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REGRET IS NOT YOUR FRIEND

Optimism

We can learn from our leaders of the past. Thomas Edison’s great optimism gives us a quintessential example of welcoming disaster. On a December night in 1914, fire broke out in the film room of Thomas Edison’s laboratory. As his assets were going up in smoke, it would seem that this sixty-seven-year-old man’s spirit would certainly be crushed. Instead he saw the fire and shouted to his son, “Where’s Mom? Go get her! Tell her to get her friends! They’ll never see a fire like this again!” Later, he said,

“You can always make capital out of disaster.
We’ve just cleared out a bunch of old rubbish.
We’ll build bigger and better on the ruins.”

Thomas Edison could not control the circumstances. Rather than being heartbroken to see his life’s work go up in flames, he chose to welcome the opportunity to start over. Edison, known for his overwhelming optimism, is an inspiration for us today.

Do you live with regrets?  Are you able to put regret behind you easily?

Regret Is Not Your Friend

There are two sides to regret.

The first side involves regret for actions or events we wish had not happened and we would like to take back. We have all said or done things we regret. We may get upset and say things that damage our relationships or we may do things that cause harm. For example, Tiger Woods may regret his unfaithful conduct in his marriage.

I have done many things over my life that I regret, from investing in a scam to getting involved in a risky business venture to help out a friend. However, my regrets are now infrequent. Why? I took the time to identify the main causes of my actions and rooted them out. I had to learn to take responsibility for my contribution to my own troubles and to make values-based decisions, conducting myself in way that leaves little room for regret.

What about you? Think about the times when you felt regret. Is there a common theme? Do behaviours or habits contribute to your regret? What new thoughts or action steps could reduce your feelings of regret for the things you have said or done?

For the most part, the first type of regret can be tempered by time.

The second side of regret involves regret for actions not taken. This is the sin of omission. We must take this side of regret even more seriously because we cannot alter time to retrieve things that were missed: the job we did not take, the investment we ignored, or the opportunity we let pass by. The list can be long.

When I achieved the milestone birthday of 50 years, I felt a greater sense of urgency about all the things I wanted to do, despite my plan to live to 100+. I knew that it was my time to take action.

With keen awareness that mortality is universal and non-negotiable, I want to encourage every individual reading this article to take a stand:

“Starting today, I will live my life without regret, especially as it pertains to activities I want to experience and outcomes I wish to realize in my life.”

Here are a few areas you might wish to consider avoiding missing out on (and then later regretting):

§ Attending your child’s recital or concert

§ Beginning a regular fitness program

§ Travelling to that place you have been dreaming about for years

§ Taking that course to upgrade your skills—perhaps even getting the degree you have been contemplating

§ Trying a new food

§ Taking time for yourself

§ Quitting a job you hate

§ Calling a friend to share coffee or lunch

§ Attending the presentation or concert of someone (or group) you enjoy

§ Writing the article, poem, or book you’ve had percolating for ages

§ Joining the community group you’ve been thinking about

Unless material goods are directly linked to what you want to do or become, please don’t focus on them here. Yes, you can keep a list of the “things” you want to own, but putting a new painting on your wall may not be as meaningful as taking a vacation and having quality time with your family.

When have you said, “If only I had…?” Think about it for a moment. What do you wish you had done or become? What are you going to do about it? At this point, remorse won’t get you where you want to go; forward action will. Forget your excuses and make a decision to live your life without regret.

A research study conducted on individuals over 70 years of age asked participants these questions:

“If you could live your life over again, what would you do differently? What do you regret?”

The responses showed the following results:

§ They would take more time for themselves.

§ How many times have we met people who dedicated their whole life to others, at the expense of their own needs and goals?

§ They would take more risks.

§ This is the “if only” part of regret. “If only I had bought the property, taken that job, said ‘no’ to…” and on the story goes.

§ They would dedicate themselves to a cause or purpose that would last beyond their lifetime.

§ What’s your legacy? What will you be remembered for? Will you even be remembered at all?

A life lived without regret is living on purpose and making a difference, whatever the context. How do you rank yourself on a scale of 1 to 10? [1 = Poor (plenty of regret); 10 = Excellent (little or no regret)]

Let’s all strive to be as close to 10 as we can in all areas of our lives! Start now. No regrets, please!

ACTION STEPS:

1. List events in the past that have caused you to experience the most regret.
Is there a common theme or set of situations where regret is recurring for you? What do you think the root cause(s) might be? What can you do to reduce your regret?

