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Ideal, average and outlier Seth Godin

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The future of our economy lies with the impatient. The linchpins and the artists and the scientists who will refuse to wait to be hired and will take things into their own hands, building their own value, producing outputs others will gladly pay for.

Ideal, average and outlier

Generalizations are the heart of marketing decision-making. When we look at an audience–customers, prospects, constituents–we make decisions on the whole based on our assumptions about the individuals within the group.

But are we basing those generalizations on our vision of the ideal member of the tribe, the average member or the outlier who got our attention?

It’s easy, for example, to defend high-priced famous colleges if you focus on the ideal situation. The ideal student, getting instruction from the ideal professor and making ideal progress. No one can argue with this.

On the other hand, when we see the outlier (the person who is manipulating the system, or the one who is being harmed by it) it’s easy to generalize in precisely the other direction, deciding that the entire system isn’t worth saving.

And finally, it’s tempting to rely on the average, to boil down populations of people into simple numbers. The problem with this, of course, is that if one foot is in a bucket of ice water and the other is being scalded, on average, you should be comfortable.

Before we start making decisions about markets, tribes and policy, we need to get clear about which signals we’re using and what we’re trying to focus on or improve.

Gray Lawrence

From The Secret Daily Teachings

No person or power in the outside world can compare to the power you have within you. Seek the power within, as it knows the perfect way for you. May the joy be with you. Rhonda Byrne

Network Marketing How to meet anyone anywhere

This I have had for a while from connections in the USA. The messages are as per the person whom said them, enjoy and I hope learn something..
No one is capable of giving direction unless he or she knows how to take directions and carry them out.
An essential quality of leadership is developing the ability to persuade others to align their goals with yours and those of the organization. Until you, yourself, are able to join forces with others in the pursuit of a common objective, you will never persuade them to join your cause. Effective leaders recognize the value of working together, and they learn how to follow directions before being entrusted with the responsibility for the performance of others. Good leaders show by example how they expect others to behave. Even though the troops may be trained to follow orders unquestioningly, the officer always leads them into battle. You cannot push others to follow your example; you must pull them along with you. When you show by your every word and deed that you are a person of character, one who works for the greater good of the entire organization, your people will follow. – Napoleon Hill

24 Tricks for Terrible Networkers (or How to Meet Anyone Anywhere)

Although I regularly attend networking events, I’m a terrible networker and rarely yield my desired outcome. What are some ways in which I can improve my networking capabilities and results? — Margaret, Florida
1. Be a giver
Part of the awkward and uncomfortable feelings around networking result from being self-conscious.

If you’re more focused on learning about the person you’re talking to, you don’t have time to stress over whether you sound stupid or if you have lettuce in your teeth. Ask the question, “What do you need next? How can I support you?” You’ll feel more powerful and find common ground.

— Lisa Nicole Bell, Inspired Life Media Group

2. Do your homework
Do some research on the attendees beforehand, if you can. That way, you can prepare for the event in much the same way you’d prepare for a job or informational interview. Draw up a list of questions specific to the people you’ll likely be speaking with. This will not only ease your anxiety, but will also help you establish strong, authentic connections.

— Steph Auteri, Career Coaching for Word Nerds

3. Quality over quantity, always
What is your desired outcome? If you don’t know the answer to that, you’ll never achieve it. The idea isn’t to hand out the most business cards. The idea is to have the most meaningful conversations. Instead of having the goal of meeting everyone there, try targeting a select few people and have longer more meaningful conversations rather than worrying about who to talk to next.

— Adam Gilbert, My Body Tutor

4. Use the internet to alleviate networking anxiety
If you’re afraid or uncomfortable with networking, then use the internet to find people who share your interests and slowly move that relationship offline. The internet allows you to meet people in the comfort of your home, which will alleviate networking stress and time from your already busy entrepreneurship schedule.

— Dan Schawbel,

5. Listen and learn
Rather than start a conversation talking about yourself, why not show a curiosity in others, and listen first? Let them start talking about their projects and work experience, and pay attention to what they do to make you feel at ease and engaged. Reflect on that after the event and apply what you noticed next time you start a convo!

