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The power to change someone’s life

 

When you develop a Positive Mental Attitude, you immediately set yourself apart from the crowd, you feel better, healthier and stronger. You become a leader because positive thinking leads to positive action, while negative thinking leads you in the wrong direction! When you take the initiative, others will follow simply because they like to associate with people who know where they are going.

“What I find amazing is that when you go out of your way to give to another person, you will also receive great things in your life. This is what is called the Law of Giving and Receiving. You may not receive from the people you are helping, but  you will receive good things from other people and in other ways.” Sonia Ricotti

In order to lead, however, you must first be willing to discipline yourself, be honest and open. The first rule of leadership is never to ask others to do what you are unwilling to do yourself. You can lead only by example. Being a leader requires you to work harder and longer than the others and proving you are the master of your own destiny. Be all that you are and all you can be!

“You do not always have to know when you are going to get to your goal, or how you are going to get to your goal, but you do need to take the next step.” Peggy McColl

To share your passion in helping others to achieve their desires not yours! Training is important No One went to work before going to school.

Be in business for yourself but not by yourself, have the freedom working from home and not a slave to the pay packet, you deserve better! You deserve the income we all dream of; it’s not just for the Entrepreneurs’ of the past but of the future! Not everyone can be a Richard Branson or The Sultan of Brunei; they amassed their wealth in different ways one from Royalty and one from hard work and faith in one’s own ability! They both have a gift! Why not you? Are you willing to be: a pupil, to be taught, patient, understanding and ready to live your dreams and desires?  Well what are you waiting for!

“You may never know what results come from your action. But if you do nothing, there will be no result.” Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi

Gray Lawrence

“Success is not a destination: It is a journey. The happiest people I know are those who are busy working toward specific objectives. The most bored and miserable people I know are those who are drifting along with no worthwhile objectives in mind.” Zig Ziglar

The Power of Negative Thinking

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"How do I stop my negative thoughts?" – is a question that I have been asked many times. If you have ever asked this question then you will feel such enormous relief in knowing the answer, because it is so simple. How do you stop negative thoughts? You plant good thoughts!

When you try to stop negative thoughts, you are focusing on what you don’t want – negative thoughts – and you will attract an abundance of them. They can never disappear if you are focused on them. The "stop" part is irrelevant – the negative thoughts are your focus. It doesn’t matter if you are trying to stop negative thoughts or control them or push them away, the result is the same. Your focus is on negative thoughts, and by the law of attraction you are inviting more of them to you.

The truth is always simple and it is always easy. To stop negative thoughts, just plant good thoughts! Deliberately plant good thoughts! You plant good thoughts by making it a daily practice to appreciate all the things in your day. Appreciate your health, your car, your home, your family, your job, your friends, your surroundings, your meals, your pets, and the magnificent beauty of the day. Compliment, praise, and give thanks to all things. Every time you say "Thank you" it is a good thought! As you plant more and better thoughts, the negative thoughts will be wiped out. Why? Because your focus is on good thoughts, and what you focus on you attract.

So don’t give any attention to negative thoughts. Don’t worry about them. If any come, make light of them, shrug them off, and let them be your reminder to deliberately think more good thoughts now.

The more good thoughts you can plant in a day, the faster your life will be utterly transformed into all good. If you spend only one day speaking of good things and saying "Thank you" at every single opportunity, you will not believe your tomorrow. Deliberately thinking good thoughts is exactly like planting seeds. As you think good thoughts you are planting good seeds inside you, and the Universe will transform those seeds into a garden of paradise. How will the garden of paradise appear? As your life!                    May the joy be with you,   Rhonda Byrne
The Secret and The Power…
bringing joy to billions

 

 

The Power of Negative Thinking       

By Tim Jarvis  O, The Oprah Magazine | From the March 2009 issue of O, The Oprah Magazine

Cheer up. Be happy. Find the silver lining. Smile.
If you didn’t know any better, you might say we’re a country that preaches optimism. But some 30 to 35 percent of Americans employ a calculated form of negative thinking—called defensive pessimism—that can lead to very positive results, according to Julie K. Norem, PhD, a professor of psychology at Wellesley College.

We’re not talking about a general disposition to see the glass half-empty: "Defensive pessimism is a strategy used in specific situations to manage anxiety, fear, and worry," says Norem, who has conducted seminal research on the subject. "Defensive pessimists," she says, "prepare for a situation by setting low expectations for themselves, then follow up with a very detailed assessment of everything that may go wrong." Once they’ve imagined the full range of bad outcomes, they start figuring out how they’ll handle them, and that gives them a sense of control.

