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The Power of Negative Thinking

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"How do I stop my negative thoughts?" – is a question that I have been asked many times. If you have ever asked this question then you will feel such enormous relief in knowing the answer, because it is so simple. How do you stop negative thoughts? You plant good thoughts!

When you try to stop negative thoughts, you are focusing on what you don’t want – negative thoughts – and you will attract an abundance of them. They can never disappear if you are focused on them. The "stop" part is irrelevant – the negative thoughts are your focus. It doesn’t matter if you are trying to stop negative thoughts or control them or push them away, the result is the same. Your focus is on negative thoughts, and by the law of attraction you are inviting more of them to you.

The truth is always simple and it is always easy. To stop negative thoughts, just plant good thoughts! Deliberately plant good thoughts! You plant good thoughts by making it a daily practice to appreciate all the things in your day. Appreciate your health, your car, your home, your family, your job, your friends, your surroundings, your meals, your pets, and the magnificent beauty of the day. Compliment, praise, and give thanks to all things. Every time you say "Thank you" it is a good thought! As you plant more and better thoughts, the negative thoughts will be wiped out. Why? Because your focus is on good thoughts, and what you focus on you attract.

So don’t give any attention to negative thoughts. Don’t worry about them. If any come, make light of them, shrug them off, and let them be your reminder to deliberately think more good thoughts now.

The more good thoughts you can plant in a day, the faster your life will be utterly transformed into all good. If you spend only one day speaking of good things and saying "Thank you" at every single opportunity, you will not believe your tomorrow. Deliberately thinking good thoughts is exactly like planting seeds. As you think good thoughts you are planting good seeds inside you, and the Universe will transform those seeds into a garden of paradise. How will the garden of paradise appear? As your life!                    May the joy be with you,   Rhonda Byrne
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bringing joy to billions



The Power of Negative Thinking       

By Tim Jarvis  O, The Oprah Magazine | From the March 2009 issue of O, The Oprah Magazine

Cheer up. Be happy. Find the silver lining. Smile.
If you didn’t know any better, you might say we’re a country that preaches optimism. But some 30 to 35 percent of Americans employ a calculated form of negative thinking—called defensive pessimism—that can lead to very positive results, according to Julie K. Norem, PhD, a professor of psychology at Wellesley College.

We’re not talking about a general disposition to see the glass half-empty: "Defensive pessimism is a strategy used in specific situations to manage anxiety, fear, and worry," says Norem, who has conducted seminal research on the subject. "Defensive pessimists," she says, "prepare for a situation by setting low expectations for themselves, then follow up with a very detailed assessment of everything that may go wrong." Once they’ve imagined the full range of bad outcomes, they start figuring out how they’ll handle them, and that gives them a sense of control.

"What’s intriguing about defensive pessimists," adds Lawrence Sanna, PhD, a professor of psychology at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, who has also studied the phenomenon, "is that they tend to be very successful people, and so their low opinion of the outcome isn’t realistic; they use it to motivate themselves to perform better." For example, an executive is getting ready to pitch a project, and she thinks beforehand, "The client is going to be really difficult; he’s not going to like my proposal. I have to make sure I explain things very clearly." "She uses defensive pessimism as a tool to work through all the possibilities so she’s prepared for everything, even failure," Sanna says. "And if she does fail, she’s ready for it, so it’s not so catastrophic."

If all this sounds familiar (take the quiz to see if you use defensive pessimism), a piece of advice from the experts may give you a lift: Don’t listen to appeals from friends or family to look on the bright side. "Research shows that if you pressure defensive pessimists into being optimistic, or try to manipulate their mood, their performance deteriorates," says Andrew J. Elliot, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of Rochester. One of the most frequent comments Norem got after publishing The Positive Power of Negative Thinking in 2001 was "Thank you. I can finally tell my mother to shut up."

“Always look for the positive. Don’t let anything stop you or get in the way of your goals and dreams.” – Sage Donnelly

Gray Lawrence

Our highest power is love, and it is one thing each of us has an unlimited amount of. How much love do you give to others in one day? Each day we have an opportunity to set out with this great, unlimited power in our possession, and pour it over every person and circumstance. Love is appreciating, complimenting, feeling gratitude, and speaking good words to others. We have so much love to give and the more that we give, the more we receive. May the joy be with you, – Rhonda Byrne


Positive Mind or Negative Mind – Choices

Apologies for no blogs recently Surgery took over my time for a while.  Now Back for a while.
Positive or Negative?