2. Think about all the things you regret not
What are your reasons for not taking action—lack of courage, not feeling worthy, compromising your values for others, etc.?

3. Make a list of things you can start doing immediately to reduce your regrets.
Don’t make excuses for what you can’t do. Focus on what you can and will

4. Make a commitment to follow your list of actions.

5. Move on with confidence.

6. Confirm your passions and connect with your purpose to reduce your regrets.

7. Read my newest book, The Quest For Purpose. It will take you on a personal journey of discovery to help you confirm and affirm your passions in life.

8. Benchmark your gifts, talents, and passions by using CRG’s assessments.
Your results will assist you to establish your beliefs with confidence, and increase your passion in all areas of your life.

Remember, our mortality is guaranteed. To those of you who are still procrastinating, I suggest you get started with your no-regrets philosophy this very moment. When you have no regrets, then you are truly living On Purpose!

Gray Lawrence

“The point is not to live without any regrets it is to not hate ourselves for having them..” Gray Lawrence

Effortlessly Gain INSTANT Access to All These Remarkable Benefits! Napoleon hill

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Change your mental attitude, and the world around you will change accordingly.
Your world will become what you choose to make it. You can reach great heights of success, or you can settle for a miserable life that is devoid of hope. The choice is yours. When you choose a positive course, you set in motion an unstoppable force that will allow you to have a fulfilling career, the love of your family and friends, good physical and mental health, and all of the other true riches of life. To change your world, you must change it from the inside out. You must begin with yourself. When you choose the course that puts your life on a positive track, you will change your life for the better, and you will also positively influence the people with whom you come in contact. Napoleon Hill

After you’ve read just a few, the only question you’ll ask is:

“Why aren’t I doing THIS everyday?!”

· Increase your energy, strength and vigour

· Achieve a deeper level of physical relaxation

· Slow the aging process

· Reduce anxiety and increase emotional stability

· Become more creative

· Solve complex problems more easily

· Enjoy better sex

· Become more self-confident and develop your willpower

· Relieve chronic conditions like allergies, arthritis, and more

· Increase your focus and concentration

· Lose weight faster

· Improve your learning ability and memory

· Heal faster after surgery

· Create a deeper relationship with God

· Enhance your immune system

· Improve air flow to your lungs so you can breathe easier

· Reduce the need for medical care

· Improve your relationships

· Develop your intuition

· Become more productive

· See the larger picture in a given situation

· Reduce your need for prescription drugs

· Fall asleep faster

· Experience peace of mind and a greater sense of happiness

· Discover your purpose

· Create a widening, deepening capacity for love

Dear Genius,

How did Gandhi, Mother Teresa, and Jesus survive weeks without food?

How did Leonardo da Vinci make advances in anatomy, astronomy, and physics that were centuries ahead of scientific discovery—and still find time to paint the most iconic picture in history?

What did people like Benjamin Franklin, Thomas Edison, and Albert Einstein do to help them pioneer remarkable breakthroughs and accomplishments?

They all used unique meditation techniques and mental exercises.

And these days, Oprah Winfrey, Sting, the Dalai Lama, Gwyneth Paltrow, and other accomplished individuals from every background and field of endeavour do it too.

Meditation is the doorway to innovative thinking, knowing, being healthy, finding calm inner strength, and… quite frankly… living happily, productively, and abundantly in this world.

And—contrary to what you may think—you can do it almost anywhere… even when you’re driving!

You’ve probably heard this before…

Every answer you seek is already inside your mind.

If that is true (and, based on the amazing benefits listed above, I believe it is), how do you get to those answers and insights when you need them?

If the genuine solutions and guidance you need are already in your mind, why are they sometimes so darn difficult to find?

On the other hand…

As hard as it can be to access this genuine information, every now and then the knowledge and insights just come to you like magic.

Why doesn’t that happen more often? Or, more importantly, how can you make it happen at your command?

The reason you get stuck has little to do with what’s in your mind.

The problem is with what’s not in your mind.

What your brain does normally

The electrical activity of the brain is measured in terms of “waves.” That means if you hook your head up to a machine that measures the electrical output of your brain, you’ll see it form a wave on the screen.

Your brain produces five basic types of waves. They’re called Delta, Theta, Alpha, Beta, and Gamma. While this sounds like a college fraternity, it’s really a measure of how fast or slow your brain is working at any given time.

Now here’s where what’s not in your brain comes in…

During most of the day when you’re working, texting, emailing, driving, or doing anything active, your brain waves are primarily in a Beta pattern.

