothing

The person who risks nothing does nothing has nothing and is nothing

He may avoid suffering and Sorrow but he cannot learn and cannot feel, cannot change, cannot grow and cannot laugh

Chained by his virtues he is a slave

A person who risks is truly FREE

Your Vision of the future, lies from within
Gray Lawrence

The Greatest leaders of the world were men and women of quick decision -Napoleon Hill

The Personal Poem

To find what you seek in the road of life, the best proverb of all is that which says: Leave no stone unturned." Edward Bulwer Lytton

The Personal Poem

We all need someone & something, look within yourself are you that person?

To laugh is to risk appearing a fool To weep is to risk appearing sentimental To reach out to another is to risk involvement To expose your feelings is to risk rejection To place your dreams before a crowd is to risk ridicule
To love is to risk not being loved in return To go forward is to face the overwhelming odds is to risk failure
Risks must be taken because the greatest risk of all is to risk nothing The person who risks nothing does nothing has nothing and is nothing He may avoid suffering and Sorrow but he cannot learn and cannot feel, cannot change, cannot grow and cannot laugh Chained by his virtues he is a slave A person who risks is truly FREE

Champions aren’t made in the gyms. Champions are made from something they have deep inside them – a desire, a dream, a vision. Muhammad Ali

Gray Lawrence

"Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start." Nido Qubein

Your Vision of the future, lies from within

Forgiveness or No Forgiveness, The Choice is Yours

This wonderful message comes from Seth Godin.  A writer I love to hear from through his blogs. I have only added some PMA for an extra touch.

“Attitude is everything, young or old!”  Gray Lawrence

When access to information was limited we needed to load students with facts. Now, when we have no scarcity of facts, or the access to them, we need to load them up with understanding. Seth Godin

Has anyone ever said or done anything unforgivable to you? Something so awful you know you can never forgive them?

Probably this strikes a bell with most of my readers. It would certainly be rare to find someone who has never been mistreated, never misunderstood, never abused in one way or another. In some cases the abuse may have been particularly nasty. Something you would much rather forget, but find you cannot.

Does this person deserve your forgiveness? Probably not. Should you forgive them? Absolutely!

Why do I say this? If they don’t deserve your forgiveness, why should you forgive them? Am I trying to turn you into a saint or something?

No. I am not saying this to make you a “goody goody”. And I am certainly not suggesting you should allow anyone to take advantage of you. So why I am saying it?

The reason is that I believe you deserve to be free. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be able to do whatever you wish in life and not be weighed down carrying a load dumped on you by someone else.

If there is anyone you have not forgiven for what they have done or said to you this means you are allowing that person to control your life. You are giving them the ultimate victory over you. Is that what you want? If not, you simply have to find a way to forgive them.

Some of you may now be saying “it’s all very well for you to say that, but you don’t know how I have suffered! You cannot understand just how bad this was!”

I agree I cannot know what it is like to suffer in the way you may have suffered. To use a common Christian saying, we each have our own cross to bear. The one you are bearing may be far heavier than mine. But even though I cannot understand just how bad it was for you, what I do understand is that you are now carrying an unnecessary burden. Just like “Christian” in John Bunyan’s “Pilgrim’s Progress”. Christian was carrying a burden so heavy he could hardly move. So are you if there is someone you have not forgiven. Your happiness is marred because every so often you think of this unforgivable thing that was done to you and it spoils what would otherwise be a lovely moment in a lovely day. Why not simply throw that burden away? It is not stuck to you with superglue. You have chosen to carry it. Now you should choose to throw it away.

There may be others who will say “but there is nobody I haven’t forgiven! Nobody has done anything particularly bad to me!” If so, you are very fortunate! But I would suggest there are probably some slights, some grievances, some humiliations that your conscious mind has forgotten but are still bubbling away somewhere under the surface. You do not feel desperately unhappy, but because there are some unforgiving words and actions loitering in your unconscious mind what could be a really happy moment is, instead, just mildly pleasant. These unforgiving things are stopping you reaching your full potential. They are controlling you.

Would you like to free yourself of this burden? Great!

The first thing you must do is find all the actions and words you have not yet forgiven. Some may be easy to find. Others will be hiding under the surface. Sit quietly and let them come to you.

Now, for each unforgiving act or word find the person. Picture that person in your mind. Say to them “I forgive you”. At first you will probably feel silly. But don’t worry about that. Nobody is watching you. Nobody is laughing at you. This is something you are doing for yourself so you can be happier.