What is your prevailing state of mind? Is it primarily positive or negative?

I believe it is important to maintain a positive state of mind as much as possible, for three different reasons.

Firstly, I believe that everything that happens to me personally originates from within.  If I constantly think negative thoughts, negative things will happen to me.  In other words, I strongly believe in the Law of Attraction. Whatever I focus on most will be attracted to me, be it good or bad.  Why attract bad things when, if you choose, you can attract good things instead?

Secondly, I believe my state of mind spreads to those around me.  You do not have to believe in magic just because I  do or any of the “new thought” philosophies, even though I do, to believe you “infect” those around you with your moods.  Imagine being in a room of people who are all in a bad mood and are showing this, for example, through their facial expressions.  How does that make you feel?  I would be most surprised if it made you feel happy!  Wouldn’t you want to get out of that room as quickly as possible so you didn’t become miserable?  Now imagine being in a room where everyone is happy.  True, some people do react badly to this, so it is not quite as simple as it seems.  But as long as there is not something deep within you that resents the happiness (for example if you have just lost a loved one) you will probably find the happiness is infectious too.

Lastly, if you have the choice of being happy or sad, which would you choose?  Surely you would wish to be happy wouldn’t you?  If you have a positive state of mind you are much more likely to be happy than sad.  Happiness is not something external but rather comes from inside you.  The things that happen to you do not, of themselves, make you happy or sad.  They may trigger a happy or sad state of mind, but the key word here is “trigger”.  It is not what happens itself that causes you to be happy or sad, but your state of mind.  So why not choose to have a positive state of mind that makes you happy.

Realistic Optimism

Recently I heard a so-called expert on the radio assert that the “normal” state of mind of British people is pessimism.  He berated those who are optimistic and said they should just accept the “normal” pessimistic state of mind which is the heritage of the British.

Why?  I am British, and I certainly do not accept this point of view.  I do accept that many are pessimists, and this is not restricted to the British.  Indeed, some sales trainers tell us that the way to motivate British buyers is to get them to move away from the things they fear rather than towards the things they want.  That may be true, but it doesn’t have to be.

We can choose to be optimistic if we wish.  By all means realistic, but still optimistic.  By “realistic” I mean not always so expecting the best outcome that we are shocked and disappointed when it doesn’t happen.  But by “optimistic” I mean knowing that good things will happen, even if there are sometimes some less pleasant interludes on the way.  Be prepared for the worst, but expect the best!

Victim Mind set

Many people have what is called a “victim mind state”.  They are always asking “why does this happen to me?”  They view themselves as always being the victim of unfortunate circumstances.  If you believe you are a victim you will interpret everything that happens to you in this way.

Notice the choice of words here – “happens to you”.  Victims have a grandiose sense of their own importance.  Everything that happens is something happening to them.  Not impersonal.  Not just one of those things.  But a part of a universal conspiracy to make them miserable.  They are the centre of the universe.  Not a kind universe but an evil, threatening universe.

Guess what?  If that is the way you think you will start attracting those bad situations to you.  Even when you are in a good situation, though, you will manage to find something bad within it.  You will find the elements that support your view that you are a victim.

If you are a victim, escaping from this state of mind is not easy.  But it is something you must do unless you want to stay miserable all your life.

The universe is not conspiring against you.  It wants nothing more than to give you all the good things you want and deserve.  But as long as you keep asking it for the bad things (which is what you are doing when you fall into the trap of the victim mindstate) it will give them to you.  As it says in Matthew 7:7 – “Ask and it shall be given to you”.  That applies just as much, unfortunately, to the bad things in life as well as the good things.

I Make It Happen

Most of us fall into the victim trap from time to time, even if we do not generally have the victim mindset personality.  When it happens to you do NOT ask the question “why me?”, or you are in danger of falling deeper and deeper into the victim mindset.  Instead, ask an empowering question.  Ask “what can I do to ….” – and fill in the gap depending on the circumstances.  “What can I do to make more money?”  “What can I do to attract a lovely partner?”  “What can I do to be happier?”.  I am sure you can add many more examples.  The universe always answers your questions eventually, so by asking such questions you will be finding the ways to a better life.

Move from the state of “it happens to me” (the victim state) to that of “I make it happen”.  Ask the right questions, and then make it happen by following the answers to those questions.

