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Afraid of failure?

 

“If I had to live my life again, I’d make the same mistakes, only sooner.”—Tallulah Bankhead 

 

Afraid of Failure? Read the following steps

Steps to Break Down Failure

Have you ever felt like a failure? I totally have. But I am not alone.

There is an epidemic of feelings of failure in any country and failure is so definitive. When you think you failed, there is not much wiggle room to be anything other than “a failure.” A horrible way to see yourself! This becomes a belief ingrained and tainting everything else we do and try. Here are four ways to break it down.

A. Lower Your Expectations

Failure is in relation to something. Usually some standard or expectation that was not met: I am not thin enough, pretty enough, smart enough. Having unreasonable expectations is more detrimental on our health than anything else. It brings in judgment, which compounds every other problem we already have.

When we have a feeling which is appropriate to the situation, and then we judge ourselves, then we worry! the problem becomes so much bigger and harder to recover from. Then, we berate ourselves for not recovering quickly with another layer of judgment. The original feeling is nothing compared to the complex mess and layers of our own judgement and fear.

Do not add them. Allow yourself to feel and do not worry, you can handle it. Be gentle and compassionate with yourself, lower those outrageous expectations! Instead of dwelling, do something. Seek a “Mentor with a Servant’s Heart”

 

B. Know there is a point to trying

Past feelings of failure attempt to take away our point to trying to feel better or accomplish something. We get convinced that we will fail anyway. We assume trying hard will make us more disappointed when we do actually fail, and so we put less effort in in hopes to protect our heart. With less effort, we may actually not achieve our goal and we can say “See? I always fail. Good thing I did not try.”

The point is “Rarely is anything accomplished without trying” And if we try and don’t succeed, our heart actually feels better, not worse. We build confidence knowing that we did our best. We feel empowered because we can respond to things in life. This is giving in to your fears

 

C. Notice your accomplishment

Simple. See the good in you instead of the bad. Focus on something else beside that one standard you missed. Have confidence in the efforts you did put forth. Notice other things you received from the process, a good example are  friends you’ve made along the journey and “ what you have  learned”  and how it made you grow. Remember all other accomplishments in your life. be positive

 

D. Remember it is not over

We sometimes assume we failed too soon. Then we feel devastated and stop trying. If you are still alive, you could not have failed, since it is not over. Yes, your standards and expectation might change, but if you are still kicking, you cannot by definition be a failure. Readjust your expectations and try again ALWAYS -  Never Give up!!!

I think I can, I think I can, I think I can……. I can, I can!

 

Foot note for the winner in you.

Your dreams and desires to win are down to you and no one else… If no one is listening find those that will, live the life you desire with those that have trodden the path before.  Then teach those who sit in your wake.

Be the person you wish to be & leave negative in the slow lane.

When you realise you are a winner and find the next gear be ready for what awaits you.  Perhaps you are ready and now & looking for the opportunity to work for yourself  so you can help those less fortunate, with their own mental attitude, be the teacher & TEACH. 

The road is paved with GOLD just open the right door in your mind and take the first step.  Gray

Study those who failed and failed again, then “WON” that came before you read the right books:  “The Secret & The Power” by Rhonda Byrne: Think & Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, to name but a few..

  I was never afraid of failure only the lack of trying  Gray

“The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing.”—Walt Disney

 

The world Owes You Everything and nothing but your goal’s are your own decision Believe in your self – Gray Lawrence

Winning in life is more than just money; it is about winning on the inside and knowing that you have played the game of life with all you had, and then some!   Gray Lawrence 

Be Inspired by Ronald Kaufman

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Creating Your Success Self-Concept

Ronald KaufmanIf I could share 500 words to inspire, this is the important wisdom I’d want to pass along to others…

Some of the things I would suggest are to work on your self-esteem, take care of your health, and to give to others.

Too many people have low self-esteem and it can impact all of us. People tend to behave in alignment with their self-concept or their beliefs about themselves and who they are. So here’s what I suggest: create a success self-concept for yourself. When you are the success you wish to be, based on how you define success, what would your behavior say is true of you in terms of your traits, qualities, and characteristics?

