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How to stay Motivated

"Set a goal to achieve something that is so big, so exhilarating that it excites you and scares you at the same time. It must be a goal that is so appealing, so much in line with your spiritual core, that you can’t get it out of your mind. If you do not get chills when you set a goal, your not setting big enough goals." Bob Proctor

These Top 10 ways to stay motivated are a must, but can you stick to them?

"Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it." Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

1)  Plan ahead                                                                                          It stands to reason that you are much more likely to reach your goals if you plan properly.   Preparation is a key to success, so clear your cupboard of tempting treats, re-writing your shopping list, or memorise your activity schedule.  Once you have an agenda, you are much more likely to stick to it.

"Set higher standards for your own performance than anyone around you, and it won’t matter whether you have a tough boss or an easy one. It won’t matter whether the competition is pushing you hard, because you’ll be competing with yourself." Rick Pitino Basketball Coach, Author and Speaker

2) Track your progress                                                                         Keep an eye on how well you are doing. If you have completed a week of abstinence, for example, your pride in that accomplishment can help keep you going for another week.  everything from checking money saved, by not buying “goodies” or a regular weigh-in if you are trying to lose weight  can give you the motivation to continue.

Don’t live down to expectations. Go out there and do something remarkable." Wendy Wasserstein

3) Find Inspiration                                                                               The internet is full of inspiring  articles written by people either on the same journey as you are, or who have achieved a similar goal, you just need to find them.  seek out online groups that share your goals and keep reading success stories, as they will keep you on track, if they can do it; You Can!

"People who say that life is not worthwhile are really saying that they themselves have no personal goals which are worthwhile… Get yourself a goal worth working for. Better still, get yourself a project… Always have something ahead of you to ‘look forward to’ – work for and hope for."     Maxwell Maltz 1899-1975, Physician and Writer

4) Reward yourself                                                                                  If you are trying to stop smoking, save the money you would have spent on cigarettes and buy yourself a treat at the end of the month.  you will find the money soon adds up.  If you are dieting allow yourself a cheat meal, that way you can give yourself something to look forward to every week and stop yourself feeling deprived.  If you are taking up a new activity or exercise, get the proper kit, if you look the part you will feel the part.

“Rewards are what you deserve for all the things you have done, will do and are grateful for, no matter what, the same can be said for the more you do for others is an even greater reward.”          Gray Lawrence

5) Post it                                                                                             Little reminders around the house will keep you on track..  It can be easy to forget your exercise schedule when you are stressed or busy, so write it on your calendar or create phone alert to remind you.  #if you are trying to eat healthy, stick a note on the fridge to remind you to stay away from the cheese!

Life Power Tip  What small step, toward that large goal, can you take today? Ninety per cent of any task is starting it. Ten minutes on a task begun soon turns into two hours on that same task. “The man who removes a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.” –Chinese proverb

     6) Get Support                                                                                                    Tell your close friends and family how thy can help you stay  on track, they want you to succeed.  joining a local group of like minded people will also bring support and perhaps even some great new  friends .  If you are on  a social media, post your intentions,there may be others n your friend group who have similar goals.

From The Secret Daily Teachings                                                                    When you find your purpose, it is like your heart has been set alight with passion. You know it absolutely, without any doubt. May the joy be with you, Rhonda Byrne

7) Allow yourself to fail                                                                     To fail is to be human, well do it.  The most important thing to remember if, for example, you succumb to biscuits or have a cheeky glass of wine at dinner, is that tomorrow is a new day.  When you wake up give yourself a pep talk and start again.  You have not failed you have just wobbled!

Failure seems to be nature’s plan for preparing us for great responsibilities.
If everything we attempted in life was achieved with a minimum of effort and came out exactly as planned, how little we would learn — and how boring life would be! And how arrogant we would become if we succeeded at everything we attempted. Failure allows us to develop the essential quality of humility. It is not easy — when you are the person experiencing failure — to accept it philosophically, serene in the knowledge that this is one of life’s great learning experiences. But it is. Nature’s ways are not always easily understood, but they are repetitive and therefore predictable. You can be absolutely certain that when you feel you are being most unfairly tested, you are being prepared for great achievement.  Napoleon Hill

8)  Banish negative thoughts                                                                                   It’s important to believe in yourself if you are trying to break unwanted habits.  You will be surprised how much you can do when you put your mid to it.  think of times you have succeeded in other ways and visualise yourself reaching your goal.  You are stronger than you think.

