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10 Habits You Must Quit to Be Happy

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"Anytime you blame others and complain about your situation, you are choosing to be a victim. By playing the victim role you are putting yourself in an ineffective and weak position. It is virtually impossible to allow incredible miracles to enter your life when you choose to remain in this negative mental state." Sonia Ricotti Author and Speaker

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10 Habits You Must Quit to Be Happy

When you quit doing the wrong things, you make more room for the things that make you happy.  So starting today…

1.  Quit procrastinating on your goals.

Some people dream of success while others wake up and work hard at it.  Action and change are often resisted when they’re needed most.  Get a hold of yourself and have discipline.  Putting something off instantly makes it harder and scarier.  What we don’t start today won’t be finished by tomorrow.  And there’s nothing more stressful than the perpetual lingering of an unfinished task.

The secret to getting ahead is simply getting started.  Starting, all by itself, is usually sufficient to build enough momentum to keep the ball rolling.  So forget about the finish line and just concentrate on taking your first step.  Say to yourself, “I choose to start this task with a small, imperfect step.”  All those small steps will add up and you’ll actually get to see changes fairly quickly.  Read Getting Things Done.

2.  Quit blaming others and making excuses.

Stop blaming others for what you have or don’t have, or for what you feel or don’t feel.  When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility and perpetuate the problem.  Stop giving your power away and start taking responsibility for your life.  Blaming is just another sorry excuse, and making excuses is the first step towards failure; you and only you are responsible for your life choices and decisions.

3.  Quit trying to avoid change.

If nothing ever changed there would be no sunrise the next morning.  Most of us are comfortable where we are even though the whole universe is constantly changing around us.  Learning to accept this is vital to our happiness and general success.  Because only when we change, do we grow, and begin to see a world we never knew was possible.

And don’t forget, however good or bad a situation is now, it will change.  That’s the one thing you can count on.  So embrace it, and realize that change happens for a reason.  It won’t always be easy or obvious at first, but in the end it will be worth it.

4.  Quit trying to control the uncontrollable.

If you try to control everything, and then worry about the things you can’t control, you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of frustration and misery.

Some forces are out of your control, but you can control how you react to things.  Everyone’s life has positive and negative aspects – whether you’re happy or not depends greatly on which aspects you focus on.  The best thing you can do is to let go of what you can’t control, and invest your energy in the things you can – like your attitude.

5.  Quit talking down to yourself.

Nothing will bring you down quicker than berating yourself.  The mind is a superb instrument if used right, but when used incorrectly, it becomes very destructive.  Be aware of your mental self-talk.  We all talk silently to ourselves in our heads, but we aren’t always conscious of what we’re saying or how it’s affecting us.

As Henry Ford once stated, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right.”  One of the major causes of why we fail is due to self-doubt and negative self-talk.  The way to overcome negative thoughts and destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more powerful.  Listen to your self-talk and replace negative thoughts with positive ones, over time you will change the trajectory of your life.  Read The How of Happiness.

6.  Quit criticizing others.

The negativity you bleed out toward others will gradually cripple your own happiness.  When you truly feel comfortable with your own imperfections, you won’t feel threatened or offended by the imperfections you see in other people.

So stop worrying about the flaws you see in everyone else, and focus on yourself.  Let the constant growth and improvement in your own life keep you so busy that you have no time left to criticize others.

7.  Quit running from your problems and fears.

Trust me, if everyone threw their problems in a pile for you to see, you would grab yours back.  Tackle your problems and fears swiftly, don’t run away from them.  The best solution is to face them head on no matter how powerful they may seem.

Fears, in particularly, stop you from taking chances and making decisions.  They keep you confined to just the small space where you feel completely comfortable.  But your life’s story is simply the culmination of many small, unique experiences, many of which require you to stretch your comfort zone.  Letting your fears and worries control you is not ‘living,’ it’s merely existing.

Bottom line:  Either you own your problems and fears, or they will ultimately own you.

8.  Quit living in another time and place.

Some people spend their entire lives trying to live in another time and place.  They lament about what has been, what they could have done, or what might become.  However, the past is gone, and the future doesn’t exist.  No matter how much time we spend thinking and lamenting about either, it doesn’t change anything.

One of life’s sharpest paradoxes is that our brightest future hinges on our ability to pay attention to what we’re doing right now, today.

We need to live more in the moment.  Living in the moment requires active, open, intentional awareness on the present.  Don’t fantasize about being on vacation while at work, and don’t worry about the work piling up on your desk when you’re on vacation.  Live for now.  Notice the beauty unfolding around you.

9.  Quit trying to be someone you’re not.

One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else.  Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you.  Don’t change so people will like you.  Be yourself and the right people will love you, and you’ll love yourself more too.  The Road Less Traveled.

10.  Quit being ungrateful.

Not all the puzzle pieces of life will seem to fit together at first, but in time you’ll realize they do, perfectly.  So thank the things that didn’t work out, because they just made room for the things that will.  And thank the ones who walked away from you, because they just made room for the ones who won’t.

No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life.  Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.  Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.

"Life is the sum of all your choices" Albert Camus                                                       Gray Lawrence                                                                                                     Independent Distributor Utility Warehouse                                                            We are still masters of our fate. We are still captains of our souls. Winston Churchill

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We lift ourselves by our thought. We climb upon our vision of ourselves. If you want to enlarge your life, you must first enlarge your thought of it and of yourself. Hold the ideal of yourself as you long to be, always everywhere." Orison Swett Marden 1850-1924, Inspirational Writer

Vicki is a cookbook author, cooking instructor and artist who loves to inspire people to prepare plant-based healthy food.

If I could share 500 words of wisdom to summarize what I’ve learned so far in life, these are the important things I’d want to pass along to others…

One definition of enlightenment is, "no problems." I like this. At first it seems simplistic, but the more you think about it, the more its wisdom is revealed.