It Happens Through Me

Ultimately, you can then move again from “it happens to me” to “it happens through me”.  This is the state in which you are allowing universal power to flow through you and bring good things to those around you.  By doing this you will find you are doubly blessed.  You will certainly feel good being the instrument of the universe in bringing all that is good to others.  But also you will find that as you give, so you will receive.  This is a universal law which cannot be broken.

For most of us, our mindset is not a permanent fixture but a fluctuating state.  Sometimes most of us will fall into the victim mindset unless we notice it starting to happen and take action to reverse it.  Try as much as possible to be in the “it happens through me” mindset.

Don’t be taken in by those around you who try to tell you it is silly to be optimistic and the more realistic state of mind is the pessimistic one.  This is only true if you let it be true.  Don’t become a victim, but become the one who creates happiness all around and luxuriates in that happiness!


Gray Lawrence

The choices you make determine your destiny


Abundance the state of having a large quantity…

Whether positive or negative your feelings consume your mind, body and spirit and it is up to you (and only you) to try to improve your feelings or maintain positive feelings.”

Frank Mangano


What is abundance?  If you have spent any time at all looking into personal development you must have come across this term so many times.  But what exactly is it?

According to my dictionary, the word “abundance” means “the state of having a large quantity; plentifulness”.  But a large quantity of what, precisely?  Plenty of what?  The answer, of course, is “everything”.

Or perhaps, more accurately, “everything that is good”.  That is not the dictionary definition, which could apply equally to everything that is not so good.  But in the way it is used by me and by everyone else involved in personal development “abundance” is only that which is good.


“Success isn’t something that you do on the outside; success is something that you are on the inside. The rest will follow.” ~Chuck Danes


This is a very important point to get your head around.  “Abundance”, in the way in which we mean it, can only be good.  If you can really take that in and accept it, you will already have removed one of the biggest blocks to abundance which most people seem to have.  The belief that there is something wrong about wanting abundance, that it is selfish, that the things you want are not good for you.

If whatever comes to you when you pursue abundance is only good, then it cannot be wrong to want it.  It cannot be selfish. It cannot be bad for you. Know this for a certainty.  Believe it with your inner core.  If you do, you will find it so much easier to achieve whatever you want to achieve.  But if you do not, you will find it almost impossible.


“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” ~Thomas Edison


One thing that many of us pursue is “success”.  Is it wrong to want to be successful?  Of course not!  How could it be?  Otherwise it would be right to want to fail – and that certainly cannot be right, unless you mean as a step towards final success such as experienced by Edison.  Most of us know this superficially, but deep down there is something in us that contradicts it.  We see other people who have achieved what society calls success and notice they are not always happy and fulfilled – sometimes they are quite miserable and are very poor role models.  Inside, we say “if that is success then I don’t want anything to do with it!”.  Everything comes back, though, to what you mean by success.  I would argue that none of those people are truly successful.  They may have become famous, they may be wealthy, but they are not successful.  Decide on your measure of success, ignoring what the world tries to say success must be, make sure it is fully aligned with your inner nature, and then go for it!  You will find, if you do this exercise properly, that your definition of success is a good thing for you and also if you determine to achieve it you will.

Another thing so many pursue is “wealth”.  Is there anything wrong with wealth?  Again, of course not!  Wealth is neutral when it comes to good and evil.  Everything depends on how it is used.  Look at how Bill Gates has chosen to use his wealth for example!  Some people feel it is wrong to want to be wealthy, believing the only way you can become wealthy is by depriving others of what they need or want.  Ridiculous!  Yes, it is possible to become wealthy through selfish or even illegal means.  But that is not really abundance.  And the Universe has a way of restoring the right balance.  If not in this lifetime then in the next.  But often in this lifetime – there are so many cases of people who have acquired their wealth selfishly finding it is all frittered away in next to no time.  The best way of becoming wealthy is by giving great value to others – who then add to your wealth in return.  Do this properly and you will find you become truly wealthy in an abundant way.


“The Power of Listening is available to us all, only those who listen will gain great benefits in life, love personal & financial wealth. The decision is yours” Gray Lawrence


Get your mind straight on the true meaning of abundance and you too can have everything you truly desire.  The Universe is truly abundant and is simply waiting to share that abundance with you.  Go out now and accept that gift with gratitude rather than ungraciously continually to throw it back in the face of the Universe!


