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How to inspire change BY KARIN DAMES

5 Ways to Inspire Change - People Development Network

Karin Dames

Transformation coach at Pure Growth

Karin DamesWith nearly 20 years experience in the software development industry, Karin moved into a coaching role. She specializes in helping teams get unstuck and creating high-performance teams while actively participating in projects. She is passionate about creating highly productive, happy workplaces and learning organizations where each person thrives.

 

 

5 WAYS TO INSPIRE CHANGE

Have you ever been so frustrated with your work environment that you want to run away, never to come back again?  Have you ever felt desperately hopeless, not knowing how to motivate your people or make your manager listen to you?  Or have you ever felt so powerless to change what seems like the size of the Titanic, overwhelmed and outnumbered, in your attempt to improve your working conditions and results?

The sad truth is, from personal experience in any case, that if you answered yes to any of these questions, you’re far from alone.  Rather, I would risk saying that you are in a very average organization. Chances are that the majority of the people and workplaces you interact with will feel very similar.

It’s like a constant tug of war between employer and employee. The employee feels frustrated that the workplace doesn’t change, and the employer feels frustrated that the employees don’t change.

Everyone waits for someone, or something else to change, resulting in no change at all.

We rather choose the road more travelled, the typical keeping-up-with-the-Jones’ syndrome, out of fear of embarking on something new and unknown. We follow the buzzwords and do things the way it’s always been done, rather than exploring unknown territory.  We are so afraid that we might end up in a dead end and have to turn around, even though on the other hand, we might discover a valuable treasure. Our inborn negativity bias makes us choose known over unknown whenever there is the slightest risk of failure.

Yet, the most beautiful view always emerges after the hardest climb.  And did Columbus not explore unknown territory, the world as we know it would be a very different place.  In order to succeed, you need to embrace and inspire change.  Don’t wait for someone else to change. Rather, be the change you want to see in your workplace.

Here are five ways to inspire change in your workplace:

1. It must be a choice

You can’t tell someone to be inspired, so don’t try to tell someone to change.  No change forced on someone will result in sustained change.

To use the brilliant metaphor by Rick Hanson, forced change is like Teflon – nothing sticks – while voluntary change is like Velcro.

For change to stick, it has to be voluntary.

If you believe you d1on’t have the time to get buy-in, think again.  The reason why people fall back into old habits the moment that there is a crisis is because it gives them permission to break the rules, allowing them to do things the way they feel comfortable with and prefer, not the rules imposed on them by management.

Taking the time to allow people to choose the change might postpone the change for a while, yet it will probably result in a successful and sustainable change in the end.  Forcing change on someone because there is no time, will most certainly result in the transformation failing. Not only have you wasted a lot of time, you don’t have any results to show for it.   So do you really not have the time?

2. Demonstrate quick wins

One of the most valuable things I learned as a consultant was to identify and implement quick wins immediately.  As consultants usually come with a much higher price tag than full-time employees, they are expected to show value for money immediately.

When someone is not aware of the need to change, try to find one small, actionable thing that will immediately show an improvement.  Demonstrating quick wins are like giving a sample of a product.  Either they will see the value and want more, or decide that it is not for them.  Yet, even though they decide not to embark on a journey of change immediately, your quick win has planted a seed which will surely germinate and grow into a plant sooner or later.

Listen to the complaints, and address the biggest pain point without asking for any resources or incentives.

To demonstrate what I mean, I recently had the opportunity to spend time at a design and print company. The owner complained about the constant, and often unnecessary, interruptions, keeping her from doing what she’s good at, namely the creative side of things.  On top of that, her workload seemed extremely high yet she didn’t know what to do about it. The helpers she employed, on the other hand, seemed to do nothing for large parts of the day.

After further investigation, I realized her management style was the main cause of both problems – an easy problem to solve. I immediately implemented a simple Scrum board which stopped the interruptions by having two daily stand-ups to discuss any issues, alleviating her biggest pain point. The following week, on a quiet day, I facilitated a training session to allow the under-utilized employees to do the printing.  It left her much happier, able to focus on the creative side while filling up the other employee’s day and learning a much desired new skill which they.

Neither required any additional resources or investments while giving immediate relief for the most painful problem. It also proved valuable enough to her to commit on embarking on coaching program with me.

3. Adapt your style

Having spent a year in Thailand teaching English, I’ve had to find ways to get my lessons across without speaking Thai.  I quickly realized that tried and tested methods that worked in the western culture had no value in the Thai culture. I had to change my teaching style.

What I, for example, considered to be a world famous people, places or things in order to explain concepts, they have never heard of.  To make it worse, their language doesn’t seem to have any similarities to English.  There are no tenses in Thai, no punctuation, no distinction between sentences and paragraphs, and the sounds are totally different, with concepts such as word stress unknown to them.

Determined to succeed, however, I experimented with ways to leverage on learning methods they are familiar with, like remembering and repeating facts and finding fields of interest that would spark their interest by giving them projects where they could choose the object of the discussion.

When the student doesn’t understand, it’s the teacher’s fault.

Suddenly I found that my students not only keen to come to class, but their progress was extraordinary.  I taught the same skills, but I changed my style.