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It is essential for you to encourage the positive emotions as dominating forces of your mind, and to discourage — and eliminate — negative emotions. – Napoleon Hill

9) Make lists                                                                                                           Break your goal down into small mile stones and take your eyes of the final prize.  If you are looking to meet new people, make a list of new places to go, and cross them off each week.  Enjoy the journey as much as the achievement.

“A list is only a list until what is written is with a purpose” – Gray Lawrence

10)  Keep it realistic                                                                                             Don’t overwhelm yourself with massive goals. If you are looking for a new partner don’t expect to be married by the end of the year, but focus on increasing your group of friends, you may meet someone special that way.  If you are starting new hobby, remember tat it will take a lot of practice before you are confident enough to really enjoy it. Be kind, don’t expect more of yourself than you would expect of someone you love!

Nothing really worth having is easy to get. The hard-fought battles, the goals won with sacrifice, are the ones that matter." —  Aisha Tyler

Happiness is a state of being, and comes from the inside of you. By the law of attraction you must become on the inside what you want on the outside. You are either choosing to be happy now, or you are making up excuses for not choosing to be happy. But there are no excuses for the law! May the joy be with you, Rhonda Byrne

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Success doesn’t come to you – you go to it. — Marva Collins

The time is always right to do what is right." Martin Luther King, Jr.

Your vision is in Your Mind

 

 

Goal Setting Values

This passage is from a renown leader in Network Marketing:  Mr Mike Sherratt

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"Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it." Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

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What is the real value of setting goals?

I believe 100% in the power of setting goals to bring about the results you want to achieve in your life. My beliefs have been reinforced by seeing goals materialise in my clients’ lives, my family’s life as well as in my own life. The beauty of setting goals is that you are never too old or too young to start the process and benefit from the outcome.

Whilst I do use coaching within my own family with caution, I have a couple of stories from my own family which are constant reminders to me of the power of goal setting. My left handed 11 year old, son who had struggled with hand writing speed throughout his schooling, set a goal to "More than double my hand writing speed". With the goal very firmly in mind, he automatically became motivated to take a "d-i-y" hand writing programme. He worked on the programme himself with little in the way of reminders from me. His handwriting speed accelerated, and the goal was achieved.

For 67 years, or as long as she could use a crayon, my son’s grandmother, my mother enjoyed art as a hobby. She had reached a point where she wasn’t getting very much from her art. I took her through a goal setting session around her art and she established what she wanted to do: Become an Become an Artist of Excellence. She herself realised she was not spending enough time on her art, and became highly motivated and highly focused. At the age of 68, she applied and was accepted to do a BA Hons Degree Course, and has since won prizes for her art. In both cases, it was literally the setting of their own goals which led to these outcomes.

Man climbing up hill of goals 1, 2.Goals can be used in the moment to dramatically change the outcome. Today I was playing a one set tennis match. I wasn’t playing well, and found myself down 5-2 and 40 love down. Unexpectedly I became inspired by the idea of winning from such a place. "Winning from 5-2, and 40 love down" became the goal of the moment, which really excited me. I shared my goal with my opponent. My game changed beyond recognition.. I became very focused, and determined whilst at the same time very relaxed. I started to enjoy the match. Instead of loosing many games to love, I was winning games to love. I finally went on to win 7-6.

Jon Covey tells his readers to "start with the end in mind" – and when we set a goal we are doing just that.

What is the purpose of setting goals?

So many people go through their lives like rudder-less ships – without clear direction, and are literally subject to storms and winds in the sea of life. Lack of direction can often lead to feelings of stress and anxiety, poor concentration levels, lack of confidence, and living life from a place of being reactive rather than proactive. Not only that, but people without goals often have little determination, patience or tenacity.

When you set and achieve a goal, you have an opportunity to pat yourself on the back. Even if you don’t achieve exactly what you set out to do, there are likely to be numerous achievements and learning’s along the way that you can acknowledge yourself for. All this helps build self esteem.

For those who are serious about sport, who are running a business or have a senior role within a company, setting goals is an essential ingredient to success. In spite of this not everyone does it. It may take a conversation with a coach, or business advisor to get them thinking along these lines.

Setting goals is not just for sport or work, everyone can benefit from a well-worded goal. Whether you seek a new partner, a better relationship with your existing one, a new job, a new house, more energy, more abundance, improved health, a stress-free life, or something else, the right goal for you, can make all the difference.