Gray Lawrence

“Abundance doesn’t follow giving until giving becomes its own reward.” Jan Denise


The powerful connection between your mind and your success

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If you have "needing money" in your vibration, then you will keep attracting needing money. You have to find a way of being happy NOW, feeling good NOW, and being in joy NOW, without the money, because those great feelings are how you will feel with the money. Money doesn’t bring happiness – but happiness brings money. May the joy be with you,
Rhonda Byrne

From Jack Canfield

There is a very powerful connection between your mind and your success.

For instance, increasing your income is largely determined by the limiting beliefs and negative habits that were programmed into your brain at a young age.             It’s true.

Did you grow up hearing things like:

"Money doesn’t grow on trees."

"We can’t afford it."

"All rich people are evil."

"We’ll never be wealthy."

"Money is the root of all evil."

These phrases seem harmless, but they act as instructions to your subconscious mind. They are the seeds that grow into the limiting beliefs and thought patterns that determine how you think or feel about money today, as an adult.

And most of these beliefs have been programmed into your mind for years, so much so that they’re practically part of your wiring.

It’s no wonder why so many of us struggle to earn more money, follow our dreams, or have the relationships we want. Sometimes it’s to the point where we don’t even feel comfortable asking for or receiving those things when it does come into our lives.

But there’s good news…

If you’ve ever felt like there was something holding you back from success that is out of your control, I invite you to check this out…

John Assaraf, my friend, co-star in The Secret, and fellow New York Times Best-Selling author, is the founder of NeuroGym and will be hosting an incredible live event this Saturday that can help you remove all of the mental or emotional roadblocks that are preventing you from achieving your goals.

To late for the event but check the link out…  Gray, if of interest of course!

Learn more about Brain-A-Thon by watching my short video and reserve your FREE spot today!

For the past six years, this event has changed the lives of over 1,000,000 attendees, including some of my students.

This year, John told me that he’s gathered 7 of the world’s top brain science and success experts to help you "rewire" your brain.

In fact, John and his team of experts are going to teach you more about positive thinking, creating wealth, and achieving your goals in one day than you’ve learned in your entire life. Most of these trainings have never been seen before publicly (and might never be seen again).

I’ve seen it for myself, and it’s truly incredible.

To your success,

Jack Canfield
America’s #1 Success Coach
CEO, The Canfield Training Group
Co-creator of Chicken Soup for the Soul™
New York Times Bestselling Author

P.S. Remember… this online event only takes place once a year! Are you really willing to let another year go by feeling stuck in the same situation you are in now?

Gray Lawrence

Set your sights high, the higher the better. Expect the most wonderful things to happen, not in the future but right now. Realize that nothing is too good. Allow absolutely nothing to hamper you or hold you up in any way." Eileen Caddy 1917-2006, Author

Five Secrets Guaranteeing Success

Focus on the WHY of life and not the HOW, remembering that where focus goes, energy flows.                                                                                                                               Success and failure comes in pairs. Either you have a pair of Aces called “Resolve & Undenied” or a pair of jokers called “Wishing & Wanting You’re hand to play.       Gray Lawrence

What if there was a secret book somewhere that could virtually guarantee your success, would you want to know where it was? What if there were unwritten rules and laws inside that book that only a small number of people knew about and what if those laws could literally change your whole life; would you play by those rules and adhere to those laws in order to have the life you really want? Would that secret book be your Bible?

Think about it for a moment; if you were handed a secret book with a set of rules and a simple but powerful formula to follow that would allow you to own your life, would you read that book from front to back cover and put the secrets to work for you or would you leave it standing idle on your bookshelf and forget about it?


If you’re ready to push aside your past and plan a future that is everything you’ve ever wanted, what follows is a secret formula to making millions in your MLM that is more valuable than any book you will ever read. Let’s take a look at it…

5 Secrets To Changing Your Life

The First Secret – Your Past is NOT Your Future.

We are all influenced by the past. It might be that our parents, peers or siblings presented us with situations and challenges when we were young children that we were not always comfortable with and that we struggled to come through in the way we would have wanted to. This is simply a part of life but for some, this time of failure (as it is often viewed), leaves a heavy footprint in the sand.


The secret to creating the future you desire and truly deserve is to leave this footprint behind. Allow the sea to wash over it until the footprint is washed away. Now move on…

The Second Secret – Your Beliefs Become Your Reality.

The human mind is more powerful that any computer. It has the ability to store an unlimited amount of information and solve the most complex problems and has taken our species from the dark ages to a place where we are now globally connected in ways many of our ancestors could only dream of. We all have the power to create change and develop ideas into life changing realities. Those who we remember for their achievements and inventions had one single thing in common; a belief in what they were able to achieve and that belief enabled them to create what we remember them for. Edison’s first electric light bulb, Einstein’s theory of relativity, Levi Strauss’ Denims. We remember their achievements and inventions which were a result of their belief in a new reality.

