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Be Inspired by a very young LaNiyah Bailey

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Just think about how different your life would be if you were more selective on what you think. Dr. Steve G. Jones and Frank Mangano

 

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I am beautiful, I am loved. I will not let what others say define me! ~ LaNiyah Bailey

 


 

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LaNiyah Bailey

LaNiyah is a young author and anti-bullying advocate.

If I could share 500 words of wisdom to summarize what I’ve learned so far in life, these are the important things I’d want to pass along to others…

I may only be 8 years old, but I have learned a great deal. I’ve learned that bullying is for losers and losers are just not cool!

Writing two books has shown me that I may be young but, I can achieve whatever it is that I put my mind to. If I strive hard and really focus on what it is that I want, I can do it all. I want other kids my age to know that they can do the same things I’ve done if they put their minds to it.

If I had just 500 words to share with others, I would tell them that beauty comes in all shapes, sizes, colours and differences. Just because someone may look different than what you may consider ‘normal’ doesn’t mean that something is wrong with them. God makes us all unique and we are all born with a gift to share with the world.

I’ve learned that what makes one special is not something another human can define. I think it is very important for parents to teach their children at an early age how to accept people and to not judge others because of their own perceptions of how a person should look.

I’ve also learned that you can inspire people with your story if you have the courage to share it. It helps people and encourages them when they hear how you’ve overcome something. So, don’t be afraid to speak up.

When I decided to write my first book, I was six years old. I was shy, afraid and very timid to tell my story. But, as I started to get emails and letters from people from all over the world of them telling me how I inspired them to stand up for themselves or to stop bullying, I gained the confidence I needed to continue on. It was exciting to learn that I’d helped people in that way. Now my book is in libraries and schools across the country. It is even in the lesson plan at schools in Korea. I never thought my story would be able to affect and help so many people.

Now I know that what people considered different in me was my gift. I used that gift along with my voice to stand up for others that may have been facing the same issues with bullying as I did and now I see that is has helped many. I hope to inspire many more and to help others use their voice as well!

 

I am totally impressed touched and in awe by this young lady and where she is.  God be with you and all the very best.   do view my blog and offer your thoughts LaNiyah

Gray Lawrence                                                                                    “We have the ability to impact and change our vibrations on a personal level to bring about change in our lives and the lives of others.” Frank Mangano

 

REGRET IS NOT YOUR FRIEND

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”Stop and make sure that everything you are doing right now is really what makes you happy. You can’t just live for some goal in the future and have that be everything . . . have that be it. Because that is what some people do. They get on this road and there are all these signs saying, ‘This way. That way.’ But what if you get there, you get exactly what you wanted, like some people do, except all the things that were wrong, are still wrong. Then what?” -Party of Five              

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Do you live with regrets?  Are you able to put regret behind you easily?

Regret Is Not Your Friend

There are two sides to regret.

The first side involves regret for actions or events we wish had not happened and we would like to take back. We have all said or done things we regret. We may get upset and say things that damage our relationships or we may do things that cause harm. For example, Tiger Woods may regret his unfaithful conduct in his marriage.

I have done many things over my life that I regret, from investing in a scam to getting involved in a risky business venture to help out a friend. However, my regrets are now infrequent. Why? I took the time to identify the main causes of my actions and rooted them out. I had to learn to take responsibility for my contribution to my own troubles and to make values-based decisions, conducting myself in way that leaves little room for regret.

What about you? Think about the times when you felt regret. Is there a common theme? Do behaviours or habits contribute to your regret? What new thoughts or action steps could reduce your feelings of regret for the things you have said or done?

For the most part, the first type of regret can be tempered by time.

The second side of regret involves regret for actions not taken. This is the sin of omission. We must take this side of regret even more seriously because we cannot alter time to retrieve things that were missed: the job we did not take, the investment we ignored, or the opportunity we let pass by. The list can be long.

When I achieved the milestone birthday of 50 years, I felt a greater sense of urgency about all the things I wanted to do, despite my plan to live to 100+. I knew that it was my time to take action.

With keen awareness that mortality is universal and non-negotiable, I want to encourage every individual reading this article to take a stand:

“Starting today, I will live my life without regret, especially as it pertains to activities I want to experience and outcomes I wish to realize in my life.”