Similarly, with organizational change, you can’t expect the employees to buy into the change program by speaking your language.  You need to adapt your style to speak in a language that the recipient understands.

4. Push through the discomfort

When people stubbornly refuse to see the need for change, it often hurts the people and organization around them.  Either because of fear or ego, they hold onto dysfunctional situations, causing more harm each day they refuse to change. To make a stubborn leader aware of a need to change, direct confrontation might be required, pushing through the discomfort that follows with compassion.

Sometimes you have to open the wound in order to remove the splinter.

To get the other person to see your point, you have to honestly say what you think and feel, even though it might hurt the other person.  When they get angry or want to walk away, keep going.  Push through.  Don’t stop!

Denial is usually followed by anger.  Anger always covers a deep hurt, with people feeling humiliated, embarrassed, vulnerable, exposed.  Treat them with the necessary kindness and compassion, and finally, attempt to find a resolution.

5. Walk away

Sometimes people will not allow you to push through the discomfort, and the best thing you can do in this case is to walk away.

Either both they and you will be relieved from the discomfort that a change agent demands or they will realize the need for change and finally see your value.

You don’t know what you have until you’ve lost it.

Most people don’t realize what they have until it’s gone.  By walking away you give the company the opportunity to see your true worth.  If they really value you, they will ask for you to come back and in so commit to change. If they don’t, you will be much happier in a more nurturing work environment where you feel more valued.

Don’t hold onto a dysfunctional environment. They might not be ready for the change you propose, or they might not think it is needed.  Either, or, change has to be voluntary.

Conclusion

Being an inspiring leader who inspires change in the workplace is not a special gift you are born with, it is a skill like any that you can learn.

Change starts with an awareness that there is a need to change.  It requires courage to explore the unknown and be vulnerable.  Inspiring sustainable change requires voluntary buy-in into the change program and a strong leader who will be able to push through the fears.

Gray Lawrence

We are still masters of our fate. We are still captains of our souls. – Winston Churchill

"Forget mistakes. Forget failure. Forget everything except what you’re going to do now and do it. Today is your lucky day. -Will Durant

There are times when one can help others for free. this is one.

 

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http://www.clubwebsite.co.uk/birchwoodcoltsjfc/Home

A local chap runs the children’s foot ball teams and here in Lincoln they get some support rom the Lincoln  foot Ball Club but not a lot.  I am opening up to all that are interested in the growth of our young ones, it is my idea to put this information out as I am not a millionaire and help when and where I can, thank you for reading this..

This is the email I have forwarded to you from cliff Penning

If you can offer any help advice or anything at all especially sponsorship we would all be grateful Especially the kids..

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Subject: Birchwood Colts JFC
Hi Gray

It was nice chatting with you today.  A brief Club history is attached, which is also on our club website http://www.clubwebsite.co.uk/birchwoodcoltsjfc/Home.  We are always looking for sponsorship for playing kits, hoodies, waterproofs and equipment for our teams. The team plays in the Mid Lincs Youth League and in the summer the team also enters various five a side competitions, which will take them            (and their sponsors logo) all over Lincolnshire and into parts of Nottinghamshire. The sponsored sportswear will usually last for between 2 to 3 years. Sponsors will also be promoted on our club website with links to the sponsors own web page.

We are exploring other options for sponsorship including match balls with sponsors logos on for all our teams home games and sponsors banners on the goal nets.

If you know of any companies who might be interested or you need any further information, please feel free to contact me.

Kind Regards    Cliff Penning   C.C. Penning   Club Secretary  Birchwood Colts JFC

01522 879322  07712045932

 

Be aware of the big difference between inspired action and activity. Activity comes from the brain-mind and is rooted in disbelief and lack of faith – you are taking action to "make" your desire happen. Inspired action is allowing the law to work through you and to move you. Activity feels hard. Inspired action feels wonderful. May the joy be with you, Rhonda Byrne

 

The power is from within, we have choices to make for us to grow by our actions Personal  Growth is by setting goals  and the power to change someone’s life .   Todays challenges are tomorrow’s strengths  Gray

 

Gray Lawrence 

The world Owes You Everything and nothing

Be Inspired by Craig Hamilton

 

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“Every moment of your life is infinitely creative and the Universe is endlessly bountiful, Just pit forth a clear enough request, and everything your heart desires must come to you” – Shakti Gawain

 

Inspired Quote of the Day™

Stay true to your deepest intuition that an extraordinary and miraculous life is possible. ~ Craig Hamilton


Today’s Brilliance™

Craig Hamilton

Craig is an inspirational leader in the field of evolutionary spirituality and the founder of Integral Enlightenment.

If I could share 500 words of wisdom to summarize what I’ve learned so far in life, these are the important things I’d want to pass along to others…

In our deepest spiritual moments, we’ve all sensed that an extraordinary transformation is possible—a radical realignment at the deepest levels of our being that would not only liberate us from our personal suffering but would infuse our lives with a sacred, cosmic sense of meaning, purpose and wholeness.

Yet, in the face of life’s challenges, it’s easy to lose touch with this deeper sense of potential, and even begin to doubt that such a lofty possibility really exists.