When you focus on what you believe will be your achievements and see them mapped out in front of you (goal by goal), your beliefs become your reality over time and your journey, struggle by struggle, simply becomes a part of the process of getting to where you are going.

The Third Secret – Your Actions Become Your Habits.

Affirmations create long term mental change and are valuable to the process of change. Results come from a different place and are achieved as an output of some kind of action. Great results are the outcome of focused activity, while poor results are the outcome of unplanned random acts (subconsciously intended to fail).

Successful entrepreneurs have three basic attributes in common; strong work ethic, self belief and laser targeted focus on the task in hand. This doesn’t mean you should never have more than one thing in the pot when you are planning to cook up some serious change. In contrast, wealth is often created through multiple streams of income. The key to creating that wealth, though, is to focus and complete one task at a time. Creating, planning and carrying out many tasks over time that will have a deep impact on the overall plan you have put in place.

Understand why you want to achieve change and then put a detailed plan in place of how that change will take place. Once your plan is in place, break it down into daily, weekly and monthly tasks that you must complete and watch your actions become the habits of a successful entrepreneur.

The Fourth Secret – Your Heart Will Lead To Wealth.

Business is often seen as the domain of grey suits, reserved relationships and serious conversation and at times this is needed. There is a place also for laughter, love and deep connections. Connecting with your customers, business partners and team members and creating the type of workplace or business that doesn’t feel like work and feels more like a cause. Creating great connections brings people together behind a cause and allows you to bring people with you on your journey.

These connections will help you to truly unlock the secret and throw open the door to riches by creating the lifestyle you are searching for. A life unrestricted by the “norms” and expectations of business life and led by your heart and not your head.

The Fifth Secret – Your Goals Are Greater Than Your Gain.

Great gifts are often wrapped in simple paper. When we begin this journey we’re often so deep in debt or feeling so lost in our current place in life, that our focus is on something that is simply material. We’d like a new car or a holiday with the family or we would do anything to have an extra few thousand in our bank account each month. These material things will only carry us so far on this journey and after a while will cease to inspire us to reach our true potential.


The secret to creating the life you know is out there waiting for you is to have a goal that is truly bigger than your gain. This is different for each of us and will only come to you when you are ready to receive it. When it does, make it your legacy and your journey will fall into place.

The Secret Book – Changing Your Life

Changing your life and creating the future you desire starts when you make a decision to fulfil your dream. You may be focused on your current problems, your challenges and concerns right now and have little more in your sights than that looming credit card bill or mortgage payment. You may hate your job and the people you work with or feel that your social life has simply vanished beneath a pile of personal responsibilities and free time is nothing but a dream. These are real challenges and often take over our lives without being invited to..

When we push through these challenges we are able to make a space for the things we truly value to come into focus; our family and loved ones, our health and happiness and our true desire to leave the world a better place through our actions and achievements. This is the real secret.   Neil Ashworth


This decade is going to be a BIG one for the multi level marketing industry and 2012 is likely to be the year MLM really takes off but before you head off into the wilderness and find yourself up at all hours searching for the best MLM to join take a few minutes to read the steps below and set yourself off on the right foot. Read on to find the best MLM in 2012.

Let’s begin!

Multi level marketing is a proven and time tested business model, but for many it is still the land that time forgot. A place where only the brave (or some say foolish) will ever go and where great MLM monsters walk the land waiting for some unsuspecting newcomer to pick up and devour. Face facts, network marketing has had its share of horror stories over the years but are those stories a fair reflection of the industry and what it can offer you in 2012 and beyond?

I don’t believe YOU should ever believe what others tell you is the truth, until you can stand and review the information being provided to you feeling truly informed and knowledgeable. Without knowledge you have no control over your future and with knowledge your future is truly limitless.  Gather that knowledge and do your due diligence before committing your future (or not) to the wonderful world of MLM.

Frustration can become like a chain and it can strangle your efforts for success or you can get the key out and open the lock. Key is the key of Decision that unchains the future, your future

Working hard is the foundation for any success in life, but many people have the “What if” Disease! , they see “Working hard as Hardly Working” & expect the same results

Gray Lawrence 

The future looks bright for those who chose to shine and become a star

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