— Tammy Tibbetts, She’s the First

6. The power of the short and simple pitch
Develop a short and simple introduction pitch that describes what you do and why you do it. It should give someone a quick and easy idea of the features and benefits of your company. Practice makes perfect. Repeat your brand statement often to friends, colleagues and new associates. Put it into action at your next event and proudly share your vision with confidence.

— Erica Nicole, YFS Magazine: Young, Fabulous & Self Employed

7. The silver bullet
The Silver Bullet is hard work. Practice, Practice, Practice makes perfect. Look at the people who you admire with networking capabilities, what do you like about them? Can you practice doing those things? The best book to read on this topic was written 100 years ago by Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People. They even have live classes that you can take to practice networking.

— Louis Lautman, Young Entrepreneur Society

8. Make it a game
Try turning the networking experience into a game. Go with a friend, and then set challenges for each other. “I challenge you to go up and introduce yourself to that closed-off group of people.” “I challenge you to get that guy’s business card.” Etc. It’s amazing how something so simple can take the pressure off and allow you to be yourself, but also creative in your approach to networking.

— Colin Wright, Ebookling

9. Make people feel great
Take Maya Angelou’s advice and remember that after the event, most people probably won’t remember what you do or what you said, but they will remember how you made them feel. Make them feel great about themselves, their business and what they do and you’ll have made the all-important first connection, upon which you can build.

— Lea Woodward, Kinetiva

10. Change your mindset
Rather than talking about yourself and constantly thinking “What can this person do for me?” re-frame the experience completely. Make it a goal to meet cool people, and help them in anyway possible through your business or contacts, and develop long lasting friendships. The benefits, even though they may be months or years down the line, will follow.

— Matt Mickiewicz, 99designs

11. What is your desired outcome?
Be intentional about networking. Entrepreneurs don’t have time or patience for small talk. We want to dig into your soul and discover who you are within five minutes of meeting you. And we want you to do the same with us. Know what you want from each person you approach, and be forward about it. If they can’t or aren’t willing to help, say, “It was nice meeting you” and move on.

— Nicholas Tart, 14 Clicks

12. It’s only the beginning
Remember when you step into the event, it’s only the beginning. The end goal (of the event) is not to ink a deal, but to put yourself in a position where you can connect with that person again at a less crowded, less noisy future date. That means you have to follow-up and keep showing up. Be of a service mind set. Listen to their story and think about who in your network they should meet.

— Michael Bruny,

13. Be something memorable
Part of creating your personal brand is coming up with that “thing” that makes people remember you. When networking you want it to be the same way. Maybe it’s the tie you wear or the sneakers with the suit. Or maybe it is a specific conversation you want to have. But just be you. Then when you follow up, you can have an instant conversation starter based on your memorable action or trait.

— Greg Rollett, Radically Ambitious

14. Don’t think about networking at a networking event
The best way to create anything meaningful at an event is to cut off all thoughts that you’ll be “networking” with people. That will stress you out and make you nervous. Focus on being EXACTLY who you are, always offer a helpful suggestion to others (“have you thought of X to improve Y?”) and listen as much as you can. People love to talk about themselves so listening will get you in good books.

— Ishita Gupta,

15. Introverts must be more creative
If you’re less of a face-to-face networker and more of an introvert, it’s difficult to make those one-on-one connections with others. That’s why you have to get creative to make an impact. Design a business card that demands attention, wear something memorable, or even do something out of the ordinary that will leave people talking.

— Logan Lenz, Endagon

16. Get in the game
You can’t hit a home run from the bench. Be proactive and start conversations with others. Ask open-ended questions, people love nothing more than talking about themselves. Balance your time carefully between listening and talking. Most importantly, follow-up with the connections made to the transform an initial meeting to a long lasting business relationship.

— Anthony Saladino, Kitchen Cabinet Kings

17. Follow up to get through
There are lot of great verbal seductionists out there, but the first and best way to separate talk from talent is follow up. Few people go the extra step to deliver on their promises or even just send a friendly note. The common story is getting “caught up” or having “no time.” But uncommon individuals makes time for networking with the understanding that action is more important than words.