How do you set goals? 
Setting goals is a very easy process to do at its simplest level. I spend quite some time designing personalized goals with my clients. I find that it is most effective for people to focus on the top areas of their lives – perhaps their business (if that is appropriate) as well as one or two other areas. Choosing the top areas is an important part of the process. I find clients are most motivated if they are working on the areas of their lives which are going to make the greatest difference to them. It is important to bear in mind too, that what may be important today, but not be so key in a few months time. If you find yourself neglecting an area that you have designated top, one reason may be that it is not now so important. If you find this happening, a great tip is to check in with yourself by asking your self how important it is to have this thing. Answer with a score out of 10 – where 10 is very important and 0 is not important.

There is a balance to be achieved between working on all areas that need attention – and just working on one area. Focusing on multiple areas can be distracting leading to little being achieved. Focusing on one area alone, also has its downsides. Not only can it impact negatively on your work/life balance, but an over-focus can lead to what I call "attachment to the outcome".

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts." ~ Winston Churchill

You may have experienced a situation where you wanted something so much that it became crucial that you had that "thing" in your life. It could be the promotion, the new job, the new house, or the new partner. When you find yourself attached to a particular result, you may find that it often gets in the way of your ideal result coming about. One way of "letting go" of your attachment is to spread your focus by having one or two other key goals.

Once you have your top two or three areas, the next step is to set a goal that is going to really inspire you in each of these areas. Defining an inspiring goal is a challenging exercise to do alone. A coach who is experienced in working with clients to define really inspiring goals can really help with this process. One of my clients, a Managing Director of a Design Agency, wanted to work on his business. He wanted to realize its potential, become more financially successful, move forward, and be busy. This led to a goal which was really inspiring for him "My business buzzes to the tune of £50K profit per month". This was particularly challenging goal because the business had made a loss for over 9 months. Five months into the coaching and the business is on an upward trend – last month profits were just under £50K – and we still have a month to go with the coaching.

A goal that is hugely inspiring for a client has an energy of its own. I equate it to what happens when a surfer rides a powerful wave. Once on the big wave, all a surfer needs to do is focus and balance and he will be carried to the shore – without the need to do much more. (Of course, if he wants to reach the road from the shore, he will need to take some action).

For a goal to come true:

You must write it down, make it specific and give it a dead line; you must look at it every day; you must understand and pay the price; you must have a plan to start with… Gray Lawrence

One of my clients is a singer. Her long term goal is "My first record deal published". Whilst it is hugely inspiring for her, she wanted a goal for the short term. In her case it is to "Perform at least 5 concerts with my own material". At the time she set this goal, she hadn’t performed any concerts with her own material. Between the time she set this goal and our next meeting, two weeks later, she left the country to be with her sister, who had just had a baby. She wasn’t putting any time into getting her concerts. Yet in the meantime, the goal was working for her. "Out of the blue" she received two invitations to perform concerts with her own material.

Sometimes I work with clients who have a gap in a certain area of their lives, but are resistant to setting a goal in that area. Often they are in the place where they don’t want to take action on something, in case they don’t get what they want. This can be in situations where they have tried many things without success. I have encouraged them to set a goal, with the explicit instruction that they take no action.

One of my clients had tendonitis for many years which was impacting on her ability to play and coach tennis. She was resistant to setting a goal around healing her tendonitis – she had tried many things and didn’t want to do more. I encourage her to set a goal and requested that she take no action. Some months into our coaching relationship, she chose to use some new processes, including visualisation. Her tendonitis healed and she went on to launch a tennis initiative for under privileged children: Taking them off the streets and coaching them in tennis.

What makes a powerful goal?

Like making a cake, there are several ingredients. With a cake, I would say flour is most essential, and with goal setting, it is inspiration that, for me, is most essential. I take great trouble with my clients to ensure that together we define a goal that scores top marks for inspiration. A goal to loose weight became "Look fabulous in my black PVC catsuit" for a female client and "Lean, mean, well oiled machine" for a male client.

Given that we are working in a coaching alliance, it is when I am as inspired by a goal as my client is, that the magic really starts to fly.

For the second most important ingredient, I rate succinctness. A really powerful goal can also double up as a mantra. It is easy to repeat as often as possible and it is easy to remember. Finding a new job can become "Love what I do" and recovering from a difficult patch can become "Sparky, witty Jonny is back"!.