Here are a few areas you might wish to consider avoiding missing out on (and then later regretting):

§ Attending your child’s recital or concer

§ Beginning a regular fitness program

§ Travelling to that place you have been dreaming about for years

§ Taking that course to upgrade your skills—perhaps even getting the degree you have been contemplating

§ Trying a new food

§ Taking time for yourself

§ Quitting a job you hate

§ Calling a friend to share coffee or lunch

§ Attending the presentation or concert of someone (or group) you enjoy

§ Writing the article, poem, or book you’ve had percolating for ages

§ Joining the community group you’ve been thinking about

Unless material goods are directly linked to what you want to do or become, please don’t focus on them here. Yes, you can keep a list of the “things” you want to own, but putting a new painting on your wall may not be as meaningful as taking a vacation and having quality time with your family.

When have you said, “If only I had…?” Think about it for a moment. What do you wish you had done or become? What are you going to do about it? At this point, remorse won’t get you where you want to go; forward action will. Forget your excuses and make a decision to live your life without regret.

A research study conducted on individuals over 70 years of age asked participants these questions:

“If you could live your life over again, what would you do differently? What do you regret?”

The responses showed the following results:

§ They would take more time for themselves.

§ How many times have we met people who dedicated their whole life to others, at the expense of their own needs and goals?

§ They would take more risks.

§ This is the “if only” part of regret. “If only I had bought the property, taken that job, said ‘no’ to…” and on the story goes.

§ They would dedicate themselves to a cause or purpose that would last beyond their lifetime.

§ What’s your legacy? What will you be remembered for? Will you even be remembered at all?

A life lived without regret is living on purpose and making a difference, whatever the context. How do you rank yourself on a scale of 1 to 10? [1 = Poor (plenty of regret); 10 = Excellent (little or no regret)]

Let’s all strive to be as close to 10 as we can in all areas of our lives! Start now. No regrets, please!

ACTION STEPS:

1. List events in the past that have caused you to experience the most regret.
Is there a common theme or set of situations where regret is recurring for you? What do you think the root cause(s) might be? What can you do to reduce your regret?

2. Think about all the things you regret not
What are your reasons for not taking action—lack of courage, not feeling worthy, compromising your values for others, etc.?

3. Make a list of things you can start doing immediately to reduce your regrets.
Don’t make excuses for what you can’t do. Focus on what you can and will

4. Make a commitment to follow your list of actions.

5. Move on with confidence.

6. Confirm your passions and connect with your purpose to reduce your regrets.

7. Read my newest book, The Quest For Purpose. It will take you on a personal journey of discovery to help you confirm and affirm your passions in life.

8. Benchmark your gifts, talents, and passions by using CRG’s assessments.
Your results will assist you to establish your beliefs with confidence, and increase your passion in all areas of your life.

Remember, our mortality is guaranteed. To those of you who are still procrastinating, I suggest you get started with your no-regrets philosophy this very moment. When you have no regrets, then you are truly living On Purpose!

 

 

Gray Lawrence

“Recognize that you have the ability to change your perception, thus your health. The mind-body connection exists in all of us.”                                  – Cheryln Cluse-Howard

 

 

Forgiveness by Seth Godin

PMA Added…  Wise Words  “Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today?”                               -Mary Manin Morrissey,

 

Forgiveness by Seth Godin

Has anyone ever said or done anything unforgiveable to you?  Something so awful you know you can never forgive them?

Probably this strikes a bell with most of my readers.  It would certainly be rare to find someone who has never been mistreated, never misunderstood, never abused in one way or another.  In some cases the abuse may have been particularly nasty.  Something you would much rather forget, but find you cannot.

Does this person deserve your forgiveness?  Probably not.  Should you forgive them?  Absolutely!

Why do I say this?  If they don’t deserve your forgiveness, why should you forgive them?  Am I trying to turn you into a saint or something?

No.  I am not saying this to make you a "goody goody".  And I am certainly not suggesting you should allow anyone to take advantage of you.  So why I am saying it?

The reason is that I believe you deserve to be free.  You deserve to be happy.  You deserve to be able to do whatever you wish in life and not be weighed down carrying a load dumped on you by someone else.

If there is anyone you have not forgiven for what they have done or said to you this means you are allowing that person to control your life.  You are giving them the ultimate victory over you.  Is that what you want?  If not, you simply have to find a way to forgive them.