But, if you want to find a creative solution to a problem or receive insights or breakthrough ideas on a challenge you’re facing, your brain needs to slow down to a Theta, Alpha, or Theta-Alpha pattern. These types of patterns occur when you’re drowsy, relaxed, and reflective (but not sleepy), or in a state in which a silent current of thoughts, images, and memories emerge spontaneously in your mind.

The problem is, with updates and news coming at you by the minute, and distractions and temptations just a keystroke away, it can be very difficult to achieve these slower brainwave patterns during the course of a normal day.

The result? You often feel overwhelmed and off-balance.

The doorway to breakthrough thinking

How can you slow down your brain waves even when you’re surrounded by chaos and stimulation?

By doing what Jesus, Benjamin Franklin, Albert Einstein, and many other brilliant individuals have done:

Develop your mental focus.

Mental focus enables you to shut out the noise that almost always surrounds you and to get calm in the ce of the storm. It is the single best tool you have for releasing the power of your mind and allowing the answers, breakthroughs, and insights you seek to be heard.

The best way to develop laser-sharp focus is to meditate. Meditation—in all its various forms—is supported by decades of scientific research and backed up by centuries of real-life experiences. It is proven to help you let go of all the content that generally occupies your consciousness by slowing down your brain waves. With your mind clear, you can access the knowledge that’s locked inside.

The fastest way to access the miraculous haven
inside your mind

At Nightingale-Conant, it has been our pleasure to work with some of the most incredible minds of our generation. After a while, we started to notice a common thread between many of our most successful authors…

The most successful, happy, and well-balanced people all have the power to focus their minds. By developing a focused mind, these individuals have been able to rise to incredible levels of achievement in just about every field.

But, slowing down your brain waves to have a focused mind can be challenging—even for the experts! That’s especially true with the stresses and constant stimulation of modern life. Now, more than ever, you need to develop ways to gain instant access to the calm, all-knowing haven that’s inside your mind.

And that’s why we’re so excited to introduce a brand-new comprehensive program called Focused Mind, Powerful Mind: Releasing Your Mind’s Greater Powers with Advanced Meditation Techniques.

It’s an advanced mind-training program that combines meditation and mental exercises in a whole new way so you can develop laser-sharp focus like some of the greatest thinkers of all time and perform as never before…

Gray  Lawrence

"Remember, the thoughts that you think and the statements you make regarding yourself determine your mental attitude. If you have a worthwhile objective, find the one reason why you can achieve it rather than hundreds of reasons why you can’t." Napoleon Hill

Allowing Takes Faith and Trust

The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire; the size of your dream; and how you handle disappointment along the way. Robert Kiyosaki

Allowing takes faith, patience and trust—three things that are essential for your own peace of mind and well-being, but often are not things we focus on, learn about or are encouraged to practice in our intense, fast-paced, results-oriented culture. Allowing is truly an art and is something that often goes against the grain and runs contrary to societal norms and pressures. It has to do with remembering, as the well-known saying goes, "We’re human beings, not human doings."
Here are a few things to think about and practice as you enhance your capacity and ability to allow with more ease in your life.

  • Ask yourself how you relate to the concept of allowing. Take some inventory of your own relationship with this idea. How do you feel about it? How comfortable are you allowing things and people to be as they are, as well as allowing things to manifest with ease in your life? This is something you may understand, but may not practice. Tell yourself the truth about how you relate to allowing, and notice how this impacts your life one way or another.
  • Pay attention to what you focus on in regard to your biggest goals and aspirations. In terms of the biggest goals, dreams and aspirations in your life right now, how much of your attention and energy are focused on doing, and how much are focused on allowing? While both doing and allowing are important, most people put a disproportionate amount of attention on action. Increasing your focus on allowing and ultimately receiving can be a magical, relaxing and incredibly effective way for you to relate to your goals and dreams. This is often one of the big missing pieces in your desire not only for success, but—more important—for fulfilment.
  • Create an allowing practice. This is a simple practice you can do daily (like prayer, meditation, quiet reflection or affirmation) when you put your attention and awareness on allowing: accepting things as they are; trusting things are working out as they are meant to; believing the feelings, experiences, accomplishments and outcomes you desire are on their way; and allowing yourself to receive these gifts and blessings with ease and gratitude. You may need to reach out to others for support, guidance and feedback about creating or deepening an allowing practice that will work for you, but doing this is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself (as well as those around you).