I want you to know that the highest possibility you’ve glimpsed, the most glorious potential you’ve sensed is not a figment of your imagination but a real possibility. And even more than that is possible.

It is possible for life to make perfect sense. It’s possible for your life to make perfect sense. It’s possible to come into such profound alignment with the moral and spiritual axis of the universe that every moment of your life is a walk in grace, and that you know without any doubt that you are in the right place at the right time. It’s possible for all existential doubt to disappear. It’s possible to live with unwavering conviction in the inherent goodness of life.

It’s possible to awaken so deeply to the divine evolutionary principle at the heart of existence that we know that we are living our lives for the highest purpose there is. And in this knowing, to discover an unimaginable and abiding liberation from the suffering of the confused, neurotic, separate sense of self. It’s possible to be truly free.

I’m speaking about a completely different kind of human life than most of us have ever encountered. This is not simply about "being in the now" or "loving and accepting what is in every moment." It is not about simply accessing a more expansive state of awareness or being able to stand back and abide as the Witness of all that arises. And it’s not just about cultivating a sustained feeling of compassion for the suffering of all beings.

I’m pointing to something more. I’m speaking about the possibility of awakening to our divine nature so fully that we become a superconductor for the creative power of the cosmos, for the evolutionary impulse itself. In this miraculous discovery, our personal need to have and get for ourselves is replaced by a passion to give everything for the greatest good. In this profound alignment with the sacred, the human being becomes a living, breathing force for higher evolution.

Whatever you do and wherever your path takes you, don’t settle for less than this kind of ultimate awakening. Don’t listen to the voice that says that your humanity can’t be transformed into a shining beacon of light and goodness. Stay true to your deepest intuition that an extraordinary and miraculous life is possible. Strive for it. Surrender to it. And don’t ever stop reaching.

 

The fastest way to become the Master of your thoughts and emotions is through challenging situations. If your life is going along fairly smoothly, there are not the same opportunities that enable you to strengthen your power and become the Master of your thoughts and emotions.  You see, even challenges are beautiful opportunities in disguise.                                                                                                                      May the joy be with you, Rhonda Byrne

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. Eleanor Roosevelt

Gray Lawrence

"Life is the sum of all your choices" Albert Camus

Be Inspired by MaryAnn D’Ambrosio

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“We all have greatness within us that is waiting for us to believe. Once we believe, the foundation is in place for our greatness to take a foothold and grow.” – Deidre Hughey

Just Be… A Timeless Treasure

Topics: Being Present, Guidance, Mindfulness, Possibility

MaryAnn-DAmbrosio

If I could share 500 words to inspire, this is the important wisdom I’d want to pass along to others…

While mystics, philosophers and seekers of truth have been pondering this for thousands of years… the mystery of life was unceremoniously revealed to me one Saturday afternoon..

What began as an ordinary weekend of classes became extraordinary. An unannounced curriculum change opened our class to a special session. Richard, a third year student skilled at shamanic work, had been selected to take us first year students on a shamanic journey.

I was hesitant about visiting “invisible worlds” beyond ordinary reality. The thought of venturing to “Lower World” to meet and receive a gift from our power animal was scary. Suddenly a familiar inner voice whispered, “You’ll be fine. Trust the process and your inner guidance.” Instantly, meeting my power animal intrigued me and I began to wonder about the gift.

Richard prepared us for Lower World by describing the process and landscape. During the journey he would beat a drum and stated that when we saw an animal, we should ask if it was our power animal. If the animal responded “yes”, remember to ask for the gift. The journey began….

I stepped out of the tunnel into “Lower World,” and saw reddish-brown earth, tall trees, and very few animals. In fact, several minutes passed before seeing an animal that said no, it was not my power animal. There was however, this little bee that suddenly appeared three times during the adventure and then continued to follow me. Much to my surprise, the bee said, “YES” when asked if it was my power animal.

Upon returning from the journey, three classmates eagerly shared their experience describing elaborate adventures with their bear, dolphin, and eagle power animals. Initially, I felt out of place. My tiny “bee” didn’t hold a candle to the larger animals. And yet, when Richard inquired about my power animal and the gift, amazingly – everything clicked.

I recalled the bee saying, “Just Bee” as the gift. Interesting… nothing other than the bee. The bee, a symbol of accomplishing the impossible, became a powerful reminder of anything is possible. Aerodynamically, the bee’s body is too large for its wings and should not be able to fly.

A second later, I realized the gift contained within itself a deeper meaning. The bee presented just “be” as a timeless treasure. Now, it made perfect sense.

Just be… here, in the now – fully present!

Be present, it’s the gift you give to others! When you’re fully present with someone they feel acknowledged.

Just be… in the moment.

This practice allows access to unlimited creativity and opportunities that would go unnoticed if thinking about a past or future event!

Just be… yourself.

Everyone else is taken. Be who you are fully – without pretense. Showing up as you truly matters!

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“Attitude is your best weapon against life’s most difficult challenges.”  – Dave Bexfield

 

 

 

Your Vision of the future, lies from within

Gray Lawrence

The Greatest leaders of the world were men and women of quick decision -Napoleon Hill

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