Would it say that you are kind, caring, honest, hardworking, accepting, patient, giving, trustworthy, fun, dependable, responsible, respectful, enthusiastic, forgiving, appreciative, inspiring, understanding, empathetic, attentive, cheerful, fair, friendly, polite, nurturing, loyal, positive, cooperative, loving, etc.?

Based on your behavior, what would people be saying about you behind your back? What do you want them to be saying about you?

Use your success self-concept to act as a beacon and guide for your choices, decisions, and actions. Staying true to this will contribute to feeling good about yourself and to continuing to engage in these same behaviors.

Positive self-esteem will also support choosing to live a healthy lifestyle. A key is to eat real food, period! If it’s processed and altered, stop eating it. Notice how your mind and body respond to what you eat. Does a food or drink drain your energy, does it make your thinking foggy, does it raise your pulse? If so, it’s telling you that it’s negative for your well-being.

When I have a taste of chips, pie, ice cream, cookies, french fries, or cheesecake, I crave more. Not want more, crave! These things are brilliantly manufactured to increase our appetite for them. When I eat an apple, pear, or grapefruit, it takes very little to satisfy me. Only have real foods available to you to satisfy your hunger, as well as filtered water.

And as you know, getting physical is essential to being healthy. Pick activities you enjoy, whether it’s walking, dancing, tennis, gardening, yoga, weightlifting, etc. The body is one of those “use it or lose it” situations.

Someone once said, “He who enriches others, enriches himself”. In my experience, one of the best things we can do for ourselves is to give to others, to be of service to others, to create a positive moment for others.

It can be as simple as a smile, a kind word, listening without judgment, offering to help with something, letting someone in front of you in line, sending useful information, or calling just to say hi. Be on the lookout for opportunities to make a positive difference for others to maintain a positive state of being for yourself.

To paraphrase Ralph Waldo Emerson, success is “to find the best in others; to leave the world a better place, … to know even one life has lived easier because you lived.”

“One of the most magical facts about the universe is that there are no human duplicates. There never has been, nor will there be, another person like myself or any one else.” – Dorothea McArthur

“Lead by example. The best way to inspire those you care about to lead healthy lives is by leading one yourself. Begin today.”  – Giovanni Bisanti

Gray Lawrence

Life is The Sum of All Our Choices – Albert Camus

Successful Networker Customer Types you chose!

From The Secret Daily Teachings

Your job is you and only you. When you are working in harmony with the law, no-one can come between you and the Universe. However if you think another person can get in the way of what you want, then you have done a flip to the negative. Focus on creating what you want.   You are the centre of divine operation in your life, and your partner is the Universe. No one can get in the way of your creation.   May the joy be with you,

Rhonda Byrne

Do you want customers OR: Donors, Backers, Voters, or actual Members who are:

  • Litigious
  • Price shoppers
  • Loyal
  • Bureaucratic
  • Demonstrative
  • Followers
  • Leaders
  • Luxury-focused
  • Skittish
  • Trusting
  • Bottom fishers
  • Eager
  • Confident
  • Easily amused
  • Uncomfortable talking about money
  • Part of the crowd
  • Afraid
  • Outliers
  • Desperate
  • Rich
  • Easily distracted
  • Secretive
  • Joyful

 

"As long as you keep a person down, some part of you has to be down there to hold him down, so it means you cannot soar as you otherwise might." arian Anderson 1902-1993,

Be somebody who makes everyone feel like a somebodyHere are the things: you get what you reward. You attract the customers that respond to the way you act. You end up with what you tolerate. You build what your audience demands.

You might not get the customers you deserve, but you will probably end up with the customers you attract.

Sure, you can swoop in and make the numbers by attracting a certain kind of customer. Is it worth it?            “ Choose.” 

Start your first business this way: Begin with the smallest possible project in which someone will pay you money to solve a problem they know they have. Charge less than it’s worth and more than it costs you, training is the way forward.