Have fun with this and have compassion for yourself as well. Allowing is a lot easier to think about or talk about than it actually is to practice and embody in your life. The more attention you put on it, however, the easier it gets. And as you deepen your ability and your capacity to allow, your whole life can transform with ease, grace and gratitude!
Mike Robbins is a best-selling author, sought-after motivational keynote speaker and personal growth expert who works with people and groups of all kinds. Robbins is the author of the best-selling books Focus on the Good Stuff and Be Yourself: Everyone Else Is Already Taken. He and his work have been featured on ABC News and in Forbes, Ladies Home Journal, Self and many other publications

"Just like you are in charge of your thoughts and emotions, you are in charge of your visual field and imagination. Use it to help create positive thoughts and send positive vibrations to the universe." Frank Mangano

Gray Lawrence

Be aware of the big difference between inspired action and activity. Activity comes from the brain-mind and is rooted in disbelief and lack of faith – you are taking action to "make" your desire happen. Inspired action is allowing the law to work through you and to move you. Activity feels hard. Inspired action feels wonderful. May the joy be with you, Rhonda Byrne

Five Secrets Guaranteeing Success

Focus on the WHY of life and not the HOW, remembering that where focus goes, energy flows.                                                                                                                               Success and failure comes in pairs. Either you have a pair of Aces called “Resolve & Undenied” or a pair of jokers called “Wishing & Wanting You’re hand to play.       Gray Lawrence

What if there was a secret book somewhere that could virtually guarantee your success, would you want to know where it was? What if there were unwritten rules and laws inside that book that only a small number of people knew about and what if those laws could literally change your whole life; would you play by those rules and adhere to those laws in order to have the life you really want? Would that secret book be your Bible?

Think about it for a moment; if you were handed a secret book with a set of rules and a simple but powerful formula to follow that would allow you to own your life, would you read that book from front to back cover and put the secrets to work for you or would you leave it standing idle on your bookshelf and forget about it?

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If you’re ready to push aside your past and plan a future that is everything you’ve ever wanted, what follows is a secret formula to making millions in your MLM that is more valuable than any book you will ever read. Let’s take a look at it…

5 Secrets To Changing Your Life

The First Secret – Your Past is NOT Your Future.

We are all influenced by the past. It might be that our parents, peers or siblings presented us with situations and challenges when we were young children that we were not always comfortable with and that we struggled to come through in the way we would have wanted to. This is simply a part of life but for some, this time of failure (as it is often viewed), leaves a heavy footprint in the sand.

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The secret to creating the future you desire and truly deserve is to leave this footprint behind. Allow the sea to wash over it until the footprint is washed away. Now move on…

The Second Secret – Your Beliefs Become Your Reality.

The human mind is more powerful that any computer. It has the ability to store an unlimited amount of information and solve the most complex problems and has taken our species from the dark ages to a place where we are now globally connected in ways many of our ancestors could only dream of. We all have the power to create change and develop ideas into life changing realities. Those who we remember for their achievements and inventions had one single thing in common; a belief in what they were able to achieve and that belief enabled them to create what we remember them for. Edison’s first electric light bulb, Einstein’s theory of relativity, Levi Strauss’ Denims. We remember their achievements and inventions which were a result of their belief in a new reality.

When you focus on what you believe will be your achievements and see them mapped out in front of you (goal by goal), your beliefs become your reality over time and your journey, struggle by struggle, simply becomes a part of the process of getting to where you are going.

The Third Secret – Your Actions Become Your Habits.

Affirmations create long term mental change and are valuable to the process of change. Results come from a different place and are achieved as an output of some kind of action. Great results are the outcome of focused activity, while poor results are the outcome of unplanned random acts (subconsciously intended to fail).

Successful entrepreneurs have three basic attributes in common; strong work ethic, self belief and laser targeted focus on the task in hand. This doesn’t mean you should never have more than one thing in the pot when you are planning to cook up some serious change. In contrast, wealth is often created through multiple streams of income. The key to creating that wealth, though, is to focus and complete one task at a time. Creating, planning and carrying out many tasks over time that will have a deep impact on the overall plan you have put in place.

Understand why you want to achieve change and then put a detailed plan in place of how that change will take place. Once your plan is in place, break it down into daily, weekly and monthly tasks that you must complete and watch your actions become the habits of a successful entrepreneur.

The Fourth Secret – Your Heart Will Lead To Wealth.

Business is often seen as the domain of grey suits, reserved relationships and serious conversation and at times this is needed. There is a place also for laughter, love and deep connections. Connecting with your customers, business partners and team members and creating the type of workplace or business that doesn’t feel like work and feels more like a cause. Creating great connections brings people together behind a cause and allows you to bring people with you on your journey.