As you do this you will find a part of your mind will tell you that this person does not deserve your forgiveness. You can immediately dispel that thought by saying “they may not deserve it, but I am forgiving them for me, not for them!” This other part of your mind may say it was totally wrong of them to do this to you. Respond by saying “I am not the one who will judge them for it, and I am not asking them or anyone else to do this again to me, I am just letting go so this act no longer controls me. I forgive!”

If you are a Christian you should remember the phrase in the Lord’s Prayer “Forgive me my wrongdoings as I forgive those who have done wrong to me”? Whether or not you are a Christian this is a phrase I would like you to remember and use. When you forgive others you will find that forgiveness of yourself comes quite naturally too. But give it a helping hand anyway. Add your own wrongdoings now. See them clearly and then forgive yourself. As long as you have forgiven others you should find you are now able to forgive yourself. When you do you really should find you feel light and buoyant. You have let go of your burden.

Try to perform this act of forgiveness every day. I suggest you do it last thing at night before you go to sleep, as you should find your sleep will then be that much more refreshing. Try it, let go, don’t allow anyone to control you any more and see just how much difference this makes in your life!

I may add the following: should you the reader be the person to improve and or agree to what Seth wrote, may I be the first to congratulate you on being a good person..

Try to be like the turtle – at ease in your own shell. – Bill Copeland

Anything in life that we don’t accept will simply make trouble for us until we make peace with it. Shakti Gawain

Your Vision of the future, lies from within

Gray Lawrence

The greatest freedom is to be responsible. –Lazaris

“Inspiration” An Ideal World by Deepak Chopra

Deepak Chopra, co-founder of the Chopra Foundation and author of Spiritual Solutions: Answers to Life’s Greatest Challenges, reveals how to find our inner strength.

In an ideal world, the title of this article would be “5 Ways to Feel More Powerful.” But as things stand, many people feel powerless, and the social trends that drain personal power only grow stronger. Whether you struggle due to the recession, a controlling spouse, or the anonymity of routine work, it’s crucial to find a way to limit that feeling in your day-to-day life.
Before talking about power, let’s clarify what power isn’t. It isn’t a force that you use like a weapon to get your own way. It isn’t a suppression of what you don’t like about yourself to achieve a perfect ideal that doesn’t exist in the first place. It isn’t money, status, possessions, or any other material surrogate. There are countless people sitting in the lap of luxury who feel even more powerless than the average person does. This is so because the issues of power are all “in here,” where you relate to yourself. Now we can address the five things that help conquer that feeling of powerlessness.


1. Stop giving away your power.
Becoming powerless doesn’t happen in a single dramatic stroke, like the barbarian hordes breaking down your door and burning your house. It’s a process, and for most people, the process is so gradual that they don’t notice it. They are more than happy, in fact, to give away their power by degrees. Why? Because being powerless seems like an easy way to be popular, accepted, and protected.
Thus you are giving away your power when you please others in order to fit in. Or when you follow the opinions of the crowd. Or when you decide that others matter more than you do. Or when you let someone who seems to have more power take charge of you.
It can often seem right—or proper—to sit modestly in the background, holding accepted opinions, living for your children, or letting a controlling spouse run roughshod over you in order to keep the peace. In small and large ways, however, these kinds of decisions reduce your sense of self-worth, and without self-worth, you cannot rid yourself of your powerlessness.


2. Examine why it’s “good” to be a victim.
Once you start chipping away at your self-worth, it’s a short step to becoming a victim. I define being a victim as engaging in “selfless pain.” In other words, by telling yourself that you don’t really count, you can make the suffering you endure into a kind of virtue, as all martyrs do. It’s “good” when you serve a higher spiritual purpose—or so some religion suggest but what if there is no higher purpose?
Most victims feel good about worrying all the time, but worry makes you far more vulnerable to bad things in general, since worry is so all-consuming that the mind isn’t free and alert enough to tell real threats from imaginary ones. Worry feels like a protection—when it is exactly the opposite.
Victims find lots of other “good” reasons for their plight. They are forgiving of an abusive spouse, because forgiveness is considered spiritual. They enable an addict, because tolerance and acceptance of others is equally spiritual. But if you stand back, you’ll see that victims in such situations are deliberately bringing suffering upon themselves, which not only confirms their powerlessness, it encourages it to grow and grow. The victim is always being acted upon. There are enough abusers, addicts, rage-alcoholics, control freaks, and petty tyrants out there to drain the power from anyone who volunteers to play the role of victim.
Having given away too much of themselves, the first step for victims is to realize that their role is voluntary. They are not trapped by fate, destiny, or the will of God. Their role is a personal choice, and they can chose differently.