Some of you may now be saying "it’s all very well for you to say that, but you don’t know how I have suffered!  You cannot understand just how bad this was!"

I agree I cannot know what it is like to suffer in the way you may have suffered.  To use a common Christian saying, we each have our own cross to bear.  The one you are bearing may be far heavier than mine.  But even though I cannot understand just how bad it was for you, what I do understand is that you are now carrying an unnecessary burden.  Just like "Christian" in John Bunyan’s "Pilgrim’s Progress".  Christian was carrying a burden so heavy he could hardly move.  So are you if there is someone you have not forgiven.  Your happiness is marred because every so often you think of this unforgiveable thing that was done to you and it spoils what would otherwise be a lovely moment in a lovely day.  Why not simply throw that burden away?  It is not stuck to you with superglue.  You have chosen to carry it.  Now you should choose to throw it away.

There may be others who will say "but there is nobody I haven’t forgiven!  Nobody has done anything particularly bad to me!"  If so, you are very fortunate!  But I would suggest there are probably some slights, some grievances, some humiliations that your conscious mind has forgotten but are still bubbling away somewhere under the surface.  You do not feel desperately unhappy, but because there are some unforgiving words and actions loitering in your unconscious mind what could be a really happy moment is, instead, just mildly pleasant.  These unforgiving things are stopping you reaching your full potential.  They are controlling you.

Would you like to free yourself of this burden?  Great!

The first thing you must do is find all the actions and words you have not yet forgiven.  Some may be easy to find.  Others will be hiding under the surface.  Sit quietly and let them come to you.

Now, for each unforgiving act or word find the person.  Picture that person in ,your mind.  Say to them "I forgive you".  At first you will probably feel silly. But don’t worry about that.  Nobody is watching you.  Nobody is laughing at you.  This is something you are doing for yourself so you can be happier.

As you do this you will find a part of your mind will tell you that this person does not deserve your forgiveness.  You can immediately dispel that thought by saying "they may not deserve it, but I am forgiving them for me, not for them!"  This other part of your mind may say it was totally wrong of them to do this to you.  Respond by saying "I am not the one who will judge them for it, and I am not asking them or anyone else to do this again to me, I am just letting go so this act no longer controls me.  I forgive!"

If you are a Christian you should remember the phrase in the Lord’s Prayer "Forgive me my wrongdoings as I forgive those who have done wrong to me"?  Whether or not you are a Christian this is a phrase I would like you to remember and use.  When you forgive others you will find that forgiveness of yourself comes quite naturally too.  But give it a helping hand anyway.  Add your own wrongdoings now.  See them clearly and then forgive yourself.  As long as you have forgiven others you should find you are now able to forgive yourself.  When you do you really should find you feel light and buoyant.  You have let go of your burden.

Try to perform this act of forgiveness every day.  I suggest you do it last thing at night before you go to sleep, as you should find your sleep will then be that much more refreshing.  Try it, let go, don’t allow anyone to control you any more and see just how much difference this makes in your life!

Gray Lawrence

Knowledge has to be improved, challenged, and increased constantly, or it vanishes" Peter Drucker

My own thought’s knowledge is King and Inspiration to us all, less we ignore this.

Be Inspired by – Stacey Maxwell-Krockenberger

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“Give your love as waterfalls and sun shines, over every surface, making new life. Your love beckons the seed in another to grow – in great strength to unfurl.” – Barbara Ann Michaels

Every Moment in your Life Do and Think

“Don’t allow others to diminish your light due to their own fears. Instead, shine so brightly that you illuminate a pathway for them to come out of the darkness!” – Stacey Maxwell-Krockenberger

clip_image002We are a product of our mind and what we do with it determines our future and the road we take chose the right one! Every moment in your life is infinitely creative and the Universe is endlessly bountiful. Just put forth a clear enough request and everything your heart desires must come true.  Shakli Gawain

From birth we are born to win and it is up to us as individuals to make that decision with guidance from those that have trodden the path before us! IT is up to you to be who you are..