"What’s intriguing about defensive pessimists," adds Lawrence Sanna, PhD, a professor of psychology at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, who has also studied the phenomenon, "is that they tend to be very successful people, and so their low opinion of the outcome isn’t realistic; they use it to motivate themselves to perform better." For example, an executive is getting ready to pitch a project, and she thinks beforehand, "The client is going to be really difficult; he’s not going to like my proposal. I have to make sure I explain things very clearly." "She uses defensive pessimism as a tool to work through all the possibilities so she’s prepared for everything, even failure," Sanna says. "And if she does fail, she’s ready for it, so it’s not so catastrophic."

If all this sounds familiar (take the quiz to see if you use defensive pessimism), a piece of advice from the experts may give you a lift: Don’t listen to appeals from friends or family to look on the bright side. "Research shows that if you pressure defensive pessimists into being optimistic, or try to manipulate their mood, their performance deteriorates," says Andrew J. Elliot, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of Rochester. One of the most frequent comments Norem got after publishing The Positive Power of Negative Thinking in 2001 was "Thank you. I can finally tell my mother to shut up."

“Always look for the positive. Don’t let anything stop you or get in the way of your goals and dreams.” – Sage Donnelly

Gray Lawrence

Our highest power is love, and it is one thing each of us has an unlimited amount of. How much love do you give to others in one day? Each day we have an opportunity to set out with this great, unlimited power in our possession, and pour it over every person and circumstance. Love is appreciating, complimenting, feeling gratitude, and speaking good words to others. We have so much love to give and the more that we give, the more we receive. May the joy be with you, – Rhonda Byrne

 

Positive Mind or Negative Mind – Choices

Apologies for no blogs recently Surgery took over my time for a while.  Now Back for a while.
Positive or Negative?

What is your prevailing state of mind? Is it primarily positive or negative?

I believe it is important to maintain a positive state of mind as much as possible, for three different reasons.

Firstly, I believe that everything that happens to me personally originates from within.  If I constantly think negative thoughts, negative things will happen to me.  In other words, I strongly believe in the Law of Attraction. Whatever I focus on most will be attracted to me, be it good or bad.  Why attract bad things when, if you choose, you can attract good things instead?

Secondly, I believe my state of mind spreads to those around me.  You do not have to believe in magic just because I  do or any of the “new thought” philosophies, even though I do, to believe you “infect” those around you with your moods.  Imagine being in a room of people who are all in a bad mood and are showing this, for example, through their facial expressions.  How does that make you feel?  I would be most surprised if it made you feel happy!  Wouldn’t you want to get out of that room as quickly as possible so you didn’t become miserable?  Now imagine being in a room where everyone is happy.  True, some people do react badly to this, so it is not quite as simple as it seems.  But as long as there is not something deep within you that resents the happiness (for example if you have just lost a loved one) you will probably find the happiness is infectious too.

Lastly, if you have the choice of being happy or sad, which would you choose?  Surely you would wish to be happy wouldn’t you?  If you have a positive state of mind you are much more likely to be happy than sad.  Happiness is not something external but rather comes from inside you.  The things that happen to you do not, of themselves, make you happy or sad.  They may trigger a happy or sad state of mind, but the key word here is “trigger”.  It is not what happens itself that causes you to be happy or sad, but your state of mind.  So why not choose to have a positive state of mind that makes you happy.

Realistic Optimism

Recently I heard a so-called expert on the radio assert that the “normal” state of mind of British people is pessimism.  He berated those who are optimistic and said they should just accept the “normal” pessimistic state of mind which is the heritage of the British.

Why?  I am British, and I certainly do not accept this point of view.  I do accept that many are pessimists, and this is not restricted to the British.  Indeed, some sales trainers tell us that the way to motivate British buyers is to get them to move away from the things they fear rather than towards the things they want.  That may be true, but it doesn’t have to be.

We can choose to be optimistic if we wish.  By all means realistic, but still optimistic.  By “realistic” I mean not always so expecting the best outcome that we are shocked and disappointed when it doesn’t happen.  But by “optimistic” I mean knowing that good things will happen, even if there are sometimes some less pleasant interludes on the way.  Be prepared for the worst, but expect the best!

Victim Mind set

Many people have what is called a “victim mind state”.  They are always asking “why does this happen to me?”  They view themselves as always being the victim of unfortunate circumstances.  If you believe you are a victim you will interpret everything that happens to you in this way.