 

3. Develop your core self.
‘ ‘Human beings are the only creatures who do not mature automatically. A baby chick has no choice but to turn into a chicken. But the world is full of people stuck in childhood and adolescence, no matter how old they happen to be. For us, to mature is a decision: Adulthood is an achievement, one that requires—and results in—personal power.
This can takes decades, but it starts with a vision of the “core self.” This is the part of you that connects to reality, placing you at the centre of experiences that you personally create. To have a core self is to be the author of your own story; it is the exact opposite of being a victim, who must live a life authored by others.

4. Align yourself with the flow of evolution, or personal growth.
Once you establish your core self as a goal, your path will unfold and you will evolve. This evolution is wobbly at first; everyone has at least some elements of ignorance and immaturity. But’ ‘thanks to free will, you can help guide your own evolution. The simple fact is that we all desire more and better things for ourselves. If those more and better things are good for our growth, then we are guiding our own positive and powerful evolution. In India they make a distinction between dharma and adharma. Dharma includes whatever naturally upholds life: happiness, truth, duty, virtue, wonder, worship, reverence, appreciation, nonviolence, love, self-respect. On the other hand, adharma consists of choices that do not support life naturally: anger, violence, fear, control, dogmatism, scepticism, unvirtuous acts, prejudice, addiction, intolerance, and unconsciousness in general.
For our purposes, dharma is the ultimate power. It easily supports you, a single individual. What is asked of you is that you honestly look at your everyday life and the choices you are making. Ask yourself how to increase the dharmic choices and decrease the adharmic ones.

5. Trust in a power that transcends everyday reality.
Nothing described so far will come true without a higher reality. For the moment, let’s leave aside religion and any reference to God. Fortunately, to have even a speck of consciousness is to be connected to the finite consciousness that supports life, evolution, creativity, and intelligence. None of these things are accidental or a privilege handed out to the lucky few.
To use a metaphor, imagine that you are caught in a net. All nets have holes, so find one, and jump through it. I’ve known wives of abusive husbands who found a hole through, say, learning to paint. For them, it was an escape route, and as they made art, their thinking changed from “I am trapped and can do nothing” to “I must be worth more than I imagined, because look at this beautiful thing I created.” Escape routes exist along the qualities hidden in consciousness. They include:
Creativity. Go beyond by discovery and exploration. This leads to insight. Your inner vision clears. You start to see glimmers of light through the fog of your situation. Something more beautiful starts to attract you, and you want to go toward it.
Intelligence. Let your mind lead the way. You start having newer, more exciting thoughts than the old habitual ones you’ve been following. Beliefs are challenged. New points of view attract you, so you move toward them. You’ll want to expand your mind in place of living behind defences and boundaries.
Love and compassion. Discover that you can forgive yourself and others. Fantasies of hurt and revenge are replaced with emotional softening. You see that there is untapped love around you, so you move toward it. The fact that you desire to love and be loved starts to motivate you, without excuses about being unworthy.
Quantum leaps. Notice—and learn—when you have an epiphany, a moment of dramatic awakening. These are the great “aha” experiences that peel away an entire layer of reality. We say that the heavens open, but really it’s a new level of consciousness, one that brings more light.
Devotion. Understand that life is full of awe and wonder. From this you see a reason to revere your own existence. You have been placed in a world where you can be devoted to something, and your worship gives you a sense of worth.
These escape routes all lead back to the person you really are, and that person know that what really counts extends far beyond the individual: the glory of creation, the beauty of nature, the heart qualities of love and compassion, the mental power to discover new things, and those unexpected epiphanies that bring the presence of God—these universal aspects are your true source of power. They are you, and you are all of them.

“Just like you are in charge of your thoughts and emotions, you are in charge of your visual field and imagination. Use it to help create positive thoughts and send positive vibrations to the universe.” Frank Mangano

“Envisioning the things you want is a hugely important step to take in order to attract whatever it is that you want.” Dr. Steve G. Jones

“At the core of your actions is your well-being. Everything that you do is to improve your well-being.” Frank Mangano

“You must focus on treating yourself with respect and loving yourself and the universe will give love and respect back to you in many various forms and experiences.” Frank Mangano

“Whatever we are waiting for (peace of mind, contentment, grace, the inner awareness of simple abundance), it will surely come to us, but only when we are ready to receive it with an open and grateful heart.” Sarah Ban Breathnach

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