— Kent Healy, The Uncommon Life

18. It just takes one
For many people, networking events can be overwhelming. Letting yourself focus on just meeting one new person at an event can be enough, especially if you’re having difficulties making connections with everyone present. Ideally, you can check up on who will be at the next event beforehand, so you can choose that one perfect person, but even if you can’t, one good connection is worth your time.

— Thursday Bram, Hyper Modern Consulting

19. Smile!
If you’re putting to much pressure on yourself to yield a specific outcome, you might rob yourself of an opportunity to have fun, practice the art of conversation and get to know people. Start with a smile! You’d be surprised at how far it takes you. From there, focus on asking the other person questions that get *them* to smile — it will leave a memorable mark and you’ll build real connections.

— Jenny Blake, Life After College

20. Attend events where you feel comfortable for the best networking results
It may be time to re-think where you spend your time. Networking can happen anywhere-I’ve met potential clients at grocery stores, photocopy centers, coffee shops and parties. Choose a few events such as a sports team or an arts group where you really enjoy yourself and then as you build relationships with people, you can naturally share with them about what you do.

— Elizabeth Saunders, Real Life E®

21. Set a measurable goal
Instead of going into an event with the mere desire of “networking,” set a clear goal of what you’re hoping to achieve out of attending. Do you aim to meet three new people at the event? Do you want to connect with a certain type of individual? If you cannot come up with a measurable goal, perhaps the event is not worth your time.

— Heather Huhman, Come Recommended

22. Don’t try so hard
I hate it when I’m at an event and I meet someone who’s trying to sell me on something. I like meeting authentic people. Don’t worry too much about pitching your business at these events. Just meet and mingle, talk about whatever is interesting, and leave with a business card. That’s it.

— Eric Bahn, Beat The GMAT

23. Know whom to meet
Before each event look at the list of people attending and figure out who you want to meet. At small events you can easily find the organizer, if you know whom it is, who knows everyone and can continue to point you in the right direction. Even reach out beforehand via email or twitter so the first introduction isn’t as awkward.

— Jared O’Toole,

24. Remember names
I’m terrible at remembering names, but if I practice before and after any event, I do a much better job next time I see the person and it leave an impression on them by simply calling them by their first name. I read somewhere this was George W. Bush’s secret to power and I have to tell you it works.  — Timothy Sykes, Millionaire Media LLC

“I have found that helping people to develop personal goals has proven to be the most effective way to help them cope with problems. Observing the lives of people who have mastered adversity, I have noted that they have established goals and sought with all their effort to achieve them. From the moment they decided to concentrate all their energies on a specific objective, they began to surmount the most difficult odds.”

Your Vision of the future, lies from within

Gray Lawrence

The greatest freedom is to be responsible. –Lazaris

Be Inspired by Omni Kelly

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“The point is not to live without any regrets it is to not hate ourselves for having them..”  – Gray Lawrence

Omni KellyIf I could share 500 words to inspire, this is the important wisdom I’d want to pass along to others…

There is no wrong, there never has been! There are those who know and then there are those who innocently don’t know. We all have a desire to define our divine design.

What is your heart’s desire? Have you come to terms with what you are here to accomplish for yourself? How can we make ourselves feel committed to accept every experience we have lived and more importantly know that every decision we have previously made was right at the time?

We all have a deep seated longing to know what our purpose in life is, to help us accept our pathway into the heavenly realms. We can do this while we are right here on the earth. Don’t wait until you die. Believing that tomorrow is a continuation of today keeps us on our toes, which keeps our hearts open to assist when asked by others.

When you have released the confidence in yourself, others will automatically become your own reflection! You are your own maker; remember the only person you have to answer to is yourself!

Make the most of each moment and know that you are living up to your own expectations of being completely satisfied. Satisfaction releases courage. Through believing in self, your courage to overcome anything that steps towards, you release a sense of freedom you have never known or felt before. All sounds good, doesn’t it?

So how does one become accountable to the self with each step of confidence?

The most important point to remember is that your life is in your hands, your responsibility lies only with you. There is not one other person who is in control of your mind! It is totally your responsibility for everything you say and do.

Begin by listening to your own thoughts – do they belong to you? Or are you too busy listening to your family or others?