Notice the choice of words here – “happens to you”.  Victims have a grandiose sense of their own importance.  Everything that happens is something happening to them.  Not impersonal.  Not just one of those things.  But a part of a universal conspiracy to make them miserable.  They are the centre of the universe.  Not a kind universe but an evil, threatening universe.

Guess what?  If that is the way you think you will start attracting those bad situations to you.  Even when you are in a good situation, though, you will manage to find something bad within it.  You will find the elements that support your view that you are a victim.

If you are a victim, escaping from this state of mind is not easy.  But it is something you must do unless you want to stay miserable all your life.

The universe is not conspiring against you.  It wants nothing more than to give you all the good things you want and deserve.  But as long as you keep asking it for the bad things (which is what you are doing when you fall into the trap of the victim mindstate) it will give them to you.  As it says in Matthew 7:7 – “Ask and it shall be given to you”.  That applies just as much, unfortunately, to the bad things in life as well as the good things.

I Make It Happen

Most of us fall into the victim trap from time to time, even if we do not generally have the victim mindset personality.  When it happens to you do NOT ask the question “why me?”, or you are in danger of falling deeper and deeper into the victim mindset.  Instead, ask an empowering question.  Ask “what can I do to ….” – and fill in the gap depending on the circumstances.  “What can I do to make more money?”  “What can I do to attract a lovely partner?”  “What can I do to be happier?”.  I am sure you can add many more examples.  The universe always answers your questions eventually, so by asking such questions you will be finding the ways to a better life.

Move from the state of “it happens to me” (the victim state) to that of “I make it happen”.  Ask the right questions, and then make it happen by following the answers to those questions.

It Happens Through Me

Ultimately, you can then move again from “it happens to me” to “it happens through me”.  This is the state in which you are allowing universal power to flow through you and bring good things to those around you.  By doing this you will find you are doubly blessed.  You will certainly feel good being the instrument of the universe in bringing all that is good to others.  But also you will find that as you give, so you will receive.  This is a universal law which cannot be broken.

For most of us, our mindset is not a permanent fixture but a fluctuating state.  Sometimes most of us will fall into the victim mindset unless we notice it starting to happen and take action to reverse it.  Try as much as possible to be in the “it happens through me” mindset.

Don’t be taken in by those around you who try to tell you it is silly to be optimistic and the more realistic state of mind is the pessimistic one.  This is only true if you let it be true.  Don’t become a victim, but become the one who creates happiness all around and luxuriates in that happiness!

 

Gray Lawrence

The choices you make determine your destiny

 

Abundance the state of having a large quantity…

Whether positive or negative your feelings consume your mind, body and spirit and it is up to you (and only you) to try to improve your feelings or maintain positive feelings.”

Frank Mangano

 

What is abundance?  If you have spent any time at all looking into personal development you must have come across this term so many times.  But what exactly is it?

According to my dictionary, the word “abundance” means “the state of having a large quantity; plentifulness”.  But a large quantity of what, precisely?  Plenty of what?  The answer, of course, is “everything”.

Or perhaps, more accurately, “everything that is good”.  That is not the dictionary definition, which could apply equally to everything that is not so good.  But in the way it is used by me and by everyone else involved in personal development “abundance” is only that which is good.

 

“Success isn’t something that you do on the outside; success is something that you are on the inside. The rest will follow.” ~Chuck Danes

 

This is a very important point to get your head around.  “Abundance”, in the way in which we mean it, can only be good.  If you can really take that in and accept it, you will already have removed one of the biggest blocks to abundance which most people seem to have.  The belief that there is something wrong about wanting abundance, that it is selfish, that the things you want are not good for you.

If whatever comes to you when you pursue abundance is only good, then it cannot be wrong to want it.  It cannot be selfish. It cannot be bad for you. Know this for a certainty.  Believe it with your inner core.  If you do, you will find it so much easier to achieve whatever you want to achieve.  But if you do not, you will find it almost impossible.