Life is about right now in this very moment. Not tomorrow, not yesterday but NOW. Live it! Inspired Living quote

“When you know yourself you are empowered. When you accept yourself you are invincible.” – Tina Lifford

“There are many ways to enter a house. If the front door is closed, there’s always the back door or a window that’s open a crack. Keep looking for a crack to be able to enter the world you want to live in.” – Guy Laliberte

 

Gray Lawrence

“There is a magnificent life that is waiting for you to wake up and remember who you are and why you are here.” – Rev. Cynthia James

Will Power an on going Reality Check…

Exercising “Your Will  Power” ‘                                                                            Your positive lifestyle changes can ADD at least 10 years to your life expectancy.’ A Positive Mental Attitude is the start..

to embrace positive changes in your life. Resist temptation to be the past you..  It will not be easy But we all have to stretch our comfort zones and move our lives forward.
The truth is, living is a risk. Happiness is a risk. If you’re not a little scared and uncomfortable sometimes, then you’re not doing it right. Do not worry about mistakes and failures, worry about what you’re giving up when you don’t even try. Worry about the life you’re not living and the opportunities you’re forgoing, as you merely exist in the safety of your comfort zone.
Give yourself permission to be one of the people who survived doing it wrong, who made mistakes, but recovered from them and grew into your strongest self.  That is what I wish for every reader.  So in a general sense, here are three
good reasons it’s time for all of us to embrace change and move onward…

Hindsight can be so clear.
It is easy to look back in our lives and think, "Wow, I should have seen that; I should have known that."
Hindsight has much clarity. Perhaps we could bring that clarity also to our foresight and our insight.
We have the ability for these different types of ‘sight.’ We do have hindsight. It helps us guide our direction now.
We can’t have foresight but we can feel the pull of spirit pulling us and choose the direction we will take.
We can also have insight so we pay attention to what is working in the deep, deep parts of ourselves.
Heading into this weekend, enjoy your hindsight, your foresight and have some insight.
To Your Sights, Mary Morrissey

 

 

1. There’s plenty of life left to be lived.
It’s never too late to live a day that makes you proud. If you do not learn anything else from this blog, learn that. We get one shot at the present and we can make it great. Today is the day!                                                                There’s no age limit on changing your course, and to settle in and be stuck in a life that isn’t well is a tragic waste.
Honestly, it is never too late or too early to be who you are capable of being. There is no perfect time – you can simply start and stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same. You can make the best or the worst of today. It’s up to you, so make the best of it. Do things that startle you. Feel things you have never felt before. Engage with people who help you grow. Live a life you’re proud of. And if you find that you are not, have the courage to change things.

"Keep your thoughts positive, because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive, because your words become your behaviours. Keep your behaviours positive, because your behaviours become your habits. Keep your habits positive, because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive, because your values become your destiny." Gandhi

2. Holding on to old pain is self-abuse.
Your past has given you the strength and wisdom you have today, so celebrate it. Do not let it haunt you. Replaying a painful memory over and over in your head is a form of self-abuse. Toxic thoughts create a toxic life. Make peace with yourself and your past.
When you heal your thoughts, you heal the health of your happiness. Now is the time to stop focusing on old problems and things you don’t want in your future. Because the more you think about them, the more you attract what you fear into your everyday experiences, you become your own worst enemy.

"Listen closely to your invisible thoughts. What do you hear? What are your words implying? That is their potency. What do you want? Name it and rearrange the structure of your mind to imply you no longer desire it, because you already have it!" Neville Goddard

3. Moving on creates positive change.
You may blame everyone else and think, “Poor me! Why do all these terrible  things keep happening to me?” But the only thing those scenarios all have in common is YOU. And this is GOOD news, because it means YOU alone have the power to change things, or change the way you think about things.
There is something very powerful and liberating about surrendering to change and embracing it – this is where personal growth and evolution reside. 
And of course, if you’re struggling with any of this, know that you are not alone.  Many of us are right there with you, working hard to feel better, think more clearly, and get and keep all our lives on track. 
These techniques work no matter where you stand in your current situation or what you’re up against going forward. Even if you have limited experience with self-improvement and personal development tactics. And even if you do not know what you really want for yourself…yet.  Keep being Positive show others how to be like you..

 

"You want to become aware of your thoughts, you want to choose your thoughts carefully and you want to have fun with this, because you are the masterpiece of your own life." – Joe Vitale

Gray Lawrence                                                                   "It is never too late to be what you might have been."          Mary Ann Evans (George Eliot)

 

 

 

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