The next thing for you to affirm to yourself is that, in your mind, you are the most important person on this planet. Don’t waste a moment! Enjoy the freedom of stepping out to enquire of your own intellect; you will be amazed at what it has to offer you. The more confidence you release from within, the more your truth will set you free.

I would like you to feel Lordly and Ladylike with self. You are here to complete an education of discovering this hidden God which is securely enveloped within the genes of every individual. You were born this way! Allow it to reign free, to create the miracles in your life that are way beyond your expectations.

Enter into the divine design, your space in the universe. Make your thoughts sparkle with light so that your reflection is seen right around the planet.

If you don’t believe it yourself, don’t ask anyone else to do so.
It is virtually impossible not to transmit your doubts and insecurities to others through body language, tone of voice, inflection, word choice, and other subtle characteristics. When you show by your actions that you lack self-confidence, other people also begin to doubt your ability to perform. You can gain the respect and confidence of others. Begin by making a list of all the things you like about yourself and the things you would like to change. Make a conscious effort to build upon your positive strengths and correct your weaknesses. It may not be easy, but if you assess yourself objectively and persevere in your efforts, you will eventually prevail. Napoleon Hill

Your Vision of the future, lies from within
Gray Lawrence
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The greatest freedom is to be responsible. -Lazaris

The Truth about being a Networking Boss

No one is capable of giving direction unless he or she knows how to take directions and carry them out.
An essential quality of leadership is developing the ability to persuade others to align their goals with yours and those of the organization. Until you, yourself, are able to join forces with others in the pursuit of a common objective, you will never persuade them to join your cause. Effective leaders recognize the value of working together, and they learn how to follow directions before being entrusted with the responsibility for the performance of others. Good leaders show by example how they expect others to behave. Even though the troops may be trained to follow orders unquestioningly, the officer always leads them into battle. You cannot push others to follow your example; you must pull them along with you. When you show by your every word and deed that you are a person of character, one who works for the greater good of the entire organization, your people will follow.    Napoleon Hill

You are no one’s Boss and never will be – despite what your title says.

"My new distributor…"    "My team…"    "You’re under me…"
How often do I hear and read these phrases? A lot.  More often than not, they’re used out of naiveté rather than with any intent to make the up line feel superior or the down line feel inferior.  But we’ve got to be constantly aware of what comes out of our mouths.

We’re offering people the chance to break free of the 40-hour (and more!) work week chains of working for someone else, yet using language like this can very quickly make our team members feel like they’ve swapped, or are in the process of swapping, one boss for another.

On that note, we cannot force any of our team members to work harder either – they’re a ‘volunteer army’ and are free to do as little or as much as they want, to fit around their own unique lifestyle, and in line with what THEY want from their business.

The Science of Getting Rich

Remember this, and never take money from anyone without giving more in use value than the money you are receiving. In people’s lives, this is one of the main causes of lack of money, unsuccessful job experiences, and failed businesses. Give more value than the money you are receiving; in your job, in your business, and in every part of your life.              May the joy be with you, The Secret Rhonda Byrne

Now, don’t get me wrong, if someone’s activity is not congruent with the goals they have set themselves, then we need to bring this to their attention and some course-correcting needs doing, but ultimately we have to firstly be GRATEFUL that they’re part of our team, and secondly RESPECT the level they want to work at.

Be the type of person you wan't to meetLeadership in network marketing is a lot more subtle and refinedTeam Work than management is in ‘traditional’ business where the carrot and stick approach can be employed to move people in the direction management wish.  More often than not, it’s the tools we have at our disposal (events and the power of association building belief and enthusiasm which can lead to increased activity) that are far more effective at helping to increase a team members activity level than simply asking or telling them to do it.