These connections will help you to truly unlock the secret and throw open the door to riches by creating the lifestyle you are searching for. A life unrestricted by the “norms” and expectations of business life and led by your heart and not your head.

The Fifth Secret – Your Goals Are Greater Than Your Gain.

Great gifts are often wrapped in simple paper. When we begin this journey we’re often so deep in debt or feeling so lost in our current place in life, that our focus is on something that is simply material. We’d like a new car or a holiday with the family or we would do anything to have an extra few thousand in our bank account each month. These material things will only carry us so far on this journey and after a while will cease to inspire us to reach our true potential.

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The secret to creating the life you know is out there waiting for you is to have a goal that is truly bigger than your gain. This is different for each of us and will only come to you when you are ready to receive it. When it does, make it your legacy and your journey will fall into place.

The Secret Book – Changing Your Life

Changing your life and creating the future you desire starts when you make a decision to fulfil your dream. You may be focused on your current problems, your challenges and concerns right now and have little more in your sights than that looming credit card bill or mortgage payment. You may hate your job and the people you work with or feel that your social life has simply vanished beneath a pile of personal responsibilities and free time is nothing but a dream. These are real challenges and often take over our lives without being invited to..

When we push through these challenges we are able to make a space for the things we truly value to come into focus; our family and loved ones, our health and happiness and our true desire to leave the world a better place through our actions and achievements. This is the real secret.   Neil Ashworth

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This decade is going to be a BIG one for the multi level marketing industry and 2012 is likely to be the year MLM really takes off but before you head off into the wilderness and find yourself up at all hours searching for the best MLM to join take a few minutes to read the steps below and set yourself off on the right foot. Read on to find the best MLM in 2012.

Let’s begin!

Multi level marketing is a proven and time tested business model, but for many it is still the land that time forgot. A place where only the brave (or some say foolish) will ever go and where great MLM monsters walk the land waiting for some unsuspecting newcomer to pick up and devour. Face facts, network marketing has had its share of horror stories over the years but are those stories a fair reflection of the industry and what it can offer you in 2012 and beyond?

I don’t believe YOU should ever believe what others tell you is the truth, until you can stand and review the information being provided to you feeling truly informed and knowledgeable. Without knowledge you have no control over your future and with knowledge your future is truly limitless.  Gather that knowledge and do your due diligence before committing your future (or not) to the wonderful world of MLM.

Frustration can become like a chain and it can strangle your efforts for success or you can get the key out and open the lock. Key is the key of Decision that unchains the future, your future

Working hard is the foundation for any success in life, but many people have the “What if” Disease! , they see “Working hard as Hardly Working” & expect the same results

Gray Lawrence 

The future looks bright for those who chose to shine and become a star

Life is Simple Positive & Negative

What is life but something we are part of and it is up to use too fulfil the contract we are designed for!  Your belief is your path to what ever you wish for.

 

Life is simple and is made up of two things “Positive & Negative things” Each area of your life, whether its your Wealth, Health,Relationships, Work or Happiness, are all positive or negative to you!  You are healthy or not healthy, you have plenty of money or very little, your relationships are happy or difficult, work is exciting and successful or dissatisfying and unsuccessful, you are filled with happiness or you don’t feel good all the time.  You have good and bad years, good ad bad times and good or bad days, these decisions are your choices, make the right one’s!!!

 

To have more negative things than positive things in your life shows you something is wrong and you know it, when you see others happy you know you deserve this, again think bad things you get bad results.  Chose to think the right things and get brilliant results.  Most people do not realise the great life they have or how they came by it, but they used the power that is the cause of everything good in life, why don’t you?

 

Love has been discussed over the centuries since time began by every religion, great thinker, philosopher, prophet, and leader. But many of us have not truly understood these great words of wisdom, even though they where teachings for those in their time! there is one truth and message though, to the world it is: “Still The Same Today”  Love is the greatest power in the universe.

 

“What this power is I cannot say; all I know is that it exists”   Alexander Graham Bell

I hope you feel something deep from inside your body mind and heart, make it count!

 

Gray Lawrence

“The greatest power we have is the power of choice. It’s an actual fact that if you’ve been moping in unhappiness, you can choose to be joyous instead and, by effort, lift yourself into joy. If you tend to be fearful, you can overcome that misery by choosing to have courage. Even in darkest grief you have a choice – The whole trend and quality of anyone’s life is determined in the long run by the choices that are made.” Norman Vincent Peale

 

 

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