I also rate challenging as an important ingredient- alongside inspiration. Getting the level of challenge right is key to the success of the goal. Some clients are truly inspired by challenge – particular if challenge is amongst their core values. Whereas for others, too much challenge can be counterproductive. A goal that is too challenging can defer a client from taking action. If a client is determined to stay in the "this will never happen place" then some adjustments are needed: either to their perspective or to the goal. I come from the place where everything thing is possible – and encourage my clients to move into that place. Technology has shown us that things that weren’t possible in the past are now today, and most people have had experiences where they weren’t initially able to do something, have thought that they never would and have since learnt.

Life Power Tip What small step, toward that large goal, can you take today? Ninety per cent of any task is starting it. Ten minutes on a task begun soon turns into two hours on that same task. “The man who removes a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.” -Chinese proverb

A challenging goal doesn’t necessarily make it difficult to achieve. An example from my own life. I am naturally someone with an extremely busy mind. In the past, left to its own devices, my mind would mull over both concerns and projects for hours on end – during the day and often at night too. It was draining. I wanted to be able to turn my mind off – whilst still retaining my innate ability to be creative. This led to a goal which was hugely inspiring for me "Be the Zen Master of my on/off switch". The goal started to take on an energy of its own. Coincidentally, I signed up for a spiritual training – which encouraged meditation daily. Meditation was something I had practiced for a number of years in the past. I had stopped simply because I wasn’t at that time getting results with it.

This time things were different. Almost from the moment I started to meditate again, I found that my mind became quiet. I was the "Zen master of my on/off switch". A hugely challenging goal was achieved with the minimum of effort.

Classical goal setting will encourage you to go for something realistic within a specific time frame. If making a goal realistic means that some of the inspiration is lost – then go for the inspiration is what I say. I recently started with a client at the stage of transition from full time employment to running his own business. The goal that truly inspires him is "Respected in my outstanding £5 million business". From a standing start, this goal could be considered to be unrealistic within the 6 months of our initial contract. So he has a signpost goal around his business plan being written and approved by the bank. This gives him a short term focus, whilst the longer term goal is the one that truly excites, inspires and motivates him.

In most cases, it makes sense to frame goals in the positive. That said, there are times when a goal which appears to be expressed in the negative, is more motivating to a client than the other way round. I have had a number of clients who came to me with health challenges. One had pain from a hernia and had used drugs to control the symptoms for 7 years. Prior to our setting a goal, she found that no drugs meant intolerable pain levels. She could have set a positive goal such as "100% healthy" but instead chose "Pain and Drug Free" for her goal. These were the words that did it for her. Within one session, she had given up her drugs this time without pain – and has maintained her drug and pain free state ever since.

Goals allow you to change the direction in your favourClassical goal setting will encourage you to go for goals that are measurable. I would 100% agree with that. Not only is a measure motivational, but both yourself and your coach will know how close or how far you are from achieving the goal, at any point in time. With business and sports goals, it is fairly easy to incorporate a measure. A desire to grow and sustain a business became "My sustainable £30K per month Business Building Business" for one of my clients.

Which brings me to what happens if you don’t achieve the goal that you originally set. This may be because you changed your mind. What you set out to achieve initially, no longer holds the same interest for you. For the more spiritually minded, it can be useful to include a caveat – to your goal setting, particularly when you find yourself hugely attached to the outcome. This can take the form of a simple sentence which can be added to a goal e.g. "Achieve my goal….or whatever the grand design has in store for me".

Often, it is only a matter of time until the goal you set becomes yours. There is likely to be many learning and achievements on your path from the moment you set your goals. I recommend that you keep a note of your learning’s and achievements- since, in my experience, human beings are particularly good at forgetting, as well as dismissing their achievements. However valuable goals setting is, and whatever the outcome, I find it empowering to remember that "Life is a journey, not a destination". (Who was it that said that?!)

Go and SET YOUR GOALS NOW

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Follow your dream Where ever it leads Don’t be distracted by

Less worthy deeds Shelter it nourish it, Help it to grow,

Let your heart hold it Down deep where dreams go

Follow your dream, Pursue it with haste; Life is too precious,

Too fleeting to waste Be faithful, be loyal, Then all your life through,

The dreams that you follow Will keep coming true.

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