Everyone desires to be healthy and happy, and as I get older I am beginning to believe that it is easier than we think. There’s an enormous amount of confusion, guilt and dysfunction surrounding how to take care of ourselves.

This, I believe, is reinforced by industries that profit from our ignorance. There are only two dietary and lifestyle choices – either we choose to live, and act accordingly, or we choose to die.

When one becomes aware, at a gut level, of the interconnection of all of life, many things are easy to understand. If something is good for you, it is good for the planet and all other beings.

Gardeners know that all living beings want to thrive. Put the right plant in the right place; give it the proper amounts of sunlight, food and water and it will lustfully live out its life. When a plant doesn’t flourish, it is either lacking in or getting too much of something, or being chewed on by something else.

Our bodies are similar in that it is our nature to thrive. If we are not healthy we may have emotions and beliefs that are chewing on us.

It’s interesting to note that insects tend to first attack plants that are unhealthy, and not getting their basic physical needs met. Unlike plants, we, at least those of us in the industrialized nations, have the privilege of choice and, in large, the key to being healthy is in making life-affirming choices.

If you find it difficult to make healthy choices, simply do what you do, consciously. With food, for example, when you eat, eat with awareness of what you are eating, and what went into bringing it to you, as well as how it makes your body feel. If you follow this practice, previously relished but not life-sustaining foods quickly lose their appeal.

The same holds true for all our behaviors, from work to relationships. Being in the present moment and aware of how we are feel is the perfect gage for knowing if something is life affirming.

Our thoughts are not always our allies and can drag us into problems, large and small. Today, I am old enough to look back on 60 years and can see how so many things that once seemed to be tremendous problems were created by me, in my own head.

Life, in its brevity, is sacred, as is the food we eat and the planet on which we live. Taking the time and effort to care for your own unique spark in this universe is one of the best things you can do for yourself and others.

And one last thing, have fun – I didn’t feel wise enough to write this until I went for a swim in my favorite place. A little fun goes a long way towards creating both health and happiness. And remember, that in the end all problems disappear anyway.

"Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering." Miguel Ruiz Author

We are still masters of our fate. We are still captains of our souls. – Winston Churchill

Gray Lawrence

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"Forget mistakes. Forget failure. Forget everything except what you’re going to do now and do it. Today is your lucky day. -Will Durant

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Everything comes if a man will only wait. I have brought myself by long meditation to the conviction that a human being with a settled purpose must accomplish it, and that nothing can resist a will that will stake even existence for its fulfilment. Benjamin Disraeli

We are Souls on a Human Journey

Topics: Love, Perspective, Purpose, Questions, Taking Action

Camille LucyIf I could share 500 words to inspire, this is the important wisdom I’d want to pass along to others…

If there were one important – or invaluable – message I could share with the world, it would be that we are souls on a human journey.  Our physical bodies, material possessions and thoughts rooted in fear all boast impermanence and superficiality.

This human experience is merely a playground for our souls. A classroom, if you will. Life on earth is a chance to physically express ourselves, to grow our divinity amidst a variety of challenges.

We are love. Our roots, our core, our very being is love and light energy. We are intertwined, interconnected to everyone and everything. Such is the magic of life. Magnificence can be found every where we look, in every breath we take.

Hold on to the concept of impermanence, the vision of your purpose here. Your soul is on a journey to express, share and become love. Anything else is human, man-made and finite. You will not look back on this life and wish you had more earthly possessions or drama. You will not be proud that you stirred the pot. On the contrary, you will review your life and measure your success here by the love you gave away, and the love you felt for yourself. The gratitude you cultivated, and the wonder you experienced. The blessings you recognized, and the ones you fostered for others.

The dramas that unfold in our day to day human lives are fruitless in nature, though in all hardship is an opportunity to stretch and grow and open our eyes a little wider. Each breath we take in is a chance to begin, again. To wipe the slate clean and start anew. You can choose love at any moment, in every moment.

When making decisions, acting or reacting, question the root of how you feel and what you are about to do. Is it based out of love… or fear? Is this a decision that will enhance your life and the quality of your experience here? Will it enhance the life of others? In what ways can you lovingly express your feelings and actions? If today were your last day on this planet, in your human costume, what would you do, how would you act and what would you say?

Removing yourself from the disguise allows a shift in perspective. It also releases built-up toxins, opening up space for more positive experiences, thoughts and feelings. Those which serve you and the highest good.

In the truth lies freedom. Freedom from pain, fear and judgment. It unlocks a new world, one where mistakes are merely bumps in the road that propel you in the right direction. Acknowledging who you really are, what you really are, gives you the ability to reroute the course, recognizing what is working for you, and what is not. It gives you permission to walk in your own truth. To be authentic and bold. To explore. To stand up against that which previously knocked you down. To live fully and enjoy this priceless gift called life. 

 

Camille Lucy

Camille LucyCamille Lucy is a Certified Holistic Health Coach, Certified Reiki Practitioner, graphic and web designer, business consultant, and Vice President of a local non-profit that “rehabilitates people through animals.” She is also a writer, a Mother of 3 girls, an artist, a Life-and-Love Junkie, a Self-Expression and Development advocate, and – well, you get the point. She’s a lot of things, just like all of us. Camille is also author of, “The (Real) Love Experiment: Explore Love, Relationships & The Self.” Learn more about her and her adventure(s) at www.CamilleLucy.com.

Like you, I am a human being filled with joys, fears, frustrations, and hopes. And, like you, I want to be understood, accepted, and appreciated. — Eric Harvey and Steve Ventura

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. Eleanor Roosevelt

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“Life is the sum of all your choices” Albert Camus

 

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