 

“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” ~Thomas Edison

 

One thing that many of us pursue is “success”.  Is it wrong to want to be successful?  Of course not!  How could it be?  Otherwise it would be right to want to fail – and that certainly cannot be right, unless you mean as a step towards final success such as experienced by Edison.  Most of us know this superficially, but deep down there is something in us that contradicts it.  We see other people who have achieved what society calls success and notice they are not always happy and fulfilled – sometimes they are quite miserable and are very poor role models.  Inside, we say “if that is success then I don’t want anything to do with it!”.  Everything comes back, though, to what you mean by success.  I would argue that none of those people are truly successful.  They may have become famous, they may be wealthy, but they are not successful.  Decide on your measure of success, ignoring what the world tries to say success must be, make sure it is fully aligned with your inner nature, and then go for it!  You will find, if you do this exercise properly, that your definition of success is a good thing for you and also if you determine to achieve it you will.

Another thing so many pursue is “wealth”.  Is there anything wrong with wealth?  Again, of course not!  Wealth is neutral when it comes to good and evil.  Everything depends on how it is used.  Look at how Bill Gates has chosen to use his wealth for example!  Some people feel it is wrong to want to be wealthy, believing the only way you can become wealthy is by depriving others of what they need or want.  Ridiculous!  Yes, it is possible to become wealthy through selfish or even illegal means.  But that is not really abundance.  And the Universe has a way of restoring the right balance.  If not in this lifetime then in the next.  But often in this lifetime – there are so many cases of people who have acquired their wealth selfishly finding it is all frittered away in next to no time.  The best way of becoming wealthy is by giving great value to others – who then add to your wealth in return.  Do this properly and you will find you become truly wealthy in an abundant way.

 

“The Power of Listening is available to us all, only those who listen will gain great benefits in life, love personal & financial wealth. The decision is yours” Gray Lawrence

 

Get your mind straight on the true meaning of abundance and you too can have everything you truly desire.  The Universe is truly abundant and is simply waiting to share that abundance with you.  Go out now and accept that gift with gratitude rather than ungraciously continually to throw it back in the face of the Universe!

 

Gray Lawrence

“Abundance doesn’t follow giving until giving becomes its own reward.” Jan Denise

 

The powerful connection between your mind and your success

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If you have "needing money" in your vibration, then you will keep attracting needing money. You have to find a way of being happy NOW, feeling good NOW, and being in joy NOW, without the money, because those great feelings are how you will feel with the money. Money doesn’t bring happiness – but happiness brings money. May the joy be with you,
Rhonda Byrne

From Jack Canfield

There is a very powerful connection between your mind and your success.

For instance, increasing your income is largely determined by the limiting beliefs and negative habits that were programmed into your brain at a young age.             It’s true.

Did you grow up hearing things like:

"Money doesn’t grow on trees."

"We can’t afford it."

"All rich people are evil."

"We’ll never be wealthy."

"Money is the root of all evil."

These phrases seem harmless, but they act as instructions to your subconscious mind. They are the seeds that grow into the limiting beliefs and thought patterns that determine how you think or feel about money today, as an adult.

And most of these beliefs have been programmed into your mind for years, so much so that they’re practically part of your wiring.

It’s no wonder why so many of us struggle to earn more money, follow our dreams, or have the relationships we want. Sometimes it’s to the point where we don’t even feel comfortable asking for or receiving those things when it does come into our lives.

But there’s good news…

If you’ve ever felt like there was something holding you back from success that is out of your control, I invite you to check this out…

John Assaraf, my friend, co-star in The Secret, and fellow New York Times Best-Selling author, is the founder of NeuroGym and will be hosting an incredible live event this Saturday that can help you remove all of the mental or emotional roadblocks that are preventing you from achieving your goals.

To late for the event but check the link out…  Gray, if of interest of course!

Learn more about Brain-A-Thon by watching my short video and reserve your FREE spot today!

For the past six years, this event has changed the lives of over 1,000,000 attendees, including some of my students.

This year, John told me that he’s gathered 7 of the world’s top brain science and success experts to help you "rewire" your brain.

In fact, John and his team of experts are going to teach you more about positive thinking, creating wealth, and achieving your goals in one day than you’ve learned in your entire life. Most of these trainings have never been seen before publicly (and might never be seen again).

I’ve seen it for myself, and it’s truly incredible.

To your success,

Jack Canfield
America’s #1 Success Coach
CEO, The Canfield Training Group
Co-creator of Chicken Soup for the Soul™
New York Times Bestselling Author

P.S. Remember… this online event only takes place once a year! Are you really willing to let another year go by feeling stuck in the same situation you are in now?

Gray Lawrence

Set your sights high, the higher the better. Expect the most wonderful things to happen, not in the future but right now. Realize that nothing is too good. Allow absolutely nothing to hamper you or hold you up in any way." Eileen Caddy 1917-2006, Author

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