"As for worrying about what other people might think – forget it. They aren’t concerned about you. They’re too busy worrying about what you and other people think of them." Michael le Boeuf

Repeat. You don’t have to wait for perfect or large or revered or amazing. You can start.

 Gray Lawrence Successful & Ambitious Networker

Success doesn’t come to you – you go to it. — Marva Collins

 

"One of the most common causes of failure is the habit of quitting when one is overtaken by temporary defeat." Napoleon Hill

Successful & Ambitious Networker be Inspired by Sage Donnelly We are souls on a human Journey

“Always look for the positive. Don’t let anything stop you or get in the way of your goals and dreams.”

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We are souls on a human Journey

Camille Lucy

If I could share 500 words to inspire, this is the important wisdom I’d want to pass along to others…

If there were one important – or invaluable – message I could share with the world, it would be that we are souls on a human journey.  Our physical bodies, material possessions and thoughts rooted in fear all boast impermanence and superficiality.

This human experience is merely a playground for our souls. A classroom, if you will. Life on earth is a chance to physically express ourselves, to grow our divinity amidst a variety of challenges.

“Success lies just one inch beyond your perceived limits. Every day you have a choice whether or not to take that inch and transform success from uncertainty to inevitability.” – Akshay Nanavati

We are love. Our roots, our core, our very being is love and light energy. We are intertwined, interconnected to everyone and everything. Such is the magic of life. Magnificence can be found every where we look, in every breath we take.

“Thank you isn’t just for when someone opens your door or offers you a compliment. Say thank you to anyone who hurts you. Say thank you to someone who brings you a challenge. Say thank you to yourself for your ‘mistakes’ (opportunities to learn).” – Caroline A. Shearer

Hold on to the concept of impermanence, the vision of your purpose here. Your soul is on a journey to express, share and become love. Anything else is human, man-made and finite. You will not look back on this life and wish you had more earthly possessions or drama. You will not be proud that you stirred the pot. On the contrary, you will review your life and measure your success here by the love you gave away, and the love you felt for yourself. The gratitude you cultivated, and the wonder you experienced. The blessings you recognized, and the ones you fostered for others.

The dramas that unfold in our day to day human lives are fruitless in nature, though in all hardship is an opportunity to stretch and grow and open our eyes a little wider. Each breath we take in is a chance to begin, again. To wipe the slate clean and start anew. You can choose love at any moment, in every moment.

Positive actions bring a flow of constant energyWhen making decisions, acting or reacting, question the root of how you feel and what you are about to do. Is it based out of love… or fear? Is this a decision that will enhance your life and the quality of your experience here? Will it enhance the life of others? In what ways can you lovingly express your feelings and actions? If today were your last day on this planet, in your human costume, what would you do, how would you act and what would you say?

Removing yourself from the disguise allows a shift in perspective. It also releases built-up toxins, opening up space for more positive experiences, thoughts and feelings. Those which serve you and the highest good.

Living a life that matters does not happen by accident circumstances but of choiceIn the truth lies freedom. Freedom from pain, fear and judgment. It unlocks a new world, one where mistakes are merely bumps in the road that propel you in the right direction. Acknowledging who you really are, what you really are, gives you the ability to reroute the course, recognizing what is working for you, and what is not. It gives you permission to walk in your own truth. To be authentic and bold. To explore. To stand up against that which previously knocked you down. To live fully and enjoy this priceless gift called life.

“Climbing high in life results from bold dreams or brilliant ideas translated into courageous action, with an emphasis on action.” – Werner Berger

Success is a decision of your own making, it is STILL up to you how you path your life to financial freedom and what it brings. We  all have choices, what is yours?  within this passage is a choice you chose to read them        Gray Lawrence

Gray Lawrence Successful

& Ambitious Networker

Success doesn’t come to you – you go to it. — Marva Collins

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All of us at one time or another have experienced a difficult situation, had setbacks, or dealt with our share of disappointment. Most things that happen to us on a daily basis we can’t control and I can honestly say (with conviction) that it is not what happens to us that matters but rather, how we choose to respond.

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