A positive mental attitude is an irresistible force that knows no such thing as an immovable body.
Time and again we hear stories about ordinary people who do seemingly impossible things when they find themselves in an emergency situation. They perform herculean feats of strength and endurance, things they never dreamed they were capable of doing. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you could harness that strength and make it available anytime you need it? You can — if you believe you can. No doubt you can remember a time in your life when you were exceptionally focused on your objective, a time when you achieved more in less time than ever before. Perhaps it was an impending vacation that motivated you to get everything done before you departed, or perhaps it was a “must pass” exam that helped you focus your concentration. The intensity that you developed in those situations is always available to you when you have a Positive Mental Attitude.   Napoleon Hill


The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. Eleanor Roosevelt

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 "Life is the sum of all your choices" Albert Camus

Natural Selling Feed Back Lesson Six the last but one


You can’t control others’ acts, but you can control your reaction to their acts, and that is what counts most to you.
No one can make you feel any negative emotion — fear, anger, or inferiority — without your express permission. There will always be people who find perverse enjoyment in upsetting others, or who simply play upon your emotions so that they can use you for their own selfish purposes. Whether or not they are successful depends entirely upon you and how you react to their negative behaviours. When you are forced to deal with such people, recognize from the outset that they are trying to upset you, not because of something you may have done to them, but because of some problem they have with themselves. Tell yourself, “This isn’t about me. I will not allow this person to upset me. I am in control of my emotions and my life.” Napoleon Hill

The Importance of Feedback

Today, we look at the 4th Principle and a very important part of the Natural Selling Approach.

The fourth Principle Feeding Back What You Think You Heard

Leading a team being carried on an arrow the way aheadTo ensure continual understanding, feeding back or clarifying what you think you heard, is something you will learn to do on a constant basis throughout your dialogue, making sure that you’re on the right track, using phrases like…

"Let me repeat that to make sure I understand what you’re saying" or * "Would you go over that again to make sure I understand…?"

Don’t take anything for granted as you progress.

If you don’t understand something, ask for it to be repeated.

Think about the saying; "I know you think you know what I said but what I said is not what I really meant!"

Also, summarizing what you think you heard gives the other person the opportunity to correct any misunderstandings. Words and phrases can often mean different things to different people.

Remember, we are all individuals and we each have our own view of the world!

A cloud does not know why it moves in just such a direction and at such a speed, it feels an impulsion.. This is the place to go now. But the sky knows the reasons and the patterns behind all clouds and you will know too, when you lift yourself high enough to see beyond horizons.                            From the book Illusions.

The ultimate feedback is at the end of your conversation when you are presenting your solution. This is the time when you are in a position to summarize what a person has, what they are looking for and why they want it and how you can help them get it by offering your solution. If you feedback, recap and present this based on everything they told you, you will have truly demonstrated a complete understanding.

And people love people who understand them. It’s extraordinary what people will tell you if you listen to them. Why? Because you’ll be one in a million who does listen, and if you do it with love and care, you become a very valuable person.

In fact, you create value in you and everything you represent with your ability to ask questions, listen and feedback.

listening takes practice and it takes patience  but I promise if you listen your story will be better for itThe point is that by not focusing on selling your solutions services, but focusing on discovering and understanding problems and getting behind them first, to see whether you can help, and whether the other person is prepared to be helped, you will both see people’s challenges more clearly.

As well, when you understand what a person is really looking for and why they want it you will be able to customize your solution and present it so that it personally means something to them.

The last lesson number seven! we will review the material we have covered and take a look at the next step.


Call centre group in circle1. Think about a time you might have found yourself in when you were talking with someone and you realized that you had been talking "at cross purposes". They meant something completely different from what you thought they did? Think about how that happened and the consequences of it.

2. When you’re talking with people today, make a point of feeding back to them what they are saying to you. Don’t overdo it!

Especially ask for clarification with words or phrases they might use that are unfamiliar to you.

3. Go to a busy restaurant and listen closely to two people talking.

Observe whether their conversation is on the same track or whether they are having two or more different conversations!

If it’s two or more, ask yourself whether you do the same thing and if you do, what you can do to correct it.

Know yourself! Watch how you manifest the small things in life and think about how you felt inside with those things. Think about how easily they came. You will find that you thought of a small thing once and never thought about it again, and then it manifested.

What really happened was you didn’t think any thoughts or speak any words which contradicted what you wanted, so the law of attraction was able to do its work.

May the joy be with you, – Rhonda Byrne The Secret

I was never afraid of failure, for I would sooner fail than not be among the best. John Keats

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Choose to be optimistic, it feels better." – Dalai Lama

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